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The Ultimate Guide to Creating a Winning Dating Mindset

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 20, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Forgiveness, HDI Blog, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again

by Gladys Diaz

Do you want to be in the relationship of your dreams – with the man who’s going to hold you, cherish you and enrich your life for the rest of his life?

Would you like to know the key to creating everything you want in love (and life!)?

What we’re sharing with you today is what will empower you to show-up as the woman you truly are and make it possible for you to create and experience the life and love you want most.

It impacts how you think, how you feel, how you interact with others, what you’re able to make a difference with and what ultimately what you create in life.

The key to success in love (and life) is your mindset.

If you’re experiencing a lack of power in a certain area of your life, it means that something’s off with your mindset.

And if your mindset isn’t aligned with your vision or commitment, you’ll self-sabotage.

Let’s delve into the transformative power of mindset.

Uncover Your Beliefs, Desires and the Conflict Between Them

When you uncover and replace the limiting beliefs that hold you back from dating success, you’re able to transform your mindset and the results you’re experiencing in love.

Negative thoughts and beliefs undermine your self-worth and are what perpetuate self-sabotaging behaviors.

So get curious.

Here’s an exercise you can do to uncover your limiting beliefs and how they’re stopping you from creating what you want in life and love.

Grab a piece of paper and make three columns.
At the top of the columns write these three headers… “My Belief: My Mindset Around Relationships”, “My Desire: My Love Vision” and “The Conflict: What’s Not Aligned”
Think about the thoughts you have. Really think about the words that come to your mind and out of your mouth when you ask yourself what you think is in the way of you creating love. – What is it for you? – Is it your weight? Family Conflicts? Health Issues? Your financial situation? Where you live? The fact that you have kids?
After you write the belief in the first column, move over to the second column and write what it is you want to experience in this area of love.
Take a step back and look at the belief and the desire and you’ll be able to clearly see what the conflict is.

The conflict is what’s getting in the way of you creating the life you desire!

When I was single I had a real conflict around who I was and what I wanted. I was always seeking validation which had me become a chameleon who couldn’t be authentic.

And even though I was creating success at work, receiving promotions and accolades and money – it was never enough.

And I attracted men into my life who were a match for that conflict. Men who were cheaters, who were lying to themselves (and me) about who they were and what they wanted and I didn’t understand why.

Once I did the HeartWork, I replaced these old belief patterns about not being enough or deserving of what I really wanted with empowering beliefs that were aligned with my Love Vision. I attracted the most incredible man I’ve ever met, who’s now my husband!

It came down to healing the conflict that was underneath my limiting beliefs so I could stop having the experience that I was living someone else’s life and create the full life and love I had imagined!

Decide You Are Responsible to Shift Your Mindset

Once you uncover, see and understand the conflict, you must recognize yourself as the one responsible to shift it.

No one else can do it for you!

You have to be willing to do the HeartWork necessary to distinguish, dismantle and replace the limiting beliefs so you can create a winning mindset!

These limiting beliefs usually are healed in layers, but that doesn’t mean it has to take a long time.

Most women that work with us meet the man they end up marrying within 3-9 months of beginning their HeartWork.

That’s how fast you can make these shifts!

Creating a mindset that supports your growth and potential frees you and you become open and available for new possibilities!

You empower yourself to embrace fulfilling relationships that lead to the Relationship of Your Dreams!

Here’s the thing…

In just a couple of months, summer will be over and you’ll either have created the summer love that’s everything you’ve always wanted – or you won’t.

But what if you could?

What if there was a fast way to create your Love Vision?

This is what’s available to you when you grab the Irresistible Bundle that’s available now so you can join us at this year’s Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Here’s what you get inside the bundle:

💜 Ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Live Virtual Event – September 29th-October 1st, 2023 ($500 Value)

💜 Irresistible Woman Prep for Love Call ($200 Value)

💜 Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass Recording ($300 Value)

After you grab your ticket, be ready to have a breakthrough and transform your life!

Click HERE to claim your Irresistible Bundle Now!

You might think you have until September to get your ticket so why grab it now?

I promise you the transformation will begin the moment you take responsibility for shifting your mindset and hit send on the form.

The key to successful dating truly lies within the power of your mindset.

When you uncover the beliefs and conflicts keeping you stuck and commit to shifting your mindset you will cultivate self-confidence, embrace optimism, and ban limiting beliefs.

You’ll heal your body, feel great, have financial security and freedom, live in a home that represents who you are and be able to celebrate the life you’ve created for yourself every single day with the man who will be your greatest champion.

With a transformed mindset, you’ll venture into the world of dating with renewed purpose, ready to unlock the door to truly experiencing the relationship of your dreams NOW!

Discover the 3 Self-Saboteurs Keeping You from the Right Man!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 11, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you finding yourself on an endless carousel of disappointing dates?

Are you attracting the wrong type of men, time and again?

Perhaps it’s not simply a matter of luck or circumstance, but of unconscious self-sabotage.

Sabotage is doing anything that’s not aligned with what you say you desire.

The reason why it’s unconscious is because you don’t realize you’re doing it! I’m sure you don’t wake up in the morning and think, “I can’t wait to sabotage my day (or love life)!”

Even so, the truth is – you’re always manifesting something, whether it’s what you want or what you don’t want.

And if you want to be in an extraordinary relationship, and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

Keep reading to explore three common self-saboteurs that might be hindering you from attracting the right man. Once you’re aware of these, you’ll be better equipped to make positive changes that can drastically improve your dating experiences.

Saboteur #1: Behaviors and Patterns

Since we said that most (if not all) self-sabotaging is unconscious, the easiest way to know if you’re self-sabotaging is to look at the behaviors and patterns that are not aligned with what you say you want.

Do you tolerate disrespectful behavior?

Do you not set or maintain your values and boundaries?

Do you constantly put others’ needs before your own?

Do you notice you settle for whatever’s showing up?

Do you get angry when a guy doesn’t call you for a 2nd date?

Do you write someone off before giving yourself a chance to get to know them because they aren’t tall enough, have been divorced or have kids?

Do you shut down and “take a break” from dating (perhaps for longer than really necessary) after a disappointing dating experience?

These are all examples of behaviors that can sabotage your dating experiences that you may not recognize.

Knowing what you want to experience inside the relationship of your dreams and BEing the woman who knows she can have it all supports you in transforming these behaviors and patterns that may be getting in the way.

When working to transform your actions it’s important to look for what thoughts are underneath them and driving the behavior.

Saboteur #2: Limiting Beliefs and Fears

The #1 most significant and common self-saboteur is overlooking the thoughts that are sabotaging you. Your thoughts lead to your behavior which leads to the patterns you’ve developed and the results you create.

What you attract is an energetic match for what you truly believe. In other words, you attract what you are, not what you want.

So, if you’re carrying unresolved issues, harboring negativity, or stuck in unhealthy patterns, you’re likely to attract individuals who mirror these same characteristics.

If you’re afraid you’re going to end up with a man who’s controlling, that’s probably exactly what you’re attracting – controlling men.

If you think all men are liars and cheaters, what will you attract? Men who don’t follow through with what they say and aren’t ready to commit.

Invest time in understanding and improving your thought patterns. If you’d like support with distinguishing, dismantling and replacing sabotaging thoughts, schedule a Love Breakthrough Session!

On this call we’ll support you to discover the thoughts that are leading to the dating experiences you don’t want so you can have a breakthrough and begin to create the results you desire!

Click HERE to Book your Complimentary Love Breakthrough Session Now!

By focusing on becoming the best version of you, you’ll naturally become more attractive to those who value and appreciate the qualities you’ve nurtured within yourself.

Saboteur #3: Clinging to What you Know and Not Getting Curious About What’s Not Working

If you want to be in the relationship of your dreams and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

I promise you, these are not the issues:

Where you live
What you do for a living
How much you weigh
Your age
How much debt you have
How many prior relationship you have (or haven’t) been in
There’s no good men out there or all the good ones are already taken

Holding onto these sabotaging and circumstantial beliefs can set you up for constant disappointment and make you overlook potentially great matches because they don’t fit your preconceived mold or because you don’t think you’re ready or deserving of love.

If you’re not attracting the type of man you’d like or creating the results you desire in dating and relationships, get curious and ask yourself, “Why am I attracting this?”

Attracting the right man is not about getting on the “right” dating apps or wearing the right outfit. It’s about introspection, self-improvement, and maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth.

If you find yourself constantly attracting the wrong kind of men, perhaps it’s time to step back and examine these areas of your life.

Avoid these self-sabotaging mistakes, and you’ll create a path to attract a partner who values, respects, and cherishes you, just as you are.

If you’d like support in having a breakthrough, then click HERE to schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with one of our fabulous Love Coaches.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the thought and behavior patterns that are sabotaging your love life!

Remember, the journey to finding the right person often starts with being the right person to yourself. It’s time to become the person who attracts the love you deserve.

Reclaiming Your Power and Attracting the Love You Truly Deserve

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 30, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

One of the things we hear most from women is that they’re struggling to let go of a relationship – either a toxic relationship from the past or a “situationship” they’re currently in that’s not going anywhere.

They want to be able to break ties with their ex so they can be truly ready to attract the man who will be by their side forever.

They want to let go of the fear of rejection and allow themselves to really be seen, heard and loved!

They share that they have thoughts like this:

“Why can’t I let this go?”

“Why am I still stuck on this one person?”
“How will I ever move on from this toxic experience so I can have real love?”

“When am I going to stop settling for crumbs so that I can love and be loved the way I really want?”

Is this something you’ve dealt with (or are currently trying to break free from) too?

If being able to let go of past heartbreaks so you can manifest the committed relationship of your dreams is what you want, then this is for you.

Letting go can be challenging, but it’s essential for your growth and for opening up space in your heart to welcome true love. It involves recognizing what you’re holding onto, defining what it is that you really want and choosing to be in the relationship that is aligned.

So what does a toxic relationship look like?

Emotional/physical abuse
Verbal disrespect
Hurting each other on purpose
Brings out the worst in you or the other person
Manipulation
With someone who’s unavailable (married, separated, “getting divorced”)
Thinking you can “change” the person
Trying to “convince” them to want to commit to you or that they eventually will if you stay there long enough.

Basically any relationship where you have more unhappy moments than happy moments is toxic.

And yes, this includes situationships.

A “situationship” is where you’re spending time with someone and acting like you’re his girlfriend, when you’re not.

Even if you’re sleeping together, until he tells you straight that he wants to be committed to you, that he doesn’t want to see any other women and that he wants you to be committed to him – then it’s not a relationship.

If you say, “Well, it’s complicated.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you say, “We have an understanding and we’re both okay with it.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you have to ask him, “Where is this going?” then you already have your answer.

It’s not a relationship.

It’s either a relationship or it’s not and if it’s not and you’re acting like it is then you’re becoming emotionally attached and he’s not.

You may ask, “What’s so wrong with that?”

Here’s the problem with emotionally investing in a relationship that’s not reciprocated…

The heartache of breaking a situationship is just as bad and hurts just as much as breaking a real relationship (sometimes even more so).

Why?

Because you’ve invested so much emotion, time, attention and hope into something that wasn’t real anyway.

When you do that, you’re not only lying to yourself but over time you’ll feel resentment, regret, anger and like he used you (even though you were a willing participate).

These emotions – resentment, blame, anger, guilt, shame and regret – are toxic emotions that can be hard to move on from. You feel these emotions towards yourself and then project them onto the other person because you didn’t honor your boundaries, your dream, your vision.

Why would you do that to yourself?

We know that being alone can feel hard and painful sometimes, but here’s the truth:

Being in a relationship that’s anything less than what you really want is just as painful.

Even if it’s fun and passionate and exciting for a few weeks, it always ends in these toxic emotions and experiences that are hard to let go of and move on from.

We’ve coached women who have waited 2 years, 5 years, 12 years, 17 years for someone they thought they were in a relationship with to choose them!

If commitment and marriage is something you want, and for most of the women in our community that is what they want – then this is heartbreaking!

Most don’t want a long-term relationship. They don’t want something where they constantly have to wonder if he’s seeing other women, sleeping with someone else or if it’s ever going to go anywhere.

They want love, companionship and commitment.

So why do women stay in relationships or “situationships” that aren’t everything they want?

Fear that they’re never going to find what they want.
Feeling like something is better than nothing.
A belief that they type of man and relationship isn’t out there.
Not being clear on what they really want and then settling for whatever comes.

If you’re tired of not being in the relationship you want or settling for anything less…

Join us next Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!

In the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass, you’ll discover exactly what to stop doing and what to start doing, instead, so that you can easily let go of past toxic experiences and attract the perfect match for you.

You’ll learn how to easily and effortlessly attract the right man without wasting time, struggling, or settling.

These are the same steps we’ve taught and helped hundreds of women around the world meet the man they end up marrying in 30-90 days!

Why would you sentence yourself to “less than”?

The Truth Revealed: Why You’re Still Single and How to Change Your Relationship Status

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 27, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Success

by Michelle Roza

Do you ever wonder why you’re still single?

We know you’ve probably been dating for a while now and you may be wondering when your status is ever going to change.

You may even sometimes wonder if there’s something wrong with you because you’re not in the relationship you want to be in yet.

The reason you’re not in the relationship of your dreams isn’t because there’s something wrong with you, you’re too old or that that’s no men good enough.

There are some things that may be keeping you single though (and some of them might surprise you!)

Not believing it will happen, carrying around emotional baggage and not knowing how to attract the right man for you will keep you single forever – unless you learn how to turn all that around.

Keep reading for the Top 5 Reasons you’re still single and how to create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams!

You don’t believe love can and will happen for you.

If you don’t believe, and I mean, REALLY believe that love will happen for you, it won’t.

It’s that simple. You must have full, 100% faith in yourself, in something bigger than you and in the truth that the man you want exists.

How do you know that you really believe?

Because when disappointment or rejection comes along, you don’t spiral. You recognize that those things are merely fleeting experiences and not a reflection of your worthiness or the potential for love in your life.

You choose to remain open to the possibility of love, believing that love will manifest itself in a beautiful and unexpected way. You focus on nurturing self-love, personal growth, and creating a life that’s fulfilling and meaningful, believing that as you put forth the effort to continue to date and seek to create the relationship you dream of, that it is already on its way to you.

You’re carrying around emotional wounds you haven’t healed from.

If you have emotional wounds you haven’t healed and found freedom from, they’re holding you captive and keeping you from creating true love.

Whether these wounds were born from childhood, past experiences or other relationships they create barriers and apprehensions when it comes to love.

How do you know you’re still carrying something around?

You talk about it.

When it comes to your mind you push it away.

You feel like you need to “overcome” your past.”

You don’t need to “overcome” anything. You simply need to heal so you can stop carrying the pain around with you.

When you take the time to address and heal these emotional wounds, only then can you truly open yourself to the possibility of a healthy and fulfilling romantic connection – and that’s where the 100% belief comes in.

This is what’s so powerful about the HeartWork we do with our clients and at our events and masterclasses. We’re able to support women in healing wounds they’ve carried around for years, wounds they’ve maybe already done years of therapy around – in a matter of a weekend.
It’s possible and once you heal you allow yourself to step into a future where love can blossom and thrive.

You’re still holding onto an ex, a situationship or a friend-with-benefits.

If you’re still holding onto an ex, you’re continuing to spend time in a “situationship” or wasting your precious time you could be getting to know someone with relationship potential with a “friends-with-benefits” you’re putting yourself on the waiting list for love.

When you understand that holding onto what no longer serves you is what’s preventing you from fully opening your heart to new possibilities and experiences, you change the course of your future.

With courage and honesty you can navigate the path of letting go, untangling the emotional webs that may have ensnared you, and free yourself to embrace a future where love can flourish without the shadows of the past.

You don’t know how to attract a high quality man.

There are things that attract high quality men and there are things that repel them.

If you want to create the relationship of your dreams, you get to become – at an authentic level – the Irresistible Woman who will stand out to the High Quality Man you want.

You get to embrace what we call your “Irresistible Essence”

It’s about recognizing and celebrating your unique qualities, radiating self-confidence, and cultivating a positive mindset. By embracing your authentic self and focusing on personal growth, you can create a magnetic aura that draws in the right man who appreciates and cherishes you.

If you’d like to learn more about how to attract the RIGHT man, click HERE to register for our upcoming “Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass”!

You emanate masculine energy and don’t know how to lean into your feminine.

The 5th thing that may be keeping you single is emanating more masculine energy than what a high quality man will be attracted to.

We all have some masculine energy in us. It’s the energy that makes you successful at work, driven, able to manage people and problem solve and grow your life and business.

However, it’s repellant to strong, masculine men who are looking for a feminine woman.

Embracing your feminine energy is not about conforming to societal expectations or stereotypes, but rather about discovering and honoring the beautiful aspects of your femininity.

To lean into your feminine, allow yourself to explore and embrace qualities such as nurturing, intuition, creativity, and receptivity. Cultivate self-care practices that nourish your mind, body, and spirit. Engage in activities that foster your creativity and tap into your emotional depth. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who encourage and celebrate your feminine essence.

As you allow yourself the freedom to explore and express your feminine essence authentically, you’ll begin attracting the high quality men you’re looking for.

You don’t have to remain single. It’s not simply up to chance or the “right timing” when you’ll create the relationship of your dreams.

Most of the women who work with us, meet the man they’re going to marry within 3-9 months?

Why?

Because they learn how to believe in themselves and have 100% faith in love, they release the emotional baggage and past relationships that are keeping them stuck and learn how to attract a high quality man through their Irresistible Essence and magnetic femininity.

If it’s possible for them, it’s possible for you to!

Your Guide to Creating Extraordinary Love in the Next 90 Days

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 8, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Success

by Michelle Roza

As the radiant warmth of summer envelops us, it’s the perfect time to embark on a journey of extraordinary love and connection.

Imagine the next 90 days filled with bliss-filled moments, heartfelt conversations, and the potential to create the relationship of your dreams with the man who’s a perfect match for you!

If that’s what you want – make sure to claim your seat now for the Summer of Love 5-Day Challenge that kicks off next Monday!

Most of the clients who work with us meet their forever love within 3-9 months of working with us! Every single week we hear of new women in our community that have transformed what was holding them back and created the love they’ve always dreamed of!

Here’s a few examples of what’s possible:

💗 There’s Mari, who after just 3 months of dating, met the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with and 2 months later was in a committed relationship!

💗 Candi, who met her now husband 3 months after beginning her work with us, dated him for another 3 months and soon after that was engaged and then married!

💗 And Clarissa who met her husband Alex just one week after declaring her love vision, was in a committed relationship just weeks after beginning dating him, was engaged 3 months later and married 2 months after that!

If it’s possible for them (and so many others!) it’s possible for you too! You really can meet the man you’re going to marry in the next 90 days!

Keep reading for tips and insights on how to create love in the next 90 days this summer.

Get ready to open your heart to possibilities, embrace new experiences along the way and get into action so you can create extraordinary, life-long love.

Get Curious – What Patterns Are Sabotaging Your Success?

Love is one of the most important things in life.

The most successful people in the world will tell you how big of an impact their partner in love has influenced their success in every other area.

If you haven’t created the relationship you want yet – look at your results. Step back and think about the last 3 men you attracted/dated.

What stands out? Do you see any patterns?

There’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about! Doing this exercise supports you to recognize what’s in the way so you can deal with what’s real and start getting different results.

TIP: This is what we’ll be supporting you with next week during the Summer of Love Challenge! Register HERE.

Believe You Can Have It – Mindset and Emotional Intelligence

Do you want to be in a relationship where you’re seen, heard and understood?

Learning how to manage your emotional state not only is key to successful dating, but also in creating a life-long love.

I had to learn this the hard way.

I would say I wanted to be in a great relationship, but I was constantly criticizing myself, everyone around me and not showing up as a match for the woman I wanted to be.

And my results showed it. My drama and negativity was a literal magnet for men with unfinished business, addictions and unavailability and I spent 5 years wasting my time in dead-end relationships and heartbreak.

It was so frustrating until I discovered the HeartWork that we now teach and everything changed.

🌟 I was finally able to express when I was hurt without hurting other people.
🌟 I could be angry without attacking the person I was angry with.
🌟 I was able to share what I wanted without being demanding.
🌟 And so much more was transformed inside me!

Arnie says the #1 reason he was attracted to me is because he saw a lighthearted, free, sassy woman who was always looking for the good and possibilities in every situation.

Still to this day he calls me his “Possibility Queen!”

Don’t you want to be with someone who calls you their (insert your greatest strength) Queen?!

Take Action to Get The Results You Want

When your energy, patterns and mindset shift you’ll begin to experience abundant results in your love life.

But you have to take action to make it possible!

Join us next week for the Summer of Love Challenge where we’ll support you in creating your Extraordinary Love this summer!

And if a little voice inside your head just said, “Yeah right, that can’t happen!” – that’s why you need to be there!

That’s the voice that talks you out of everything you would do if you had the steps, knowledge, coaching and training to do it differently.

And that’s what we’ll be giving you next week!

Allow yourself to dream big. Don’t allow your fears and doubts to block what you can have.

Remember, love begins within and radiates outward. By embodying love and believing you can have it, you become a magnet for profound connections and lasting relationships!

Embrace this summer as a transformative journey, and open your heart to the Extraordinary Love that awaits you.

Get ready to create a summer filled with love, connection, and unforgettable moments that will shape the rest of your life.

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