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Don’t Hit Pause on Love:The Power of Commitment and Momentum in Dating

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 10, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Have you ever felt frustrated with dating?

We’re going to guess the answer is a resounding yes because if you’re like most of our clients, the process of dating isn’t always easy.

You probably have a demanding career, a bustling social life and family responsibilities and you may have had the thought that “taking a break” from dating seemed like a tempting respite.

Perhaps you’ve thought:

“I simply can’t do this anymore.”

“Why is this so hard – this must not be God’s plan for me!”

“I’m not willing to put myself through this again!”

“Maybe I should pause and focus on healing myself first.”

The allure of focusing solely on personal growth and independence can be strong, but is stepping away from the dating scene truly the best course of action?

There are many reasons why pausing isn’t the answer.

Continue reading for why you might want to reconsider taking a break from dating and what to do instead to embrace the journey of finding love.

What’s underneath the desire to pause?

When you really think about it, are you wanting to put a stop to creating the relationship of your dreams?

No! Of course you want to create the loving, kind companionship with the extraordinary man you dream of!

The truth, is that you’re wanting to pause the frustration, the pain, the yearning, and the feeling that it may never happen for you or that it’s taking too long.

And if you’re not attracting the type of men and dating experiences you desire…

You don’t have the necessary skills to succeed at dating or you have fears, limiting beliefs and things that need to be healed…

The desire to take a break can be even stronger.

I remember when I was in the process of dating and it got to the point where I thought, “I can’t do this anymore!” I was so frustrated with not understanding why I was creating so much success in my career, as a mother and in all my other relationships but I couldn’t get a man to want to be with me.

It wasn’t that I wanted to put away the possibility of being loved. But I did wish I could stop experiencing the pain and heartache that came from not being able to create what I wanted or be loved the way I yearned to be loved.

We focus our attention on the things we’re good at because we don’t want to experience discomfort.

The thing is, it’s not in the pause, but in the stretch that we grow!

So what have you been choosing as comfortable when you choose to pause? What is really underneath the desire to take a break?

If you can connect with what you’re choosing instead, that is where the breakthrough lies!

Choosing Commitment over Comfort

When you take a pause from dating, you’re choosing comfort over commitment and actually works against you!

Taking a break causes more frustration, more yearning, isn’t healthy for your self-esteem and simply delays you being in the love that you want.

When you take a pause you’re literally training yourself to:

Procrastinate
Put off your desires
Not rise above your limiting thoughts and behavior
Believe the lies
And stay stuck!

When you’re in the pause – what’s growing are your limiting beliefs, fears and doubts. The longer you pause, the longer you stay stuck and the more power you give to the very thing you don’t want!

Taking a break from dating could also inadvertently lead to emotional withdrawal and guardedness. It’s essential to keep an open heart and remain receptive to the possibility of love. By staying in the dating scene, you increase your chances of finding that special someone who resonates with your values and aspirations

The truth is that you can have everything you want!

If you want to experience extraordinary results in love, life, spirituality, finances – you can!!

PLUS – You can heal AND date simultaneously!

Dating provides an opportunity to reassess and refine your expectations. While taking a break might offer temporary relief from romantic disappointments, it could also cement unrealistic ideals. Engaging in relationships allows you to confront your expectations, evolve, and cultivate a more balanced perspective on love and companionship.

As you keep shifting and transforming, you rise into the woman who will create the relationship of your dreams!

Nothing happens until you commit to it!

When you continue to date while you rise, you stay in the commitment, you witness the changes that occur as you heal, stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone, and your results will be a reflection!

By taking action every single day toward your goal you create momentum. And that momentum is what provides the breakthroughs you need to create the relationship you dream of!

The Next Step If You’re Committed to Creating Love NOW!

If you’re committed to creating the love of your life this year and you’re ready to become the woman who will keep her heart in the game and stay committed every single day – then you get to join us for this year’s Irresistible Woman LIVE!

This 3-day event coming up in September is your opportunity to break through what’s in your way when it comes to love and relationships, learn how to unlock your Irresistible Essence and gain the skills to create success in love now.

You won’t be the same person when you leave this event!

What you’re going to learn, see and experience in that (virtual) room is something you don’t want to miss!

Click HERE to claim your ticket the Irresistible Woman LIVE!

The fact is – How quickly you create the relationship of your dreams depends on how quickly you take your foot off the brake and get out of the gap that’s not working.

It’s up to you – and we want to see you there!

Remember, while taking a break from dating might seem like a tempting escape, it’s important to consider the benefits of staying in the game.

The journey of finding love is not just about the destination; it’s about the valuable experiences, personal growth, and lessons learned along the way. By embracing the challenges, rejections, and triumphs that come with dating, you position yourself for a more fulfilling and enriched romantic life.

Rather than stepping away and keeping yourself stuck, consider committing even deeper to the relationship of your dreams and join us the Irresistible Woman LIVE.

How to Create Real Love Now! (No Matter Your Age)

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 28, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to create the lasting loving relationship that you dream of?

Whether you’re in your 20’s, 30’s, 50’s or 70’s – you can create love NOW!

In our 30 years of relationship coaching, we’ve heard it all when it comes to why women think and feel they can’t find love.

“I don’t know if now’s the right time for me to focus on love.”

“I’m too old. If love was meant for me it would have happened by now.”

“I’m not ready! There’s so much more of life I want to experience before I settle down and create a relationship.”

“I need to get my own life together first before anyone would want to be a part of it.”

“I’ve been waiting so long. Love must simply not be in the cards for me!”

Let me ask you – when would there ever be a time when you shouldn’t love and be loved?

Here’s the truth – There is no deck of cards where love isn’t in the cards for you! It is 100% possible to meet and fall madly in love with someone at any age and at any time.

In the ever-changing circumstances of life, one thing remains constant…

The desire to find love. While sometimes it may feel like you don’t know how it will ever be possible for you, the key to creating love at any age lies in being clear on what you want, breaking through the fears and limiting beliefs keeping you from it, and being open to love finding you at any time!

Love is not restricted by age or societal norms. It’s possible to meet and fall madly in love with someone at any age!

1. Be Crystal Clear About What You Want

Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams begins with knowing what you truly want to experience inside that relationship. This begins with knowing your unique individuality and embracing who you are and what you truly want.

Understand your strengths and weaknesses and celebrate the person you are! Cultivate self-love and self-compassion because these things will support you in attracting the relationship that’s right for you!

Take time to date men and really get to know them! Let go of desperation, fear and scarcity by being committed to creating what you really want.

2. Break Through and Release the Fears and Limiting Beliefs That Are Keeping You Stuck in Love

Throughout life, you accumulate experiences, some of which may have left emotional wounds and bruises. These scars create the thoughts that fuel your limiting beliefs, fears and dysfunctional patterns in love.

The secret to finding love lies in letting go of this past baggage!

Dismantling and replacing these limiting beliefs, fears and dysfunctional patterns are what allow you to heal from past heartbreaks and disappointments, which is essential to make room for new love to flourish!

Ask yourself, “What am I afraid is or is not going to happen if I love freely?”

Getting clear on this question and healing yourself of past wounds is what will allow yourself to be vulnerable again which is the gateway to meaningful connections.

3. Be Open to Love Finding You at Any Time

Creating true love is not confined to a specific age or stage of life.

Life is dynamic, and love can find you unexpectedly and in the most unexpected places!

It can also happen fast!

Embrace change, be open to new experiences and believe that love can happen for you now!

Trust in the process, and know that when you know what you want and are committed to creating it – you can (and will) manifest it no matter your age or circumstances!

If you’re tired of living alone and want to be with the man of your dreams inside the relationship you’ve always imagined then you simply must join us for this year’s Irresistible Woman LIVE!

During this 3-day event we’ll take a wrecking ball to the things that are getting in the way of you having the love that you want, you’ll get 100% crystal clear on what you want to experience in love, and walk away with the tools and support to create it!

Plus – right now (and for a limited time) you can grab a ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE along with some incredible bonuses inside the Irresistible Bundle!

Here’s what you get inside the bundle:

💜 Ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Live Virtual Event – September 29th-October 1st, 2023 ($500 Value)

💜 Irresistible Woman Prep for Love Call ($200 Value)

💜 Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass Recording ($300 Value)

After you grab your ticket, be ready to have a breakthrough and transform your life!

Click HERE to claim your Irresistible Bundle Now!

We have sooooo many stories of women who have come to any event and within 3-6 months have met the man they’re going to marry!

Take Elena for example…

Elena came to an event of ours when she was 66 years old after a 20-year hiatus from dating! She didn’t know if love was still available to her at her age – but the truth was that she deeply desired to experience the joys of loving and being loved deeply.

Days after the event she met the man she’s now married to!

Within months they were engaged and now are about to celebrate their 2-year wedding anniversary!

This is what she shared about working with us at the event she attended:

“I would have kept repeating the same results of all my past relationships if they hadn’t lovingly helped me break down and through all my fears, limiting beliefs, dysfunctional patterns and ways of being. These love barriers were deeply ingrained after about 45 years of dating and heartbreaks. I was never married, 66 year old when I met my husband 9 days after the Love Breakthrough Challenge and was married to him 9 months later.

If any of you are having doubts about this being possible for you, I am here to tell you to trust and believe that it is. And jump into any program and coaching the Love Twins offer. Miracles do happen!”

In the pursuit of love embracing vulnerability and courage will lead you to profound connections and lasting joy.

Embrace the secret to finding love at any age by getting clear on what you want, breaking through the fears and limiting beliefs keeping you from creating it, and be open to love finding you at any time!

As you do these things, you may find yourself on a path of love that transcends the limits of time.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the fears that are holding you back in love and relationships and claim your Irresistible Love Bundle now!

The Ultimate Guide to Creating a Winning Dating Mindset

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 20, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Forgiveness, HDI Blog, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again

by Gladys Diaz

Do you want to be in the relationship of your dreams – with the man who’s going to hold you, cherish you and enrich your life for the rest of his life?

Would you like to know the key to creating everything you want in love (and life!)?

What we’re sharing with you today is what will empower you to show-up as the woman you truly are and make it possible for you to create and experience the life and love you want most.

It impacts how you think, how you feel, how you interact with others, what you’re able to make a difference with and what ultimately what you create in life.

The key to success in love (and life) is your mindset.

If you’re experiencing a lack of power in a certain area of your life, it means that something’s off with your mindset.

And if your mindset isn’t aligned with your vision or commitment, you’ll self-sabotage.

Let’s delve into the transformative power of mindset.

Uncover Your Beliefs, Desires and the Conflict Between Them

When you uncover and replace the limiting beliefs that hold you back from dating success, you’re able to transform your mindset and the results you’re experiencing in love.

Negative thoughts and beliefs undermine your self-worth and are what perpetuate self-sabotaging behaviors.

So get curious.

Here’s an exercise you can do to uncover your limiting beliefs and how they’re stopping you from creating what you want in life and love.

Grab a piece of paper and make three columns.
At the top of the columns write these three headers… “My Belief: My Mindset Around Relationships”, “My Desire: My Love Vision” and “The Conflict: What’s Not Aligned”
Think about the thoughts you have. Really think about the words that come to your mind and out of your mouth when you ask yourself what you think is in the way of you creating love. – What is it for you? – Is it your weight? Family Conflicts? Health Issues? Your financial situation? Where you live? The fact that you have kids?
After you write the belief in the first column, move over to the second column and write what it is you want to experience in this area of love.
Take a step back and look at the belief and the desire and you’ll be able to clearly see what the conflict is.

The conflict is what’s getting in the way of you creating the life you desire!

When I was single I had a real conflict around who I was and what I wanted. I was always seeking validation which had me become a chameleon who couldn’t be authentic.

And even though I was creating success at work, receiving promotions and accolades and money – it was never enough.

And I attracted men into my life who were a match for that conflict. Men who were cheaters, who were lying to themselves (and me) about who they were and what they wanted and I didn’t understand why.

Once I did the HeartWork, I replaced these old belief patterns about not being enough or deserving of what I really wanted with empowering beliefs that were aligned with my Love Vision. I attracted the most incredible man I’ve ever met, who’s now my husband!

It came down to healing the conflict that was underneath my limiting beliefs so I could stop having the experience that I was living someone else’s life and create the full life and love I had imagined!

Decide You Are Responsible to Shift Your Mindset

Once you uncover, see and understand the conflict, you must recognize yourself as the one responsible to shift it.

No one else can do it for you!

You have to be willing to do the HeartWork necessary to distinguish, dismantle and replace the limiting beliefs so you can create a winning mindset!

These limiting beliefs usually are healed in layers, but that doesn’t mean it has to take a long time.

Most women that work with us meet the man they end up marrying within 3-9 months of beginning their HeartWork.

That’s how fast you can make these shifts!

Creating a mindset that supports your growth and potential frees you and you become open and available for new possibilities!

You empower yourself to embrace fulfilling relationships that lead to the Relationship of Your Dreams!

Here’s the thing…

In just a couple of months, summer will be over and you’ll either have created the summer love that’s everything you’ve always wanted – or you won’t.

But what if you could?

What if there was a fast way to create your Love Vision?

This is what’s available to you when you grab the Irresistible Bundle that’s available now so you can join us at this year’s Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Here’s what you get inside the bundle:

💜 Ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Live Virtual Event – September 29th-October 1st, 2023 ($500 Value)

💜 Irresistible Woman Prep for Love Call ($200 Value)

💜 Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass Recording ($300 Value)

After you grab your ticket, be ready to have a breakthrough and transform your life!

Click HERE to claim your Irresistible Bundle Now!

You might think you have until September to get your ticket so why grab it now?

I promise you the transformation will begin the moment you take responsibility for shifting your mindset and hit send on the form.

The key to successful dating truly lies within the power of your mindset.

When you uncover the beliefs and conflicts keeping you stuck and commit to shifting your mindset you will cultivate self-confidence, embrace optimism, and ban limiting beliefs.

You’ll heal your body, feel great, have financial security and freedom, live in a home that represents who you are and be able to celebrate the life you’ve created for yourself every single day with the man who will be your greatest champion.

With a transformed mindset, you’ll venture into the world of dating with renewed purpose, ready to unlock the door to truly experiencing the relationship of your dreams NOW!

Discover the 3 Self-Saboteurs Keeping You from the Right Man!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 11, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you finding yourself on an endless carousel of disappointing dates?

Are you attracting the wrong type of men, time and again?

Perhaps it’s not simply a matter of luck or circumstance, but of unconscious self-sabotage.

Sabotage is doing anything that’s not aligned with what you say you desire.

The reason why it’s unconscious is because you don’t realize you’re doing it! I’m sure you don’t wake up in the morning and think, “I can’t wait to sabotage my day (or love life)!”

Even so, the truth is – you’re always manifesting something, whether it’s what you want or what you don’t want.

And if you want to be in an extraordinary relationship, and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

Keep reading to explore three common self-saboteurs that might be hindering you from attracting the right man. Once you’re aware of these, you’ll be better equipped to make positive changes that can drastically improve your dating experiences.

Saboteur #1: Behaviors and Patterns

Since we said that most (if not all) self-sabotaging is unconscious, the easiest way to know if you’re self-sabotaging is to look at the behaviors and patterns that are not aligned with what you say you want.

Do you tolerate disrespectful behavior?

Do you not set or maintain your values and boundaries?

Do you constantly put others’ needs before your own?

Do you notice you settle for whatever’s showing up?

Do you get angry when a guy doesn’t call you for a 2nd date?

Do you write someone off before giving yourself a chance to get to know them because they aren’t tall enough, have been divorced or have kids?

Do you shut down and “take a break” from dating (perhaps for longer than really necessary) after a disappointing dating experience?

These are all examples of behaviors that can sabotage your dating experiences that you may not recognize.

Knowing what you want to experience inside the relationship of your dreams and BEing the woman who knows she can have it all supports you in transforming these behaviors and patterns that may be getting in the way.

When working to transform your actions it’s important to look for what thoughts are underneath them and driving the behavior.

Saboteur #2: Limiting Beliefs and Fears

The #1 most significant and common self-saboteur is overlooking the thoughts that are sabotaging you. Your thoughts lead to your behavior which leads to the patterns you’ve developed and the results you create.

What you attract is an energetic match for what you truly believe. In other words, you attract what you are, not what you want.

So, if you’re carrying unresolved issues, harboring negativity, or stuck in unhealthy patterns, you’re likely to attract individuals who mirror these same characteristics.

If you’re afraid you’re going to end up with a man who’s controlling, that’s probably exactly what you’re attracting – controlling men.

If you think all men are liars and cheaters, what will you attract? Men who don’t follow through with what they say and aren’t ready to commit.

Invest time in understanding and improving your thought patterns. If you’d like support with distinguishing, dismantling and replacing sabotaging thoughts, schedule a Love Breakthrough Session!

On this call we’ll support you to discover the thoughts that are leading to the dating experiences you don’t want so you can have a breakthrough and begin to create the results you desire!

Click HERE to Book your Complimentary Love Breakthrough Session Now!

By focusing on becoming the best version of you, you’ll naturally become more attractive to those who value and appreciate the qualities you’ve nurtured within yourself.

Saboteur #3: Clinging to What you Know and Not Getting Curious About What’s Not Working

If you want to be in the relationship of your dreams and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

I promise you, these are not the issues:

Where you live
What you do for a living
How much you weigh
Your age
How much debt you have
How many prior relationship you have (or haven’t) been in
There’s no good men out there or all the good ones are already taken

Holding onto these sabotaging and circumstantial beliefs can set you up for constant disappointment and make you overlook potentially great matches because they don’t fit your preconceived mold or because you don’t think you’re ready or deserving of love.

If you’re not attracting the type of man you’d like or creating the results you desire in dating and relationships, get curious and ask yourself, “Why am I attracting this?”

Attracting the right man is not about getting on the “right” dating apps or wearing the right outfit. It’s about introspection, self-improvement, and maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth.

If you find yourself constantly attracting the wrong kind of men, perhaps it’s time to step back and examine these areas of your life.

Avoid these self-sabotaging mistakes, and you’ll create a path to attract a partner who values, respects, and cherishes you, just as you are.

If you’d like support in having a breakthrough, then click HERE to schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with one of our fabulous Love Coaches.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the thought and behavior patterns that are sabotaging your love life!

Remember, the journey to finding the right person often starts with being the right person to yourself. It’s time to become the person who attracts the love you deserve.

Reclaiming Your Power and Attracting the Love You Truly Deserve

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 30, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

One of the things we hear most from women is that they’re struggling to let go of a relationship – either a toxic relationship from the past or a “situationship” they’re currently in that’s not going anywhere.

They want to be able to break ties with their ex so they can be truly ready to attract the man who will be by their side forever.

They want to let go of the fear of rejection and allow themselves to really be seen, heard and loved!

They share that they have thoughts like this:

“Why can’t I let this go?”

“Why am I still stuck on this one person?”
“How will I ever move on from this toxic experience so I can have real love?”

“When am I going to stop settling for crumbs so that I can love and be loved the way I really want?”

Is this something you’ve dealt with (or are currently trying to break free from) too?

If being able to let go of past heartbreaks so you can manifest the committed relationship of your dreams is what you want, then this is for you.

Letting go can be challenging, but it’s essential for your growth and for opening up space in your heart to welcome true love. It involves recognizing what you’re holding onto, defining what it is that you really want and choosing to be in the relationship that is aligned.

So what does a toxic relationship look like?

Emotional/physical abuse
Verbal disrespect
Hurting each other on purpose
Brings out the worst in you or the other person
Manipulation
With someone who’s unavailable (married, separated, “getting divorced”)
Thinking you can “change” the person
Trying to “convince” them to want to commit to you or that they eventually will if you stay there long enough.

Basically any relationship where you have more unhappy moments than happy moments is toxic.

And yes, this includes situationships.

A “situationship” is where you’re spending time with someone and acting like you’re his girlfriend, when you’re not.

Even if you’re sleeping together, until he tells you straight that he wants to be committed to you, that he doesn’t want to see any other women and that he wants you to be committed to him – then it’s not a relationship.

If you say, “Well, it’s complicated.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you say, “We have an understanding and we’re both okay with it.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you have to ask him, “Where is this going?” then you already have your answer.

It’s not a relationship.

It’s either a relationship or it’s not and if it’s not and you’re acting like it is then you’re becoming emotionally attached and he’s not.

You may ask, “What’s so wrong with that?”

Here’s the problem with emotionally investing in a relationship that’s not reciprocated…

The heartache of breaking a situationship is just as bad and hurts just as much as breaking a real relationship (sometimes even more so).

Why?

Because you’ve invested so much emotion, time, attention and hope into something that wasn’t real anyway.

When you do that, you’re not only lying to yourself but over time you’ll feel resentment, regret, anger and like he used you (even though you were a willing participate).

These emotions – resentment, blame, anger, guilt, shame and regret – are toxic emotions that can be hard to move on from. You feel these emotions towards yourself and then project them onto the other person because you didn’t honor your boundaries, your dream, your vision.

Why would you do that to yourself?

We know that being alone can feel hard and painful sometimes, but here’s the truth:

Being in a relationship that’s anything less than what you really want is just as painful.

Even if it’s fun and passionate and exciting for a few weeks, it always ends in these toxic emotions and experiences that are hard to let go of and move on from.

We’ve coached women who have waited 2 years, 5 years, 12 years, 17 years for someone they thought they were in a relationship with to choose them!

If commitment and marriage is something you want, and for most of the women in our community that is what they want – then this is heartbreaking!

Most don’t want a long-term relationship. They don’t want something where they constantly have to wonder if he’s seeing other women, sleeping with someone else or if it’s ever going to go anywhere.

They want love, companionship and commitment.

So why do women stay in relationships or “situationships” that aren’t everything they want?

Fear that they’re never going to find what they want.
Feeling like something is better than nothing.
A belief that they type of man and relationship isn’t out there.
Not being clear on what they really want and then settling for whatever comes.

If you’re tired of not being in the relationship you want or settling for anything less…

Join us next Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!

In the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass, you’ll discover exactly what to stop doing and what to start doing, instead, so that you can easily let go of past toxic experiences and attract the perfect match for you.

You’ll learn how to easily and effortlessly attract the right man without wasting time, struggling, or settling.

These are the same steps we’ve taught and helped hundreds of women around the world meet the man they end up marrying in 30-90 days!

Why would you sentence yourself to “less than”?

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