Lately, we’ve been answering your questions about what to say or do when your man says or does something that leaves you, well… speechless!
In today’s video, I talk about three ineffective ways to respond to an emotional trigger and what you can do instead.
The goal? To have a conversation where you can share and express what you want to say, where you are left feeling heard, and where the conversation leads to a win-win solution!
Have questions of your own? Put them in the comments section and we’ll answer them right away!
Or… even better… join us for the What to Say to Your Man Masterclasson Saturday, December 19th, and jump into our Facebook group that is already live!
Being able to communicate effectively is one of the keys to having a great relationship! Watch the video and let us know what questions you’d like answered!
I wanted to take a moment to let you know why Michelle and I are so passionate about the “What to Say to Your Man” Bundle that we’re selling for a crazy-low price as part of our Black Friday Sale.
What you need to know is that this is about A LOT MORE than just a Black Friday sale!
The reason I’m so passionate about the “What to Say to Your Man” Program Bundle is because not knowing what to say or do when I felt emotionally triggered, confronted, or hurt almost cost me my marriage.
When I’d feel triggered, I’d say and do things that I thought were about me “just being honest,” saying how I felt or what I thought, and, in seconds would have us arguing — sometimes for days!
Not knowing what to say or do was having me push my husband further and further away.
This isn’t something that’s easy for me to talk about, but I tell you a little bit more about it in the video below.
Not knowing what to do or say was costing me in terms of peace, happiness, and love in my marriage.
The thing is, it’s costing you, too!
It’s costing you not being in a relationship or ruining the one you’re in now!
So, rather than pay thatprice, why not pay the crazy-low price of $47 now!
The Black Friday sale ends tonight, Sunday, November 29th at midnight EST. The price will be going up and wewon’t offer this program at this price again!
Communication is the KEY to having a happy, peaceful relationship that WORKS. You simply can’t afford to keep paying the price of not knowing what to say or do when you talk to your man!
Save yourself a lot of bickering, breakups, and heartache by grabbing yours now!
Hope that you had a wonderful day yesterday and that was overflowing with love and gratitude, no matter where you are in the world!
Michelle and I are heading out for some Black Friday shopping, and we wanted to let you know about the crazy sale we’re having just for you!
A few weeks ago, we asked you to send us your questions about what to say or do when your man says or does something that leaves you… well… speechless!
We read every single one of your questions and we’ve created a program that is going to give you the answers you’ve been waiting for!
So, in honor of Black Friday, we’re giving you the opportunity to jump in and grab your “What to Say to Your Man” Black Friday Bundle!
This is an AMAZING deal we’re offering so that you can learn EXACTLY what to say to a man in even the most challenging situations so that you can get the love you want!
The “What to Say to Your Man” Black Friday Bundle includes:
What to Say to Your Man: 40 Proven Scripts So You Know Exactly What to Say to Get the Love You Want! Ebook, where you’ll get the EXACT words to say and coaching on what to do so that you can say what you want or need and get it!
“What to Say to Your Man: EXACTLY What to Say and Do to Get the Love You Want!” 2-hour Masterclass, where we will teach you what to say and how to write your own scripts for responding in any situation!
A private Facebook group where you can get direct access to coaching from Gladys & Michelle, as well as interact with other Masterclass participants.
The mp3 audio of the Masterclass, so that you can download it and have it with you whenever you want or need it!
A 30-minute 1-on-1 Love Breakthrough Coaching Session with one of the Love Twins to answer any questions not covered in the book or masterclass.
Why are we so excited about this?
Because good communication is KEY in making a relationship work, and if you don’t know what to say (or not say) and how to say it, you’ll experience a lot of stress, arguments, and unnecessary heartache.
But, what if you knew the EXACT words to say, the ones you shouldn’t say, and the steps you should take to get the love your heart desires?
Today is Halloween and I’m getting ready to decorate our front yard and start putting together my costume so that I can take my little one out trick-or-treating tonight. I love seeing all the little kids in their costumes, getting a chance to pretend that they are their favorite heroes and characters. I remember how exciting it used to be as a kid, myself (almost as exciting as looking forward to eating all of the candy once I got home!)
Coincidentally, this week I participated in a course on relationships, and one of the things we discussed was how people in relationships hide behind their masks. The instructor explained how in life, we are usually wearing either one of two masks:
When you are wearing your first mask, you show the world only who you want them to see. This is the mask that says:
“I’ve got it all together!”
I’m smart, capable, and just fine on my own! Thank you!”
The other mask is the one that hides what you don’t want others to see. It’s the one that says:
“I’m afraid.”
“I don’t know…”
“I don’t want to face this on my own.”
Wearing the first mask gives you a false sense of confidence. It’s the mask you use to seek approval, to look good and avoid looking bad. And, while it probably helps you accomplish many of your goals, it can also be the one that has you pretending to be pretty much perfect. And people – including men – simply can’t connect with perfection. It doesn’t allow others to get close to you and possibly contribute to you because, well, you’ve already got it all together!
Wearing the second mask can feel scary. It’s the one you try avoiding wearing at all costs. It keeps you from being vulnerable, has you praying no one sees your insecurities or imperfections. So, again, this mask can also push people away. When you’re that afraid of being seen, it’s difficult for the other person to get to know you – thereal you.
And, as Michelle and I always say:
He can’t fall in love with YOU, if YOU are not there.
So, for today, I invite you to ask yourself:
Where in my relationships am I wearing a mask?
What am I pretending?
What am I hiding?
What is it that you’re afraid others will see?
Remember, being authentic and vulnerable are essential to creating love and intimacy in a relationship.
Consider removing your masks and looking at who the real you is. Who you are is enough. You are already loveable. There’s no need to pretend, shut out, or push away the people who can and want to give you the love you deserve – including the man who wants nothing more than to let you know that he loves and accepts you just as you are!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
I was talking to a client the other day and she was sharing with me how she has a trouble trusting men. When you hear her story, you can understand why she feels that way. A failed marriage, due to infidelity, a failed relationship due to him not fully being over his ex when they got together, and a few other unsuccessful relationships in between. All of this helped reinforce her belief that it was difficult for her to trust men.
As we began to dig deeper into what the patterns in all of these relationships were, we began to uncover the truth about why she was finding it difficult to trust and open her heart to a new man.
Yes, the men she loved gave her reason to not trust them, but the truth was deeper than that.
There was actually a reason she was attracting these men into her life in the first place.
In fact, the real reason she was attracting men who made it difficult for her to trust had very little to do with the men.
It had to do with her.
The person she is really having trouble trusting is herself.
Trusting yourself means that you listen to heart, instead of your head.
I know, I know. You feel that listening to your heart is what’s gotten you burned in the past.
I want to invite you to open your heart and mind and consider something different.
When you don’t trust yourself to make the right choices – the choices that are aligned with your values, your truth, and what you really want – then you will likely allow something else to choose for you: Your fears.
When you allow your fears to make your choices, you always end up disappointed.
Your fear of being alone will have you choose to be with someone who isn’t really right for you.
Your fear of not finding someone else who will love you will have you hold on to a relationship that is toxic and unfulfilling.
Your fear that your partner or husband won’t love you the way he used to will have you pretend that nothing is wrong, even though all of the signs are there that the relationship is slowly (or quickly) falling apart.
On the other hand, when you trust and honor yourself and your truth:
You choose from a place of power.
You make choices that honor who you are and what you value to be true.
You’re not afraid to make these choices and you don’t feel like you have to force or impose those truths on the other person. You realize that the right man will choose to honor what’s true for you because he values who you are.
Allowing your fears to run the show leads to nothing but one disappointing heartache after another.
Learning how to start choosing from a place of power leads to you experiencing the happiness, love, and intimacy your heart truly desires.
If you’re finding it difficult to trust when it comes to relationships, I want you to ask yourself the following questions:
Do I trust myself to make the choices that are best for me when it comes to relationships?
If not, what is it that has me doubt my ability to make the right choices for myself?
How is this lack of trust impacting my relationships?
How might learning to trust myself give me different results in my relationships?
Being real with yourself and looking at what is standing in your way is the only way to transform and do something about it. It’s like any roadblock: Unless you’re clear about what is standing in your way, there is no way to avoid it and you’ll just keep slamming into it… over and over again!
If you’re ready to shift this dynamic in your life, answer the questions truthfully and then let me know what begins to open up for you. I’d love to support you in creating a real breakthrough in your love life that leads to you having the love you want and deserve!
And, by the way, as you do all of this, be gentle with yourself. Blaming, faulting, and or beating yourself up about the decisions you’ve made in the past doesn’t serve you unless you are committed to making different choices! And when you’re ready for that, get ready for your life to transform!
This morning I had one of those “a-ha!” insight moments while I was running that I just had to share with you!
I saw something for myself that I believe will make a difference for you when it comes to love and relationships, so I shot a really quick video right before going on a lunch date with my hubby (hence the outfit) and I wanted to get it to you before the end of the day!
I even included an exercise that you can do to walk yourself to the other side of a disempowering thought around yourself, love, and relationships!
Plus, I give you some “work” to do!
I’d love to hear your thoughts, so make sure you leave your comments below the video and “Do the work!” (You’ll get what that means when you watch the video!)
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