Heart's Desire Intl

Alone to Adored: How Three Women Created Extraordinary Love and How YOU can TOO!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 21, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Last week on Love Chat with The Love Twins, three successful, inspiring, beautiful women joined us to share a little about their journey to creating Extraordinary Love.

They shared how their participation in our coaching programs impacted their relationships, career, health, and finances!

All three of them have created the Relationship of their Dreams and between them they’ve:

Created clarity in their careers
Bought houses
Healed a tumor
Received raises and bonuses
Created additional friendships
Healed relationships with mothers and sisters
Are working on starting families and so much more!

If you missed it, you can watch the replay by clicking HERE!

Jenna had a belief that men couldn’t love. For years she’d continued the pattern of rushing into relationships, becoming invested before she even really knew the man, realized he wasn’t the one and then, heartbroken, spending time getting over and moving on from the toxic relationship.

Jada had a fear of being alone which led her to get physically intimate and attached to men too soon by not communicating her boundaries and then finding out he was married, not who he said he was and that once again, this was not it!

And Roslyn believed she wasn’t enough, which had her date unavailable men and twist herself into a pretzel to try to become whatever he wanted. This caused unnecessary drama in her life and created a spiral of continually dwindling her self-confidence.

Through the coaching they were open to and the HeartWork they did, they were able to breakthrough their sabotaging patterns and create the love they had always wanted!

They learned how to:

Not take things personally
Communicate boundaries in relationships
Find their voice
Live their values
Be authentic
Share effectively with men
Just to name a few!

The awesome thing is that these are all things we’ll be teaching this weekend in the Decoding Your Man Masterclass!

Jenna, Jada and Roslyn all shared that this particular masterclass was one of the things that made a big difference for them in their journey to extraordinary love.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this masterclass will expand your knowledge AND skills so you can communicate and understand the men in your life – and create the type of relationships you want!

If you want to experience more love, connection and intimacy then click HERE to register for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass happening this Saturday, August 26th!

This masterclass is worth over $500 and this Saturday, you have the opportunity to attend – on us!

Don’t miss it!

How to Create Real Love Now! (No Matter Your Age)

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 28, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to create the lasting loving relationship that you dream of?

Whether you’re in your 20’s, 30’s, 50’s or 70’s – you can create love NOW!

In our 30 years of relationship coaching, we’ve heard it all when it comes to why women think and feel they can’t find love.

“I don’t know if now’s the right time for me to focus on love.”

“I’m too old. If love was meant for me it would have happened by now.”

“I’m not ready! There’s so much more of life I want to experience before I settle down and create a relationship.”

“I need to get my own life together first before anyone would want to be a part of it.”

“I’ve been waiting so long. Love must simply not be in the cards for me!”

Let me ask you – when would there ever be a time when you shouldn’t love and be loved?

Here’s the truth – There is no deck of cards where love isn’t in the cards for you! It is 100% possible to meet and fall madly in love with someone at any age and at any time.

In the ever-changing circumstances of life, one thing remains constant…

The desire to find love. While sometimes it may feel like you don’t know how it will ever be possible for you, the key to creating love at any age lies in being clear on what you want, breaking through the fears and limiting beliefs keeping you from it, and being open to love finding you at any time!

Love is not restricted by age or societal norms. It’s possible to meet and fall madly in love with someone at any age!

1. Be Crystal Clear About What You Want

Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams begins with knowing what you truly want to experience inside that relationship. This begins with knowing your unique individuality and embracing who you are and what you truly want.

Understand your strengths and weaknesses and celebrate the person you are! Cultivate self-love and self-compassion because these things will support you in attracting the relationship that’s right for you!

Take time to date men and really get to know them! Let go of desperation, fear and scarcity by being committed to creating what you really want.

2. Break Through and Release the Fears and Limiting Beliefs That Are Keeping You Stuck in Love

Throughout life, you accumulate experiences, some of which may have left emotional wounds and bruises. These scars create the thoughts that fuel your limiting beliefs, fears and dysfunctional patterns in love.

The secret to finding love lies in letting go of this past baggage!

Dismantling and replacing these limiting beliefs, fears and dysfunctional patterns are what allow you to heal from past heartbreaks and disappointments, which is essential to make room for new love to flourish!

Ask yourself, “What am I afraid is or is not going to happen if I love freely?”

Getting clear on this question and healing yourself of past wounds is what will allow yourself to be vulnerable again which is the gateway to meaningful connections.

3. Be Open to Love Finding You at Any Time

Creating true love is not confined to a specific age or stage of life.

Life is dynamic, and love can find you unexpectedly and in the most unexpected places!

It can also happen fast!

Embrace change, be open to new experiences and believe that love can happen for you now!

Trust in the process, and know that when you know what you want and are committed to creating it – you can (and will) manifest it no matter your age or circumstances!

If you’re tired of living alone and want to be with the man of your dreams inside the relationship you’ve always imagined then you simply must join us for this year’s Irresistible Woman LIVE!

During this 3-day event we’ll take a wrecking ball to the things that are getting in the way of you having the love that you want, you’ll get 100% crystal clear on what you want to experience in love, and walk away with the tools and support to create it!

Plus – right now (and for a limited time) you can grab a ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE along with some incredible bonuses inside the Irresistible Bundle!

Here’s what you get inside the bundle:

💜 Ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Live Virtual Event – September 29th-October 1st, 2023 ($500 Value)

💜 Irresistible Woman Prep for Love Call ($200 Value)

💜 Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass Recording ($300 Value)

After you grab your ticket, be ready to have a breakthrough and transform your life!

Click HERE to claim your Irresistible Bundle Now!

We have sooooo many stories of women who have come to any event and within 3-6 months have met the man they’re going to marry!

Take Elena for example…

Elena came to an event of ours when she was 66 years old after a 20-year hiatus from dating! She didn’t know if love was still available to her at her age – but the truth was that she deeply desired to experience the joys of loving and being loved deeply.

Days after the event she met the man she’s now married to!

Within months they were engaged and now are about to celebrate their 2-year wedding anniversary!

This is what she shared about working with us at the event she attended:

“I would have kept repeating the same results of all my past relationships if they hadn’t lovingly helped me break down and through all my fears, limiting beliefs, dysfunctional patterns and ways of being. These love barriers were deeply ingrained after about 45 years of dating and heartbreaks. I was never married, 66 year old when I met my husband 9 days after the Love Breakthrough Challenge and was married to him 9 months later.

If any of you are having doubts about this being possible for you, I am here to tell you to trust and believe that it is. And jump into any program and coaching the Love Twins offer. Miracles do happen!”

In the pursuit of love embracing vulnerability and courage will lead you to profound connections and lasting joy.

Embrace the secret to finding love at any age by getting clear on what you want, breaking through the fears and limiting beliefs keeping you from creating it, and be open to love finding you at any time!

As you do these things, you may find yourself on a path of love that transcends the limits of time.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the fears that are holding you back in love and relationships and claim your Irresistible Love Bundle now!

Discover the 3 Self-Saboteurs Keeping You from the Right Man!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 11, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you finding yourself on an endless carousel of disappointing dates?

Are you attracting the wrong type of men, time and again?

Perhaps it’s not simply a matter of luck or circumstance, but of unconscious self-sabotage.

Sabotage is doing anything that’s not aligned with what you say you desire.

The reason why it’s unconscious is because you don’t realize you’re doing it! I’m sure you don’t wake up in the morning and think, “I can’t wait to sabotage my day (or love life)!”

Even so, the truth is – you’re always manifesting something, whether it’s what you want or what you don’t want.

And if you want to be in an extraordinary relationship, and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

Keep reading to explore three common self-saboteurs that might be hindering you from attracting the right man. Once you’re aware of these, you’ll be better equipped to make positive changes that can drastically improve your dating experiences.

Saboteur #1: Behaviors and Patterns

Since we said that most (if not all) self-sabotaging is unconscious, the easiest way to know if you’re self-sabotaging is to look at the behaviors and patterns that are not aligned with what you say you want.

Do you tolerate disrespectful behavior?

Do you not set or maintain your values and boundaries?

Do you constantly put others’ needs before your own?

Do you notice you settle for whatever’s showing up?

Do you get angry when a guy doesn’t call you for a 2nd date?

Do you write someone off before giving yourself a chance to get to know them because they aren’t tall enough, have been divorced or have kids?

Do you shut down and “take a break” from dating (perhaps for longer than really necessary) after a disappointing dating experience?

These are all examples of behaviors that can sabotage your dating experiences that you may not recognize.

Knowing what you want to experience inside the relationship of your dreams and BEing the woman who knows she can have it all supports you in transforming these behaviors and patterns that may be getting in the way.

When working to transform your actions it’s important to look for what thoughts are underneath them and driving the behavior.

Saboteur #2: Limiting Beliefs and Fears

The #1 most significant and common self-saboteur is overlooking the thoughts that are sabotaging you. Your thoughts lead to your behavior which leads to the patterns you’ve developed and the results you create.

What you attract is an energetic match for what you truly believe. In other words, you attract what you are, not what you want.

So, if you’re carrying unresolved issues, harboring negativity, or stuck in unhealthy patterns, you’re likely to attract individuals who mirror these same characteristics.

If you’re afraid you’re going to end up with a man who’s controlling, that’s probably exactly what you’re attracting – controlling men.

If you think all men are liars and cheaters, what will you attract? Men who don’t follow through with what they say and aren’t ready to commit.

Invest time in understanding and improving your thought patterns. If you’d like support with distinguishing, dismantling and replacing sabotaging thoughts, schedule a Love Breakthrough Session!

On this call we’ll support you to discover the thoughts that are leading to the dating experiences you don’t want so you can have a breakthrough and begin to create the results you desire!

Click HERE to Book your Complimentary Love Breakthrough Session Now!

By focusing on becoming the best version of you, you’ll naturally become more attractive to those who value and appreciate the qualities you’ve nurtured within yourself.

Saboteur #3: Clinging to What you Know and Not Getting Curious About What’s Not Working

If you want to be in the relationship of your dreams and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

I promise you, these are not the issues:

Where you live
What you do for a living
How much you weigh
Your age
How much debt you have
How many prior relationship you have (or haven’t) been in
There’s no good men out there or all the good ones are already taken

Holding onto these sabotaging and circumstantial beliefs can set you up for constant disappointment and make you overlook potentially great matches because they don’t fit your preconceived mold or because you don’t think you’re ready or deserving of love.

If you’re not attracting the type of man you’d like or creating the results you desire in dating and relationships, get curious and ask yourself, “Why am I attracting this?”

Attracting the right man is not about getting on the “right” dating apps or wearing the right outfit. It’s about introspection, self-improvement, and maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth.

If you find yourself constantly attracting the wrong kind of men, perhaps it’s time to step back and examine these areas of your life.

Avoid these self-sabotaging mistakes, and you’ll create a path to attract a partner who values, respects, and cherishes you, just as you are.

If you’d like support in having a breakthrough, then click HERE to schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with one of our fabulous Love Coaches.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the thought and behavior patterns that are sabotaging your love life!

Remember, the journey to finding the right person often starts with being the right person to yourself. It’s time to become the person who attracts the love you deserve.

Reclaiming Your Power and Attracting the Love You Truly Deserve

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 30, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

One of the things we hear most from women is that they’re struggling to let go of a relationship – either a toxic relationship from the past or a “situationship” they’re currently in that’s not going anywhere.

They want to be able to break ties with their ex so they can be truly ready to attract the man who will be by their side forever.

They want to let go of the fear of rejection and allow themselves to really be seen, heard and loved!

They share that they have thoughts like this:

“Why can’t I let this go?”

“Why am I still stuck on this one person?”
“How will I ever move on from this toxic experience so I can have real love?”

“When am I going to stop settling for crumbs so that I can love and be loved the way I really want?”

Is this something you’ve dealt with (or are currently trying to break free from) too?

If being able to let go of past heartbreaks so you can manifest the committed relationship of your dreams is what you want, then this is for you.

Letting go can be challenging, but it’s essential for your growth and for opening up space in your heart to welcome true love. It involves recognizing what you’re holding onto, defining what it is that you really want and choosing to be in the relationship that is aligned.

So what does a toxic relationship look like?

Emotional/physical abuse
Verbal disrespect
Hurting each other on purpose
Brings out the worst in you or the other person
Manipulation
With someone who’s unavailable (married, separated, “getting divorced”)
Thinking you can “change” the person
Trying to “convince” them to want to commit to you or that they eventually will if you stay there long enough.

Basically any relationship where you have more unhappy moments than happy moments is toxic.

And yes, this includes situationships.

A “situationship” is where you’re spending time with someone and acting like you’re his girlfriend, when you’re not.

Even if you’re sleeping together, until he tells you straight that he wants to be committed to you, that he doesn’t want to see any other women and that he wants you to be committed to him – then it’s not a relationship.

If you say, “Well, it’s complicated.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you say, “We have an understanding and we’re both okay with it.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you have to ask him, “Where is this going?” then you already have your answer.

It’s not a relationship.

It’s either a relationship or it’s not and if it’s not and you’re acting like it is then you’re becoming emotionally attached and he’s not.

You may ask, “What’s so wrong with that?”

Here’s the problem with emotionally investing in a relationship that’s not reciprocated…

The heartache of breaking a situationship is just as bad and hurts just as much as breaking a real relationship (sometimes even more so).

Why?

Because you’ve invested so much emotion, time, attention and hope into something that wasn’t real anyway.

When you do that, you’re not only lying to yourself but over time you’ll feel resentment, regret, anger and like he used you (even though you were a willing participate).

These emotions – resentment, blame, anger, guilt, shame and regret – are toxic emotions that can be hard to move on from. You feel these emotions towards yourself and then project them onto the other person because you didn’t honor your boundaries, your dream, your vision.

Why would you do that to yourself?

We know that being alone can feel hard and painful sometimes, but here’s the truth:

Being in a relationship that’s anything less than what you really want is just as painful.

Even if it’s fun and passionate and exciting for a few weeks, it always ends in these toxic emotions and experiences that are hard to let go of and move on from.

We’ve coached women who have waited 2 years, 5 years, 12 years, 17 years for someone they thought they were in a relationship with to choose them!

If commitment and marriage is something you want, and for most of the women in our community that is what they want – then this is heartbreaking!

Most don’t want a long-term relationship. They don’t want something where they constantly have to wonder if he’s seeing other women, sleeping with someone else or if it’s ever going to go anywhere.

They want love, companionship and commitment.

So why do women stay in relationships or “situationships” that aren’t everything they want?

Fear that they’re never going to find what they want.
Feeling like something is better than nothing.
A belief that they type of man and relationship isn’t out there.
Not being clear on what they really want and then settling for whatever comes.

If you’re tired of not being in the relationship you want or settling for anything less…

Join us next Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!

In the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass, you’ll discover exactly what to stop doing and what to start doing, instead, so that you can easily let go of past toxic experiences and attract the perfect match for you.

You’ll learn how to easily and effortlessly attract the right man without wasting time, struggling, or settling.

These are the same steps we’ve taught and helped hundreds of women around the world meet the man they end up marrying in 30-90 days!

Why would you sentence yourself to “less than”?

Swipe Right on Love: Dating Strategies for Busy Women

by heartsdesireintl | May 22, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Single Mother, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you struggle making time for your love life?

You may be a single mom and have a hard time finding a babysitter.

Maybe you travel a lot for work and find it hard to make time for dating or your partner.

Finding time for dating can feel challenging.

Juggling work commitments, household responsibilities, and parenting duties can make it seem that there’s little room for personal endeavors.

We get it.

Both Gladys and I are entrepreneurs running multiple businesses, wives, mothers, and dog-moms. We have clients, team members and family to take care of – on top of making time for our own work-outs, self-care and rest.

I remember when I was a single mom trying to make it all work and wondering if it was possible to have it all…

The thing to remember is that carving out time for romance is essential for self-care and building meaningful connections.

In this blog post, we’ll explore practical strategies and mindset shifts to help busy professionals and single moms make time for dating in their demanding lives.

#1: Make Your Love Life and Dating a Top Priority in Your Life

The first thing you must do is make dating a top priority. Right up there with taking care of yourself.

If you don’t make your love life a priority then another summer goes by and you’re still alone. Another birthday comes and goes and you aren’t spending it with the one you love.

Let’s get rid of regret and start creating your dreams NOW!

Dating isn’t just another thing you have to do and until you start relating to it as self-care and not an item to be checked off your list – only then will you start enjoying it and start creating the results you want!

#2: Prioritize Self-Care

As a single mom and professional, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. When you don’t, you slowly begin to resent the people in your life that need you and want to spend time with you.

This puts you in low energy and makes it impossible to attract the things you want into your life!

When you prioritize taking care of yourself, you boost your well-being AND enhance your ability to be present and engaged in dating.

Set aside dedicated time each day and week for activities that rejuvenate you, such as exercise, meditating, praying, reading, pursuing a hobby (or sitting and doing nothing if that’s what you want to do)!

By nurturing your own happiness, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of dating while managing your all of your other responsibilities.

#3: Create Opportunities in Your Schedule to Date and Spend Time With Your Partner

Sometimes you get to be creative when you have a lot of priorities and are short on time.

Remember how I said we get it? We do!

Sometimes spending time together looks like long walks, movies and going to bed together.

And sometimes we get to be creative!

If Arnie and I have a particularly full day, we’ll wake up 15 minutes early so we can sit on the porch and have our coffee together.

Gladys and Ric go to lunch together every single Friday, which they’ve been doing for years!

Why?

Because prioritizing our relationships is important to us and it’s imperative to keeping the love alive!

If you’re looking at opportunities to meet men as something you dread or as a time-waster – it’s time to shift your mindset and embrace meeting men as something that is fun and worth it!

#4: Create a Structure for Your Time and Manage Your Time Well

You’re precious, your time is precious and you get to manage it well.

Prioritize your tasks, set realistic deadlines, plan dating into your calendar and create a structured schedule.

Look for pockets of time in your routine where you can squeeze in a date or a brief phone call with a potential partner.

TIP: You don’t need to be juggling 15 dating apps and chatting with 100 men at a time – now that might feel overwhelming!

You need to be on three dating apps with a profile that will attract the men who are a match for you!

If you don’t have that or you need support with your mindset or time management – Schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with a Coach!

As a busy professional and/or single mom, making time for dating can feel like an uphill battle. However, by shifting your mindset and making it a priority, prioritizing self-care, creating creative opportunities to date, creating a structure for it and managing your time well, you can successfully integrate dating into your busy life.

Remember, finding love and nurturing relationships is a vital aspect of personal growth and happiness!

And you get to have it ALL!

Rejection Hurts. Here’s How to Break Through Your Fear and Create Extraordinary Love NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | May 7, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you have a fear of being hurt or rejected?

If you don’t, you must be superhuman, because as human beings, we all deal with this!

And it doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, this message is for you!

It’s a common misconception that, once you get into a relationship, the fear of rejection or getting hurt goes away…

But that’s just not true.

The fear of rejection creates barriers to feeling like yourself and feeling safe in a relationship.

It holds you back from creating deep, intimate connections – whether you’re already in a relationship or seeking to create one.

No matter the reason you have this fear or how it manifests for you, the impact it creates is the same.

Here’s how it works…

You have a fear that something will or won’t happen in the future because of something that did or didn’t happen in the past.

This fear then causes you to react in a certain way, which is a coping mechanism for not getting hurt.

This may look like withdrawing from your partner or pulling back.

It may look like being paralyzed and feeling like you can’t do or say anything because of your fear that it will go badly.

It may look like pretending, acting as if everything is fine, when, actually, you’re feeling completely scared inside.

Here’s how it looked for me.

Because I was scared of being rejected, I was always trying to prove myself.

And it showed up in work, in my relationships, as a mother, everywhere.

My previous marriage was not a happy one.

I remember how I would feel every time I’d come home and put the key up to the door to open it.

Each time, I would stop and feel my chest tighten as I wondered what I was about to encounter on the other side of the door – and hoping that today might be a good day.

My fear of being alone and needing to be accepted caused me to stay in that unhappy relationship where I was treated in ways that are now absolutely unimaginable to me.

I would stay quiet and pretend that everything was fine, and then I couldn’t really understand what was real and what I really wanted.

So why does this matter for you?

Do you accept behavior or communication that isn’t aligned with what you want because you’re afraid of being rejected?

Do you feel like your feelings won’t be validated because you fear you’ll be used or get hurt.

When fear is running the show you feel powerless, and that’s not the way we want you to feel!!

So how do you overcome these fears?

The first thing you need to do is – recognize and acknowledge the fear.

When you recognize yourself in the space where the fear is coming to the surface, ask yourself these two questions.

What is it that you’re afraid of that’s stopping you from having the relationship you want to have?

If I didn’t have this fear and was standing inside my power, who would I be that would allow me to make a different choice?

When you acknowledge your fear, get curious about it and own it – you allow yourself to step into your power and know that you get to choose how you feel and behave.

The truth is…

You can either be run by your fears or run by your ability to choose a different experience.

When you don’t break through your fear, the fear chooses for you!

When you transform yourself – YOU get to choose.

You get to create the Extraordinary Love that you imagine!

If you’d like to overcome your fear of rejection so you can get into the relationship of your dreams by this summer – yes, you read that right, THIS SUMMER…

Then click HERE to schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with one of our fabulous Love Coaches.

Once you transform something, you don’t go back to it.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the fears that are holding you back in love and relationships!

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