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Situationships Unmasked: Why It’s Time to Stop Settling for Almost-Love

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 21, 2025 | breakups, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Self-Love, Success

by Michelle Roza

For the Woman Who’s Ready to Stop Guessing and Start Creating Extraordinary Love—Now

You’ve got the degrees, the title, the bank account, and the life that others admire…

So why are you still left questioning where you stand with him?

Let’s get real.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering,

“Are we together… or not?”

“Why does he act like a boyfriend but disappear when it matters?”

…then you may be stuck in a situationship—that murky middle space between casual and committed, where nothing is clearly defined, and yet somehow all of your energy is being poured in.

This is for you—the strong, high-achieving, heart-centered woman who knows she’s made for more than breadcrumbs and uncertainty.

Because the truth is, “almost love” isn’t love.

And you? You weren’t made for maybe.

So, What Is a Situationship, Really?

A situationship is a “relationship” that lacks clear boundaries, intentionality, and direction.

It feels like something, but it’s never defined. You’re left with mixed signals, unmet expectations, and the overwhelming sense that you’re investing more than you’re receiving.

You’re almost a couple.
You kind of talk about the future.
You sometimes get your emotional needs met… until he pulls away again.

And here’s the kicker: these connections can feel intoxicating in the short term.

The chemistry is strong. The unpredictability creates a rush. And the lack of clarity feeds your “fix-it” instinct.

But what’s really happening?

You’re settling.
You’re shrinking.
You’re wasting your precious time on a relationship that’s not even real.

Why Smart, Successful Women Fall Into Situationships

This isn’t about being naïve.

In fact, the more successful and self-reliant you are, the more likely you’ve been conditioned to “figure it out,” “be understanding,” or “see the potential” in someone.

And let’s not ignore the societal messaging that says strong women should be flexible, low-maintenance, and “go with the flow” in dating.

The result? You end up:

✔️ Rationalizing red flags
✔️ Silencing your intuition
✔️ Making excuses for inconsistency
✔️ Holding space for a man who won’t hold space for you

One of our clients—let’s call her Jessica—is a powerhouse executive who came to us emotionally exhausted. She’d been seeing a man for nearly a year and he’d text her daily, plan spontaneous dates, and talk about “someday.”

But he never introduced her to his friends or made a clear commitment.

Every time she asked where things were going, he’d say, “Why ruin a good thing? Let’s just enjoy what we have.”

Sound familiar?

After just one coaching session, Jessica had a breakthrough.

She realized that what she had wasn’t love—it was anxiety, dressed up as connection.

And within weeks of doing the deeper HeartWork™, she released that relationship, aligned with her Love Vision, and within three months, began dating a man who was intentional, emotionally available, and ready.

The Emotional Cost of “Almost-Love”

A situationship doesn’t just waste your time—it costs you clarity, confidence, and self-trust.

💔 It robs you of your voice as you tiptoe around your truth.
💔 It dims your light while you wait for crumbs of affection.
💔 It depletes your energy, leaving you too drained to open your heart to someone who’s actually aligned.

According to a 2022 study by Psychology Today, nearly 62% of single women reported experiencing “relational ambiguity” as their biggest source of dating stress.

That ambiguity is not an accident. It’s a strategy some men use to keep you close enough to benefit from your energy—but far enough to avoid real commitment.

And sis, your heart, your time, and your future are too valuable for that game.

Why You Need a Love Vision (Now More Than Ever)

When you don’t have a clear Love Vision, it’s easy to fall for potential. You end up reacting to what’s being offered instead of intentionally creating what you desire.

But when you’re crystal clear on what kind of relationship you’re creating, settling becomes impossible.

Because the woman with a Love Vision doesn’t:

❌ Chase clarity—she creates it.
❌ Entertain confusion—she requires communication.
❌ Dim her light—she shines unapologetically.

The moment you align with your Love Vision is the moment you stop entertaining anyone who doesn’t.

It’s Time to Choose YOU

If you’re reading this, it’s because your intuition already knows…

You’re not here to play games.
You’re not meant to be in limbo.
You’re ready for the real thing.

Let this be your wake-up call: Stop settling for almost-love. Love doesn’t leave you questioning.

It shows up. It aligns. It moves forward.

You’re not “too much.” You’re just finally refusing to be less than loved.

Ready to Break Free from Situationships and Step Into the Relationship You Deserve?

It starts with clarity.
It starts with courage.
It starts with you.

Book a complimentary Love Breakthrough Session with one of our expert coaches and get your personal plan to shift from confusion to commitment—fast.

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Because real love doesn’t leave you wondering. It meets you where you are—and rises to meet your worth.

Texting Anxiety is Stealing Your Power—Here’s How to Take It Back

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 9, 2025 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Picture this.

You’ve met a man who seems different—intriguing, charming, and actually interested in you. You’ve exchanged numbers, maybe even had a great first date. And now, the real test begins…

You send a text.

You wait.

And wait.

And then, the spiral starts.

“Did I say something wrong?”
“Why is he taking so long to respond?”
“Is he losing interest?”
“Should I send another message to ‘clarify’ what I meant?”

Your brain is working overtime, analyzing every word, every emoji (or lack thereof), and the ever-dreaded read receipt with no reply.

And before you know it, your confident, successful self has been hijacked by a flood of self-doubt, overthinking, and a sinking feeling in your gut that this is yet another dead-end situation.

Sound familiar?

If you’ve ever felt like your confidence in business, leadership, or any other area of life suddenly vanishes when it comes to texting in dating, you are NOT alone.

A staggering 75% of people report experiencing text anxiety in dating, and for high-achieving women, the stakes feel even higher. You’re used to being in control, getting results, and making things happen—but when it comes to dating, it can feel like the power is suddenly in someone else’s hands.

Let’s put an end to that today.

Why Texting Triggers Anxiety (Even for the Most Confident Women)

Let’s get something straight—you’re not crazy for overanalyzing texts. Your brain is actually wired to seek patterns, find meaning, and protect you from potential rejection. In other words, it’s trying to help you, even though it feels like it’s doing the exact opposite.

Here’s what’s really happening:

1. The Dopamine Trap

When you receive a message from someone you’re interested in, your brain releases dopamine—the same neurotransmitter linked to pleasure and reward. It makes you feel excited, validated, and eager for more. But when that dopamine hit is delayed (aka, when he doesn’t text back right away), your brain panics and starts looking for an explanation.

Enter: Overanalyzing, doubt, and the desperate urge to ‘fix’ something that isn’t even broken.

2. Fear of the Unknown

As a highly successful woman, you thrive on certainty and strategy. You know how to make things happen, close deals, and execute plans.

But dating? It’s unpredictable.

You don’t have access to the other person’s thought process, so your mind fills in the blanks—usually with worst-case scenarios.

3. Past Wounds Running the Show

Let’s be honest—if you’ve been ghosted, breadcrumbed, or strung along in the past, those experiences don’t just disappear. They shape your expectations.

So, instead of seeing a delayed text as neutral (maybe he’s busy), you might immediately assume the worst (he’s pulling away, he’s not interested, this is happening AGAIN).

But here’s the truth: The way a man texts does NOT determine his ability to be a great partner.

The Story That Changed Everything

I had a client, we’ll call her Lisa, a powerhouse CEO running a multimillion-dollar business. She could negotiate million-dollar deals without breaking a sweat—but when it came to dating, a simple “Hey, how’s your day?” text from a guy she liked could send her into full-blown analysis mode.

One night, she texted a man she’d been seeing for a few weeks. They had great chemistry, deep conversations, and a lot in common. But on this particular evening, he took hours to respond.

Cue the spiral.

“Maybe he’s losing interest.”
“Did I say something wrong?”
“Should I just ignore him now?”

She was about to send a follow-up text—the kind that sounds casual but is secretly fishing for reassurance—when she stopped and asked herself:

“What if his lack of response has nothing to do with me?”

And that moment changed everything.

Instead of spiraling, Lisa redirected her focus back to her own life.

She went for a run. She meditated. She reminded herself that a high-value woman does not chase, overthink, or settle for less than she deserves.

Hours later, her phone pinged.

“Hey Lisa, crazy day at work. Just getting a chance to breathe—how was your day?”

And just like that, all the worry had been for nothing.

How to Break Free from the Overanalyzing Spiral

So, how do you stop letting one little text message (or lack of one) hijack your emotions and your peace of mind?

It starts with shifting your love vision—because when you have clarity on what you truly want, you stop chasing validation and start attracting alignment.

Here’s how to do it:

1. Set a Standard, Not a Timeline

If you find yourself watching the clock and feeling anxious about how long it takes for him to respond, shift your focus.

High-quality relationships are built on consistent energy, not immediate replies.

If he’s aligned with you, his actions will show it over time—not just in his text response time.

2. Reframe the Narrative

Instead of making assumptions, ask yourself: “What else could be true?”

Maybe he’s in a meeting. Maybe he’s out with friends. Maybe he’s simply not glued to his phone 24/7 (which, let’s be real, is actually a good thing).

Your mind will naturally jump to the worst-case scenario—train it to consider the best-case one, too.

3. Step into Your Love Vision

A woman who’s clear on her vision for love doesn’t let a text message shake her confidence. She knows that the right man for her will show up, communicate, and match her energy consistently.

So instead of waiting by the phone, shift your energy back to YOU. Focus on living your life, creating joy, and trusting that the right connection will unfold naturally.

4. Stop Texting Like It’s a Job Interview

If you feel like every text needs to be perfectly crafted, witty, or “cool enough” to keep his interest, pause.

The goal isn’t to win him over—it’s to connect genuinely. If he’s the right man for you, your texts won’t make or break the relationship.

The Bottom Line: You Deserve More Than Text-Induced Anxiety

The more you chase certainty, instant validation, and over-perfection in texting, the more you give away your power.

Your worth is not measured in response times, emojis, or the number of texts exchanged.

When you have a clear love vision, you don’t settle for breadcrumbing, inconsistency, or emotional rollercoasters.

You attract a man who makes his interest known—not just in texts, but in his actions, his effort, and the way he shows up for you.

If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself and want to attract the kind of love that feels steady, aligned, and effortless, let’s create your personal plan for it.

Click below to book a Love Breakthrough Call, and let’s get you out of the text anxiety trap—and into a relationship that actually fuels your confidence and happiness.

🔗 Schedule Your Love Breakthrough Call Now → Click Here

Don’t Settle in Love: The Secret to Getting the Relationship You Truly Want

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 20, 2024 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, heartache, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Have you ever settled for less than what your heart truly desires?

Compromising your values, or worse, convincing yourself that what you’re getting is as good as it gets?

Settling is the silent killer of dreams and desires.

This is such an important topic because, let’s be real – it’s not just about romantic love; it’s about self-worth, self-respect, and ultimately, the quality of life you’re creating for yourself.

Why You Settle: The Fear That You Can’t Have What You Really Want

At the root of settling is a deep-seated fear: the fear that you can’t have the fullness that your heart desires.

You may have been burned in the past.
Maybe you’ve faced rejection, heartache, or betrayal.

These fears try to convince you that this is as good as it gets, that there’s nothing you can do about it, and that you’re alone.

Over time, these experiences chip away at your belief in what’s possible, creating a nagging voice in your head that says, “Maybe this is as good as it gets” or “This must be all I deserve.”

It’s that fear whispering in your ear that you should lower your expectations, make compromises, and stop asking for too much.

But here’s the truth: When you settle in love, you’re not just settling in relationships…

You’re settling in life.

You’re telling yourself that your dreams don’t matter, that your desires are too grand, too unrealistic. And that, my friend, is a lie.

The Vicious Cycle: How Settling Creates More Disappointment

When you settle, you set off a vicious cycle.

You accept less than what you truly want, which leads to a string of disappointing experiences. These experiences then reinforce the very fears and limiting beliefs that caused you to settle in the first place.

Let’s break it down:

You Settle: You accept a relationship that doesn’t truly fulfill you because you believe it’s the best you can get.
You Experience Disappointment: Because you’ve settled, the relationship doesn’t meet your needs, and you feel unfulfilled, frustrated, and maybe even resentful.
Your Beliefs Harden: The disappointment reinforces your belief that you can’t have what you truly want, which makes you more likely to settle again in the future.

And so the cycle continues, keeping you trapped in a loop of dissatisfaction and despair.

Breaking the Cycle: Get 100% Clear on What You Want

The first step to breaking this cycle is to get crystal clear on what you do want and why you’re settling for less.

I’m not talking about some vague notion of “happiness” or “a good partner.” I’m talking about getting down to the nitty-gritty details of what your heart truly desires in a relationship.

What are your non-negotiables?
What do you value most?
What kind of love do you dream about when you’re lying in bed at night?

Be specific. Be unapologetic. And most importantly, don’t let fear or past disappointments color your vision.

This clarity is crucial because it serves as your compass. Without it, you’re wandering aimlessly, easily swayed by fear, doubt, or the shiny distractions of relationships that seem “good enough” or “just for now.”

But with it, you become unstoppable. You can confidently reject anything that doesn’t align with your vision because you know exactly what you’re aiming for.

The Difference Between Unrealistic Expectations and High Standards

Now, let’s clear up a common misconception: the difference between unrealistic expectations and high standards.

Unrealistic expectations are demands you place on a partner that are either impossible to meet or based on fantasy. They might involve expecting someone to always make you happy, never have flaws, or fulfill all your needs.

Expectations often leave you waiting, hoping someone will rise to the occasion, and they’re a recipe for disappointment because no one is going to always say or do exactly what you want them to.

High standards, on the other hand, are non-negotiables that align with your core values and desires. They’re based on what you know you deserve and what you’re willing to give in return. High standards are about maintaining the integrity of your Love Vision and not compromising on what truly matters to you.

Having high standards doesn’t mean you’re being picky or difficult; it means you’re protecting your happiness, your future, and your heart. It means you know what you want and that you deserve the kind of relationship that will bring you joy, growth, and fulfillment.

Aligning Your Standards with What You Want to Experience

To stop settling in love, you need to align your standards with what you want to experience in dating and relationships. This means living in accordance with your values and being clear about the kind of love you want to create.

Identify Your Core Values: What are the principles that matter most to you in a relationship? Honesty? Respect? Growth?
Set Non-Negotiables: These are the deal-breakers—the things you absolutely must have in a relationship. Don’t compromise on these, no matter what.
Be Willing to Walk Away: If a relationship doesn’t meet your standards, have the courage to walk away. It’s better to be alone than to be in a relationship that isn’t what you truly want.
Stay True to Your Vision: Don’t let fear or doubt cloud your judgment. Hold onto the vision of the love you want, and don’t settle for anything less.

Conclusion: Claim the Love You Deserve

Settling in love is a choice.

It’s a choice to give in to fear, to compromise on your dreams, and to accept less than what you truly want. But it’s also a choice that you can stop making today.

By getting clear on what you want, distinguishing between unrealistic expectations and high standards, and aligning your standards with your core values, you can break the cycle of disappointment and create the love you deserve.

If you’d like support in getting clear on your values, what you want in a relationship, or how to walk away from something that you know in your heart isn’t what you want – book a call with our coaches.

On this Love Breakthrough Call, our team will work with you to create a step-by-step plan with you so you can stop settling and start creating exactly what you want and more!

Click HERE to Book Your Love Breakthrough Call Now!

Stand for the love that aligns with your heart’s desires, and don’t settle for anything less. Your future self will thank you.

How to Create Your Dream Love Story: Consistent Steps to Heartfelt Success!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 5, 2024 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success

by Michelle Roza

Are you ready to revolutionize your love life and create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of? Imagine a life filled with passion, deep connection, and a partner who cherishes you every single day.

Sounds like a fairy tale, right? Well, it doesn’t have to be.

We’re here to tell you that you can manifest this reality, but it requires more than just hoping and dreaming. It demands clarity, determination, and consistent action.

So how do you create that consistency, no matter what you may be experiencing in your daily life?

1) Get Clear on What You Want

The first step to creating your love vision is to get crystal clear on what you want. Why?

Your brain is always looking for what’s familiar, even if it’s not what you want, and when you go for comfort and familiarity, you repeat the past. You go back to the same guy, or you attract a new man who reminds you of someone from your past.

Here’s the thing – Your Love Vision gets to be bigger than one guy or your past!

So how do you get clear on what you want?

Start by asking yourself some deep, introspective questions:

When I’m in the Relationship of My Dreams, what are three things you want to experience?
How do I want to feel in my relationship?
What values and interests should we share?

Take time to write these down. Be specific.

Don’t just settle for “I want someone who loves me.” Dig deeper. Get detailed!

Do you want a relationship that’s full of adventure, support, and travel?

A relationship where you both value personal growth, where you share a positive outlook on life and work together to create the life you truly want?

Clarity is power. The more precise you are, the easier it is for the universe (and your subconscious mind) to align with your desires. When you know exactly what you want, you create a clear target to aim for.

2) Move Out of What’s Blocking You

Now that you know what you want, it’s time to clear the path.

This step is all about identifying and removing the blocks that have been holding you back. These blocks can be limiting beliefs, past traumas, or even negative patterns you’ve picked up over the years.

Moving out of your blocks is like clearing the debris from a path; it allows you to walk smoothly towards your goal without tripping over old baggage.

If you’d like to identify your blocks, challenge beliefs that aren’t working, heal unresolved issues from the past that can sabotage your present and future relationships – then join us for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

In this Masterclass, we’ll support you in recognizing the challenges you’re experiencing right now that are getting in the way of your Love Vision and heal them so you can BE the women who can walk away from the things that aren’t aligned with what you want.

So you can create your Love Vision NOW! Click HERE to Register!

3) Become the Woman You’ve Always Wanted to Be

This step is about personal transformation.

To attract the love you desire, you need to become the best version of yourself. It’s not about changing who you are, but about evolving into the person who naturally attracts and maintains a healthy, loving relationship.

Here’s how to get started:

Self-Improvement: Invest in your personal growth. This can be through reading, attending seminars, or taking courses. Focus on areas that need improvement, such as communication skills, self-esteem, or emotional intelligence.
Self-Care: Prioritize your well-being. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep are non-negotiables. When you feel good, you radiate confidence and positivity.
Hobbies and Interests: Engage in activities that you love. This not only makes you more interesting but also allows you to meet like-minded individuals.

Becoming the woman you’ve always wanted to be is about aligning your actions, thoughts, and feelings with the person you envision yourself to be. It’s about stepping into your power and living authentically.

4) Manifest It

Manifestation is the process of bringing your vision into reality through focused intention and action. It’s about harnessing the power of your mind to attract what you desire.

And it takes consistency.

Now that sounds nice, but I probably don’t have to tell you that you can’t rely on willpower alone.

You have a finite amount of willpower, and when it runs out, you will go back to what’s comfortable and familiar. Those old patterns and ways of being that may feel good, but aren’t working.

So how do you stay consistent, when will-power runs out?

When you don’t have the resources or energy to stay consistent with your Love Vision, make sure you do something every single day that makes you happy AND is good for you. – Something that connects you to your vision.

Dedicate time each day to your love vision practices.

Whether it’s morning visualization, taking time in a gratitude journal, going for a walk or a bike-ride, whatever makes you happy and gives you back energy. Make it a absolute non-negotiable part of your day.

And remember to acknowledge and celebrate your progress. Every step forward is a step closer to your goal!

Creating the love life you desire is a journey, not a sprint. It requires clarity, clearing your blocks, becoming your best self, and manifesting with intention. But most importantly, it requires consistency.

By integrating these practices into your daily life, you’ll be well on your way to unlocking the love of your life.

In order to create your Love Vision, you must BE the woman who aligns with that vision AND take steps that will support you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams.

By integrating these practices into your daily life, you’ll be well on your way to unlocking the love of your life.

If you’d like even more, join us next Saturday, July 20th for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

This 3-hour exclusive training will support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

Click here to Register for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

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Reclaiming Your Power and Attracting the Love You Truly Deserve

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 30, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

One of the things we hear most from women is that they’re struggling to let go of a relationship – either a toxic relationship from the past or a “situationship” they’re currently in that’s not going anywhere.

They want to be able to break ties with their ex so they can be truly ready to attract the man who will be by their side forever.

They want to let go of the fear of rejection and allow themselves to really be seen, heard and loved!

They share that they have thoughts like this:

“Why can’t I let this go?”

“Why am I still stuck on this one person?”
“How will I ever move on from this toxic experience so I can have real love?”

“When am I going to stop settling for crumbs so that I can love and be loved the way I really want?”

Is this something you’ve dealt with (or are currently trying to break free from) too?

If being able to let go of past heartbreaks so you can manifest the committed relationship of your dreams is what you want, then this is for you.

Letting go can be challenging, but it’s essential for your growth and for opening up space in your heart to welcome true love. It involves recognizing what you’re holding onto, defining what it is that you really want and choosing to be in the relationship that is aligned.

So what does a toxic relationship look like?

Emotional/physical abuse
Verbal disrespect
Hurting each other on purpose
Brings out the worst in you or the other person
Manipulation
With someone who’s unavailable (married, separated, “getting divorced”)
Thinking you can “change” the person
Trying to “convince” them to want to commit to you or that they eventually will if you stay there long enough.

Basically any relationship where you have more unhappy moments than happy moments is toxic.

And yes, this includes situationships.

A “situationship” is where you’re spending time with someone and acting like you’re his girlfriend, when you’re not.

Even if you’re sleeping together, until he tells you straight that he wants to be committed to you, that he doesn’t want to see any other women and that he wants you to be committed to him – then it’s not a relationship.

If you say, “Well, it’s complicated.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you say, “We have an understanding and we’re both okay with it.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you have to ask him, “Where is this going?” then you already have your answer.

It’s not a relationship.

It’s either a relationship or it’s not and if it’s not and you’re acting like it is then you’re becoming emotionally attached and he’s not.

You may ask, “What’s so wrong with that?”

Here’s the problem with emotionally investing in a relationship that’s not reciprocated…

The heartache of breaking a situationship is just as bad and hurts just as much as breaking a real relationship (sometimes even more so).

Why?

Because you’ve invested so much emotion, time, attention and hope into something that wasn’t real anyway.

When you do that, you’re not only lying to yourself but over time you’ll feel resentment, regret, anger and like he used you (even though you were a willing participate).

These emotions – resentment, blame, anger, guilt, shame and regret – are toxic emotions that can be hard to move on from. You feel these emotions towards yourself and then project them onto the other person because you didn’t honor your boundaries, your dream, your vision.

Why would you do that to yourself?

We know that being alone can feel hard and painful sometimes, but here’s the truth:

Being in a relationship that’s anything less than what you really want is just as painful.

Even if it’s fun and passionate and exciting for a few weeks, it always ends in these toxic emotions and experiences that are hard to let go of and move on from.

We’ve coached women who have waited 2 years, 5 years, 12 years, 17 years for someone they thought they were in a relationship with to choose them!

If commitment and marriage is something you want, and for most of the women in our community that is what they want – then this is heartbreaking!

Most don’t want a long-term relationship. They don’t want something where they constantly have to wonder if he’s seeing other women, sleeping with someone else or if it’s ever going to go anywhere.

They want love, companionship and commitment.

So why do women stay in relationships or “situationships” that aren’t everything they want?

Fear that they’re never going to find what they want.
Feeling like something is better than nothing.
A belief that they type of man and relationship isn’t out there.
Not being clear on what they really want and then settling for whatever comes.

If you’re tired of not being in the relationship you want or settling for anything less…

Join us next Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!

In the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass, you’ll discover exactly what to stop doing and what to start doing, instead, so that you can easily let go of past toxic experiences and attract the perfect match for you.

You’ll learn how to easily and effortlessly attract the right man without wasting time, struggling, or settling.

These are the same steps we’ve taught and helped hundreds of women around the world meet the man they end up marrying in 30-90 days!

Why would you sentence yourself to “less than”?

Rejection Hurts. Here’s How to Break Through Your Fear and Create Extraordinary Love NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | May 7, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you have a fear of being hurt or rejected?

If you don’t, you must be superhuman, because as human beings, we all deal with this!

And it doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, this message is for you!

It’s a common misconception that, once you get into a relationship, the fear of rejection or getting hurt goes away…

But that’s just not true.

The fear of rejection creates barriers to feeling like yourself and feeling safe in a relationship.

It holds you back from creating deep, intimate connections – whether you’re already in a relationship or seeking to create one.

No matter the reason you have this fear or how it manifests for you, the impact it creates is the same.

Here’s how it works…

You have a fear that something will or won’t happen in the future because of something that did or didn’t happen in the past.

This fear then causes you to react in a certain way, which is a coping mechanism for not getting hurt.

This may look like withdrawing from your partner or pulling back.

It may look like being paralyzed and feeling like you can’t do or say anything because of your fear that it will go badly.

It may look like pretending, acting as if everything is fine, when, actually, you’re feeling completely scared inside.

Here’s how it looked for me.

Because I was scared of being rejected, I was always trying to prove myself.

And it showed up in work, in my relationships, as a mother, everywhere.

My previous marriage was not a happy one.

I remember how I would feel every time I’d come home and put the key up to the door to open it.

Each time, I would stop and feel my chest tighten as I wondered what I was about to encounter on the other side of the door – and hoping that today might be a good day.

My fear of being alone and needing to be accepted caused me to stay in that unhappy relationship where I was treated in ways that are now absolutely unimaginable to me.

I would stay quiet and pretend that everything was fine, and then I couldn’t really understand what was real and what I really wanted.

So why does this matter for you?

Do you accept behavior or communication that isn’t aligned with what you want because you’re afraid of being rejected?

Do you feel like your feelings won’t be validated because you fear you’ll be used or get hurt.

When fear is running the show you feel powerless, and that’s not the way we want you to feel!!

So how do you overcome these fears?

The first thing you need to do is – recognize and acknowledge the fear.

When you recognize yourself in the space where the fear is coming to the surface, ask yourself these two questions.

What is it that you’re afraid of that’s stopping you from having the relationship you want to have?

If I didn’t have this fear and was standing inside my power, who would I be that would allow me to make a different choice?

When you acknowledge your fear, get curious about it and own it – you allow yourself to step into your power and know that you get to choose how you feel and behave.

The truth is…

You can either be run by your fears or run by your ability to choose a different experience.

When you don’t break through your fear, the fear chooses for you!

When you transform yourself – YOU get to choose.

You get to create the Extraordinary Love that you imagine!

If you’d like to overcome your fear of rejection so you can get into the relationship of your dreams by this summer – yes, you read that right, THIS SUMMER…

Then click HERE to schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with one of our fabulous Love Coaches.

Once you transform something, you don’t go back to it.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the fears that are holding you back in love and relationships!

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