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The Secret to Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 25, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease?

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy?

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you?

See if this scenario sounds familiar:

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry.

You get “triggered.”

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake.

We’ve all been there.

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer than 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived.

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity.

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way?

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control?

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen?

That’s what we teach you in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop.

You’ll learn how to:

Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.

Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires

Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do.

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this.

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space.

And that’s what we want for you too.

Click HERE to grab a recording of the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop

Learn how to stop getting emotionally triggered by taking things personally and how to start experiencing more fun and joy in life, dating, and relationships!

Grab your copy now!

How to Get Out of Your Own Way

by heartsdesireintl | Jan 28, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel like there’s something standing in the way of your biggest dreams?

So many women think that the reason they aren’t finding the love they desire is because of people around them, outside circumstances and other things.

“There’s no men in this town, I’d have to move if I wanted to meet someone interesting.” “I don’t have time to date.”

“Men aren’t attracted to me. I’ll start dating after I lose weight.”

“I’m working on my career. When it’s the right time he’ll find me.”

And those are just a few examples!

Do they sound familiar? Do you ever find yourself having similar thoughts?

Here’s the thing.

None of those things are stopping you from creating the relationship of your dreams.

So what is it then?

It’s actually you.

Now listen, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you,

It’s simply that you have doubts, limiting beliefs from your past and subconscious patterns that are keeping you stuck.

Doubts get in the way because when you’re doubting, you’re questioning if you can be the person you want to be, do the things you want to do and have the things you say you want to have.

Fears and limiting beliefs cause doubtful thinking patterns which then have you do nothing or do things that don’t bring you the results that you want.

Well, it’s about time to get out of your own way and realize you can create anything!

Yes, ANYTHING!

The best way to have a breakthrough is to be at the steering wheel of your life and to ask, “What’s the next best thing I can be doing?”

Everything we’ve ever manifested into our lives is a miracle because we’ve done the Heartwork to get out of our own way and get moving in the direction needed, with actions that resulted in all of the things we now have in our lives.

So what about you?

What if this year is the year you stop getting ready to get ready to be ready?

What if this is the year that you can break into extraordinary love and create the magic that we know is possible for you!

If you’re a high achieving woman who’s wanting to go to the next level in your life, then book a love breakthrough call with one of our coaches.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

The people who get what they want in life take the right actions and they don’t wait.

Take action now.

You can manifest everything your heart desires when you get out of your own way!

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

by heartsdesireintl | Dec 17, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

What’s your initial reaction when a girlfriend offers to pay for your lunch?

What do you respond with when someone offers you a compliment?

What do you say when a man offers to help you out with something?

As we’re in this holiday season of love, sharing and connecting we wanted to shed some light on a topic that most women don’t think of as something that’s holding them back in love, but that is key to creating the relationship of your dreams.

In our work with thousands of women, we’ve found that for many of us, it’s hard to receive.

We work with so many women who want to create a loving, connected relationship with an incredible partner, but then can’t accept a compliment when given, don’t feel comfortable allowing a man to pay for dinner on a date, or don’t know how to graciously receive a gift.

Can you relate?

Why does it feel uncomfortable to accept things from others?

There’s vulnerability to receiving.

You can only experience love and intimacy to the level that you’re willing to be vulnerable, which is why it’s so important to be able to receive well.

The three things that are the most important to men are being able to:

1) Please

2) Protect

3) Provide

If you’re unable to receive from a man, it’s impossible for him to feel connected to you. He will either feel unappreciated and stop trying or he will interpret your behavior to mean you’re not interested.

So… if you notice that you feel uncomfortable receiving, the next couple of weeks are the perfect time to practice!

First, get curious about why receiving makes you uncomfortable.

In most cases, it’s a worthiness conversation.

You may have a belief that you have to “do” something in order to “earn” love”

You may think that you don’t deserve certain things.

You may believe you’re simply not good enough.

Whatever the underlying reason, get clear on where that feeling comes from for you so that you can break through it.

Then, take the opportunity this holiday season to stretch into allowing others to contribute to you, give to you and receive with grace and gratitude.

Being able to receive with grace and gratitude is the way to a man’s heart. It’s the key to turning on your feminine energy and attracting everything you desire to you.

If you’d like support in clearing up what causes you discomfort in receiving, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches!

The first step in creating the relationship of your dreams is getting clear on what’s holding you back so you can clear the way. Like we said before, receiving with grace is something that many women struggle with, but don’t see as a problem.

Take the first step in becoming a gracious and grateful receiver by booking your Love Breakthrough Session now.

If you don’t see any times available when you click above, please click the words, “contact us” and submit a request with some days and times and our coaches will get back to you.

Remember, you can only create love and connection to the degree you’re willing to be vulnerable. Get vulnerable this holiday season and receive the love you so freely deserve!

It’s Not Too Good to Be True… How to Have it All!

by heartsdesireintl | Nov 22, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop?

Things are going really well in a relationship – you’re having fun and things are feeling easy and flowy…

… but somewhere in the back of your mind there’s a little voice that’s saying, “Is this too good to be true?”

If that ever happens to you – listen up.

You have a fear or a limiting belief that when things are good, eventually they’re going to fall apart or go wrong.

Sound familiar?

We see this all the time with our clients – and we’ve experienced it many times ourselves!

You’re just about have your breakthrough – and you’ll self-sabotage.

Or things are going better than ever, in your job, your relationship, financially – and then you start to doubt yourself and it all falls apart.

Here’s the thing…

If you find yourself in what we like to call “the swirl”, you know that feeling of uncertainty, confusion or like you don’t know what to do, there’s one thing that’s happening under all of it.

You’re having a worthiness conversation.

You’re wondering…

“Can I really have this?”

“Can I trust myself to be able to create this?”

“Can I actually handle all of this goodness?!”

That’s all it is!

So how do you pull yourself out of “the swirl”?

Ask yourself these three questions:

What am I afraid of?
What scares me about that?
What scares me most about that?
Make a choice

You see, our brains sometimes think they’re keeping us “safe” by keeping us in the swirl. By keeping you stuck in a place that feels familiar, you save yourself from the unknown.

However, you also keep yourself from having and experiencing all that’s meant for you on the other side of those fears and limiting beliefs!

Staying stuck in fear is a choice.

Making a step in faith is also a choice.

And they take about the same amount of energy, either way!

The important thing to remember is that staying stuck leads to feeling disempowered, and taking a step in faith leads you to feeling empowered.

You get to choose.

Every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to have a breakthrough and transform an area of your life.

That’s why we’re so excited to be offering you our final challenge of 2021!!

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge, starting next Monday, November 29th!

The love you deserve is waiting for YOU!

Over seven days, we’ll share with you the same steps that we’ve used to help hundreds of women across the globe attract and create Extraordinary Love using the same skills we used to create the deeply loving, lasting marriages we’ve always wanted with our husbands!

In just seven days, your love life can be transformed into the happy, fulfilling experience your heart desires!

Join us for the BE–YOU-tifully YOU 7-Day Challenge!

When you step out of your comfort zone and decide to trust yourself, you become empowered.

When you see yourself for the incredible, successful, lovable woman that you are – you know that you can handle all of the goodness!

And that’s what we want for you.

I’m ready for all of the goodness!

See you soon!

(photo credit: https://onlineforlove.com/)

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 29, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

I wish I was better at communicating with my partner.

He never understands me!

I don’t dare say what I’m feeling because I don’t want to get into an argument.

I feel like I talk and he doesn’t even hear me!

These are just a few of the things we heard from women last weekend at Irresistible Woman LIVE and they’re the same things we hear from our clients when they first start working with us.

Communicating with men can seem difficult. We know it can feel like you’re speaking a completely different language that he doesn’t even care to try to understand.

It was a very hard part of my marriage for years. I would communicate things to Ric and I wouldn’t feel like he heard me.

So I would say it again – louder. I thought that would make him understand.

It didn’t work.

He would feel disrespected and I would feel like I was not being understood and before we knew it, we were two people yelling at each other – getting nowhere in the conversation.

It was a very painful dynamic of our relationship for many years…

…until we learned how to communicate effectively with one another in a way that would not only have the other person understand, but feel respected, loved and fully heard.

Communication is one of the biggest factors to whether or not you’ll have a successful relationship. Sharing your feelings and being able to express your needs is so important!

It’s how you create and build trust, intimacy, safety and love with those you are in relationship with.

When you learn how to communicate in a way where there’s no blaming, shaming, controlling and “making wrong” – it’s incredible what can be created!

This is exactly the type of communication we teach in our programs.

After working with us, our clients know exactly how to express their desires without being controlling, how to share what they prefer so they don’t end up feeling resentful and how to understand what the men in their lives are saying too!

If you’d like support with up-leveling your communication skills (because the things we teach don’t only apply to romantic relationships – but to every relationship in your life!) then book a love breakthrough call now!

Why would you want to wait to increase the understanding, intimacy and love in your relationship?

Why wouldn’t you want to be able to communicate your desires in dating starting now?

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel…

… like you don’t feel comfortable being yourself?

… afraid you’ll be rejected again?

… that when you show up as yourself, you’re not accepted?

… like you hold back around other people and don’t show up as you?

… that you can’t connect with others or like there’s a block between you and others?

The good news is that you can break through those barriers!

You can show up as the authentic YOU and attract those that will love and accept you to you!

Here’s the thing.

In your life, you’ve either learned you were supposed to be “fill-in-the-blank” in order to be liked.

Or you had an experience that made you believe that if you showed up that way then you would be rejected.

But here’s the truth…

The longer you pretend to be someone you’re not, the more you risk forgetting who you really are.

It’s our Heartwork that will support you in having the courage to show up as yourself and know that when you do, you will attract the man that will adore you!

When you do this Heartwork:

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You create new experiences and thought patterns for yourself

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… you haven’t forgotten who you are.

Underneath all of the experiences, stories you’ve created in your head, junk and limiting beliefs, is your true self.

And you get to uncover her and let her shine!

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

Clarity and certainty in who you are lead to confidence.

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