The Secret to Stop Getting “Triggered”!

The Secret to Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by | Feb 25, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease? 

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy? 

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you? 

See if this scenario sounds familiar: 

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding 

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry. 

You get “triggered.” 

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake. 

We’ve all been there. 

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer than 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived. 

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity. 

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way? 

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control? 

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen? 

That’s what we teach you in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop. 

You’ll learn how to: 

  • Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.
  • Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires
  • Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do. 

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this. 

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space. 

And that’s what we want for you too. 

Click HERE to grab a recording of the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop

Learn how to stop getting emotionally triggered by taking things personally and how to start experiencing more fun and joy in life, dating, and relationships!

Grab your copy now!

Did You Know Everything Can Change in an Instant?

Did You Know Everything Can Change in an Instant?

by | Feb 4, 2022 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again

by Gladys Diaz 

As we’re getting ready for the Manifest Your Love Vision NOW Challenge that starts on Monday, we have a question for you…

Did you know that everything can change in an instant?

One day you’ll wake up and it’ll be an ordinary day and then just like that it will turn into the most incredible day of your life.

The day you meet the man who will sweep you off your feet.

The man who will love you and adore you and cherish you forever.

The man who will make your dreams complete.

Maybe this is the last Valentine’s Day where you don’t have the love you desire.

How do you manifest something into your life that you haven’t ever experienced before? 

By being 100% crystal clear on the vision you have for the relationship of your dreams, who you want to be and what you want your future to look and feel like.

And then taking actions aligned with that vision.

Your vision and your commitment must be bigger than your circumstances!

When you can see and feel that vision like you’re already living it is when the man who will love you forever is going to appear.

Some of us don’t dare to dream big because we don’t think we can have it. 

But the truth is… 

Nothing can be manifested in your life until you see it and believe it first!

That’s why this challenge would be life-changing for you and why we’d love for you to join us!

In this 5-Day Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same effective, clear and proven steps of our HeartWork™️ process, we’ve personally used and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!

By the end of this challenge you’ll be empowered to: 

🌟 Break through the fears, limiting beliefs, and self-sabotaging patterns that have stopped you from having the loving relationship you want 

🌟 Create a crystal-clear vision of the loving relationship you want so that you can manifest it with power, grace, and ease

🌟 Develop a step-by-step plan that will enable you to live in the relationship of your dreams in 2022 and beyond

🌟 And so much more!

Did we mention it’s FREE?! 

Join us for the Manifest Your Love Vision NOW challenge!

We start on Monday so register now!

This is an opportunity to look inward and have the breakthroughs that are going to lead you to that ordinary, yet extraordinary, day.

See you on Monday!

Three Steps to Manifest the Love you Want in 2022

Three Steps to Manifest the Love you Want in 2022

by | Dec 29, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Like many holidays and celebrations, New Year’s Eve can trigger bitter-sweet feelings.

On one hand, it can be disheartening if you’ve gotten to the end of the year without having attained all of the goals you’d set for yourself a year ago. 

This can be particularly true if you’re not in the happy, loving relationship you dream of!

On the other hand, it can be exciting and uplifting to know that you have a whole new year ahead of you filled with unlimited possibilities – one of which being to finally have the loving relationship your heart desires.

So, how do we reconcile the disheartening thoughts with the uplifting ones?

We have the answer in 3 easy steps!

  1. Breathe. If you’re like most women, you can be pretty hard on yourself. Many times, this is most evident in the way you talk to yourself. 

If you’ve been putting yourself down, thinking that there must be something “wrong” with you because you haven’t manifested the love you want yet, take a deep breath and allow the love that surrounds you (and, yes, it’s always all around you and within you) to enter into your heart.

If you still don’t feel the love that surrounds you within you do this:

  • Breathe again…
  • Keep inhaling until you can fill your lungs anymore
  • Hold it 3 seconds and envision the love filling every part of your being
  • Allow love to fill you
  • Do this as many times as you need to until you literally and physically feel love filling your being

Once you’re able to feel the love within you…

  1. Release. As you exhale, release all of those negative thoughts, beliefs and toxic emotions that do not serve you. Breathe out all of the pain, sadness, and feelings of dissatisfaction. Release yourself from the hold that those disempowering thoughts create in your life. Those are the thoughts that keep you holding onto dead-end relationships, stop you from moving on, and keep you repeating dysfunctional patterns in relationships.

If you still have trouble releasing yourself from the negative thoughts, beliefs and emotions…

  • Go back to Step #1, and repeat, giving yourself 2 or 3 more loving breaths.
  • On each exhale, envision yourself releasing all of the pain, sadness, and disempowering thoughts and emotions from your body.
  • With each exhalation, you are releasing what doesn’t work and allowing more love to enter you on the inhalation.
  • It’s okay if you feel like crying. As you do the exercise, the sad tears will turn to tears of gratitude as you allow love to enter, surround, and fill you up!

Once you feel you have released the disempowering thoughts and emotions…

  1. Renew. In this new space, where love is what you’re present to, renew your commitment to yourself to create the loving, happy, fulfilling relationship your heart desires. Commit to doing whatever it takes to transform the thoughts, words, and behaviors that have stopped you from experiencing the love you desire and deserve.

Commitment without action is nothing but wishful thinking. 

This is why so many people get to the end of a year without having reached the goals and dreams they declared at the beginning of the year. It’s only when you’re taking consistent action in the direction of your goals and dreams that you are able to manifest them! 

So, to ensure that 2022 is actually different for you and to make sure that by this time next year, you’re experiencing the love your heart truly desires, follow these steps:

  1. Identify the person/people who can teach and help you to create and experience the loving romantic relationship you want.  A happily married relationship coach who can teach you the skills that will have you attract, create, and nurture a healthy romantic relationship is the best option.  And, with us, you get two coaches for the price of one! 🙂
  2. With your coach, identify 1-3 action steps you will take to create renewal in your love life.
  3. Commit to fulfilling on those actions steps no matter what.

The reason most people do not reach their goals and manifest their dreams is because they quit. They quit on their dreams, and in doing so, they give up on themselves.

This is why working with a coach is so important!! You have built-in accountability.

Why?

Because, left to your own devices, you will do what you’ve always done. 

You’ll do what’s comfortable, what you’re familiar with, and those are the same things that have given you the results you have now.

We’re not trying to be negative here. This is what we all do. 

The results you have are consistent with the actions you’ve taken and those actions are consistent with what you’ve been committed to.

What do you want your results to be in 2022? 

If you’re ready to make 2022 THE YEAR of love, intimacy, and romance for yourself… 

BREATH, RELEASE, and RENEW

Then make a real commitment to yourself to do whatever it takes to manifest the love you want.

Have your first action step be to schedule a Love Breakthrough Session to help you identify your 1-3 action steps that will lead you in the direction of the relationship of your dreams!

Click here to schedule your Love Breakthrough Call!

We promise we’ll do whatever it takes to support and guide you in making the relationship of your dreams come to fruition.

We’ll stand for you, hold you accountable, and be there when you need someone to remind you just how worthy you are of having the love your heart desires!

Creating the love you want does not have to be “hard.” It can be easy when you have the right guidance and know exactly which steps to take to create the loving, happy, fulfilling relationship you desire and deserve.

The last couple of years have been rough for all of us. Here’s to making 2022 THE YEAR OF LOVE, INTIMACY, ROMANCE, and all of your heart’s desires fulfilled!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

by | Dec 17, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

What’s your initial reaction when a girlfriend offers to pay for your lunch? 

What do you respond with when someone offers you a compliment? 

What do you say when a man offers to help you out with something? 

As we’re in this holiday season of love, sharing and connecting we wanted to shed some light on a topic that most women don’t think of as something that’s holding them back in love, but that is key to creating the relationship of your dreams. 

In our work with thousands of women, we’ve found that for many of us, it’s hard to receive. 

We work with so many women who want to create a loving, connected relationship with an incredible partner, but then can’t accept a compliment when given, don’t feel comfortable allowing a man to pay for dinner on a date, or don’t know how to graciously receive a gift. 

Can you relate? 

Why does it feel uncomfortable to accept things from others? 

There’s vulnerability to receiving. 

You can only experience love and intimacy to the level that you’re willing to be vulnerable, which is why it’s so important to be able to receive well. 

The three things that are the most important to men are being able to:

1) Please

2) Protect 

3) Provide 

If you’re unable to receive from a man, it’s impossible for him to feel connected to you. He will either feel unappreciated and stop trying or he will interpret your behavior to mean you’re not interested. 

So… if you notice that you feel uncomfortable receiving, the next couple of weeks are the perfect time to practice! 

First, get curious about why receiving makes you uncomfortable. 

In most cases, it’s a worthiness conversation.

You may have a belief that you have to “do” something in order to “earn” love” 

You may think that you don’t deserve certain things. 

You may believe you’re simply not good enough. 

Whatever the underlying reason, get clear on where that feeling comes from for you so that you can break through it. 

Then, take the opportunity this holiday season to stretch into allowing others to contribute to you, give to you and receive with grace and gratitude. 

Being able to receive with grace and gratitude is the way to a man’s heart. It’s the key to turning on your feminine energy and attracting everything you desire to you. 

If you’d like support in clearing up what causes you discomfort in receiving, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches! 

The first step in creating the relationship of your dreams is getting clear on what’s holding you back so you can clear the way. Like we said before, receiving with grace is something that many women struggle with, but don’t see as a problem. 

Take the first step in becoming a gracious and grateful receiver by booking your Love Breakthrough Session now. 

If you don’t see any times available when you click above, please click the words, “contact us” and submit a request with some days and times and our coaches will get back to you. 

Remember, you can only create love and connection to the degree you’re willing to be vulnerable. Get vulnerable this holiday season and receive the love you so freely deserve!

Three Steps to Attracting the Man of Your Dreams

Three Steps to Attracting the Man of Your Dreams

by | Nov 5, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever wonder why the men that are showing up in your life aren’t the kind of men you want? 

If what you’re doing is working and you’re meeting lots of incredible men into your life – that’s great!! Don’t fix what’s not broken!

However – 

If you ever catch yourself thinking (or even saying out loud) something like… 

”All men are cheaters.” 

”There’s absolutely no men out there for me!” 

“Every man will end up hurting me.” 

“All the men on the apps want it sex.”

… Or any other variation of that –  We have some news for you!

You’re wrong! 

We say that with love, but it’s simply the truth. 

There are many women out there who are meeting incredible men on the apps, who are creating extraordinary relationships with high quality men, and who are getting married to men that are willing to wait for marriage. 

You can be one of them!!

There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken. But if the type of men that are showing up for you aren’t the type of men you want – then there’s a shift that gets to be made. 

The questions to ask yourself are: “What can I shift?” and “What am I in control of?”

The only thing you’re 100% in control of is your thoughts and your actions. You get to shift your mindset so you can stop attracting what you don’t want and start attracting the men that will lead you to creating the relationship of your dreams with the man that’s 100% right for you!

So how do you create that shift? 

1 – Get clear on what your current beliefs are.

Tell yourself the truth about what you currently believe about dating and men. If you’re telling your girlfriends there’s no good men on the app, chances are, that’s limiting belief for you. 

You must be honest with yourself and get to the bottom of these beliefs. 

Until you do – no matter how much you pretend they’re not there – they will show up in your profile, out on a date at dinner and in any relationship. 

2 – Have clarity around your intention and vision. 

What’s your intention for dating? 

What’s your intention for being on the dating app?

What’s your vision for the experience you want to have inside the relationship of your dreams?  

You have the power to attract and create exactly what you want and you have to know exactly what that is first. 

3 – BE the woman that’s aligned with your vision. 

Showing up in a way that’s aligned with the intention you have is what gives it power! 

When you’re aligned in who you are BEing, your actions  will automatically be aligned to bring you the results you desire. 

Energy attracts energy and when who you are being and what you are doing are aligned with what you want to experience – the people and experiences you don’t want simply won’t be attracted to you. 

You can be 100% in your power around your actions, beliefs and mindset and the rest will follow!

If you’re ready to stop wasting time and find clarity around what you want and what beliefs are stopping you from creating it, book a call with one of our coaches now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

Our coaches are trained to be able to listen to you and then tell you what fears, patterns and limiting beliefs they hear. Then they will give you the steps you can take so you can leave the call with a plan of action to move forward in creating the relationship of your dreams! 

Let us say it again, there are so many women who are meeting their incredible partners – and you can be one of them! 

If you want to do that quickly and easily, then book your love breakthrough call now.

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

by | Oct 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever feel… 

… like you don’t feel comfortable being yourself? 

… afraid you’ll be rejected again? 

… that when you show up as yourself, you’re not accepted? 

… like you hold back around other people and don’t show up as you? 

… that you can’t connect with others or like there’s a block between you and others?

The good news is that you can break through those barriers!

 You can show up as the authentic YOU and attract those that will love and accept you to you! 

Here’s the thing. 

In your life, you’ve either learned you were supposed to be “fill-in-the-blank” in order to be liked. 

Or you had an experience that made you believe that if you showed up that way then you would be rejected. 

But here’s the truth… 

The longer you pretend to be someone you’re not, the more you risk forgetting who you really are.

It’s our Heartwork that will support you in having the courage to show up as yourself and know that when you do, you will attract the man that will adore you!

When you do this Heartwork:

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You create new experiences and thought patterns for yourself 

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… you haven’t forgotten who you are. 

Underneath all of the experiences, stories you’ve created in your head, junk and limiting beliefs, is your true self. 

And you get to uncover her and let her shine! 

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

Clarity and certainty in who you are lead to confidence.