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Break Your TRIGGERS To Be the Irresistible YOU!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 29, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Imagine you were in a conversation with someone where you felt upset, pressured, threatened or angry.

How would you normally respond?

There was a time when I would get into arguments with people, over things that didn’t even matter the next day.

I would be so sure that I was right…

…there’d be a big blow-up, and then…

…I’d just move on like they never existed.

That worked for me – until it didn’t.

When I started to recognize how distant all of my relationships were and how impossible I was making it to get close enough to anyone to create an intimate, loving, supportive partnership – I knew something needed to change!

Can you relate?

When our fear response is set off, our “reptilian brain” kicks in and our human, automatic response is triggered. Hormones are released, the subconscious is activated and an emotional response ensues.

And whatever you do when that situation arises is what you do – without even thinking about it.

You either:

FIGHT – You lash out with criticism, bitterness, yelling and insults in an attempt to deal with the fear and hurt you’re feeling. You have an “adult temper tantrum” and everyone has to know you’re upset.
FREEZE – You hold in your feelings and internalize your anger, eventually creating sickness in your body.
FLEE – You withdraw, avoid and numb out your emotions.

What’s your pattern when your triggers are set off?

When this automatic pattern is triggered, you’re not even aware of what’s happening.

You’re not conscious that you could be doing things another way. You feel great in the moment, but then, when the adrenaline wears off – you have the emotional hangover that you don’t know what to do with.

The thing is, there’s something bigger underneath it all.

The pattern is simply the coping mechanism you developed as a child to deal with the pain, hurt and heartbreak and when those fears that are still present for you are triggered – your pattern goes off.

The thing about love and intimate relationships is that these patterns simply don’t work. There’s nothing men despise more than drama.

What men want more than anything else is a woman who’s emotionally mature – even more than they want someone they’re physically attracted to!

They want a woman who knows herself, knows her triggers and has learned how to handle her emotions with grace.

The good news is there’s a way you can break these patterns.

It’s possible to feel your feelings, communicate your needs AND show up the way you want to!

It’s not about perfection, it’s about being able to get upset and handle it with grace.

If you don’t want to continue the patterns of your past, you get to create not just new ways – but effective ways to do things differently.

If you want to attract a man who’s a match for you, then you get to BE the woman that’s going to attract that.

This is why we’re so passionate about you joining us at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Over the course of 3 days we’ll be doing the HeartWork necessary to release the pain of the past and give you the tools to be able to communicate and relate to yourself and others effectively!

You’ll come out of the three-day weekend event KNOWING not only that you ARE an Irresistible Woman but also be able to show up as her in every area of your life!

What’s possible when you show up that way is literally incredible.

And that’s what we want for you!

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If you have toxic patterns, you’ll attract toxic men and create toxic relationships.

It’s just that simple.

When you learn how to rewrite those patterns and show up as the graceful, beautiful, Irresistible Woman that you are – that’s when the magic happens!

When you’re able to have circumstances show up and you’re unchanged – that’s real power!

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How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 8, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

How can you decipher the “truth” of what goes on inside your head?

How do you know if the negative thoughts you have (that we all have by the way) are what’s “real” or if they’re simply something you’re imagining, a limiting belief you have from the past or a “trigger”.

Here’s a secret for you…

90% of the thoughts you have are negative. Can you believe that?!

Those thoughts are not always, “the world is coming to an end” type of thoughts, but they are some form of fear, worry or anxiety.

This is true for us, for you and for every other person on the planet.

Why?

Because we’re human.

We’re designed to survive. It’s built into us to look for outside circumstances that may cause us harm.

Here’s the thing though…

Most of us no longer live in a world where we need to be on the constant look-out for danger.

Unfortunately our brains don’t know that and continue to throw worrying thoughts at you all day long!

When it comes to dating and relationships these negative thoughts might look like…

…”Why is my boyfriend going on a 3-day work trip with that female colleague of his? They usually only go for 2 days.”

… “Why hasn’t that guy called me yet? He said he would – he must be a flake!”

… “This guy is amazing! I can’t believe how much fun we’re having together. When am I going to find out the truth about him?”

… “Why is my husband always looking at his phone? Am I not interesting enough to want to talk to?”

You get the idea.

What are some of the negative thoughts that are currently impacting your love life?

The kicker is that all negative thoughts (left unchecked) lead to negative actions. These negative actions usually lead to some sort of emotional spin or fall-out.

Which is super unfortunate – especially if the negative thought is something that’s not even real right?!

So – what can you do to interrupt those negative thoughts so you don’t become the crazy lady that’s stalking your husband’s phone, doing late night drive-bys of your boyfriend’s house or constantly finding reasons to text the guy you just met.

(We’ve been there and chances are you have to.)

1) When a negative or fearful thought enters your mind – count to 3, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”

By doing this you’re interrupting the pattern. We aren’t always in control of the thoughts that come into our mind, but we are in control of what we do with them.

When you take a moment to pause – you’re taking control and beginning to have a conscious conversation with yourself rather than reacting to whatever’s happening inside or outside.

2) Do the HeartWork to uncover what’s underneath these thoughts. Get to the root of what has you feeling insecure, jealous, worried or afraid.

This is so important because if you don’t heal the root wound – nothing will ever change. You’ll constantly find reasons to continue to believe that you aren’t good enough, that men aren’t reliable or good or that you’ll never have the love you dream of.

Until you heal the thing that’s causing the negative belief in the first place, you’ll continue to experience the same worries, fear and insecurities.

Are you ready for something more?

Are you ready to take control of your thoughts and become the confident woman that KNOWS she is SAFE and LOVEABLE?

If you answered yes, then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

This challenge is 5 days of high energy, high fun, and high power transformation that will have you breakthrough what’s standing between you and the real love, happiness, connection and intimacy that you want.

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge here!

At the end of next week you’ll know exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship that you dream about and you will have broken through the thing that is continuing to stop you from creating it.

Your time is now!

Don’t waste another day swimming through the negative thoughts in your head.

Take control and begin creating the life and love you want now!

Join us here. We can’t wait to see you there.

How to Know If It’s a “Red Flag” or a “Fear Flag”.

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 1, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

“Oh my gosh, is that a red flag?”

When you’re out there dating and getting to know men, do you often find yourself thinking that question?

Do you know the difference between a “red flag” and a “fear flag”?

The term “red flag” is thrown around a lot by women who are dating. If we had a dollar for every time we’ve heard it in our work – we’d have a lot, I mean a lot a lot – of dollars!!

There definitely are some red flags that you want to be aware of while dating. It’s important to be awake and aware when you’re getting to know men and thinking about who you’d like to spend your life with.

However, a lot of the things women think are red flags simply aren’t.

So, what is an actual red flag?

A red flag in dating is something that causes you real (versus imagined or feared), physical or emotional danger.

Primary examples of red flags in dating are:

Threats of physical abuse
Signs of physical anger
Hitting things (or you) when angry
Consistently rude, disrespectful with you/others
Makes fun of you or is degrading
Verbal abuse when angry
Actively addicted to alcohol, marijuana, substances, pornography, or gambling (just to name a few)
A man that’s still married (even if he’s separated or in the process of divorce)

Red flags are things that are character flaws or character traits that don’t work in loving, committed, happy, long-term relationships.

Some of them are usually obvious from the get-go, but many of them usually don’t come out right away during the dating process.

This is why it’s so important to give yourself time to get to know someone.

Dating is simply the process of getting to know someone to see if you want to keep getting to know them.

When you give yourself that time, you can look for consistency of authenticity so you can discern for yourself if any of these true red flags are present.

When you give yourself that time, you don’t need to be afraid that you’ll make a poor decision or that you won’t see everything you need to see.

The thing is, if you’re finding that every single man you’re attracting is bringing up the “red flag” question – why would you want to keep doing that?

Get curious about why you’re continuing to attract these types of issues into your life.

Your red flag is the one that’s waving in the wind letting you know there’s a pattern within you from an emotional wound from the past that’s begging to be healed.

One of our clients recently got engaged to an incredible man who she’s madly in love with! When she messaged us to let us know the good news she said, “I almost didn’t date him because I thought he was a scammer.” It felt too good to be true to her, and she almost ran away.

Good thing she had a coach who was able to support her through her “fear flags” so she could heal the emotional wounds inside of her while she took the time to get to know the incredible man that she now gets to love and be loved by for a lifetime!

So, if you’re ready to attract the man that’s going to be your partner for a life-time, then you need to join us in September for Irresistible Woman LIVE!

If you’re tired of attracting men who aren’t what you’re looking for….

If you’re sick of experiencing red flags in dating…

If you’re simply tired of feeling afraid and not trusting yourself to see clearly and make the best decisions for you….

You get to do the HeartWork that will heal you from the patterns that are having you continue to experience “red flags” and “fear flags”!

That’s what we’ll be teaching you at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

The way you relate to yourself and the way you relate to men will be completely transformed!

Grab your ticket here!

When you’re out there dating, we want you to attract high-quality men, know that you’re safe and know that you have the power inside you to create everything you dream of.

That’s what you’ll get when you join us at Irresistible Woman LIVE.

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Tips For Talking About Religion With A Date.

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 24, 2022 | Communication, Dating, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Does spirituality or religion play an integral role in your life?

Some of the questions we often get from our clients about this topic are:

When is it appropriate to bring up religion in the dating experience?
What if he doesn’t share my same beliefs? Can a relationship still work?
How much should I share?
What if we’re not aligned?
What if I can’t ever find someone I’m attracted to that’s in my religion?

So, let’s give you some answers!

If you’re unwilling to date outside of your religion – put it in your dating profile. If this matters to you, trust that you will find someone who is aligned because hiding it or pushing down that desire won’t ever work.

Otherwise, we suggest that you don’t bring it up and allow it to come up naturally in the dating experience.

We recommend not having heavy and significant conversations early on while dating. The beginning of getting to know someone should feel light and fun and exciting!

If the topic comes up naturally, and it’s something that’s important for you to share, then simply be honest and authentic.

This is how it happened for me…

Ric and I met at a dance club and then we spent hours more talking that night. The topic of religion came up naturally because in Ric sharing about his divorce, I shared that my previous husband had passed away.

Ric asked me how I ever got through something like that and my authentic response was, “My faith in God is the only thing that got me through it.”

That was authentic and a very natural response for me because my religion was a big part of my life at the time. I was in a Christian band, I was a youth minister, and I went to church every Sunday.

Ric had very different beliefs.

While he was also Catholic, he wasn’t actively practicing. Later in our dating relationship we talked about religion more and he expressed that his main concern was that I would try and convert him.

We decided then that mutual respect and peace were two values that we would always hold in our marriage. We wouldn’t ever feel the need to defend or debate our beliefs.

I expressed that it was important that my children be baptized and that I was married in the church. He didn’t have a problem with either of those things and that’s what happened.

Over 20 years into marriage and that mutual respect has remained. Having differing beliefs has never been a problem.

It can work!

What’s important is that you’re gracious, accepting, authentic, respectful and honest with yourself and with him from the beginning.

Marriage will throw many different balls at you and the fact is, you and your partner aren’t going to always agree. That doesn’t mean that someone has to be wrong.

Respect is what will get you through.

Being clear on who you are and what you want is critical.

The most important thing to remember while dating is that a man can’t fall in love with you if you aren’t there. You get to be authentic and show up fully as you!

Let go of judgments. Be honest. Be authentic.

If you’re ready to be in the relationship of your dreams, want to get crystal clear on who you are and know how to attract that relationship to you before the end of this year then join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE 2022 in September!

This 3-day virtual event is specifically for smart, successful, strong women who also want to be successful in love.

We have a special offer that includes a ticket going on now and the price is only going to go up.

If you know you want to join us, so yourself a favor and grab your ticket here now!

The Breakthrough That Has You Find The Love of Your Life

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 18, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to have a breakthrough in love?

Do you know what a breakthrough feels like?

Did you know there’s a difference between a breakthrough and an insight?

Here’s how you can tell…

An insight is a logical experience where you suddenly realize or see something new that supports you in understanding why you’re creating what you have in your life.

An insight could be remembering an event from your childhood that created the fear of abandonment that’s running your love life or realizing that you keep creating the same experience over and over again with different men.

Those are all insights – and they’re super important to have!

However – a breakthrough is something more.

A breakthrough is a heart-changing experience that rises above and beyond what’s ordinary. Having a breakthrough creates an energetic shift that transforms you and the way you’re showing up in your life.

It’s powerful!!!

So how do you create one?

First of all – since a breakthrough is an experience above and beyond the ordinary – it’s usually not something you can create for yourself. A real breakthrough requires the support of someone who can see what you can’t see AND support you in transforming it.

Creating a breakthrough in your life requires the assistance of a coach.

On top of having a coach, you must be:

1) Committed to having a breakthrough and declaring what you want.
2) Willing to move past what’s comfortable
3) Ready and excited to apply the coaching

So let’s dive deeper.

1) Committed to Having a Breakthrough and Declaring What You Want.

A declaration is not a list of things you don’t want or what you’re tired of creating.

A declaration is a powerful statement with crystal clarity of what you do want.

If you can’t articulate what you want, you’re not going to get it.

So what do you want?

What’s the thing that if it was no longer in your way would accelerate your experience and have you create the relationship of your dreams?

Once you know that – that’s the first step to creating a breakthrough!

2) Willing to Move Past What’s Comfortable

Doing what you’ve always done will get you the same results you’ve always gotten. The relationship you’ve always dreamt of is outside your comfort zone!

3) Be Ready and Excited to Apply the Coaching

Again, since a breakthrough is something above and beyond the ordinary, it’s going to take doing something above and beyond what you’ve always done.

The coaching you receive might not make perfect sense because it’s going to be something different. But if you’ll trust your coach and apply the coaching they give – you will have a transformation!

You get to have a breakthrough so that you don’t keep doing the same patterns over and over forever and never create the results you want.

And the best news of all is that tomorrow we’ve got the perfect opportunity for you at Love Breakthrough LIVE!

Register for Love Breakthrough LIVE Now!

If you want to attract more love and are frustrated that you’re doing all the things and still not getting the results you desire.

If you keep thinking you have more time, but are realizing that the time keeps ticking and nothing is changing.

If you want to have conversations with your partner that don’t require a breakdown or a fight to get resolved.

If you’re ready to have the loving, supportive, connected, safe love you desire – then you get to have a breakthrough NOW!

Join us tomorrow (and be open and willing to receive) and we promise you’ll walk away with a breakthrough.

Allow us to help you break through the bricks that are up and blocking you.

This really can be the moment everything changes.

How To Be the Confident, Secure Woman Who’s Ready for Love Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 13, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel insecure while dating?

Do you wonder things like…

“What if he doesn’t like me?”
“What if we don’t feel the same connection when we see each other that we felt on the phone?”
“What if the same insecurities that had me sabotage the last relationship come up this time?”
“Will I ever just be able to be myself and know that it’s enough?”

When you feel insecure your thoughts take you away from where would really make a difference for you to be – which is inside yourself.

The key to successful dating – and the eventual dream relationship is knowing what you want, feeling secure with who you are and choosing a partner that supports you in creating that relationship.

So – how can you feel secure while dating?

The #1 thing that has women feel insecure in dating is not dating correctly and thinking they are in a relationship before they actually are.

The most important thing to remember while you’re dating is this –

Dating IS NOT a relationship.

Dating involves getting to know different men so that you can have as many different experiences as possible while discovering what it is that you want to experience in a relationship.

If you start out expecting something to become a relationship then you get attached to the idea of the man too soon – before you actually know him. Those expectations cause you to feel insecure when he doesn’t reciprocate the attachment as quickly and usually leads to the man pulling away and the dating experience coming to an end.

On the other hand, if you’re dating many men at the same time and allowing yourself to really get to know them – you keep yourself from becoming too attached to anyone prematurely and allow yourself to be fully awake to see who is showing up for you, how you feel in the experience and what you want to develop further.

And trust us – when a man wants to be in a relationship, you will know it!

Good high, quality men who know what they want, don’t waste any time becoming exclusive and committed to the woman they want to be with.

Now – here’s the thing:

Even though dating correctly and remembering that there are plenty of good men out there is important –

– the most important thing you can do to make sure you feel secure in dating – is to increase your confidence in yourself and get crystal clear about what it is that you want to experience in life and in a relationship.

If you continue to attract men who don’t know what they want or aren’t aligned with what you’d like to experience in a relationship then you need to do the HeartWork to understand what is causing you to attract what you don’t want and how you can break through and create something different!

When you create clarity, you increase your level of security and can feel certain within yourself no matter what others do or what your outside circumstances are.

When you become connected to your authentic self and fully see the vulnerable beauty that you are – then men are attracted to that energy in you!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough and become the confident, secure woman who’s ready for love then you need to join us on Saturday for Love Breakthrough LIVE!

On this FREE LIVE Love Breakthrough Coaching Call, we’ll be coaching YOU on how to identify your love barriers, break through them, and step into the love your heart truly desires.

Click here to register to join us!

After you register you’ll have the opportunity to apply to be coached live on the session –

And when you do, you’ll be coached on the call the same way we coach our clients, which will lead you to have incredible breakthroughs and create the love you want NOW!

We can’t wait for Saturday and hope we see your face there!

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