Love Shouldn’t Be a Mystery—Here’s How to End the Guessing Game and Create Real Love Now!

Love Shouldn’t Be a Mystery—Here’s How to End the Guessing Game and Create Real Love Now!

by | Mar 17, 2025 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

Imagine walking into a five-star restaurant, hungry and excited for a gourmet meal. 

You sit down, scan the menu, and order your favorite meal. 

But instead of a beautifully plated dish, the waiter brings you a plate of crumbs—just a few dry scraps from someone else’s meal.

Would you sit there, nibbling on the crumbs, convincing yourself this is enough? 

Would you tell yourself, “Well, at least I have something on my plate”?

Of course not. 

You’d send that plate back so fast the waiter’s head would spin.

And yet, in love, so many successful, high-achieving women do settle for crumbs.

They tolerate inconsistency.
They excuse flakiness.
They second-guess themselves when a man is hot one day and cold the next.
They make up reasons why he hasn’t texted in two days or why he only wants to see them at the last minute.

But here’s the truth: Breadcrumbs are NOT a meal, and you deserve more than inconsistency in love.

If a man truly wants you, he makes it clear. 

And if he doesn’t, he’s going to keep you confused. Period.

Breadcrumbing in Dating

Breadcrumbing is one of the most common and emotionally damaging dating patterns successful women fall into. 

It happens when a man gives you just enough attention to keep you hanging on—but not enough to actually build anything real.

Psychologists call this intermittent reinforcement, and it’s the same psychological trick that keeps people addicted to slot machines. You get just enough of a reward to keep coming back, even though the odds are stacked against you.

And guess what? 

This kind of emotional inconsistency triggers anxiety, making you work even harder to win his attention—because deep down, you believe if you were enough, he would choose you.

How to Spot Breadcrumbing

Successful, powerful women don’t waste their time chasing clients who won’t close the deal, employees who don’t show up, or business partners who flake out. 

So why chase a man who can’t show up for you?

Here are some telltale signs of breadcrumbing:

  • Hot and Cold Behavior – One day, he’s all in. The next, he disappears. Then he pops back in like nothing happened.
  • Inconsistent Communication – He texts when it’s convenient for him, but doesn’t follow through with plans or deep conversations.
  • Last-Minute Plans – He never truly prioritizes you; he just squeezes you in when it suits him.
  • No Progression – You’ve been dating for months, but it still feels casual. No deeper emotional investment, no real discussions about the future.
  • Avoiding Commitment Conversations – If you bring up what you want, he dodges, distracts, or disappears.

If you recognize any of these patterns, it’s time to ask yourself a hard question:

Are you spending more time feeling anxious or feeling cherished?

A Story That Might Sound Familiar

Meet one of our past clients, we’ll call her Vanessa. A brilliant executive, crushing it in her career, making six figures, leading a team, traveling the world. 

She had everything—except the relationship she wanted.

Then she met James. He was charming, handsome, successful. They had electric chemistry. But from day one, his behavior was inconsistent.

He’d text her for hours one day, then go silent for a week. He’d tell her how much he adored her, but always had an excuse for why they couldn’t make real plans.

Vanessa, a smart woman, knew something was off. But she kept making excuses. He’s just busy. He’s not great at texting. He’s been hurt before.

Sound familiar?

Finally, one night, after yet another cancelled date, she had a wake-up call: She was spending more time feeling anxious than feeling valued.

That’s when she decided: No more breadcrumbs. I deserve a full meal.

She walked away. She set her standards. She stopped entertaining men who couldn’t show up consistently.

And guess what? 

Six months later, she met a man who pursued her with clarity, consistency, and confidence. A man who didn’t just say he wanted a future with her—he showed her through his actions.

Breaking the Cycle and Attracting Real Love

It’s time to break the cycle. You do not have to tolerate crumbs. You get to set the standard for what you will and won’t accept in love.

Here’s how you shift:

1️⃣ Recognize your worth. Stop chasing. Stop convincing. A man who values you will not leave you guessing.

2️⃣ Set clear standards. If he can’t show up consistently, he doesn’t get access to you. Period.

3️⃣ Trust what you feel. If your body is anxious, if your mind is overanalyzing texts, if you feel like you’re walking on eggshells—it’s a sign. Honor it.

4️⃣ Create a clear Love Vision. The most successful women in business have a plan. The most successful women in love do, too. When you know exactly what you want, you stop entertaining what you don’t.

Your Love Vision is Your Power

When you have a Love Vision, everything changes.

You stop wasting time on half-hearted men who can’t step up. You stop falling for potential and start choosing partnership. 

You stop questioning if you’re enough and start seeing who is worthy of you.

Because here’s the truth: The man who is truly meant for you will not breadcrumb you. He will pursue you with clarity, consistency, and confidence.

And if you don’t have that in your life right now, then it’s time to detox your love life.

You get to choose: Another six months of frustration, anxiety, and waiting for a man to step up? Or stepping into your power and calling in the deep, committed love you deserve?

It’s Time to Step Into the Relationship You Deserve

If you’re done with the mind games, the waiting, the confusion… then let’s talk.

We’re opening spots for Love Breakthrough Calls where you’ll get:

✅ A crystal-clear Love Vision so you can stop attracting the wrong men
✅ A step-by-step plan to break free from breadcrumbing cycles
✅ The exact tools to shift into high-value dating and create real commitment

If you’re serious about love in 2025, book your Love Breakthrough Call now.

👉 Click Here to Book Your Call

No more waiting. No more wondering. No more wasting time.

It’s time to claim the love you were meant for.

 

 

Break Free from the Past and Attract Extraordinary Love in 2025

Break Free from the Past and Attract Extraordinary Love in 2025

by | Dec 19, 2024 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

As we approach the New Year, it’s the perfect time to reflect, reset, and get intentional about what you want to create in 2025.

If love is on your list of goals (and let’s be honest, it should be!), then you don’t want to miss one of our most powerful conversations of 2024: “From Heartbreak to Happily Ever After: Our Secret Revealed!“

This special Love Chat with the Love Twins, featuring Ric and I, is more than just a conversation—it’s a window into what’s possible when you align your vision, take action, and step into the love life you truly deserve.

Here’s why this chat was one of our top-rated of the year and how you can take the lessons shared and apply them to YOUR life to create the love you’ve been dreaming of in 2025.

From Heartbreak to Happily Ever After: What It Takes

In this Love Chat, I shared my personal journey from heartbreak and disappointment to meeting and marrying Ric, my soulmate and biggest supporter.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns, doubted your ability to find the right partner, or wondered if it’s too late for love, this conversation will reignite your hope and show you that extraordinary love is possible.

Here are a few key takeaways:

1. Your Past Does Not Define Your Future

I experienced a major heartbreak before I met Ric, proving that no matter what you’ve been through, your past doesn’t dictate your future. If you’re willing to reflect, reset, and take intentional action, you can rewrite your love story.

2. Clarity Is the Key to Attracting the Right Partner

Ric and I shared about the importance of getting crystal clear on what you want in a relationship. This isn’t about settling for what’s convenient or “good enough”—it’s about aligning with a partner who truly complements your vision and values.

3. Vulnerability is Your Superpower

Ric shared how my authenticity and vulnerability were what drew him to me. For the highly driven, successful woman, embracing vulnerability can feel uncomfortable, but it’s the key to building deep, authentic connections.

How You Can Apply These Secrets to Your Love Life in 2025

Let’s talk about YOU and how to take these lessons and make them work for your own love journey.

Step 1: Reflect and Release

As the year comes to a close, take a moment to reflect on your past relationships or dating experiences.

What worked?
What didn’t?
What patterns or fears might be holding you back?

Release the belief that your past defines your future.

Step 2: Get Clear on Your Love Vision

What does your ideal relationship look like?
How do you want to feel in it?

Clarity is power, and when you define your vision for love, you begin to attract a partner who aligns with it.

Step 3: Commit to Taking Action

Transformation requires commitment. Whether it’s improving communication skills, building confidence, or breaking old patterns, decide what steps you’ll take to align with the love life you desire.

Step 4: Embrace Vulnerability and Connection

True connection happens when you’re willing to be seen. Practice opening your heart and letting go of the fear of rejection. The right partner will meet you with respect, admiration, and love.

Looking Ahead: What’s Next for You?

2025 has the potential to be the year YOU create everything your heart desires.

Whether it’s finding your soulmate, deepening your current relationship, or stepping fully into your power, the possibilities are limitless.

Here’s what we have planned to support you:

  • New Workshops and Events: Opportunities to dive deeper into the strategies that work for high-achieving women.
  • Exclusive Coaching Programs: Personalized support to help you break through barriers and create extraordinary love.
  • More Love Chats: Conversations packed with insights, strategies, and inspiration to keep you motivated and aligned.

Your Next Step


This is your time to reflect, reset, and create.

Revisit this Love Chat, implement the lessons, and get ready to step into 2025 with intention and confidence.

Click here to watch the replay now.

Your love story isn’t over—it’s just beginning. Let’s make this next chapter the best one yet. 

 

The Key to Connection: Communication Skills Every High-Value Woman Needs

The Key to Connection: Communication Skills Every High-Value Woman Needs

by | Dec 9, 2024 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

As a high-achieving, driven woman, you’re no stranger to success. 

You’ve mastered the art of leading teams, making decisions under pressure, and reaching ambitious goals. 

Yet, when it comes to love and relationships, you might find yourself in unfamiliar territory—wondering why the skills that serve you so well in your career don’t seem to translate to the deeper, fulfilling connection you desire.

The truth is, powerful communication in love and relationships requires a different set of skills. 

It’s not about negotiation, commanding authority, or achieving outcomes; it’s about vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and authentic connection. And for many successful women, these skills are not only new—they can feel downright uncomfortable.

But here’s the good news: just like you learned to excel in your career, you can learn to master the skill of powerful communication in love and create the deep, meaningful relationship you deserve.

Why Communication Is the Foundation of Love

Communication is the heartbeat of any relationship. It’s how you express your needs, build trust, and navigate challenges. 

But here’s the catch: the way you communicate in relationships is often influenced by patterns you learned in childhood.

If you grew up in a home where your needs weren’t consistently met, you may have learned to:

  • Stay silent to avoid conflict.
  • Overachieve to feel worthy of love.
  • React defensively when you feel vulnerable.

These patterns can unconsciously shape your communication style in relationships today, leading to misunderstandings, emotional distance, or even attracting partners who reinforce these old wounds.

The Link Between Childhood Patterns and Communication Challenges

For the high-powered woman, childhood patterns often play out in subtle but impactful ways:

  • Overachieving for Validation: You might feel like you need to “earn” love by proving your worth, making it hard to ask for what you truly need.
  • Fear of Rejection: You may avoid expressing emotions, fearing they’ll make you seem “too much” or “too needy.”
  • Control as a Defense Mechanism: In an effort to protect yourself, you might try to control situations or avoid vulnerability altogether.

These patterns served a purpose in your past, helping you navigate challenging environments. 

But in your adult relationships, they can act as barriers to the connection and intimacy you truly crave.

The HeartWork™: Changing the Patterns

Changing these patterns requires what we call the HeartWork™—the deep, intentional process of uncovering your emotional triggers, healing old wounds, and learning new ways to communicate. 

Here’s how to start:

1. Reflect on Your Patterns

Take time to examine how your childhood experiences influence your communication style today. Ask yourself:

  • Do I avoid expressing my needs because I fear rejection?
  • Do I over-explain or justify myself to feel validated?
  • Do I shut down emotionally when I feel hurt?

Awareness is the first step toward change.

2. Reconnect with Your Worth

Remind yourself that your value is not tied to your achievements or how much you can “give” in a relationship. You’re worthy of love simply because you exist. 

When you approach communication from this place of confidence and worthiness, your interactions become more authentic and less defensive.

3. Practice Vulnerable Communication

Vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s the key to deeper connection. Start small:

  • Express how you feel instead of what you think.
  • Use “I” statements to own your emotions without blaming your partner.
  • Be open about your needs, even if it feels uncomfortable.

For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” instead try: “I feel unheard when I share something important, and it makes me feel disconnected. Can we talk about this?”

4. Set the Vision for Your Love Life

Imagine what you want your love life to look like in 2025. 

  • What kind of partner do you want to attract? 
  • How do you want to feel in your relationship? 

Write down your vision in detail, and include how you want communication to flow between you and your partner.

This clarity will not only guide your actions but also help you identify whether a relationship aligns with your goals.

What Mastering Communication Will Create for You

When you master the skill of powerful communication in love and relationships, you’ll experience:

  • Deeper Emotional Connection: Expressing your needs openly creates intimacy and trust.
  • Aligned Partnerships: Clear communication helps you attract a partner who matches your vision and values.
  • Confidence in Vulnerability: You’ll feel safe expressing your emotions without fear of judgment or rejection.
  • Resolution Over Reactivity: You’ll handle conflicts with grace, turning challenges into opportunities for growth.

Your Next Step: Taking Action

The love life you desire—a relationship where you feel seen, supported, and celebrated—isn’t out of reach. 

It starts with you. 

By mastering communication, breaking old patterns, and stepping into your worth, you create the space for the love and connection you’ve been craving.

Ask yourself:

  • What am I willing to let go of to create the relationship I deserve?
  • How can I prioritize doing the HeartWork™ to change my patterns?
  • What will my love life look like in 2025 if I start this work today?

Your Love Vision Starts Now

You’ve already proven that you can succeed in life. Now, it’s time to bring that same focus, intention, and confidence into your love life. 

Mastering the skill of powerful communication isn’t only about attracting a partner—it’s about creating a relationship that elevates every aspect of your life.

So, let this be the moment you decide: 2025 will be the year of Extraordinary Love.

As crazy as it may seem, this year is coming to a close. If you want to step into the New Year clear about your Love Vision and what to do to create it, then join us for the Unlimited Love Vision Workshop, next Tuesday, December 17th!

Click here to register! 

Your love story starts with the conversation you’re willing to have with yourself today. 💖

 

Mythbusters! How to Build a Relationship Without Losing Who You Are

Mythbusters! How to Build a Relationship Without Losing Who You Are

by | Sep 27, 2024 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

Do you have a fear of losing yourself in a relationship? 

You’re not alone. It’s one of the biggest fears many women have when it comes to love.

You’ve heard the stories, seen it happen to friends, and maybe even lived it yourself: 

You start off strong, confident, and vibrant, and then somewhere along the way, you find yourself bending, compromising, and shrinking just to keep the relationship going. Before you know it, you’re playing the role of someone else—someone who’s not the real you. 

It’s a story as old as time, but here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be YOUR story.

This week, we debunked the myth that being in a relationship means losing yourself. (If you missed this week’s LIVE Love Chat With The Love Twins, click HERE to Watch the Replay!)

Because the truth is, real love doesn’t ask you to give up who you are. In fact, it allows you to become even MORE of who you are.

The Myth: Losing Yourself in Love

There’s a lot of nonsense out there about what it means to be in a relationship. 

You might have heard that being in love means sacrificing who you are, giving up your dreams, or becoming half of a whole. 

Well, we’re here to tell you it’s a total myth. 

You don’t have to give up who you are to find love; in fact, holding on to your values, your quirks, and your dreams is what creates a magnetic pull for the right kind of love.

The Truth: The Right Relationship EXPANDS You

Research shows that the right relationship is one where both partners grow and expand. 

A study from Carnegie Mellon University found that people in supportive, loving relationships are more likely to take on new challenges, pursue their personal goals, and grow as individuals. 

They’re healthier, happier, and more confident. And yes, this applies to both men and women!

When you’re with the right partner, you don’t lose your identity; you enhance it. 

You become more of who you are. In the right relationship, you don’t have to hide parts of yourself or settle for less. Instead, you and your partner grow together, enriching each other’s lives.

Healing the Patterns That Created This Fear

But we get it: there’s a reason this fear exists. 

Maybe you’ve been in relationships in the past where you did lose yourself. You might have changed your appearance, put your dreams on the back burner, or even let go of your core values just to keep the peace. 

That’s not your fault; it’s a pattern that many women fall into, often without realizing it.

The key to breaking this pattern is to heal the wounds that created it. You see, when we don’t fully love and accept who we are, we look for validation in our partners. We let their opinions and desires dictate our actions, and slowly but surely, we lose sight of ourselves. 

To break free, you need to do the inner work: recognize where these fears come from and choose to let them go.

At the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Event, we dive deep into uncovering these patterns and fears that have kept you from showing up as the woman you truly are. Because when you understand where these fears originated, you can rewrite your story and step into a new chapter—one where you create a relationship that honors YOU.

The Difference Between Independent, Co-dependent, and Interdependent Relationships

Now, let’s break down the different types of relationships, so you know what to aim for and what to avoid.

  • Independent Relationships: In these relationships, each partner operates in their own bubble. There’s little sharing, support, or deep connection. While independence is important, when taken to an extreme, it can lead to loneliness and emotional distance.
  • Co-dependent Relationships: This is where you lose yourself. You become overly reliant on your partner for validation, support, and even your sense of identity. You bend over backward to meet their needs, often at the expense of your own. It’s an unhealthy dynamic that can feel suffocating and draining.
  • Interdependent Relationships: Ah, this is the sweet spot! Interdependence means that you and your partner are strong individuals who choose to support, love, and grow with each other. You don’t need each other to be whole, but you choose to share your lives and lift each other higher. You maintain your individuality while building a life together.

Interdependence is where love truly thrives, and it’s where you can grow without losing yourself. It’s about being two whole people who come together to create something even more beautiful!

Living Your Values: The Key to Lasting Love

Remember the movie Runaway Bride? Julia Roberts’ character didn’t even know how she liked her eggs because she always adapted to the preferences of whichever man she was with. She’d completely lose touch with her own desires and values. Sound familiar?

When you don’t know what you stand for, you’re easily swayed by others’ opinions. And in relationships, this is a recipe for disaster. 

But when you’re confident in who you are and live your values consistently, you not only feel more empowered, but you also attract a partner who loves you for exactly who you are.

Living your values means knowing what’s important to you—whether it’s honesty, adventure, kindness, or growth—and standing by those principles, even when it’s not easy. 

When you do this, you’ll naturally attract someone who respects those values and lives their own as well. The right man won’t want you to change; he’ll love you for who you are and join you on the journey of life!

Debunking the Mirror Myth: Disagreement Is Not a Bad Thing!

There’s another myth out there that says your partner should be your mirror, someone who thinks exactly like you and agrees with everything you say. 

False! 

You and your partner are two unique individuals, which means you’ll have different perspectives. And that’s okay!

The beauty of interdependence is that it allows space for both partners to be themselves. You don’t have to agree on everything. In fact, the healthiest relationships are those where partners respect each other’s differences and find ways to grow from them. Disagreements are an opportunity to learn, expand, and deepen your connection.

You Can Have the Life and Love Your Heart Desires

So, here’s the truth: you can love without losing yourself. You can find a partner who celebrates who you are, who joins you in living a life of growth, and who stands by your side as you both pursue your dreams. 

You deserve that kind of love, and it’s 100% possible for you.

If you’re ready to break free from the fears that have held you back and learn how to show up as the woman you declare yourself to be, we invite you to join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE event. This is your chance to uncover the patterns of the past, step into your power, and create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

Love doesn’t mean losing yourself; it means becoming the fullest version of who you are. 

And we’re here to show you exactly how to make that happen.

Join us at Irresistible Woman LIVE and learn how to love in a way that honors your values, your desires, and the woman you’re meant to be. 

Because when you do, you’ll attract a love that celebrates you and a partner who grows with you.

Your next chapter is waiting. Are you ready to say YES to it? 💖

 

How to Transform Your Love Story: 24 years of Joy Begins Today!  

How to Transform Your Love Story: 24 years of Joy Begins Today!  

by | Jul 14, 2024 | Communication, Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Sex, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Today, Ric & I are celebrating our 24th Wedding Anniversary!

“24 years of marriage…”

 It feels surreal, especially when I once thought I’d never love again.

What fills my heart with joy is that we’re more in love than ever! 

Here’s what I know – reaching 24 years of marriage, 25 years together, and still being happy, best friends, with love, connection, intimacy, and adventure in our relationship isn’t something that “just happens,” no matter how “perfect” a match seems.

Do you want to know how to break through the patterns that are holding you back in love?

How to move past the fears that are keeping you from the relationship you want?
Are you willing to step outside of your comfort zone so you can create the type of relationship where you have 24, 64, 78 years together!

If you’re ready to transform your love life, then skip the reading, get all the juicy details, and claim your spot here: Join Us LIVE at No Cost this Saturday, July 20th, 2024.

Click the link above, secure your complimentary seat, and embark on your journey to creating a loving, lasting relationship with a high-quality man who will cherish you forever.

During these 3 hours together, you’ll learn how to:

💖 Easily attract a strong, confident man who is inspired and NOT intimidated by a successful woman like you

💖 Naturally become the kind of woman a man can’t help but fall in love with (without changing who you are)

💖 Create a lifelong relationship that adds joy and love to your life, and deepens over time, so you have someone to share all the wonders of life with

Join us for this transformative training and learn how to create the loving, supportive, and fulfilling relationship you want, where you get to experience everything you imagine love to be—and MORE. 🌟

If you’re ready to make your love story extraordinary – then click below to claim your spot NOW! 💖

Click HERE to Register for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

It’s your turn to meet the love of your life and start celebrating year after year of “Meet-a-Versaries,” “Kiss-a-Versaries,” and Wedding Anniversaries!

24 years from now you could be looking back at this Saturday, remembering the transformation you experienced that led to you creating your great love story.

Register for your spot at the Masterclass, and let’s begin writing YOUR story now!

 

Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

by | Jun 13, 2024 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Are you tired of wasting time on relationships that go nowhere?

Do you find yourself constantly questioning if the man you’re with truly aligns with your vision and values?

If you’re nodding your head right now, you’re not alone. Many women find themselves stuck in the cycle of uncertainty, wasting precious time and emotional energy on men who don’t meet their standards.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Dating becomes FUN and EASY when you can confidently and quickly determine if a man is a match for your Love Vision and values. 

Sounds too good to be true? It’s not. And we’re going to show you how.

The Importance of Self-Awareness

First things first, you need to know yourself. Everything starts within, and even though it might sound cliché, the foundation of any successful relationship is a deep understanding of your own love vision and values. 

We define Love Vision as what you want to experience in the Relationship of Your Dreams. 

How do you want to feel when you’re with your partner?

Do you want the relationship to feel connected, fun, and light? Are openness, passion, and intimacy things you want to experience?  

What types of activities will you do together?

Do you want to travel together? Do you want to read books and have intellectual discussions? Do you want to enjoy hiking in nature? Do you want to spend Friday nights cooking an incredible dinner together?  

What values do you want to share?

What’s most important to YOU? Do you want to be with someone who values health and adventure? Are you wanting someone who wants to create a family?

This becomes the guidebook for what you want to experience in a relationship. The more clear you are, the quicker you’ll draw it to you. The fuzzier you are, the more confusing your experience in dating will be.

Self-awareness is your compass. It guides you in the right direction and helps you recognize when something (or someone) is off course. Take some time to reflect on your past relationships. What worked? What didn’t? What values did you compromise on, and how did that make you feel? Write these down. This exercise isn’t just about identifying deal-breakers; it’s about understanding what makes you thrive in a relationship.

Communication and Consistency

Now that you’ve got a clear understanding of your own vision and values, it’s time to communicate them and watch to see if someone is aligned. This isn’t about presenting a checklist on the first date – that’s a surefire way to scare anyone off! 

Instead, it’s about weaving your values into conversations naturally and giving yourself the opportunity to observe his behavior – which will inform you of his values.

Talk about what’s important to you. Share your goals, dreams, and what you’re passionate about. This not only gives you a chance to express your values, but it also provides an opportunity to gauge his reactions and responses. 

Is he supportive? Does he share similar goals? Or is he dismissive and uninterested?

Actions Speak Louder Than Words. Words are cheap. Anyone can say they value honesty, loyalty, and respect, but do their actions align with their words? This is where you need to be vigilant. Pay close attention to his behavior.

Does he follow through on his promises? How does he treat people around him – waitstaff, friends, family? Is he consistent in his actions, or does he say one thing and do another? These observations are crucial because they reveal his true character and values.

Consistency is Crucial. One-time grand gestures are impressive, but they don’t define a person’s character. And at the same time, anyone can be nervous on a first date and not show you who they really are.

Consistency over time is what you should be looking for. Give yourself time to see if someone is aligned. 

And values aren’t about “right” or “wrong”. They’re simply about what matters to YOU and what YOU want. Everything he does (or doesn’t do) is good information to have as you move toward knowing who’s the perfect match for you.

Alignment and BE-ing Your Love Vision and Values. 

This is where you get to BE what you want to experience.

If you say health is a top value of yours, what do you do to show it? 

If you want to experience openness, fun and laughter in the Relationship of Your Dreams, who are you BE-ing to bring those feelings into your dating experiences and relationships? 

Before each and every encounter you have with men, anchor yourself in your Love Vision. 

Read your Love Vision every time before going on the dating app. 

Get yourself into the energy of your Love Vision before you go on a date. 

Envision in your mind what your Love Vision looks like before you come home to your husband. 

The more aligned you are going into each experience with men, the more you’ll be able to assess compatibility and create what you want to experience!

Final Thoughts

Finding a man who matches your love vision and values isn’t about luck – it’s about clarity, communication, and keen observation. By understanding your own values, clearly communicating them, observing his actions and consistency, and BEing what you want to experience in the relationship –  you can confidently determine if someone is the right match for you.

Where can you see your vision and values creating your Yes’s and No’s in dating? 

How can you lean more into your Love Vision to know your metric for what you want to experience? 

By following these steps, you’ll empower yourself to make informed decisions about your love life, ensuring you spend your time and energy on a relationship that’s truly worth it! 

This is just the beginning! We’ll be going even deeper into this topic during the Manifest Your Love Vision NOW Challenge! 

You’ll walk away from the Challenge with crystal-clear clarity on what you want to experience inside the Relationship of Your Dreams and next-steps on how to manifest it NOW!

Click HERE to register for the FREE Challenge.

We’ll let you know the dates for the Challenge ASAP – we can’t wait to be with you! 

 

 

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