Confidence is the KEY to Attracting the Right Man

Confidence is the KEY to Attracting the Right Man

by Gladys Diaz 

What comes to mind when you hear the word confidence

More specifically, what do you think of when you hear the term “confident woman”? 

Confidence looks like: 

  • Self-assurance
  • Unwavering
  • Having morals and boundaries
  • Trusting yourself
  • Powerful
  • At ease, even if you’re nervous 
  • And more!

Confidence is what has people — including the  right man — notice you. That energy is what attracts men to you and has them want to get to know you. 

On the other hand, “fake confidence,” you know that “fake-it-til-you-make-it” or “I’ve-got-it-all-together” attitude, are what repel a man. 

That fake  confidence feels like a struggle, because all of your energy is going into keeping up the facade. 

And, even if you can keep up the facade (though it’s not fun for you!), it simply won’t work. A man wants to feel like the person he’s sitting across from is the person she says she is – and there are few things that will make a man run faster than catching onto that that isn’t the case. 

So how do you develop this type of confidence? The confidence that will not only attract the right men to you, but have them stay? 

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You do the HeartWork and create new experiences and thought patterns 

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… There’s nothing wrong with you. You aren’t broken. You have everything you need to create the relationship of your dreams. 

And that relationship begins with you. 

When you truly heal and break free from the doubts holding you back, then you get to love freely and feel assured in your choices.

When I discovered the things that I was covering up and had the courage to work through them, it took a very short amount of time before the type of men I started attracting started to shift. 

When I finally understood that it didn’t have to be hard for me, that I was LUCKY to be me, and that any man that gets to be with me is lucky, too – everything changed. 

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

It’s also the kind of shift that will have you trust yourself to make the right choices!

If that’s the kind of confidence you want, then make sure you join us tomorrow for the Attract the RIGHT Man Webinar!

This 3-hour exclusive training is going to support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you are creating the relationship of your dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

You’ll start to understand the things you can do to easily exude confidence in every area of your life.

AND we’ll be giving you the 3 KEY pieces you need to start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams! 

I’m ready to attract the man of my dreams!

Clarity and certainty lead to confidence. Join us tomorrow so you can begin to feel safe, confident, and secure within yourself and create the life and love you want and deserve NOW! 

The BEST Way to Easily Attract the Love You Want

The BEST Way to Easily Attract the Love You Want

 by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever find yourself lying in bed at night thinking these types of thoughts? 

“Why didn’t I say the thing that I wanted to say on the date tonight?” 

“I wonder if he hasn’t called because I told him I wanted to wait to have sex. Will anyone ever want to wait for me?”

Am I going to lose myself again if I get into another relationship?”

 “Do I need to compromise my values so that I can find a man?”

 “Should I just settle for the guy who comes close to what I’m looking for?

 Because of the years of work we’ve done with the thousands of women we’ve supported over the years, we know that these thoughts come up often when dating (and even when you’re in a relationship or  when you’re married!).

 If you’ve spent years learning how to “strategically” date, trying a bunch of different tactics to see if they , turning yourself into who you think you need to be in order for a man to be the right match, and not honoring your values or boundaries – after a while, you end up wondering who this version of you  is and where the real you went. 

 That’s what makes dating and relationships so scary – not trusting that you won’t  lose yourself in a relationship. 

 You worry about this because… 

  • you’ve done it before. 
  • you’ve convinced yourself that you have to be a certain way in order for a man to like you.
  • you’ve tried being yourself, and you feel like it doesn’t work. 

 What if you didn’t have to worry about this anymore? 

 What if you knew, not only exactly who you are, but what you desire so that you could start being 100% true to yourself in your relationships. 

 What if you were transforming and becoming the most authentic version of yourself, and that the men you associated with could see and be attracted to that?

 Well, guess what? It can be true for you. 

 One of our clients recently said, “Now that I’ve been coaching with these amazing women, I’m finally getting that the work I get to do is about me and I’m falling in love with all the parts of myself.” 

 And that is having her attract a completely different type of man!

 That’s what’s  so powerful about the work we do with women. 

 When you can be true to yourself yourself and show up as 100% authentically, beautifully YOU, then you will attract the man that you want. 

 When you do the Heartwork, you get that you don’t need to focus on the man — not the man you’re attracting or the one you’re with. 

 You get that the one and only thing in this life that you have 100% control over is you, and you get that when you focus on you, the man you want will show up. 

 That’s why we’re hosting something incredible next week and we hope you’ll join us! 

 Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully You Challenge which starts on Monday, February 8th! 

 The BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge is for you if you’re ready to: 

 💜 Remove the mask you hide behind that’s blocking you from the love you want

 💜 Find your voice and say what you want and feel without being afraid

 💜 Stop pretending and not honoring your boundaries

 💜 Stop settling for less than you want and deserve in relationships

 💜 Stop doubting your ability to attract the man and relationship of your dreams

 💜 Let go of the anxiety you feel around dating and relationships and have fun BEing YOU!

 💜 And more!

 It’s FREE to join and it’s going to be a gamechanger for you and your love life! 

 It’s time for you to know that you CAN be authentically YOU and attract a man who will love & cherish you for being the Irresistible Woman you are!.

 Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU challenge!

 What if on Valentine’s Day this year, instead of feeling sad that you don’t have your husband or partner, and wondering if that will ever change,  KNEW that you are on your way to changing that and having the Extraordinary Love you want? 

 What if you broke through the thing that’s been holding you back from having that? 

 What if your doubts were gone and you see yourself showing up as the Irresistible YOU? 

 You have no idea what can happen between now and Valentine’s Day if you’ll join us for the challenge. It’s going to support you in taking  yourself and your love life to a whole new level!

 The thing is – 

 When you don’t trust yourself, you can’t trust others.

 When you don’t love yourself, you can’t love someone else or openly receive someone else’s love.

 And when you’re not connected to who you are and what you desire, you can’t create a genuine connection with a man that leads to lasting love.  

 Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOUchallenge so you can start showing up as 100% you. 

And KNOW that when you’re BEing that – then you know that when the right man finds you and is  100% attracted to the real YOU, will fall  and stay in love with the real you! 

 Join the Challenge Now!

How to Make Your Love Life a Priority

How to Make Your Love Life a Priority

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you making your love life a priority? 

Here we are at the beginning of a new year and, we’re willing to bet that you’ve listed your love life as one of your top priorities for 2021.

That’s great! 

Now, what are you actually doing about it? 

What actions are you taking to make sure that you start creating the love you want now? 

The truth is that if you aren’t seeing the results you want to see in your love life, then your commitment is actually somewhere else. 

Even if you’ve got a vision board created, you’ve set some goals, and your vision statement is written out; if you’re not taking committed action on this goal, it’s not going to happen.

And we get it. When you’re a highly driven woman, you have goals and you’re used to hitting them, it can be frustrating and tiring when you’re not seeing success in your love life. 

So what do you usually do? 

You focus on something else. Something you think you have more control over and feel more confident in. 

Or you pretend that you don’t want to be in a relationship, that it’s not important to you, or that you’re 100% okay being single.

But here’s the thing…

There’s never going to be a better time to get committed to your love life. 

If you’re waiting until that big project is complete, until you finish school, until your kids grow up, until you lose the weight,until you’re 100% healthy and have everything figured out… 

it’s never going to happen. 

One of the saddest things for us to hear from women who say they’ve been waiting 15, 20, 48 years to create the love they want. They never thought they’d be waiting that long, and can’t believe how much time has passed. 

We want you to have the relationship of your dreams NOW! 

We know that creating an extraordinary love and life requires making it a priority! 

So how do you do that? 

How do you make creating the love you want a priority in your already full, busy, and beautiful life?

  • Distinguish what’s most important to you. 

What are the top five priorities in your life? Community? Friends? Family? Work? Home? Yoga? Health? Is your love life one of those top 5? 

  •  Ask yourself why those things matter to you.

Getting clear on why something is important to you, helps motivate you to put the time and energy into creating what you want to see. 

Ask yourself why creating an incredible relationship is important to – and why is that important to you – and why is that important?
Keep going deep with yourself and getting to the heart of what you really want and why you really want it is critical to making sure you realize your goals!

  • Decide what actions you will commit to taking to move the needle forward. 

What actions will you take daily, weekly and monthly to create progress in your love life? Aligning your actions with your priorities is the key to creating what you desire. 

Once you have these things laid out – you should start feeling more aligned with yourself and your goals. You’ll start to see shifts in what you’re creating and what you’re attracting into your life. 

If you’re still having a hard time – get curious about what’s getting in the way?
What’s in the gap between being clear with yourself about what you want?

If you’d like support with getting clear on what you really want, what’s stopping you from having that, and you want guidance in determining the actions that will help you most in creating the relationship of your dreams, then we want to talk to you! 

Book a Love Breakthrough session with one of our coaches. They can’t wait to talk to you and help you start to put your priorities in order and begin creating the life and love your heart desires!.

 Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Top Three “Red Flags” to Watch For

Top Three “Red Flags” to Watch For

by Gladys Diaz 

If you’re dating, you’ve probably heard the term “red flag.” But do you know what a real “red flag” is? 

Do you know what you should be watching out for while dating? 

Do you know what things make a man “undateable”? 

You may be surprised to hear that there aren’t really that many “red flags.” There are some things that you want to be paying attention to, and that’s what we want to focus on today.

While dating, you want to have an open mind and an open heart while still noticing whether or not a man is “datable.” You want to allow yourself to fall in love with someone while not allowing the chemistry or the attraction to be the driving factor.

So, what are some real “red flags” you want to watch out for?

  1. A man is in another relationship. Whether he’s in the process of breaking up, still married, separated, in the legal process of divorce, they’re working out custody issues, still living together but not in love, or any other reason that keeps them connected to another person, a  man who is in any way, shape, or form still involved with someone else is a bright red flag!. 

Why is this important to pay attention to? 

If someone is willing to date you while they are still in a relationship with someone else, he’s already telling you something about his character. 

We have worked with women who were dating someone who was “leaving” their partner, and then 2 years, 4 years, even 7 years down the road , they are still with that other person. Waiting for him to choose them! 

You don’t want to set yourself up to lose in dating. 

When you hear that someone is in a relationship with someone else and you don’t see that as a red flag, it has to do with your worthiness. 

You deserve someone who can and is willing to  fully commit to you, And, if you catch yourself pushing that thought to the side, making excuses for him, or justifying his situation to yourself and others, then you get to ask what’s going on for you and why you’re not seeing that you deserve more. 

The thought that would come up for me when I was allowing myself to ignore this read flag was “If they have that many options and they want to be with me, then there must be something really special about me.”  

Can you hear the unworthiness in that question?

The thing is that this person couldn’t commit himself fully to you even if he wanted to because he’s still committed to someone else

If he’s willing to be with you while still being with someone else, why would he stay committed to you down the road?

If you’re involved with a man who’s involved with someone else, it’s time to reach out for support so that you can make a choice the empowers you and is aligned with your dream of a happy, loving relationship.

2. A man that has an active addiction. Regardless of what the addiction is, whether it’s alcohol, drugs, pornography, food, gambling, etc, this is a red flag.

Why is this important to look out for?

When someone has an active addiction to something, that thing will always be the priority in his life. That means that you will not be the priority in his life. It’s not that he’s a “bad person,” it’s that he has a problem that takes over his  reasoning. 

You want to make sure that you’re aware and awake and that you’re not blinded by infatuation, desperation, chemistry, or attraction when choosing who to date and fall in love with.

Too many women mistakenly believe that if they love the man enough, wait long enough, or help him enough, he will choose them over his addiction.  It’s a really painful game to play, and one where the woman usually does not win.

Notice your thoughts.Are you pushing something away?
Are you making excuses or justifications about his behavior?
Are you choosing to not notice something that you should be paying attention to? 

Ignoring a problem is never the same thing as resolving it.  If you’re pushing these thoughts away, it’s time to reach out for support.

3. A man that is physically or emotionally abusive. Is the man  you’re with constantly criticizing you, cutting you down or making you the brunt of his jokes? Does he refuse to take responsibility for things and turn everything back around on you?

Does he push, grab, or hit you? Even if he apologizes, cries about it, or promises never to do it again afterwards?

Why is knowing the answers to these questions important? 

If you start to feel less than or criticized, especially in the  early stages of a relationship, this person is simply not right for you. 

Someone who has good intentions is not going to put you down or make you the brunt of his jokes. 

If you’ve mentioned that this is hurtful, and he’s sensed that he can get away with this with you,  and he continues to treat you this way, he’s not trying to actually win your heart.

Pay attention!

If you don’t feel better about yourself when or after you’re with someone, then you shouldn’t be dating him. 

When dating or in a relationship with someone, make sure that chemistry doesn’t overpower your integrity. 

If you see that you are afraid, denying your values, making excuses, hiding things from your family and friends, and ignoring some really clear warning signs, it is time to get support NOW!

This is where the HeartWork comes into play as a way of raising your own level of self-worth. 

When you have  high levels of self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth, you know that you deserve better and you don’t settle for anything less. 

You notice these red flags and you choose to walk away, knowing that you will attract someone who loves, cherishes, honors, and chooses YOU, and that you can have the loving, peaceful, intimate relationship of your dreams with. 

Breaking through the Love Barriers stopping you from having the kind of love you want is one of the most important  journeys of your life, and if you’d like support so that you have the tools to overcome self-doubt, not settle for anything less than the extraordinary love you desire and deserve, we’d love to talk to you. 

We want you to know not just how to attract a man but how to attract the RIGHT man – someone who will be everything you want and deserve and more!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Let us support you in recognizing what’s  missing in your dating and relationship experiences so that you can create the relationship of your dreams now!

Let Go of the Wrong Man So You Can Attract the Right One

Let Go of the Wrong Man So You Can Attract the Right One

rby Gladys Diaz 

Are you with the wrong guy? 

Are you in a relationship that feels like settling? 

Are you still hung up on a relationship that’s long been over, but you can’t seem to move on?

Are you frustrated feeling like you’re never going to be able to find the right person to bring into your life? 

The answers to these questions  are so important, because there is no way to create the relationship of your dreams if you’re stuck in something that’s not it. It can get tricky, because sometimes you may be open to seeing the red flags, and sometimes you’re not. 

So how do you know if you’re with the wrong guy? 

If you have clarity and know what you want to be experiencing in the relationship of your dreams, then you know when you’re not in it.

You must get crystal-clear on what it is that you want to feel and experience when you’re with the right guy in order to know when you’re with the wrong one.

Now, “crystal-clarity” isn’t the laundry list of what you want your guy to look like or have. It’s about the experience you have when you’re with him.

Do you feel at peace when you’re with him?
Can you be yourself?
Is the relationship aligned with your values and what’s important to you? 

When you know what you want – it becomes crystal clear if you’re in it or not.  It becomes less about looking for “red flags” and more about looking at what you’re actually experiencing when you’re around him, and then deciding if it’s aligned with what you really want. 

Why is this important? 

It’s important because, if you’re not having the experience you want to have in the relationship of your dreams, then the truth is:  You’re settling. 

We know why you stay. 

You think maybe he’ll come around.
You think maybe he’ll change.
Maybe… if you wait a little longer… love him a little more… give more of yourself to him…

If you find yourself in this pattern, listen up. Stop falling in love with “the potential” of what you think you see in a man, and start looking at what is actually there. Not from a judgmental place, but from a place of who he really is right now

We also know that if you’re willing to settle in a relationship, then you’re struggling with your self-worth and self-esteem. You’re not getting that you really do deserve to have exactly what you want in a loving relationship. 

When I was dating, this was me.

At one point, I was dating a man who was not only married, but was seeing three other women at the same time as me!

When I look back on that experience, I am dumbfounded as to what I was thinking, because, at the time, it didn’t even occur to me that maybe this wasn’t a good situation for me to be in. 

Years later, I know what I was thinking. I was continuing in my pattern of thinking if I could just be enough or do something right, that he’d choose me. I had fun with him, but the experience of being in what I thought was a relationship with him was super stressful. I was always wondering who he was with and whether he was going to call! It was not fun at all! 

It was not what I wanted, and this was blocking me from creating what I did want. 

The even bigger risk is that staying in a wrong relationship like the one I was in can have long-term effects on your psyche and your self-esteem, and the time it can take to heal from that can be devastating. 

Another aspect of being with the wrong guy is staying energetically connected to him, even after the relationship has ended. 

 The longest I’ve heard of a woman not being able to let go of a relationship is 17 years (that’s a teenager!)! 17 years of holding on to something that no longer existed and stopping herself from moving forward and creating the relationship she desired. 

 That’s heartbreaking! 

 So, what does it look like to let go? 

 First, you must bring acceptance to what is. You must realize that this relationship is not what you’re committed to creating and having, and accept that it needs to end.  If it already ended, you need to accept that it’s over, once and for all.

 Second, bring gratitude to the experience. Recognize the good memories, the lessons learned, and the people that may have come into your life through this person that are a blessing to you. When you feel gratitude for what was, it brings an empowerment to the choice you’re making to move on. 

 Third, you’ve got to realign yourself with your values. Your values are the compass you can use to guide your life. Though your boundaries and standards may change as the circumstances of your life change, your values – the things that matter to you most – will never change. Be true to and honor them, and you will always know you’re making the best choice for you.

 Fourth, do the Heartwork to understand how you got there in the first place. What are the core issues that drive the pattern of attracting the wrong man? Behind every dysfunctional pattern there’s a need you’re filling. Get clear on what that is so that you can shift it. 

 Fifth, begin taking committed action in the direction you’re now going. If you’re having a hard time letting go, make the choice to “lock the door” and move on! Take a stand, set boundaries and choose to move forward. 

 We know that a lot of this is “easier said than done” when you don’t know exactly how to do it on your own.  Think about it… If you knew what to do and how to do it, you would have moved on from this relationship a long time ago. 

If any or all of this sounds all too familiar,  we’d love to support you in finally letting go of the past, the wrong relationships, and anything that is holding you back from having the relationship of your dreams.

One of the fastest and most life-changing ways to do this is to join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want SUCCESS in love is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

 In these three days, you are going to get connected to who you truly are, experience transformations and breakthroughs in your relationship with yourself, break free from the past, and create the access for creating the relationship of your dreams!

 Whether you’re deeply desiring to attract the man or you want to create your dream relationship with the man you’re already with – this event is for you!

 Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

You’ll even get a special “LOVE  box” filled with cool swag and materials we’ll be using during the event IF you’re one of the first 100 people to grab your ticket.  

 Once the swag boxes are gone, they’re GONE, so don’t miss out on getting yours mailed to you before the event!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

Stop the Drama and Start Thriving!

Stop the Drama and Start Thriving!

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you feel like you’re constantly “surviving” in your life? 

Are you stuck in a pattern of drama?

Do you feel like love is “too hard,” or that it “takes too much effort”? 

Do you seem to always attract men that have a lot of baggage, don’t want to commit, or just aren’t good for you? 

The pattern of drama is an easy one to fall into, but it’s life-changing when you choose to shift it. 

Let me tell you my story. 

After my divorce and before I met Arnie, I realized I had a pattern of drama. One day I was telling a friend about the latest guy I was going after, how he was back and forth between me and another relationship that wasn’t working out, and how it was taking so much time and energy! 

After listening to me patiently this friend looked at me and he said, “Gosh Michelle, you have so much drama in your love life.” 

I was a little taken aback by that comment and he continued by saying, “I’m not saying that what you’re saying isn’t happening, but I’m saying that you’re creating it.” 

Wow. 

That was a wake-up call for me and I got to get really honest with myself. 

Was I creating it? 

I realized that I was. I realized that, from a very young age, I had learned that love is chaotic.

I had always had poor examples of relationships in my life. Both of my mother’s relationships included arguing, fighting, bickering, screaming, name-calling, and threatening. I had also watched my mom be “a martyr” and constantly give up what she wanted, not in a mutually compromising kind of way, but rather to “keep the peace.” 

I then recognized that I had always created, and was continuing to create, the same thing in my own life. 

My previous marriage had been filled with drama, constantly breaking up and then getting back together, and arguing about everything! 

When I got divorced, I thought I could start a clean page and do things differently. 

What I didn’t realize is that nothing inside of me had actually changed, so I continued to create the same thing in my new relationships. 

I always attracted men that had lots of baggage, had many failed relationships in their past, and were just as good at arguing as I was. My dramatic energy was attracting more drama and chaos.

And I was over it. 

When I realized I had this pattern and where it came from, everything began to change.  I broke the pattern, changed my beliefs about what love and relationships look like, met Arnie, and, together, we are creating the relationship of our dreams. 

If I can do it, you can too! 

So, how do you break the pattern of drama?

 

1. Recognize It.  Today is the day to get honest with yourself. Nothing is ever going to change if you don’t take a good hard look at what is happening in your life and see it for what it is. 

2. Own It.  Admit that if drama is showing up in your life, then you’re playing a part in creating it. When you do this, you stop being a victim to it. Take responsibility for it. You can choose to either keep going this way or create something new. And that’s where the power lies.

3. Accept It.  This means not judging yourself because of it. By recognizing that it’s there and owning your piece in creating it, you’re not blaming yourself for it, rather, you’re taking ownership in creating it so that you can change it. 

Ask yourself: What need am I trying to fill by keeping this pattern of drama in my life? 

Maybe you feel important when you’re giving everything away for love. 

Maybe you feel significant when you’re experiencing drama in your life. 

Maybe you’re just so used to the feelings of drama – worry, anxiety, loss, frustration – that you stay in that surviving state because it’s your “normal.”

If you broke that pattern, what could be created? 

If it doesn’t have to be that way, what’s a new possible belief?

4. Change it. Create a new definition of love and create new patterns. Decide what you want love to look like. And every time the old pattern shows up (because it will), recognize it, tell yourself that you’re not doing that anymore, and make a different choice. 

Choose to be love-able and worthy, because you are! 

When I changed this pattern, I decided that love got to be fun and easy. Love looked like communicating calmly and rationally. Love looked like being able to be 100% myself and still be loved. 

When I deepened the relationship with myself and decided I was love-able and worthy, only then did I begin to attract the high-quality men that I deserved and wanted to spend time getting to know. 

What do you want? 

Are you willing to do the work to break this pattern and create something better in your life? 

Are you ready to stop merely surviving, and start thriving?! 

If you are, we have GREAT news for you!

One of the fastest and most effective ways to break a pattern  and transform your life is to join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE!

In this 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want SUCCESS in love, we will be uncovering what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

If you’re tired of the drama, the frustration, and the dissatisfaction of dating and being in relationships that are NOT the peaceful, happy, and mutually supportive, then you need to join us!

We’re making it SUPER easy for you by taking 80% off the regular ticket price!

Why?

Because we don’t want there to be ANY reason or excuse for you to not be there!

You’ll even get a special “swag box” with cool stuff we’ll be using during the event IFyou are one of the first 100 people to grab your ticket.  

Once the swag boxes are gone, they’re GONE, so don’t miss out on getting yours mailed to you before the event!

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

You can thrive. You can have the relationship of your dreams. 

You just have to choose it.