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Swipe Right on Love: Dating Strategies for Busy Women

by heartsdesireintl | May 22, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Single Mother, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you struggle making time for your love life?

You may be a single mom and have a hard time finding a babysitter.

Maybe you travel a lot for work and find it hard to make time for dating or your partner.

Finding time for dating can feel challenging.

Juggling work commitments, household responsibilities, and parenting duties can make it seem that there’s little room for personal endeavors.

We get it.

Both Gladys and I are entrepreneurs running multiple businesses, wives, mothers, and dog-moms. We have clients, team members and family to take care of – on top of making time for our own work-outs, self-care and rest.

I remember when I was a single mom trying to make it all work and wondering if it was possible to have it all…

The thing to remember is that carving out time for romance is essential for self-care and building meaningful connections.

In this blog post, we’ll explore practical strategies and mindset shifts to help busy professionals and single moms make time for dating in their demanding lives.

#1: Make Your Love Life and Dating a Top Priority in Your Life

The first thing you must do is make dating a top priority. Right up there with taking care of yourself.

If you don’t make your love life a priority then another summer goes by and you’re still alone. Another birthday comes and goes and you aren’t spending it with the one you love.

Let’s get rid of regret and start creating your dreams NOW!

Dating isn’t just another thing you have to do and until you start relating to it as self-care and not an item to be checked off your list – only then will you start enjoying it and start creating the results you want!

#2: Prioritize Self-Care

As a single mom and professional, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. When you don’t, you slowly begin to resent the people in your life that need you and want to spend time with you.

This puts you in low energy and makes it impossible to attract the things you want into your life!

When you prioritize taking care of yourself, you boost your well-being AND enhance your ability to be present and engaged in dating.

Set aside dedicated time each day and week for activities that rejuvenate you, such as exercise, meditating, praying, reading, pursuing a hobby (or sitting and doing nothing if that’s what you want to do)!

By nurturing your own happiness, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of dating while managing your all of your other responsibilities.

#3: Create Opportunities in Your Schedule to Date and Spend Time With Your Partner

Sometimes you get to be creative when you have a lot of priorities and are short on time.

Remember how I said we get it? We do!

Sometimes spending time together looks like long walks, movies and going to bed together.

And sometimes we get to be creative!

If Arnie and I have a particularly full day, we’ll wake up 15 minutes early so we can sit on the porch and have our coffee together.

Gladys and Ric go to lunch together every single Friday, which they’ve been doing for years!

Why?

Because prioritizing our relationships is important to us and it’s imperative to keeping the love alive!

If you’re looking at opportunities to meet men as something you dread or as a time-waster – it’s time to shift your mindset and embrace meeting men as something that is fun and worth it!

#4: Create a Structure for Your Time and Manage Your Time Well

You’re precious, your time is precious and you get to manage it well.

Prioritize your tasks, set realistic deadlines, plan dating into your calendar and create a structured schedule.

Look for pockets of time in your routine where you can squeeze in a date or a brief phone call with a potential partner.

TIP: You don’t need to be juggling 15 dating apps and chatting with 100 men at a time – now that might feel overwhelming!

You need to be on three dating apps with a profile that will attract the men who are a match for you!

If you don’t have that or you need support with your mindset or time management – Schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with a Coach!

As a busy professional and/or single mom, making time for dating can feel like an uphill battle. However, by shifting your mindset and making it a priority, prioritizing self-care, creating creative opportunities to date, creating a structure for it and managing your time well, you can successfully integrate dating into your busy life.

Remember, finding love and nurturing relationships is a vital aspect of personal growth and happiness!

And you get to have it ALL!

Rejection Hurts. Here’s How to Break Through Your Fear and Create Extraordinary Love NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | May 7, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you have a fear of being hurt or rejected?

If you don’t, you must be superhuman, because as human beings, we all deal with this!

And it doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, this message is for you!

It’s a common misconception that, once you get into a relationship, the fear of rejection or getting hurt goes away…

But that’s just not true.

The fear of rejection creates barriers to feeling like yourself and feeling safe in a relationship.

It holds you back from creating deep, intimate connections – whether you’re already in a relationship or seeking to create one.

No matter the reason you have this fear or how it manifests for you, the impact it creates is the same.

Here’s how it works…

You have a fear that something will or won’t happen in the future because of something that did or didn’t happen in the past.

This fear then causes you to react in a certain way, which is a coping mechanism for not getting hurt.

This may look like withdrawing from your partner or pulling back.

It may look like being paralyzed and feeling like you can’t do or say anything because of your fear that it will go badly.

It may look like pretending, acting as if everything is fine, when, actually, you’re feeling completely scared inside.

Here’s how it looked for me.

Because I was scared of being rejected, I was always trying to prove myself.

And it showed up in work, in my relationships, as a mother, everywhere.

My previous marriage was not a happy one.

I remember how I would feel every time I’d come home and put the key up to the door to open it.

Each time, I would stop and feel my chest tighten as I wondered what I was about to encounter on the other side of the door – and hoping that today might be a good day.

My fear of being alone and needing to be accepted caused me to stay in that unhappy relationship where I was treated in ways that are now absolutely unimaginable to me.

I would stay quiet and pretend that everything was fine, and then I couldn’t really understand what was real and what I really wanted.

So why does this matter for you?

Do you accept behavior or communication that isn’t aligned with what you want because you’re afraid of being rejected?

Do you feel like your feelings won’t be validated because you fear you’ll be used or get hurt.

When fear is running the show you feel powerless, and that’s not the way we want you to feel!!

So how do you overcome these fears?

The first thing you need to do is – recognize and acknowledge the fear.

When you recognize yourself in the space where the fear is coming to the surface, ask yourself these two questions.

What is it that you’re afraid of that’s stopping you from having the relationship you want to have?

If I didn’t have this fear and was standing inside my power, who would I be that would allow me to make a different choice?

When you acknowledge your fear, get curious about it and own it – you allow yourself to step into your power and know that you get to choose how you feel and behave.

The truth is…

You can either be run by your fears or run by your ability to choose a different experience.

When you don’t break through your fear, the fear chooses for you!

When you transform yourself – YOU get to choose.

You get to create the Extraordinary Love that you imagine!

If you’d like to overcome your fear of rejection so you can get into the relationship of your dreams by this summer – yes, you read that right, THIS SUMMER…

Then click HERE to schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with one of our fabulous Love Coaches.

Once you transform something, you don’t go back to it.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the fears that are holding you back in love and relationships!

3 Steps to Stop Doubting Yourself and Attract the RIGHT Man NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 7, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever doubt yourself?

Do you ever question whether or not you’ve made the right decision about a career move, whether or not to keep dating someone you’ve grown to care about, or where to live?

What does it feel like to not be able to trust yourself to make the best decisions for your future?

One of the top things we hear from women, successful, driven, passionate women like you, is that they have a hard time trusting themselves.

And that lack of self-trust leaves them feeling disempowered and afraid.

When you can’t trust yourself life becomes a lot more scary than it actually is!

Whether you’re looking for a love that will take you around the world, bring you children and an expanded family or simply love and support in your already amazing life, we’re certain that you want your intuition to guide you to a good man who’ll be a good match for you and all of your hopes and dreams.

So what if you don’t trust yourself to find him?

What if you worry that your “picker” is broken or that you always choose the “wrong” men?

When you don’t trust yourself then what chooses for you isn’t you.

What chooses instead are your fears.

Your thoughts that you’re not good enough…

The fear of ending up alone forever…

Remembering all the “wrong” men you’ve attracted in the past and disbelief that anything will ever be any different.

Thinking you’ll be taken advantage of like you were before…

When these are the thoughts swirling around in your mind it’s debilitating and life and love feel scary as hell.

So how do you break through these fears and begin to trust you again?

Acceptance. First you get to accept yourself and everything about your past.

If you allow your past to determine your future you’ll always feel like you have something to prove, like there’s something to overcome, like you have to work to not become your mother or make the same mistakes you’ve already made.

Your past doesn’t have to define you, tell you who you are or let you know what you can expect of your future.
Forgiveness. Second, you get to forgive the version of you that chose the painful experiences of the past so you can heal and move forward.

You get to remove the emotional charge behind the memories so that they no longer have power to influence your present and future.
Clarity. After you’ve healed your past you can stand powerfully in who you are in the present. Then, and only then, can you be clear about what you want for your future.

Once you have crystal clarity around what it is that you want to experience in a relationship, you’ll be able to stand for the man and relationship you want instead of settling for whatever’s there.

It’s incredible what opens up when you’re able to accept and love yourself fully!

When you know what you want and can be yourself without reservation you feel happier and more comfortable with yourself because the real you is showing up!

Your intuition becomes stronger and you’re more and more able to make the decisions that are right for you quickly and without reservation or doubt.

And…

You’re able to attract the type of men that you WANT to be with and that want to be with the real you too!

If that’s something you want, then join us on Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!

In this fun, interactive 3-hour workshop, you’ll:

Identify the barrier that have the fears and doubts show up instead of the right man
Gain Clarity about what you want in a relationship
Discover what men are looking for and what repels them
Manifest the life and love your heart desires for a LIFETIME

If that’s what you want – then click HERE to register for this free event!

Once you register, you’ll receive love notes throughout the rest of this week so you can receive support in love starting NOW and so you can come prepared on Saturday to meet the RIGHT man now!

We can’t wait to see you there!

The ONE Thing You Need to Know to Attract TRUE LOVE Into Your Life!

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 13, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever wonder whether or not extraordinary love is possible for you?

Do you fear you’ll never find someone who will see you, love you, hear you and want to share a life with you?

If you answered yes to either of those questions, you’re not alone and…

I know how you feel because I felt the exact same way for years.

After my husband cheated on me and we got divorced, putting myself out in the dating game again was not only hard and terrifying – it left me feeling doubtful and discouraged that I’d ever find someone who would love me again.

It wasn’t until I discovered the secret I’m going to share with you today that my love life, and whole life actually, were transformed.

This secret isn’t about doing something “more” or “better” than you’ve done in the past.

It points back to ONE fundamental thing and if you don’t know how to create this ONE thing, it will lead you to 5, 10, 20 more years of not creating the love and life that you want.

When I look back at who I was and what my life looked like BEFORE I learned this secret and who I became and how my life transformed AFTER, it’s like looking at 2 different lives!

What it all boiled down to was this…

Really being IN the experience of being in love with myself.

And not in a conceited, arrogant or entitled way.

And not in a weekly massages and pedicures kind of way either.

Loving myself at a deep, raw, true level so that when I looked in the mirror, I didn’t compare myself to my best friend or the actress on TV. I didn’t wish my thighs were smaller or that my teeth were straighter.

And when I looked myself in the eyes, I didn’t wish I was funnier, smarter or more successful.

I knew in my heart that I was enough, that I was love-able and that I would find someone else who felt the same.

And once I became whole in that way – only then was I able to create something extraordinary with someone else.

That’s the secret to creating real love and that’s why we’re hosting the Self-Love Secret Mission Challenge this week!

When you develop this type of love within yourself you:

💖 Have the courage to be who you really are

💖 Don’t have to spend days, months, years, (or even minutes!) recovering when someone makes you feel unloveable

💖 Communicate in a way that exemplifies true love and true power

💖 Speak your “truth” without having it look like your anger on a loud speaker.

💖Know at the ultimate level that you’re enough and be able to create an extraordinary relationship with another human being who knows and feels the same

Because until you develop this deep love within yourself, no one else’s love will make a difference.

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and we’re committed to YOU elevating what you’re doing in life and love so that you can have everything you dream of!

The Self-Love Secret Mission Challenge begins TONIGHT at 6pm EST and you get to be there!

This week can be the week that bridges the gap between where you are now and where you want to be because your love for yourself expands.

Here’s what ladies have said about the transformation this challenge created for them:

“My biggest takeaway from the Self-Love Secret Mission is that I am more than enough just as I am, and that I am my biggest champion! I now believe with all my heart that I will attract a high-quality man with whom I will create the relationship of my dreams! I highly recommend this challenge to anyone willing to love themselves like never before. You will truly fall in love with yourself!” -Cari

“Before I did The Self-Love Secret Mission, I felt stuck and like I needed change in my life and some direction. During the mission, I learned that self-love is a holistic act in that you feed your self with love, talk to yourself with love, eat food and think loving thoughts about yourself. I realized that I’ve been so negative about being in a relationship for years so now it’s just a process of noticing my self-talk, changing my limiting beliefs, and knowing I don’t have to do it all on my own. I seriously felt the best when I was doing this, and I totally want to get back into that energy again, where crazy magical things were happening!” -Anna

You get to experience extraordinary love from the INSIDE OUT!

When you learn to love yourself at this deep level, your confidence, compassion, trust, communication increase. And the list goes on – because it touches everything!

See YOUR Patterns and Create Your Love Vision NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Jan 23, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel like you keep repeating the same thing over and over again when it comes to dating and relationships?

Does it seem like you keep meeting the same man in a different body – and no matter how good it might seem in the beginning, it always ends the same way?

Do you have the same argument week in and week out with your boyfriend or husband?

If you feel like you keep getting the same results – and you can’t figure out why – it’s likely there’s a dysfunctional pattern that’s running you!

The incredible thing about seeing and understanding your dysfunctional patterns is that once you do – you access the power to break through them!

And once you do that – you’re free to choose.

Below are the top 3 dysfunctional patterns that come up for women in love and relationships. While these may not be yours, keep reading because you may have a version of one of these!

The MOST common dysfunctional pattern in relationships – and what most other dysfunctional patterns come back to- is not trusting yourself.

Do you overthink things, ruminate, question your decisions or put them off?

If so, you have a dysfunctional pattern of not trusting yourself.

This pattern is developed at a young age when you do something that you thought was right and then get reprimanded for it. The little girl inside of you is still living in the decision of “When I think something’s right – it’s wrong” and you stop trusting yourself.

Analysis paralysis is exhausting! Plus, every time you doubt yourself, you chip away a little bit more of your confidence.

2. The 2nd most common dysfunctional pattern is attracting the wrong men.

If you’re attracting the wrong men, there’s something energetically part of your belief system about what you think you deserve.

You might think that “someone” is better than “no one” or “better than the last guy” and it has you stay in something that’s not what you really want.

3. The 3rd most common dysfunctional pattern is that you have a hard time being vulnerable in relationships.

You hide and don’t dare show people who you really are.

You try to appear confident and end up coming off arrogant, entitled, or guarded.

So how do you overcome these dysfunctional patterns and unleash the confident, assured version of yourself?

How do you begin to trust yourself so you can attract the type of man you deserve and create the relationship with him that you dream of?

You have to break through your fears!

Underneath every dysfunctional pattern is a fear created from an experience from your past and a moment where you decided you couldn’t have what you really want.

Here’s the thing.

We’re 23 days into the New Year and if those 23 days haven’t felt different for you – then you need to join us for the Love Vision Intensive happening next weekend, February 3rd-5th, 2023!

At this 3-day deep-dive event, you will uncover YOUR specific dysfunctional patterns, where they came from and break through them once and for all so you can begin to create the love that’s meant for you NOW!

Click HERE to grab your ticket to the Love Vision Intensive NOW!

You’ll walk away from this event saying, “ I know I can have the relationship I want in 2023!”

We know how powerful it is to overcome the fears and patterns that are holding you back in love and begin to experience more than you ever thought possible.

How to BOOST Your Confidence to a Level TEN!

by heartsdesireintl | Dec 16, 2022 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you hard on yourself about things that have happened in the past?

Do you wonder why you keep attracting the wrong type of men into your life?

Do you wish you could stop making the same mistakes when it comes to relationships and love?

When the results you continue to experience in love and relationships are less than what you want – your confidence gets shaken.

And when you don’t do the work to get to the root of what has you continuing to create these experiences, there’s a chain of consequences that follow…

We call this chain the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle.

When something less than ideal happens and you say things to yourself like:

“How could I be so dumb?”

“When am I going to stop attracting liars?”

“When am I ever going to get it right?”

You create fears and love barriers which then has you create more of the same and your confidence and trust in yourself (and your ability to create the love you want) disintegrates.

Here’s what the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle looks like:

Event
You Make a Decision/Judgment About What Happened
Love Barrier (Fear) is Created
Dysfunctional Pattern is Created (Actions)
You Get Results that You Don’t Want
You Make Another Decision/Judgment About Yourself (Trust and Confidence is Eroded)
Another Limiting Belief (Fear) is Created

And the cycle repeats itself over and over!

Being in this cycle is what has you doubt yourself, not trust others, feel the need to “take a break” from dating and more.

So how do you shift this cycle and uplevel your confidence in yourself and others?

In order to stop the dysfunctional dating cycle and begin to experience yourself as the type of woman who can create what she wants in life and love, you must do the HeartWork!

When you get the results you want – your confidence and trust in yourself goes up!

1. See It – Acknowledge what’s not working. Get to the root of what is having you continue to create the results you don’t want.

2. Shift It – Do the HeartWork and learn how to replace the broken pieces with the RIGHT one.

This isn’t about tips and tricks.

This is about healing the pieces of your past that created those limiting beliefs that aren’t allowing you to create what you really want.

3. Experience It – When you free yourself from the fears you hold, you allow yourself to create new thoughts and behaviors, which creates different results and a new healthy pattern unfolds!

When you transform the dysfunctional patterns you have in love – you transform YOU.

Would you like to create this shift for yourself?

GOOD NEWS!

We’re dedicating 3 days in February to teach you how to do exactly this!

At the Love Vision Intensive 3-Day Event, you’ll experience a new level of healing that will allow you to truly move forward in confidence and trust to create the results in love that you want!

If you want…

2023 to be the year you’re in the relationship of your dreams
To know how to STOP the dysfunctional patterns
Your confidence to soar as you experience incredible results.

Then you NEED to join us for the Love Vision Intensive!

Yes – Claim my seat now!

If you want to be married next year – the next 3-6 months are critical.

Make a choice today to have 2023 be the year you create everything you’ve dreamed of!

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