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The Secret To Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 15, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease?

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy?

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you?

Tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop we’re going to be showing you how to create just that!

See if this scenario sounds familiar:

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry.

You’re “triggered.”

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake.

We’ve all been there, .

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer then 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived.

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity.

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way?

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control?

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen?

That’s what we’re going to be teaching you how to do tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop.

You’re going to learn how to:

Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.

Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires

Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do.

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this.

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space.

And that’s what we want for you too.

Register for this powerful free masterclass HERE!

The Breakthrough That Has You Find The Love of Your Life

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 18, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to have a breakthrough in love?

Do you know what a breakthrough feels like?

Did you know there’s a difference between a breakthrough and an insight?

Here’s how you can tell…

An insight is a logical experience where you suddenly realize or see something new that supports you in understanding why you’re creating what you have in your life.

An insight could be remembering an event from your childhood that created the fear of abandonment that’s running your love life or realizing that you keep creating the same experience over and over again with different men.

Those are all insights – and they’re super important to have!

However – a breakthrough is something more.

A breakthrough is a heart-changing experience that rises above and beyond what’s ordinary. Having a breakthrough creates an energetic shift that transforms you and the way you’re showing up in your life.

It’s powerful!!!

So how do you create one?

First of all – since a breakthrough is an experience above and beyond the ordinary – it’s usually not something you can create for yourself. A real breakthrough requires the support of someone who can see what you can’t see AND support you in transforming it.

Creating a breakthrough in your life requires the assistance of a coach.

On top of having a coach, you must be:

1) Committed to having a breakthrough and declaring what you want.
2) Willing to move past what’s comfortable
3) Ready and excited to apply the coaching

So let’s dive deeper.

1) Committed to Having a Breakthrough and Declaring What You Want.

A declaration is not a list of things you don’t want or what you’re tired of creating.

A declaration is a powerful statement with crystal clarity of what you do want.

If you can’t articulate what you want, you’re not going to get it.

So what do you want?

What’s the thing that if it was no longer in your way would accelerate your experience and have you create the relationship of your dreams?

Once you know that – that’s the first step to creating a breakthrough!

2) Willing to Move Past What’s Comfortable

Doing what you’ve always done will get you the same results you’ve always gotten. The relationship you’ve always dreamt of is outside your comfort zone!

3) Be Ready and Excited to Apply the Coaching

Again, since a breakthrough is something above and beyond the ordinary, it’s going to take doing something above and beyond what you’ve always done.

The coaching you receive might not make perfect sense because it’s going to be something different. But if you’ll trust your coach and apply the coaching they give – you will have a transformation!

You get to have a breakthrough so that you don’t keep doing the same patterns over and over forever and never create the results you want.

And the best news of all is that tomorrow we’ve got the perfect opportunity for you at Love Breakthrough LIVE!

Register for Love Breakthrough LIVE Now!

If you want to attract more love and are frustrated that you’re doing all the things and still not getting the results you desire.

If you keep thinking you have more time, but are realizing that the time keeps ticking and nothing is changing.

If you want to have conversations with your partner that don’t require a breakdown or a fight to get resolved.

If you’re ready to have the loving, supportive, connected, safe love you desire – then you get to have a breakthrough NOW!

Join us tomorrow (and be open and willing to receive) and we promise you’ll walk away with a breakthrough.

Allow us to help you break through the bricks that are up and blocking you.

This really can be the moment everything changes.

How To Be the Confident, Secure Woman Who’s Ready for Love Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 13, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel insecure while dating?

Do you wonder things like…

“What if he doesn’t like me?”
“What if we don’t feel the same connection when we see each other that we felt on the phone?”
“What if the same insecurities that had me sabotage the last relationship come up this time?”
“Will I ever just be able to be myself and know that it’s enough?”

When you feel insecure your thoughts take you away from where would really make a difference for you to be – which is inside yourself.

The key to successful dating – and the eventual dream relationship is knowing what you want, feeling secure with who you are and choosing a partner that supports you in creating that relationship.

So – how can you feel secure while dating?

The #1 thing that has women feel insecure in dating is not dating correctly and thinking they are in a relationship before they actually are.

The most important thing to remember while you’re dating is this –

Dating IS NOT a relationship.

Dating involves getting to know different men so that you can have as many different experiences as possible while discovering what it is that you want to experience in a relationship.

If you start out expecting something to become a relationship then you get attached to the idea of the man too soon – before you actually know him. Those expectations cause you to feel insecure when he doesn’t reciprocate the attachment as quickly and usually leads to the man pulling away and the dating experience coming to an end.

On the other hand, if you’re dating many men at the same time and allowing yourself to really get to know them – you keep yourself from becoming too attached to anyone prematurely and allow yourself to be fully awake to see who is showing up for you, how you feel in the experience and what you want to develop further.

And trust us – when a man wants to be in a relationship, you will know it!

Good high, quality men who know what they want, don’t waste any time becoming exclusive and committed to the woman they want to be with.

Now – here’s the thing:

Even though dating correctly and remembering that there are plenty of good men out there is important –

– the most important thing you can do to make sure you feel secure in dating – is to increase your confidence in yourself and get crystal clear about what it is that you want to experience in life and in a relationship.

If you continue to attract men who don’t know what they want or aren’t aligned with what you’d like to experience in a relationship then you need to do the HeartWork to understand what is causing you to attract what you don’t want and how you can break through and create something different!

When you create clarity, you increase your level of security and can feel certain within yourself no matter what others do or what your outside circumstances are.

When you become connected to your authentic self and fully see the vulnerable beauty that you are – then men are attracted to that energy in you!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough and become the confident, secure woman who’s ready for love then you need to join us on Saturday for Love Breakthrough LIVE!

On this FREE LIVE Love Breakthrough Coaching Call, we’ll be coaching YOU on how to identify your love barriers, break through them, and step into the love your heart truly desires.

Click here to register to join us!

After you register you’ll have the opportunity to apply to be coached live on the session –

And when you do, you’ll be coached on the call the same way we coach our clients, which will lead you to have incredible breakthroughs and create the love you want NOW!

We can’t wait for Saturday and hope we see your face there!

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How To See the Real, Vulnerable, Inspiring, Authentic, Magnetic, Beautiful YOU!

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 29, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

We’re sure you’ve heard the saying, “Fake it til you make it” right?

Do you ever feel like you’re doing that when you’re on a date, in a job interview, working on a project or meeting someone new?

What if we told you that you never need to feel that way again?! That there’s no need to fake it until you make anything!

We believe the real magic is in the phrase, “Be It and Believe It and then You Will See It!”

What does that mean?

If you’re not in the relationship, job, house (or anything really) of your dreams, there’s something about the authentic you that’s not showing up.

The laws of the universe make it so that when you’re really authentically being you and accepting all of that – your frequency is elevated so high that you naturally attract exactly what you want to you.

When you’re BEing authentically YOU – your vibration is elevated so high that a high quality man that wants exactly who you are is drawn to you!

Well, if that’s true then why aren’t we all walking around being authentically ourselves all the time?

Why do we still sometimes feel like we have to “fake it”?

Here are 5 ways you may not be being authentic (that you may or may not be aware of):

Hiding – When you hide part of yourself, keep a mask up, don’t say what you want or that something’s hurting you – those are all examples of hiding and not being authentic
Fighting – Having a “take it or leave it” attitude because of residue from past heartbreak, being reactive because of fear, getting angry when you’re afraid to get vulnerable
Running Away – You stop responding to a guy if you don’t like something he says/does, break something off that you’re still enjoying because you’re afraid to get hurt
Settling – Pretending you’re happy in a relationship when you know it’s not what you want, convincing yourself that you’re in a relationship when you’re actually not, thinking that something is better than nothing
Holding on – Not letting go of something that’s over or that should be over because it’s not everything you/the other person really want

If you’re not being yourself a man simply can’t fall in love with YOU because he can only fall in love with what you’re showing him.

If there’s parts of you that aren’t being 100% yourself then whatever relationship you create is only a reflection of that and will never be complete.

When you do the HeartWork to develop the type of relationship with yourself that has you know and accept yourself – flaws and all – then your entire experience of life changes and what you attract into your life is a reflection of that!

That’s why you’ve got to join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU 5-Day Challenge next week!

In this challenge we’ll be showing you how to:

take off the masks you’re wearing
break through the walls you have up
take the things you’re doing to sabotage your goals and show you what to do instead

In 5 days you’ll be able to see the vulnerable, inspiring, authentic, magnetic, real beautiful YOU!!

Yes, I’m ready to fall in love with ME!

Here’s your opportunity. You can either keep doing this on your own, or you can do it with a coach by your side. So many women in our community have gotten engaged and married as a result of participating in this challenge – and that can soon be you!

Don’t miss out!

Sign up for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge Now.

The Secret To Making Life (a lot) Easier

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 22, 2022 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like dating to be easier?

Would you like relationships to be more fulfilling?

Would you like things in life to work out with less heartache or frustration?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, we want you to know that the answer is to increase your confidence.

When you lack self-confidence you…

… question yourself.

… feel like you can’t trust yourself.

… make decisions that aren’t aligned with what you want to create in your life.

One of the most important things you can know in life is that the relationship you have with YOU supercedes all the other relationships in your life.

Why?

Because the relationship you have with you determines how all your other relationships will be!
Real confidence is about creating an intimate relationship with you.

It’s about answering the question: “Who am I and how am I being with ME?

If you find that you:

– Question yourself

– stay in relationships, jobs, friendships, etc knowing that the experience you’re having is not what you want

– consistently fall in love with potential instead of reality

– make excuses for disrespectful or even abusive behavior

– hold onto something that you know is not for you

– don’t honor your values

… then it’s time to look in and reflect on the relationship you have with you!

You want to ask yourself:

What am I seeing?
What experiences do I keep repeating?
What is the pattern?
What am I creating?
What actions did I take to create this?
What did I do that brought this result?
What had me take those actions?
What thoughts are behind the action?

The thoughts behind the actions are where you uncover the limiting beliefs that are creating the patterns that are bringing you the results you don’t want!

Looking for patterns in your thoughts, words, actions and results will give you the biggest insight into what’s not working.

And when you’re open to seeing it, and you then you do, – then you have a shot at breaking through those sabotaging patterns so you can increase your confidence!

This is GOLD!

Life gets good when you have enough confidence to receive the feedback life is giving you (whether through the results you’re having or through what others are telling you) and then take action doing the HeartWork to shift these patterns!

It’s not about being perfect.

If you’re human you’re going to make mistakes (and so is he!)

When you learn to trust yourself and know that you have what it takes to do what you need to do and be who you need to be, life (and dating) get easier.

You know that if you get it wrong (because sometimes you will) it doesn’t have to shake your confidence. You can move forward with grace and take the actions that will make it right for you.

It all comes down to your relationship with you.

Which is why we’re so excited about the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge that begins next Monday!

This challenge is all about falling in love with you.

In this challenge you will:

Remove the mask you hide behind that’s blocking you from the love you want
Find your voice and say what you want and feel without being afraid of pushing him away
Stop pretending or not honoring your boundaries in order to “get” someone to love you
Stop settling for less than you want and deserve in relationships
Stop doubting yourself and your ability to attract the right man or the relationship of your dreams

Join the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge NOW!

These 5 days will change your life because when you create the kind of relationship with yourself that gives you the kind of confidence you want to have – your life will go to a whole new level!

Men Aren’t Wasting Your Time, You Are!

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 1, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to know what the #1 complaint about dating is that we hear from women?

We think we’ve heard just about everything when it comes to the frustrations of dating, but there’s something that we hear more than anything else!

The thing that irks women the most about dating is feeling like it’s a waste of time.

There’s nothing more annoying to a successful woman than a man who’s wasting her time because they don’t know what they want, are trying to scam her or are just plain players.

But here’s something we want you to understand.

There’s nothing on earth that will make less of a difference in your life than blaming someone else for your circumstances.

It’s simply that simple.

The only thing that will create change in your life is being responsible for what you’re creating and getting curious about why and how you can create something different.

So… if you’re tired of feeling like men are wasting your time, look inside!

Ask yourself:
– “What is having me attract this type of man?”
– “Am I holding onto a dead-end relationship?”
– “Am I investing more time than I should with someone?”
– “What could I be doing that’s inviting this type of experience?”

Step back, get curious and see how you can adjust!

Are you not making plans for your weekend because you’re waiting and hoping that a certain someone will ask you out?

Are turning down dates with men who are showing up because you’re hoping something else will happen?

Are you spending time or engaging with someone who you know isn’t the kind of person for you?

Are you choosing to spend time with someone (either physically or emotionally) who’s already shown you he’s not the one?

These are just a couple examples of how you may be choosing to allow someone to waste your time – which is why YOU have the power to shift!

What can you do differently?

– talk to more people

– create more opportunities to meet other men

– get clear on what your limiting beliefs are so they can stop running the show!

– stop thinking dating has to be hard

The point is – it’s unnecessary to keep having the same experience over and over again.

Have you ever heard the saying, “If you make a mistake twice, it’s a decision”?

If you’re having an experience over and over that you don’t like, get curious about why you’re choosing this!

You always get to choose what experiences you want to have!

Dating can be fun, exciting and fulfilling.

Remember this too – if you’re getting to know someone and genuinely interested in seeing where it could go and then after 3 or 4 dates you decide it’s not a match – that’s not a waste of time! That’s called dating! It is a waste of time if you aren’t giving men a chance, deciding it’s over too soon or continuing to spend time with someone that’s clearly not the type of person you’re looking for.

Claim the power you hold over your life and create the type of dating experiences you want to create! Once you do that, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you start to attract exactly what you want.

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