What “Dying” and “Letting Go” Have to Do with Love

What “Dying” and “Letting Go” Have to Do with Love

by Gladys Diaz

Today, for those of us who are Christians, is Good Friday.

As a young girl, I always wondered why it was called “Good” Friday, when it marked such a sad day.  I honestly could not see how remembering a brutal death of someone we loved and followed was supposed to be something “good.”

It wasn’t until I got older that I realized that, without the death of Jesus, there would not and could not have been a resurrection.

Resurrection can only come after death.

Much like healing can only come after injury or illness…

… rebuilding can only come after destruction…

… renewed hope can only come after a period of doubt or hopelessness.

And, many times, true love comes after heartache.

I know that was the truth for me, for Michelle, and for so many of the women who we have helped around the world to find the love they desire and deserve.

It’s also what’s true if you want to create a true breakthrough and transformation in your love life.

See, there is a letting go — a “dying,” of sorts — that has to happen if you are going to truly open your heart to a new and extraordinary kind of love.

You have to be willing to let go of the past, of your fears and your heartache.  

You need to let go of your limiting beliefs and doubts, your judgments and expectations in order to create something completely new and different from what you have had and experienced in the past.

So, here’s my question to you:

What are you willing to let go of, once and for all, so that you can begin to welcome in the love that is waiting for you on the other side of your past?

What fear, doubt, belief or pattern are you ready to release so that new and extraordinary love can find its way to you?

What resentment, regret, or disempowering story are you finally willing to let go of so that you can create a new story — one that has you living the life and love your heart desires?

I know that letting go can feel scary, but it’s not quite so frightening when you don’t have to figure out how to do it on your own.  Remember, we’re here for you!

Remember: The past has no power over you, except for the power you grant it in the present.  Sometimes, letting go of just one fear or limiting belief can open the floodgates to letting new love in!
So let us know, what is one thing you are committed of letting go of so that you can have the love and happiness you desire and deserve?
Why I Didn’t Marry My Cat (A Love Story)

Why I Didn’t Marry My Cat (A Love Story)

Guest post by Katie Miranda

The other day, I received a beautiful gift from one of my clients, Katie.  She is a talented artist and jewelry designer with a wonderful sense of humor, and, in her beautifully creative way, she drew an illustration to go along with her testimonial about how she went from being a 40-something, cat-loving, divorcee who had lost hope in finally finding her true love to a now blissfully happy bride-to-be!

I was so moved by the gift that I knew I had to share it!  So, here it is — Katie’s testimonial on why she didn’t end up marrying her cat!

 

“Why Gladys is the Reason I Didn’t Marry My Cat”

 

Your married friends, your parents, your grandparents are all telling you to stop being so picky and settle down and get married.

God knows your parents didn’t face the dating challenges you are: the swiping, the ghosting, the cute guy/girl who turns out to not look at all like his/her picture, the “u r hot. what r u doing?” messages…

They tell you to “stop being so picky,” but what does that mean? Does it mean “settling”?

No, not at all! It means expanding your horizons and letting go of limiting beliefs.

 Here’s an example of what that meant for me.

So, there I was in 2015, a 40-year old woman, and the ink was just drying on my divorce paperwork. “Doomed to a life of cat lady spinsterhood” was the expression I saw on other people’s faces when I told them my age and marital status.

But I wasn’t giving up.

After all, now that I was divorced, I finally knew what wanted and DIDN’T want, right?

I hired Gladys to help me, because she had what I wanted: a happy, stable, long term marriage. I knew I could learn from her.

Gladys told me to make a list of primary qualities I wanted in my future husband: My list included:

1) hot

2) Muslim

3) financially stable

4) leads a healthy lifestyle

5) no children living with him

Tall order, you say, for a 40-year old divorcé?

The thing is, these were non-negotiable for me.

1) I had to be attracted to him.

2) Since I am Muslim I wanted to meet someone who would fast Ramadan with me, go on the hajj pilgrimage with me and do our prayers together. It was a matter of sharing the same values and being on the same page and I couldn’t get that with a non-Muslim.

3) My ex-husband was dependent on me financially and this caused a lot of problems in the marriage. I knew I didn’t want to go through that again.

4) What this meant to me is that I couldn’t live with a couch potato or someone who smoke or drank. I’m active and healthy and I wanted someone who shared these values.

5) I did not want to live with someone else’s kids or to be put in a step-mother role Not that there is anything wrong with that. It just wasn’t for me.

These things, weren’t “checklist items” for me.  They reflected the values and character traits that I wanted to attract in the man of my dreams – a man who was spiritual, trustworthy, responsible, and ambitious.  I wanted to share my life with a man I could trust and who inspired me.

Oh! I also had a list of secondary qualities, one of which, in my head, was a primary quality:

6) He has to have been born or at least raised in the US.

You see, my ex-husband was not born and raised in the US and I believed that one of the primary reasons for our divorce was a clash of cultures. (In reality, that wasn’t it, it was that he didn’t fit with some of my primary values.) I was dead set on never considering anyone who hadn’t been in the US for at least their teenage years. And no Saudis. Definitely no Saudis. I have a girlfriend who was married to a Saudi and the horror stories she told… Wow! Can’t have any guy telling me I have to cover my hair or that I can’t drive a car, right?

By the time 2016 rolled around, I had met and chatted with quite a few men over various Muslim and non-Muslim apps and sites. No one was a good fit; I was wracking up quite a collection of my own horror stories.

And then on Twitter, of all places, a cute guy DM’d me after I posted a photo from a café in Portland I had been to that day. He said he had also been there that day, but we had not seen each other. We chatted a little and then he asked me out for coffee. I looked at his profile and it said he lived in Al Qatif and Portland. I didn’t know where Al Qatif was, but I took a guess it was in Saudi Arabia and, sure enough, it was.

Oh no, not a Saudi! Too bad, cuz he was cute!

And it seemed we had a lot of shared interests, judging by his Twitter timeline. That’s the thing with Twitter, you can actually get a pretty good idea of what the person is actually into. He was into hiking, and nature, Bernie Sanders, cats, and women’s rights, just like me!

 Hmm, not exactly my stereotype of a Saudi… I wonder….

I cautiously agreed to go out to coffee and told Gladys I was concerned that he wasn’t born in the US and what would we truly have in common. I wanted to be able to sing the 80’s pop songs I grew up with in the car with my future husband. I thought this was a non-negotiable quality. In reality, it was an ego-based quality, not a values-based quality.

The funny thing is, one day we were in the car and he was singing something over and over.. “It’s a croo, croo, croo summer, leading me hero…” Eventually, I figured out that this was his interpretation of Bananarama’s “Cruel Summer,” a song he heard constantly growing up because there was an American radio station in Saudi Arabia.

“It’s a cruel, cruel summer Leaving me here on my own” 

We had a good laugh about that.

 He does know all the 80’s songs I grew up with! Hmmmm… I wonder…

Fast forward a year and a half, and we are planning our wedding! He is everything on my primary list and more. Oh, and he really loves my cat too!

If I had nixed him because he didn’t grow up in the US or because of my prejudices about Saudis, (I’d only ever met one Saudi before him, by the way!), I would have nixed the love of my life. 

When I hear women saying, “Well, he has to be a Pakistani, like me” or “He must be my exact religious sect”, or “He has to make a certain amount of money per year”, or “He has to be at least 6 feet tall,” I wonder what kind of amazing guys they might be missing out on. What if the man of your dreams makes $5000/year less than your requirement, or he is 5’11”?

Are you willing to miss out on the love of your life based on some numbers?

These are ego-based desires, not values-based desires. Just like my desire to meet and marry a man who was raised in the US.

Gladys helped me figure out what my desires were that were values-based so that I didn’t get caught up in ego-based desires and decline that date with my future husband.

The month before I met my fiancé, I asked Gladys what the one quality her clients who met the man of their dreams all shared. She said it was the belief that they would meet him.

That really stuck with me and I committed to believing I would meet my future man, and I did!

Good luck to all the single ladies out there. I know how hard it can be.

If you truly believe you will find your match and you’e willing to let go of limiting beliefs about what that person has to be, you will.

And, if you need help, like I did, talk to Gladys!

 

If you’re tired of letting your fears and doubts stop you from experiencing the love that you truly desire, we invite you to schedule time to speak with Michelle or me so that we can help you break through your fears and break through to love!

 

Ever Wonder if You Will Have the Love You Want?

Ever Wonder if You Will Have the Love You Want?

by Gladys Diaz

I wonder…

Do you ever ask yourself, “Is there any hope for me?  Will I ever really have the love and happiness I long for?”

If you have, you’re not alone.

I have been there.  I have been in that dark and lonely place where I wondered whether I would ever truly be loved and whether the deep sadness that filled my heart would be filled with joy again.

It wasn’t until I looked inside my own heart to find why it was that I believed that I couldn’t and wouldn’t be loved and then took the steps to break through those disempowering thoughts that were causing the very loneliness and sadness I was feeling that I called in the love of my life!

Now, to see me today, you might never imagine that I had those kinds of thoughts.  In fact, you might be under the impression that I’ve always been “lucky” and had a pretty easy life and healthy relationships.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t always true. There was a time in my life when I questioned whether I would ever truly love and be loved.

This is why I chose to share my story on Wednesday night’s teleclass: “The Self-Love Secrets Revealed.”

Truthfully, I hadn’t planned on going that deeply into my story, but I’m glad I did, because the feedback has been amazing!  

Women created real shifts in their lives as a result of both the story and the exercise I led them through, so, while I also hadn’t planned on sending out the replay, given the feedback I’ve received, decided to go ahead and make the recording available to you.

Why? 

Because most women keep wishing, hoping, and praying year after year for something to change in their lives, but they don’t take the steps they need to break through the heartache and create their heart’s desires.

And I know how empty and painful it can be when you desire to love and be loved, but you doubt whether you will experience that joy in your life.  I also know the exact steps you can take to get to break through to the other side and have the love you want, because I took those same steps myself, so I KNOW they work!

If you are ready to finally have the love you want, carve out the time for yourself this weekend to listen to the replay.

So, grab a cup of something yummy, your notebook or journal, you colored pens, highlighters, and sticky notes, and give yourself the gift of this teleclass.

<<Click here to access the replay of “Self-Love Secrets Revealed” and have a love breakthrough!>>

Once you’ve listened, if you’re truly inspired and ready to learn what your next steps should be, take me up on the invitation I make at the end of the call.  I only have a few left, so don’t hesitate if you know that this is YOUR TIME.

If you are ready and willing to listen and take the steps, I promise that I will make sure you have the guidance you need to have a real breakthrough in your love life!

 

 Imagine for a moment what it will be like when you are finally in the arms of the man who loves, adores, and wants nothing more than to make you happy and see you smile. THAT’S what’s waiting for you on the other side.  And that’s what Michelle and I are committed to helping you attract and create into your life. So make the time, listen to the recording, respond to the invitation, and let’s break through this together!   

<<Click here to listen to the replay and transform your love life!>>

 

Self-Sabotage Much? (Why you keep self-sabotaging your relationships)

Self-Sabotage Much? (Why you keep self-sabotaging your relationships)

by Gladys Diaz

Have you ever really wanted to break a habit or pattern you see happening over and over again in your life, but, no matter how hard you try to stop doing it on your own, no matter how many books you read, videos you watch or teleclasses you attend, you still find yourself doing the same things you promised yourself you would not do?

The same thing was true for one of my clients when it came to dating and relationships.  I’ll call her Sophia, to protect her privacy.

Sophia didn’t necessarily have trouble  attracting men.  She would get asked out on dates and, sometimes, on multiple dates by the same guy. 

The problem was that it seemed like the men she was attracting weren’t really interested in having committed relationships. They wanted to go out, have fun, and be sexually intimate, but they were not looking to have a committed relationship with her.

While it felt good to be asked out by men, this pattern of attracting men who did not want to have a long-lasting relationship with her made Sophia feel confused, frustrated, and used – especially if the man had said up front that he was looking for someone to be in a relationship, and even more so if she had been sexually intimate with him.

What Sophia discovered while we worked together was that the reason she was continuously finding herself in the same situation was not necessarily because every single man she was dating was not interested in a having a committed relationship. 

It was because she had a hidden belief that, if she slept with a man who was showing interest in her, that having that physical connection would somehow ensure that he would want to have more of an emotional connection with her.

What would happen, however, is that she would feel overly attached to the man, begin acting as if they were in a relationship, and subconsciously begin demanding more time, attention, and affection from the man.

What was even more surprising to her was that she also had a hidden belief that the man would eventually disappoint and leave her.  

So, subconsciously, she was attracting men who would confirm for her the hidden belief that she would not find a man who would love and accept her without her having to sleep with him, and that, even when she did, he would still leave her.

Now, it’s important to understand that Sophia did not want to continue repeating the same patterns. 

In fact, if you asked her, she would tell you the exact opposite of that.  

However, because these beliefs were in her subconscious, they were hidden from her – in her blind spot – and she was continuing to attract the same kind of man, take the same actions, and experience the same heartache time and time again.

As we worked together, Sophia began to uncover more of the Love Barriers that were blocking her from attracting and receiving the kind of love she really wanted.  As we did the HeartWork to remove those barriers, she began experiencing more success in dating – having more fun, attracting really great men who were interested in possibly having a relationship with her, and finally meeting a wonderful man with whom she is living out the love and life of her dreams.

If you’re like Sophia, and you are tired of trying to stop repeating the same patterns, or, worse, you’ve pretty much given up on finding the kind of love you want, then I want to encourage you and let you know that you, too, can have the kind of loving relationship you want with a man who is going to truly and deeply love you for the rest of his life!

But here’s the deal: You have to be willing to take the steps to uncover the hidden barriers that are in your blind spot, blocking you from attracting and having the relationship of your dreams. Otherwise, the self-sabotage will continue.

Trust me, if you knew what they were and how to stop allowing them to keep you repeating the same painful patterns, you would have already done it. 

Sometimes it takes working with someone who can lovingly guide you to see what you haven’t been able to see on your own. Then, once the barriers have been uncovered, we can get to the work of breaking and replacing them with new thought and behavior patterns that will allow you to easily and effortlessly attract the love you desire into your life!

If you’re ready to stop “trying” and you want to really get past this once and for all, I’ve opened up a few spots on my calendar next week, and I’d be happy to help you have your love breakthrough!

Simply click here to schedule time for a Love Breakthrough Session, and we’ll do this together!

Remember: You deserve to finally be happy and in love with a man who deserves and desires you!  Isn’t that worth doing what it takes to removing whatever’s in the way? 

No matter what’s happened in the past, you can break the patterns that have kept you stuck in heartache.  Let’s talk and breakthrough those patterns together!

Click here to schedule your Love Breakthrough Session.

 

 

My big scare (personal and vulnerable)

My big scare (personal and vulnerable)

by Gladys Diaz

Last week something happened to me that was really scary.  I can honestly say that I hadn’t felt that scared in a long time. 

I went back and forth about whether or not to share this publicly, but I think it’s important to be real and not give the impression that I’m invincible or that I don’t every have my share of “curve balls” thrown at me.

About 3 or 4 weeks ago, I started noticing a tingling sensation in my left arm, primarily from my elbow to my wrist, and, sometimes my fingertips.  I spend a lot of time on my computer, and I’ve had Carpal Tunnel Syndrome a few times, so, when I looked up the symptoms and saw that Carpal Tunnel was a common cause of tingling in the arm, I assumed it was that.

I began to notice that I also felt tingling in my left leg, and then my right leg, in the outer shin area, and didn’t know what to make of that. However, it would come and go, so, while I was a bit concerned, I didn’t make a big deal about it.

Last Tuesday, however, I felt tingling and numbness on my face, neck, down my left arm and leg. After a few  hours, I began to get concerned, so I went to Urgent Care. They recommended I go to the ER, and they proceeded to do various tests, scans, and MRIs, and recommended I stay overnight.

As I was laying down for them to conduct the CAT Scan, I began to worry.

What if this is something serious?

Why do they keep talking about “a stroke”?

Will I be able to take care of my children?

How will this impact my marriage?

What about my clients?

These thoughts were running through my head all at once, and I really had to do the work that we teach our clients to separate facts from fears, because the truth is that our mind will usually envision and play out the worst possible scenarios, and my mind, left to its own devices, is no exception!

So, I was being intentional, moment by moment, to not allow my fears to take over or take me down the slippery mental slope of imagining the very worst.

As I was going through all of this, I got really present to the fact that I truly want to LIVE!

I don’t just want to exist or survive.

I want to LIVE.

I want to LOVE. 

I want to GIVE myself fully to my family and to this world and do the work that I know I was born to do as a woman, wife, mother, and coach.

And, naturally, I started thinking about you.

I literally said to God,

“Lord, there is still so much I feel I need to do. 

What about all of the women who still haven’t met the love of their lives? 

What about the women who are feeling sad and lonely in their relationships? 

Please, allow me the opportunity to do the work You’ve called me to do.”

And, once I prayed that prayer, there was a peace that came over me. I can’t explain it.  In that moment, I just KNEW with every fiber of my being that everything was going to be okay.

I still don’t know what caused the episode or why I still have some tingling in my arms and legs.  However, I am working with a doctor to find out exactly what is going on and what to do to turn it around.

Why? Because I don’t want to pretend to the know the answers when I don’t, and I’m also not going to wait and see if things “fix” themselves on their own.  I’m willing to do whatever it takes to heal anything that is out of alignment in my body so that I can continue living, loving, carrying out my mission, and making my dreams and other women’s dreams come true!

What about you?

I don’t know what curve balls life has thrown at you.

I don’t know what heartache or pain or fear you are experiencing right now.

But here is what I do know:

If you have a dream in your heart of living in a happy, loving, intimate relationship where you are loved and desired by a man who wants nothing more than to help make your dreams come true and you are not in that relationship yet, then part of my life’s mission is helping you create that relationship.

I know it can be scary when you’re not sure why things are going the way they are going and you don’t have all the answers you need to begin turning your love life around. 

My invitation is that you not allow those fears to paralyze and take you out of the game. Don’t allow them to make you wonder if your dream is possible.  IT IS!

And, if you don’t have the answers, then it’s time to begin working with someone who does – someone who can help you see what’s been getting in the way of attracting and having the love you want and who can help give you the exact steps you can take to begin transforming yourself and your love life so that you can finally experience the loving relationship your heart desires.

You deserve all the happiness and love your heart longs for.  You truly do.

Believe it!

And if I can help you create it, then write to me or leave me a comment and let me know how I can serve and support you, because you, your dreams, and your happiness matter to me!

 

 

 

How to Create a TRUE TRANSFORMATION in Your Love Life!

by Gladys Diaz

It’s been over three weeks since The Irresistible Woman LIVE Event took place and there is still not a single day that goes by that Michelle and I do not receive an email, a text message, or a post in our Facebook group of someone sharing a new breakthrough, miracle, or manifestation that has occurred in her life as a result of having attended the event!

Here’s the fascinating thing.  The event was only three days long, yet women are sharing life-altering changes.  For example (and I am using intitials because these breakthroughs were shared in a private group:

  • C has experienced major breakthroughs in the ares of finances, her improv acting experiences, and in the attention she is receiving from a really high-quality man!

 

  • D is experiencing a whole new level of fulfillment in her relationship with her amazing boyfriend (who she met while participating in our Ready to Love Again Program!), in her career, and in her relationships with others.  In fact, her friends and family are commenting on how happy and full of life and love she is!

 

  • Z. is finally pain-free after dealing with excruciating and chronic back and shoulder pain that doctors had been unable to diagnose and treat for over 2 years!  And she had a wonderful trip with her family where she felt able to trust her husband and watched as he truly stepped up and made her feel safe, secure, and worry-free, in spite of some very unexpected and sometimes difficult situations they faced during the trip.
  • P. and her husband are completely falling in love with one another again.  There is more love, communication and romance in their marriage (they even had a wonderful date night the other night!)
  • L. had a fantastic first date with a wonderful man is excited about dating again!
  • Y. was able to confidently and respectfully walk away from a dating experience that made her feel uncomfortable and did not match the experience she wants to have in a relationship.

So, what is it that allows this kind of shift to take place after an event that was only a few days long?

It’s the process we take women through in our events and programs that have them move from “receiving information” to “Creating Transformation.”

See, there is an overwhelming amount of information out there.  You know there is.

You’ve read the books.

You’ve listened to the podcasts.

You’ve watched the videos.

You’ve even taken courses.

 

But, despite all of this information, you still feel stuck and continue repeating old patterns that keep you in a cycle of heartache.

You still can’t let go of your ex and move forward.

You still keep attracting the wrong kind of man into your life.

You still continue arguing with your partner about the same things.

You still feel frustrated and stuck and, at times, hopeless.

If all it took to create a real and permanent shift was information, or even having a powerful insight, you would have already made the changes you know you need to make.

However, it takes more than good information or content, or even a really powerful “a-ha” moment to take what you are learning and seeing about yourself and create a truly permanent change.

In our work, we help you not only distinguish and work through the fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that are creating dysfunctional patterns in your life and love life. We also teach you how to replace those Love Barriers with new and empowering thoughts, actions, and attitudes that allow you to create permanent, life-altering transformation in your life!

If you’re ready to learn more about this, check out the quick video I shot for you on Friday and then hit “reply” to this email and answer the 2 questions I ask you at the end of the video.  

I will personally be reading and responding to each of the emails and I will be opening up a few spots on my calendar specifically to help you create your own Love Breakthrough Action Plan on a Love Breakthrough Session.

 

 

 

Obviously, there are not enough slots in my calendar to speak personally to all of the thousands of women who will be reading this email.  However, I know that the truly committed women will watch the video, reply to this email, and be open to receiving your next best steps to create a true transformation in your love life.

 

If that is YOU, and you are READY to create true and permanent change in your life, and you are ready to do what it takes to make the necessary changes to create your own personal transformation, then all you have to do is:

  1. Watch the video.
  2. Click reply and answer the 2 questions I ask at the end of the video.
  3. Get ready to create a TRUE TRANSFORMATION in your love life!

 

Remember:

Creating a true and permanent transformation does not have to be “hard.” It can be easy and effortless when you know exactly what steps you need to take and you have guidance from someone who can help you create the results you want. Let’s do this together!  

Watch the video know and reply to send me your responses!  

I can’t wait to read them and write back to you! 

 

 

 

 

 

Remember:

Creating a true and permanent transformation does not have to be “hard.” It can be easy and effortless when you know exactly what steps you need to take and you have guidance from someone who can help you create the results you want. Let’s do this together!  

 

Watch the video know and reply to send me your responses!  

I can’t wait to read them and write back to you! 

 

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