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Top Three “Red Flags” to Watch For

by heartsdesireintl | Nov 17, 2020 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

If you’re dating, you’ve probably heard the term “red flag.” But do you know what a real “red flag” is?

Do you know what you should be watching out for while dating?

Do you know what things make a man “undateable”?

You may be surprised to hear that there aren’t really that many “red flags.” There are some things that you want to be paying attention to, and that’s what we want to focus on today.

While dating, you want to have an open mind and an open heart while still noticing whether or not a man is “datable.” You want to allow yourself to fall in love with someone while not allowing the chemistry or the attraction to be the driving factor.

So, what are some real “red flags” you want to watch out for?

A man is in another relationship. Whether he’s in the process of breaking up, still married, separated, in the legal process of divorce, they’re working out custody issues, still living together but not in love, or any other reason that keeps them connected to another person, a man who is in any way, shape, or form still involved with someone else is a bright red flag!.

Why is this important to pay attention to?

If someone is willing to date you while they are still in a relationship with someone else, he’s already telling you something about his character.

We have worked with women who were dating someone who was “leaving” their partner, and then 2 years, 4 years, even 7 years down the road , they are still with that other person. Waiting for him to choose them!

You don’t want to set yourself up to lose in dating.

When you hear that someone is in a relationship with someone else and you don’t see that as a red flag, it has to do with your worthiness.

You deserve someone who can and is willing to fully commit to you, And, if you catch yourself pushing that thought to the side, making excuses for him, or justifying his situation to yourself and others, then you get to ask what’s going on for you and why you’re not seeing that you deserve more.

The thought that would come up for me when I was allowing myself to ignore this read flag was “If they have that many options and they want to be with me, then there must be something really special about me.”

Can you hear the unworthiness in that question?

The thing is that this person couldn’t commit himself fully to you even if he wanted to because he’s still committed to someone else.

If he’s willing to be with you while still being with someone else, why would he stay committed to you down the road?

If you’re involved with a man who’s involved with someone else, it’s time to reach out for support so that you can make a choice the empowers you and is aligned with your dream of a happy, loving relationship.

2. A man that has an active addiction. Regardless of what the addiction is, whether it’s alcohol, drugs, pornography, food, gambling, etc, this is a red flag.

Why is this important to look out for?

When someone has an active addiction to something, that thing will always be the priority in his life. That means that you will not be the priority in his life. It’s not that he’s a “bad person,” it’s that he has a problem that takes over his reasoning.

You want to make sure that you’re aware and awake and that you’re not blinded by infatuation, desperation, chemistry, or attraction when choosing who to date and fall in love with.

Too many women mistakenly believe that if they love the man enough, wait long enough, or help him enough, he will choose them over his addiction. It’s a really painful game to play, and one where the woman usually does not win.

Notice your thoughts.Are you pushing something away?
Are you making excuses or justifications about his behavior?
Are you choosing to not notice something that you should be paying attention to?

Ignoring a problem is never the same thing as resolving it. If you’re pushing these thoughts away, it’s time to reach out for support.

3. A man that is physically or emotionally abusive. Is the man you’re with constantly criticizing you, cutting you down or making you the brunt of his jokes? Does he refuse to take responsibility for things and turn everything back around on you?

Does he push, grab, or hit you? Even if he apologizes, cries about it, or promises never to do it again afterwards?

Why is knowing the answers to these questions important?

If you start to feel less than or criticized, especially in the early stages of a relationship, this person is simply not right for you.

Someone who has good intentions is not going to put you down or make you the brunt of his jokes.

If you’ve mentioned that this is hurtful, and he’s sensed that he can get away with this with you, and he continues to treat you this way, he’s not trying to actually win your heart.

Pay attention!

If you don’t feel better about yourself when or after you’re with someone, then you shouldn’t be dating him.

When dating or in a relationship with someone, make sure that chemistry doesn’t overpower your integrity.

If you see that you are afraid, denying your values, making excuses, hiding things from your family and friends, and ignoring some really clear warning signs, it is time to get support NOW!

This is where the HeartWork comes into play as a way of raising your own level of self-worth.

When you have high levels of self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth, you know that you deserve better and you don’t settle for anything less.

You notice these red flags and you choose to walk away, knowing that you will attract someone who loves, cherishes, honors, and chooses YOU, and that you can have the loving, peaceful, intimate relationship of your dreams with.

Breaking through the Love Barriers stopping you from having the kind of love you want is one of the most important journeys of your life, and if you’d like support so that you have the tools to overcome self-doubt, not settle for anything less than the extraordinary love you desire and deserve, we’d love to talk to you.

We want you to know not just how to attract a man but how to attract the RIGHT man – someone who will be everything you want and deserve and more!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

Let us support you in recognizing what’s missing in your dating and relationship experiences so that you can create the relationship of your dreams now!

Are You Ready to be Irresistible?

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 30, 2020 | Uncategorized

by Gladys Diaz

It’s hard to believe that it’s been a week since the Irresistible Woman LIVE event began, and we’re still feeling the high!

Were you there with us?

If you were, are you still feeling it?
What were your biggest takeaways?

If you weren’t, please whitelist our email address so that you’ll know when to join us next time (Yes! There’s something new on the horizon, and you want to make sure you find out about it!!)

Here’s what ladies are saying about the event:

“So so much, so many nuggets and so much valuable information. I got freed up and my backpack of boulders came off!”

“The energy was so powerful!”

“The mirror exercise was transforming.”

“I’m still on a high from the fantabulous event!”

“My whole life was hard from everything, and now it doesn’t have to be that way. My whole life can be easy!! These things were huge for me, and will change my life forever.”

We seriously had such a blast with the incredible, successful, powerful women who showed up to be with us live!

We had women there from all over the world! Women from Jamaica and Israel and Australia, just to name a few, showed up to uplevel the experience they’re having in their love life so that it can match the success they have in the rest of their lives.

So many women have fears around being alone, fears about commitment, feel like they’re not able to trust.

Other women feel like they aren’t able to communicate well with their partners, that all discussions end up as arguments or that they simply want to feel more excited about their long-term relationship.

Can you relate?

We dove deep into these topics, and so many more!

Women really got to see that there’s a gap between the woman they want to be and the experience they want to have in a loving relationship and the woman they’re currently showing up as in relationships. And that knowledge is power!

The ladies who attended the event really got that they can have everything they desire!

We supported women in seeing the power of context and how, as they move their Love Barriers out of the way, they can clearly see the Irresistible Woman that’s already inside of them!

Women said:

“I became aware that I was focusing on what I didn’t want, instead of the experience I do want.”

“…all of your uplifting words – setting boundaries, being worthy and being strong enough to know I’m not going to settle for a toxic relationship and how to be graceful about it. To know I am a gift.”

“I feel more confident and like I have hope again!”

Oh, how we want that for every single woman, including you, NAME.

This was such an incredible event and such an honor to stand with the women who attended.

We pulled it off despite the challenges, and that’s what happens when you stay committed to your vision, you have the skills to work through the challenging times, and that gives you the confidence to know that you CAN create everything that you desire.

We have another invitation for you.

Whether you were with us at the event or not, we want to open up our Coaching Corner to you. This is your opportunity to ask for what you want, to show up for yourself and take a step towards hope and confidence. Have the courage to schedule an appointment with a coach and then show up powerfully to let them guide you.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

If you don’t take the first step now, then no one can take the next step with you. You are strong and confident and courageous and irresistible!

Let’s make your dreams come true together!

It’s EASY for You to Have the Love of Your Dreams!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 16, 2020 | Uncategorized

by Gladys Diaz

We’re living in a very uncertain world right now, and because of that dating has changed and may look completely different to you.

Have you felt that?

When we’re faced with a lot of uncertainty, it’s common for fear to come up, for us to pull back, to reevaluate our circumstances, and to try to control everything around us.

This is a normal human response, and is why dating (and many other things in your life) may have felt (and continue to feel) so strange right now.

If you’re feeling hopeless about dating, or anything else in your life, we want you to know that you don’t have to feel that way. You can rise up and create exactly the life you want to create.

This week on our LoveChat with the Love Twins, we had a conversation with one of our past clients, Denise, who went from hopeless to “I do.” Her story is so powerful we wanted to share it with you!

Denise came to us a couple of years ago when her life was feeling like a struggle!

She was a single mom, working long hours as a hair stylist, and coming home to a house that she’d been sharing with a man who had broken up with her over a year prior! Not the ideal situation, right?!

A year and a half prior to that, she’d been happily dating this man, thought he was the one, and bought a house with him. After just a few short months of living together, he broke up with her completely out the blue and she was devastated.

She felt like she’d lost herself, because she’d given herself and her values away. She was in a really dark place and didn’t know who she was anymore.

After reading an email from us, she responded and poured her heart out to us. We remember those emails so well!

After a conversation where we listened to her, supported her, and then stood for her to see past her limiting beliefs, she decided to invest in herself and hire us to coach her.

But here’s the thing she pointed out and that we want to highlight.

At first she was mad. She didn’t like that we’d pointed out her limiting belief.

We didn’t make her wrong for it, but we helped her to see what she couldn’t see. As she shared this on Tuesday, we both got emotional because the truth is, and what she came to see later was, that we believed in her more than she did.

We stood for her so that she could have the life she wanted.

And, here’s what happened…

The very next day after investing in a program she didn’t think she could afford, the house that had been on the market for over a year SOLD!

The very next day!

A couple of months later, she found her dream home, in the same neighborhood she’d lived in before, and was able to send her daughter to the school she’d dreamed of.

She asked for a raise at work, started working less hours, and just a couple of months later, she met Dustin, her now-husband!

All of this happened within just a few months of joining our program!

Why did these things happen for her?

Because Denise dismantled the limiting belief that kept her from truly believing that she could have the love and the life she’d always dreamed of.

She got clear on what she wanted, and had become open to receiving it.

She had come to know deeply that she deserved and could create anything that she wanted.

And then she did!

When she was reflecting on this she said, “I didn’t realize it was that easy!”

The beautiful thing is that it is.

She got clear on what she wanted and then took committed action to create it.

It is that easy.

Denise said, “It may seem counterintuitive to invest in yourself first, but when you do, the ROI is so much bigger!”

She is living proof that taking a risk on yourself and seeing that you’re worth it matters.

Not only did she create all of that in just the few short months after she started working with us, but every year since, she has grown, her love has grown, and her bank account has, too!

So what do you want?

Are you going to stop wasting time and claim what you deserve?

Are you going to choose you?

If you’re ready to get clear about what you want and learn the steps to easily create the life and relationship of your dreams, then join us for The Irresistible Woman Live! This 3-day, immersive, , and transformational live virtual event is perfect for the smart, successful woman who wants to stop wasting her time, struggling in love and relationships, and wants to create the love and happiness she’s always wanted in the relationship of her dreams!

And to help make it even easier for you to say “YES!” to yourself and your relationship dreams, we’re doing something special (and a little crazy!)!

We celebrated our 50th birthday this week, and, to celebrate it with YOU, we’re gifting YOU a ticket to the Irresistible Woman LIVE for only $50! (regularly $497!)

So, click on the link below, grab your special Birthday Ticket, and join us on October 23rd-25th

Click HERE to grab your ticket and start creating the relationship of your dreams NOW!

It really can be that easy!

We want nothing more than for you to have everything you desire, because, when your dreams come true, ours do too!

So, what do you say? Are you in?

Grab your special Birthday ticket Now!

Extraordinary Success AND Extraordinary Love!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 15, 2020 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

4by Gladys Diaz

There are many women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship. They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both.

What do you believe?

Here’s the deal: if you believe that you can’t have both, you are living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

This week on Love Chat with the Love Twins, we featured some incredible women, colleagues and dear friends of ours, who are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives. Through these conversations, we really highlighted how not only is it possible for you to have both – but it actually makes all of it even better!

In one of the interviews, we got to hear from Amy Yamada’s partner, Ken, who shared his experience as a man being in partnership with such an incredible and successful woman!

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman. Ken shared how much more attracted he was to Amy knowing that she was an entrepreneur and motivational speaker.

For her, at first, she felt uneasy sharing about her business with him for fear of being in here “masculine” energy. But when she decided to lean into being her authentic self, which includes being an entrepreneur , it allowed him to really see her, and it ended up being one of the things that most attracted him to her.

He said he simply wouldn’t have been attracted to her if she had not led with that.

NOT the fact that she was a business woman, but that she was AUTHENTIC.

What more proof do you need, ladies?!

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying – sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face because I’d just been on off the phone with my business coach. I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business.

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream. All these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire International for that matter, would be without him. (And now he has a great business of his own doing this for other people, too! Talk about a win-win!)

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more.

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my very soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and said, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.”

Definitely another tearful moment for me!

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I am! No award,degree, or certificate can hold a candle to that!

The absolutely beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you for your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together.

It also gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself.

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they can share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in business and love.

If you have a limiting belief that you need to choose between business and love then we have something very important to share with you.

In just two weeks we’ll be hostingThe Irresistible Woman LIVE virtual live event, and you won’t want to miss it!!

This 3-day, highly interactive, and transformational live virtual event for smart, successful women who want to stop wasting time and want to start having SUCCESS in love!

This is one of the fastest and most effective ways to uncover what’s been getting in the way of you having the happy, loving, deeply connected relationship your heart desires!

The event is happening on October 23rd-25th, and we can’t wait to have you there!

In fact, we’re so committed to having you there, that, for Birthday Week, we’re lowering the price of the ticket to just $47!!! (It’s our birthday, and will give you gifts if we want to!!!)

Click HERE to grab your ticket NOW!

When you know that you are a loveable woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too.

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, business success and all, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely.

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

Join us to discover this for yourself!

This is what I know was true for me and, it is true for you, too.

Are You Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop?

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 2, 2020 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Forgiveness, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

How do you keep the love growing?

How do you keep the relationship from going stale?

How do you keep your marriage from getting complacent, too comfortable, or boring?

There is something we hear a lot from women. A very common concern is “Things are great now, but what happens when _________ (you fill in the blank).”

How do you not just create a relationship, but a long-lasting relationship that gets better and better with time?

We find that women who have this concern are waiting for the other shoe to drop — even when things are going well. They have a fear – whether it’s that they’re afraid he’s not trustworthy, that they’ll eventually fall into old habits and ruin things, or they’re sure there’s something wrong with him that they just haven’t seen yet – and it’s causing them to sabotage their relationships over and over again.

The problem when you are in this cycle of waiting for something to go wrong is that your focus is on what isn’t going to work, versus what’s right and going well in the present .

See if this sounds familiar…

One of our past clients found herself in this pattern. After years and years of dating, she finally found herself in the relationship of her dreams. She had met a wonderful man, and they had an incredible time together. He would fly to see her and pay to fly her out to visit him. Things were going wonderfully, and he was starting to initiate conversations about where they wanted to take the relationship next. EEEEE – exciting!

One weekend, he flew out to see her and she found herself acting strange. She could feel herself pulling away and trying to withdraw, and when he would ask what was wrong, she would respond like most women do by saying, “Nothing!”

Well, he was persistent with asking her what was going on, and eventually she told him that she could feel herself pulling away because she was waiting for something to go wrong. – How could things actually be this good?

Instead of being overjoyed and in the moment about how wonderful things were for her then, she was worried about what might happen to ruin things in the future.

Have you ever experienced yourself doing something similar?

This pattern of behavior is so detrimental and destructive to relationships, because when men are having to constantly defend themselves against things they aren’t doing, or feel like they’re paying the price for men who came before them, they get exhausted by it, and the love and intimacy starts to chip away.

When you have a history of bad relationships or trauma from your childhood, you often spend time and energy in your current relationship looking for that same history to repeat itself as a way to prepare yourself for what may happen.

The thing is, if you go into a relationship, even with the perfect man, doing this, you will sabotage it.

So, how does this show up for you?

Does it show up like it did for this client, where you pull away when things are going well?

Do you always feel like you have to do something to either “fix” the situation or the person you’re dating?

Do you create drama in your relationship so that you can feel the dips of things going badly in order to feel the high that comes with things being good again?

Here’s how you can recognize when you’re in the pattern of drama or looking for things to go wrong in our relationship:

You’re telling someone about something that isn’t working in your life and they give you a solution, and you respond with a “Yeah, but…!”

Someone presents a solution to you, and you follow-up with yet another problem that needs to be solved..

No matter how well things are going, you don’t allow yourself to enjoy the good times because you are preparing yourself for the impending doom that is on its way.

Recognizing this pattern is one of the first steps in the Heartwork that we teach, so that you can start training yourself to experience happiness and joy. Getting to a place where you understand that “peace” does not equal “boring” is a great place to begin.

Here’s the truth: Life comes with enough challenges that you don’t want or need to u create more of them.

We often hear the phrase, “Hard times are part of being in a relationship,,” and that makes us cringe! Yes, hard times come sometimes. That’s part of life. But hard times are not a requirement in a relationship.

Our goal is for every one of our clients to experience joy, love, and excitement in a relationship and to know that those can come on an ordinary day simply because you’re together.

If you’re looking for more ways to break this pattern of drama and expecting bad things to happen in your relationship, please join us tomorrow for our Reignite the Spark Masterclass !

This 3-hour event is for every woman who is looking to make her relationship, partnership, or marriage the best that it’s ever been. We want to help you take things to the next level to experience even more love, excitement and joy in your life and relationship than ever before.

Click HERE to register NOW!

Marriage doesn’t have to be hard or get boring., Feeling peaceful and comfortable with your partner is a good thing. And just because you’ve been together a long time doesn’t mean the passion has to fade.

When I’m sitting on my couch and I look over at Ric and my boys, I think “This is it! This is what joy feels like! This is what I was waiting for!”

That’s what we want for you, too, NAME!!

Join us tomorrow for Reignite the Spark!

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