by heartsdesireintl | Oct 3, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance
by Gladys Diaz
“How do I find my soulmate?
“How do I know if he’s my soulmate?”
Those are probably two of the most-frequently asked questions I hear from women! And who can blame them? Everyone wants to know that the next person they date or the man who they are with is, in fact, “The One,” their soulmate.
When my first husband, Andy, passed away, I swore that that was it for me. I was so upset and saddened at the thought that my once-in-a lifetime love – my soulmate – had come and gone and I’d no longer have the experience of sharing my life and soul with someone who truly and unconditionally loved me as much as I loved him.
Thankfully, I was wrong!
When I met and began falling in love with Ric, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was the one I’d be spending the rest of my life with. I was ecstatic that I had been wrong about there only being one person in all the world who would I would love and who would love me in such a powerful, passionate, incredible way!
While the idea of having one soulmate that has been predestined to share his life with you can seem very romantic, that belief is fed by a fear of scarcity, which is what has so many women – perhaps even you – think that you have to find that one, “perfect” guy, or your doomed to experience a lifetime of loneliness.
That is scary. And depressing.
The truth is that there is an abundance of wonderful, loving, men who are also seeking out someone with whom they would like to spend their lives. In fact, they are out there, looking for you! And the great news is that, as you meet and get to know them, then you get to choose which ones you’d like to get to know better, and, eventually, which one you’d like to spend the rest of your life with.
So, the question remains: How do you find your soulmate?
Well, it begins with YOU.
Whether you are single and looking to attract your soulmate or you’re in a relationship with someone that doesn’t feel like everything you thought it would be, loving and being loved by your soulmate begins with being crystal-clear about what it is that you want to experience in a relationship.
If you want to experience love, passion, and fun in your relationship, then be loving, passionate, and fun NOW.
If you want to experience trust, compassion, and forgiveness in your relationship, be trusting and trustworthy, compassionate, and forgiving NOW.
If you want to experience a drama-free, peaceful, and easy-flowing relationship, then stop creating and inviting drama into your life, seek to be peaceful with others, and be open to not having to control and manage everything and everyone in your life.
How you attract your soulmate is that you are BEing everything you want to experience in your relationship in your life right now!
And in BEing everything your heart desires, you are living from your soul!
The love that you want, dream of, and long for isn’t something that is or that you will find anywhere outside of you. Like attracts like. So, if you want to attract someone who is going to give you the experience you would like to have in love for the rest of your life, you need to start being that in your life NOW.
That is how he will recognize you! And that is how he will be drawn to you!
This may sound “woo-woo” to you. You can choose to believe it or not. But if you haven’t found your soulmate yet, or if you thought the man you are with was your soulmate and you’re beginning to doubt it, consider that being with your soulmate is not about fate, or chance, or luck. It’s about you BEing that amazing, irresistibly alluring love magnet that he simply can’t resist falling in love with!
If you’d like to hear more about how to BE the love you want to see and experience with a soulmate, I invite you to check out the interview that airs today on the Global Latino Summit! One of my very good friends and internationally renowned author and speaker, Deborah Deras, interviewed me on “How to Go From Heartbreak to Finding Your Soulmate.”
This was one of the most fun and heart-warming interviews I’ve done to date, and I know you’ll really enjoy it! Just click here to register for the Global Latino Summit, and you’ll receive instant access to the interview, as well as the other amazing interviews she is making available. But hurry! This interview is only available for 24 hours, so you’ll want to head on over the GLS site now!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
P.S. Ready to attract your soulmate or transform your relationship in 2015? I’m opening enrollment for my VIP Private Coaching Program now! Click here to set up a time to talk and see if this program is right for you! Let’s make 2015 the year your dreams come true!
by heartsdesireintl | Sep 26, 2014 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Marriage, Relationship Advice
by Gladys Diaz
I’m writing to this post right after going for a run… A real run!
What I mean is that, lately, I’ve been sort-of-kind-of-running, which means I’ve been walking a lot more than running during my 5K runs (and that’s on the days that I actually get out there). This past Monday, however, I finally got real with myself about how I’ve been playing with regard to my fitness and health, and I made a commitment to myself that I was going to have the best run I’ve ever had!
I started out strong and felt really good when I saw that I was going at a faster pace than I had ever run! Half-way through the run, however, I began feeling a really bad pain in my knee. I slowed down a bit, but kept running. Toward the end of my run, the pain was pretty intense, so I chose to start walking a little earlier than I normally would to cool down, just so that I could make it home.
I realize some might say that I should have “listened to my body” a little earlier. I did. I heard my body loud and clear, and it was saying: This is why you need to be consistent!
See, when I first started running, I dealt with knee pain almost every time I ran. After a few months of consistent training, however, I was running pain-free! My body had adjusted to the movements I was having it make, and I was able to run longer and faster without having to ice my knees after each run.
If I had continued training the way I was a few months ago, running several times a week and working out in between runs, it’s highly unlikely that I would have been in the pain I found myself in on Monday.
So… What does any of this have to do with you and your love life? A lot!
See, the same thing holds true when it comes to practicing new relationship skills.
When you first begin practicing a new way of communicating with and reacting and responding to the man you are dating or in a relationship, things feel a little (or more than a little) uncomfortable.
It takes some mental effort to remember not to snap back, criticize him or complain, rather than simply say how you are feeling and what you would like.
It doesn’t feel natural to be vulnerable, rather than “on guard,” protecting yourself against “the enemy.”
It feels a little painful to realize that many of the things you’d been saying and doing before you chose to change were actually hurting the intimacy in your relationship, rather than making it stronger.
That’s why there are 3 things you can to do ensure that the new skills and practices stick and become natural for you:
- Get Real with YOURSELF about Yourself. The first step in making any type of real change is to get real with yourself about what’s not working. And, while it’s always easier to look at what someone else (meaning him) could or should be doing differently, the truth is that you (1) you can’t control anyone other than yourself, and (2) by looking outside of yourself, you’re actually saying that someone or something other than you has the power to create your happiness. In order for a change to become permanent, you need to want to make it yourself and for yourself. Yes, the positive changes you make will impact and benefit your man, too, but commit to making these changes for yourself – because you want to be able to experience happiness, love, and peace and you know the power to create this lies in your hands.
- Practice the Skills Consistently and Over Time. The more consistently you practice new relationship skills, the more likely they are to become habits, and the faster those habits will become new ways of being in your life and relationship. When practiced over an extended period of time, you “train your brain” to begin listening, thinking, and responding in these new ways. This allows your ability to communicate effectively and create and experience what you want in a relationship will flow naturally, with grace and ease!
- Work with Someone Who Will Hold You Accountable. Trying to make changes on your own, without support or accountability, is pretty much setting yourself up to either fail or have the changes take a lot longer than they need to. That need to do things on your own, to not allow someone to stand and be there for you is all part of your need to be in control, and comes from a fear of intimacy. The truth is that while you are capable of making changes on your own, resisting help or encouragement from someone else may be one of the reasons you are struggling to create intimacy in your relationships. Having someone who believes in and wants you to succeed hold you accountable is not a sign of weakness or that you aren’t capable of doing it on your own. Instead, it’s a sign of strength and the commitment you are making to yourself.
In my business, I have a coach and a group of colleagues who are my accountability partners. We only listen for one another’s greatness and don’t allow each other to sell out on ourselves and the goals we’ve set. In my fitness, I’ve asked my husband to be my accountability partner. He has completely transformed his lifestyle and has an unwavering commitment to working out and training over the past several years, so I want to make sure that I have someone like that on my side – someone who already has already achieved the results I want to achieve and who can help support and guide me on my way (plus, he won’t let me off the hook at all!).
If you’re ready to begin working with someone to help you reach your relationship goals, then I encourage you to set up a time to speak with me. The women who are my clients will tell you that I don’t let them sell out on themselves, that I sometimes stand for and believe in them more strongly than they do for themselves, and that I encourage them to move past the excuses, “reasons,” and barriers that are standing in the way of them achieving and experiencing the love they want to have in their lives.
That’s my commitment to you.
Now it’s up to you to commit making the changes you want to make.
The hard facts are that there are only 3 months left to make this year really count and I only have one spot opening up in my private coaching practice next month. So, stop putting it off, making excuses as to why you “can’t change” or why your situation is different, and just click here to let me know you want to talk. I’ve blocked off 3 slots in my calendar this week so that I can make sure that no one takes them unless it’s someone who is ready to get started NOW.
So, if you’re ready to get real with yourself and get consistent, I’m happy to talk about working with and holding you accountable and looking to see if the coaching program is a good fit for you!
I believe in you and I know that the love and happiness you dream of are possible for you! Let’s get started, get consistent, and make dreams happen!
By the way, that run I was telling you about? I did run my best time yet (shaved off 10 minutes!), even with having to walk at the end, and I’ve been consistent all week long! There is something to be said about making a commitment and honoring it!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
by heartsdesireintl | Sep 9, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance, Success
by Gladys Diaz
Have you ever felt like something is just too hard and it’s time to give up – even when it’s something you really want or believe in, like a dream or a goal you’ve been working on for some time?
Many times, when I’m on my runs, I tell myself I’m not going to stop until I reach a certain distance. There are times when my legs are aching, sweat is dripping into my eyes, and I feel like my chest will explode, and I just want to stop. And, sometimes, I do. But the moment I do, I check the app I use while running, and if I haven’t reached that preset distance, I will literally say to myself aloud, “Don’t you dare stop now!”
Pretty tough, right?
Well, I’ve found that sometimes I need to get real with myself, or else I’ll quit before it’s time to stop. If I don’t remind myself of what my goals are, the milestone I set, and why I’m doing something, left to my own devices, I’ll quit when things get a little too uncomfortable for me – whether it’s in running, a goal I’ve set for myself in business, my well-being, and, yes, my relationship.
What about you? Are you getting ready to give up on something?
I speak to a lot of women – women of all ages, cultures, and relationship statuses – and there’s common question that comes up:
“Do you think there’s hope for me?”
Maybe you’re a single woman who’s become frustrated with dating unavailable men or men you’re not really attracted to, or the fact you haven’t gone on a date for months (or years) and you’re wondering whether you’re just meant to be alone.
Maybe you’ve been in an on-again-off-again relationship for several years, or one in which you’ve been waiting for him to commit or proposed to you, or things just seem to be unraveling at the seams, and you wonder whether it’s time to call it quits.
Maybe you’re in a marriage where things have been on a downward spiral for a while, or you feel like you’re just housemates or co-parents, and you wonder whether it’s even worth possible to bring the love and romance you once shared together.
And maybe you’re like many of my clients and you’ve taken several courses, read many books, and done a ton of spiritual and inner work and you’re asking yourself why these thing seem to lead everyone else in the directions of their dreams, but not yours, and you’re wondering whether there’s simply something “broken” inside of you.
I don’t know where you are, but I do know this:
The only surefire way to not reach your goals and for your dreams not to come true is for you to decide to give up!
That’s the only thing that will guarantee that you won’t get what your heart desires.
So, I’m going to say this with all of my love:
Don’t you dare stop now!
What if there’s something you didn’t know you could do to turn your love life around?
What if there’s just a little more work to do to finally get the things that have been blocking love from coming to you out of your way?
What if the next guy you meet in person or online is the one who’s been looking for you all along?
What if the man you love is just waiting for a sign that you’re not ready to give up on your relationship?
What if there is still hope?
Are you seriously willing to give up without doing everything you can to make your dreams come true?
If you’re not ready to give up yet, then take out a piece of paper and answer these questions:
- What is it that my heart truly desires?
- What is making me want to stop and is in the way of me having this be realized in my life?
- Is there someone who or something that can help me discover how to get past this?
- Am I courageous enough to reach out for help and do what it takes and not give up?
- What’s the next action step I will take, rather than stop and give up?
I know you’re tired. I know you’re afraid. But I also know that you can be courageous and unstoppable. I know you can take that next action step. And I know that you don’t have to do it alone!
If you’d like support (and a nice, hard push) in taking that next step, then you can always reach out to me and step up a time to talk!
I’m not giving up on you, so don’t you dare give up on you, either!
by heartsdesireintl | Sep 3, 2014 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship Advice, Romance, Success
by Gladys Diaz
This week marks the official end of summer and start of the new school year for kids around the country. Each fall I’m reminded of how much I used to love this time of year when I was a teacher.
See, as teachers and students, we get the opportunity to start fresh and set new goals for ourselves 3 quarters into the “new year”!
Isn’t that great?
You know what’s even better?!?
You don’t have to be a parent, teacher or student to celebrate a Happy New Year today!
Think back to January of this year.
Did you create a Love Resolution for yourself?
Many of you joined us for our Love Resolution Call and created some truly amazing resolutions describing who you were resolving to be this year to attract and create the loving relationship your heart desires.
So… Did you do it?
What I mean is, did you write out your Love Resolution and read it aloud to yourself twice a day, every day?
And, if so, did you reach your goal? Are you now in a happy, loving, intimate relationship? The relationship of your dreams?
If you did, please, contact us and let us know. Send us a picture! Let us celebrate your love with you and the rest of the world! (Make sure you read Patricia’s testimonial, below!)
If you didn’t…
First, stop making yourself “wrong” about it! You didn’t do what you didn’t do. That’s true.
What’s also true is that you can start your new year TODAY!
There are still 4 months left in this calendar year and so much can happen in four months if you commit to taking the steps right now to transform yourself and your love life!
I’ve had clients meet the man of their dreams in less than four months.
I’ve had clients turn their marriages – the ones they were ready to give up on – in less than four months.
I’ve had women who had been waiting to hear that magical question for years get proposed to in less than four months!
Miracles can happen in less than four months, and some of those miracles can be YOURS!
But you have to be willing to do what you’ve been unwilling to do until now.
You have to be willing to stop resisting, putting off, and excusing away the thing you say is important to you!
If you’re like most people, too many times you pretend that the things that are most important to you – like being in a loving, passionate, intimate, and fun relationship – don’t really matter.
You minimize just how much your heart desires it.
You let yourself off the hook and make excuses for not taking the steps you know will lead you in the direction of making that dream come true.
You start focusing on other things – work, school, hobbies – to ignore the pain and disappointment of having another year go by where you find yourself either alone or lonely inside of a relationship.
Why do you do that?
Well, if you’ve been on our list for even a little while, you know the answer: Fear.
You’re afraid you want what you really want.
Most of all, you’re so afraid you won’t have what you really want that you’ll self-sabotage your way out of having and experiencing it.
So, here’s my invitation.
Take a good look at yourself and your life – especially your love life.
Is it everything you want and hope for it to be?
Are you experiencing and living the life and love your heart desires?
If you are, as I said before, please share with us!
If you’re not, then it’s time for you to get real with yourself and choose whether or not you are willing to start making your goals and dreams come true.
Today is the day you can choose to begin taking committed and inspired action that is aligned with your goals and dreams of being in the type of relationship your heart desires with an absolutely amazing man!
Today can be the beginning of your very own Happy New Year!
I have only 2 more spots left in my private coaching program for the remainder of this year. That’s it. After that, you’ll have to wait until 2015 to begin working with me, which means putting your dreams offeven longer. That’s not what I want for you.
So, don’t keep waiting for something to somehow, magically change or happen on its own. This is up toyou!
You have the power to create and make that relationship a reality, and I can teach you the skills and tools you need to start making it happen now!
Just click the link below and reserve a time to speak with me now!
<<<Click here to schedule your Ready for Love Session now!>>>
Again, I have only 2 spots left.
Time’s not stopping.
The clock’s still ticking.
This is your time to make your relationship dreams come true!
Here’s a message my client, Patricia, just sent me:
I created my Love Resolution for myself in January and happy to say I reached my goal! I am now living a happy, loving, intimate relationship, the relationship of my dreams with my fiancee, Ruvin! We were engaged after 4 months!
<<<Click here to schedule time to talk now!>>>
Right now really is the time. Think about where you were four months ago.
Is where you are now where you hoped you would be? If not, then stop wasting precious time!
Reach out and set up a time to talk with me so that I can help you get started on making your dreams come true before 2015 gets here!
by heartsdesireintl | Aug 12, 2014 | Coaching, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Relationship Advice, Success
by Gladys Diaz
In June I had the opportunity to be interviewed by friend and colleague, Gina Hussar. She was hosting The “IT” Factor Master Class I invited you to attend. The other day, as I was listening to the recording of the interview, I thought, “Everyone in our community needs to hear this! I need to share this with them!”
Gina has been generous enough to allow me to share this short interview with you so that you can eavesdrop on our conversation! I invite you grab something with which to take notes and soak up some of the tips and secrets that have lead me to having the life, business, and relationship my heart desires!
In this interview, I share:
- My story – which was not always “pretty” or easy – of how I came to be where I am today, which is where I believe heart, body, and soul is where I was created to be!
- How our book 30 Days and 30 Ways to Fall In Love with YOU! was created
- Universal Values for Success in life, business, and love
- One of my favorite rituals, which has gotten and still gets me through some of the scariest moments of my life!
I hope you enjoy this interview and that you’ll share with me the what you feel were you biggest take-aways you will use in your own life!
Click below to listen to this life-changing interview
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
You can learn more about Gina and the amazing work she does by visiting her website: 30secondstopeace.com
by heartsdesireintl | Jul 25, 2014 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Marriage, Parenting, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love, Sex, Uncategorized
by Gladys Diaz
The other day, I was watching one of my favorite TV shows with my family and they were featuring a mother in her 40s who was almost 200 pounds overweight. She was beside herself with sadness and self-loathing because she said she had given up her dreams and could not believe how much she had let herself go after having been an athlete and gymnast in her youth.
Her reason for having gotten to this point?
Being a mom.
She shared how she had gotten pregnant in college and thrown herself into being “the perfect mom” and pastor’s wife. She described how she had put so much focus on being there for her kids that she’s lost herself and forgotten who she was.
I’d like to say this is an isolated incident, but it’s not.
One of the most common fears women share with us is that they are afraid of losing themselves in a relationship.
I work with women all over the world who are trying to prove that they are Superwoman or Supermom, doing everything, working themselves to the point of exhaustion, and ignoring their own needs so that they can please and impress others.
And this isn’t an issue that only affects mothers and wives. I also see women who are single and are throwing themselves into and losing themselves in their careers, giving all of themselves, their time and attention to their bosses and companies and leaving very little time or attention for having fun, dating, and just taking care of themselves.
Unfortunately, all of these women have forgotten that the MOST important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself!
If you don’t take the time to care for yourself by making time to relax, laugh, play, nurture your mind, body, and spirit, you literally have nothing left to give – to yourself or anyone else!
Giving to the point of feeling depleted, mentally and physically exhausted –and many times resentful, because you feel you’re giving, giving, and giving without getting very much in return – not only leaves you unable to have the energy, patience, and enthusiasm to date or create a loving relationship, but also teaches people how to treat you. So it’s unfair to resent the boss who keeps adding things on your plate with no recognition or additional compensation, the PTA President who knows she can call you the night before to do a task that would take anyone else weeks, or your husband who is not helping you around the house or with the kids.
When you don’t take time to make time for yourself, don’t expect others to go out of their way to do that for you, either!
It’s essential that you do something for yourself daily. Whether it’s read a book, talk on the phone with a girlfriend, take that class you’ve been saying you want to take forever, or just sit and do nothing (one of my favorites!).
When you make your needs, dreams, and self-care a priority, you are letting yourself – and the rest of the world know – that you value yourself, believe in your dreams, and know that there isn’t a need to “sacrifice” what you love and makes you happy in order to be a great woman, partner, or mother.
You’ll also find that when you make yourself a priority, all of those people who you love and are trying to make happy will rally around you, be your biggest supporters, and help make sure you have time for yourself and to make your dreams come true!
As we were watching the show, my older son said, “Wow… She had to give up her dreams so she could take care of her kids? “
I responded, “No, she didn’t have to give up her dreams. She chose to. We get to create our lives and make our dreams come true. A woman can be a great mother, have a happy relationship, and still follow her dreams.”
His response?
“Oh, yeah, Mama. Like how you take care of us and you’re also helping your clients and building your dreams for Heart’s Desire!”
My response?
“Exactly!”
Comments? Questions? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
