Last week, I spent three powerful, inspiring, and totally transformational days with my business coach and business buddies at our mastermind, learning how to take our businesses and our lives to entirely new levels.
As I sat there, surrounded by some of the most beautiful, successful, and powerful women I know, I was filled with an overwhelming sense of gratitude to be counted among such a exceptional group of women, because I know two things for sure:
The results we produce in our lives are determined by two things:
1. The thoughts we choose to honor and allow into and out of our minds
2. The people with whom we choose to surround ourselves
That’s it!
Your level of success, happiness, and fulfillment are not determined by your past – including your parents, your ex, or the not-so-great choices you’ve made.
It has nothing to do with where you went to school, what you’ve chosen to do as a career, where you choose to live, or what your bank account says.
Your success is entirely created by you, your thoughts, and the company you choose to keep!
And when I talk about your life being a success, let there be no doubt that I’m also referring to your LOVE LIFE!
Still doubting whether this is true?
Ask yourself these questions, especially if you are not where you want to be in your love life:
When you think about your lovelife and having the kind of happy, loving relationship, that gives you the experience of loving and being loved every single day of your life, what are your first thoughts? Are you thoughts positive and encouraging, or do you come up with reasons why you don’t think you’ll ever have that?
When you think about men, are your first thoughts that they are strong, generous, and only want to see women happy, or do your defenses and judgments immediately go up when you think about how men see and treat you?
When you are with your friends, are you bashing men, talking about how there aren’t any good men left, and spending most of your time talking about dating and relationship horror stories, or are you talking about the kind of man you want to attract and the relationship you are creating together?
When you look at where you are investing your time, money, energy, and attention, does it include working with someone who can help you create new thoughts, habits, and patterns that will have you produce the kinds of results you want in your love life, or do you keep making excuses about how it’s not the right time, you can’t afford it, or finding other reasons to stay stuck where you are, rather than making a commitment to finally breakthrough and claim the love that is already waiting for you?
Now, that you’ve asked yourself those questions, you should be able to see clearly that the results you are producing in your love life are consistent with the thoughts you choose to think, which influence the words you choose to speak to yourself and others, and the company you keep!
I make it a very intentional point to guard the thoughts that enter my mind, the words that leave my mouth, and the people who I allow to contribute to me and my life as a member of my Circle of Influence.
While I strive to be loving to and respectful of everyone, I am clear that I only want to surround myself with people who are as committed to creating a settle-for-nothing-less-than-extraordinary life where they are living the life of their dreams and creating the loving relationships their hearts desire!
If this isn’t what you are seeing in your life, I encourage you to take inventory of the kinds of books, TV shows, videos and audios and events in which you are engaging.
Are they adding positive, inspiring, and uplifting value to your life?
If not, seriously consider making some changes, as all of these things influence both your conscious and subconscious thoughts!
And, when it comes to your friends and the people with which you are spending the most time,
Are they encouraging, reaffirming, and supporting you in creating a happy, loving, fulfilling romantic relationship with an amazing man who will love and cherish you?
If not, again, it’s time to make some life-changing choices and begin surrounding yourself with women who are as committed as you are to transforming themselves and their lives so that they can have the love they truly want.
The great news for you is that we’ve opened the doors to the Ready to Love Again program, and I can tell you that you won’t find a more inspiring, encouraging, and loving group of women with whom to begin your love journey! In this program, you will have a safe space in which to learn, share, have breakthroughs, and transform your relationship to yourself, men, and relationships!
It’s our signature program, it’s only offered once a year, and we limit the number of women we allow into the program so that we can be sure to offer the level of support and service we know you want and deserve.
So, if you’re ready to make some real changes and get the kinds of results you want in your love life, schedule some time to speak with meand together we’ll see what your love goals are, what may be standing in the way of you creating the kind of relationship you want, and whether or not the Ready to Love Again program is the right fit for you!
We’d love to be part of your Circle of Influence and have you be part of ours!
Seats for the program are already filling fast, and we sold out last year, so don’t allow your negative, limiting thoughts to talk you into putting off scheduling time to talk.
I’m back in the office today after a wonderful week off with my 3 guys for Spring Break. As I’m sitting here, at my desk, there’s a group of birds outside my window serenading me, the grass and trees are a vibrant green, and I can see the beautiful buds about to bloom on the tree outside my office.
It feels as if everything is fresh and new! Sights and sounds in high-def and surround sound, all pointing to new beginnings! So, I wonder… Is that how you’re feeling about your love life?
Are you feeling the excitement, hope and possibility of new love?
If you’re single, are you excited about the men you are speaking to right now (or are there any)?
If you’re in a relationship, are you feeling a new surge of love and connection with your partner?
Or are things feeling stagnant, boring, and dull in your love life? Chances are high that if things aren’t feeling alive, vibrant, and new, it’s because you’re in some kind of rut.
Either you’re not attracting the kind of men you’re attracted to and excited by, or you’re not even putting yourself out there because you’re so afraid you’ll get more of the same results you’ve gotten in the past…
Or you’re in a relationship and you’re not igniting the romance and love that you once felt for your guy (Did you know this is something you can actually create on a daily basis?!?)
If your love life is still stuck in the dead of winter and you want to breathe new life into it, here’s a quick exercise you can do:
Think about one thing you’d like to change about your love life or relationship. What is the thing that would make the biggest difference for you right now?
What is the thing (it can be a thought, fear, or action) that keeps getting in the way of you having that in your love life or relationship? (Here’s a warning: If you just thought of something that someone else keeps doing – such as a man or your partner – it’s going to be very difficult for you to create that change. It’s best if you turn the mirror around and look to see what is the thing that you keep noticing that you keep doing or thinking that continues to get in your way.)
Think of one action step you can take this week to help you break that thought or behavior habit. This can be tricky because you may feel like you’ve “already tried that” or that if you knew what it was, you’d be doing it already. Kindly ask the little voice in your head to shush up for a minute or two and think about an action that you can take that either –a. you only tried once and then gave up, orb. you’ve been afraid to try because you’ve been afraid it wouldn’t work
If you need help with identifying your action step, just leave a comment below or send me an email (gladys@heartsdesireintl.com), and I’ll help you see which one step would help you begin to breathe new life into your love life!
I’d love to see your responses to the 3 questions, so just put them in the comment section of the blog below or send them to me in an email.
I promise you, it doesn’t have to be “hard” or take years to experience love, excitement, and romance in your love life. If you’re committed to turning things around, it can be easy and FUN!
Don’t allow fearful or self-doubting thoughts to convince you that there is nothing you can do to transform your love life. If you really want to see a change, do the exercise. If you need help or support, leave a comment belowor send me an email and let me know.
Last weekend was one of those weekends where you know that life will never be the same again!
You can see the burning coals behind us!
Michelle and I attended Tony Robbins’ “Unleash the Power Within” event and, on the first evening we had the opportunity to face some of our biggest fears and walk on fire!
It was simultaneously one of the scariest and most exciting moments of my life! And, as it goes with these kinds of moments, some HUGE life lessons were learned, including one I’d like to share with you in the video I shot for you below.
Make sure to watch it. It’s really short and I have two important questions in invite you to ask yourself!
Today is February 29th, marking this as a Leap Year.
I don’t know why it only happens every 4 years. I just know that this day, every four years, sets this year apart from the others.
Life is like that, too.
If you look back at your life, you’ll see that the most significant and monumental experiences of your life began with a single moment…
A day that seemed like any other, and, yet, it was different because, in a single moment…
You made it different.
Until you gather the courage to make a change, to stop allowing your fears and your doubts to stop you from letting go of all the crap that keeps standing in the way of you having the happiness and love you want, nothing will change.
But when you stop, and in that single moment you say “Yes!” to yourself, “Yes!” to your happiness, “Yes!” to having the love you desire and deserve… In that moment everything changes for ever. It can never, ever be the same again!
And then you finally get to receive and have the love that has been waiting there for you all along!
We’ve seen it happen in our own lives.
We’ve seen it happen for hundreds of women around the world.
And it can happen for you.
So…We wonder…
What are you doing to set this day and this year apart from others?
What choices will you make today that will significantly change the course of your love life for ever?
What will you do with this moment in time?
How will you take your leap into love?
What are you willing to let go of?
What are you willing to leave in the past?
What are you willing to do to welcome love into your life with arms and heart wide open?
We want to support you in making this your personal Leap Year of Love!
Let us know how we can help you make this year different from all the others so that you can finally have the life and love your heart truly desires!
This week, as I’ve been speaking to some of my clients, it’s been wonderful to hear how happy they are in their new relationships and how they’ve transformed their existing relationships.
Aside from feeling happy for them, the reason this fills my heart is because I remember where they were when we first started working together!
Some of them were so afraid they would never stop being single, others were in toxic relationships that were robbing them of their happiness, and others were in relationships that seemed to be slowly (or quickly) falling apart.
Their fear showed up as hopelessness. They were afraid to hope that things could get better, because… what if they didn’t?
Despite the fear they had that things might not change for them, these women did something that I have seen make one of the biggest differences in the love lives of women around the world!
In today’s video I share with you the simple steps to shifting from resignation to acceptance and how that one shift can be the first step to transforming the current – and, by the way, temporary– state of your love life!
See, creating a shift in your life does take work, but it doesn’t have to be complicated!
Do this quick exercise in the video, then let’s talk about how to create a REAL shift in your love life!
Don’t allow resignation and hopelessness to rob you of your heart’s desires! You CAN create a shift in your love life and begin experiencing the love you want! We’re here to guide you through it!
P.S. Our theme for February is :Falling In Love With YOU!
Another way to create a shift in your love life is to begin falling in love with YOU! There is still time to join The Self-Love Secret Challenge and start the best love affair of your life – The one you have with YOUrself!
Today is a very special day at Heart’s Desire International Headquarters!
We are celebrating one of my FAVORITE love stories of all time!
Five years ago today, I was able to witness a dream-come-true for my sister, Michelle, as she walked down the aisle, escorted by her two sons to marry the love of her life, Arnie!
As I stood there, tears streaming down my face, I could not help but remember the pain and heartache that preceded this beautiful love story.
Michelle had experienced the pain of living in a marriage that had been falling apart for many years, a string of micro- and non-relationships to men who were unavailable, addicts, and who did not treat her with the love and tenderness she so longed for and deserved.
She came very close to giving up on love.
But, then a turning point happened and she discovered the secret to creating the kind of love-lasting, dream-making, extraordinary love she’d always wanted!
And it had nothing to do with Arnie!
See, Michelle discovered what had been missing all along. In fact this missing ingredient was what had her stay in an unhappy marriage for so long, attract and date the same kind of man time after painful time, and to wonder if there was something wrong with her.
In our book, 30 Days and 30 Ways to Fall In Love with YOU!, Michelle shares the secret:
I decided to take a deeper look into my relationship patterns so that I could begin to uncover what was at the source of the results I was producing.
I discovered that in the 5 years I had been dating, there was something fundamental missing in all of my dating and relationship experiences…ME! I had been trying to be the “perfect woman” to hide who I really was, because I was terrified that if a man discovered who I really was, he could never fall in love with me. I had convinced myself that the real me was unlovable.
I began to write down all the things about myself that I felt were unlovable…it was a long list! Then one by one, I began to forgive myself. I realized there was nothing I could do to change the past. All I could do now was learn the lessons and forget the details.
I gave myself permission to let it all go for good. As I let each one go, something beautiful began to happen – I began to fall in love with me!I discovered that the only love that was missing was my own. I was now free to love and to be loved!
See, what Michelle discovered is that what stops you from creating a happy and loving relationship you want is not online dating; it’s not what happened in your past; and it’s not your current partner, your ex, or the guy who didn’t love you back.
The #1 difference between the woman who is not experiencing love and happiness in her relationships and the one who IS comes down to the relationship the woman has with herself.
Period.
If you do not love, accept, and honor yourself, it will be impossible for you to attract someone into your life who will love, accept, and honor you!
In fact, it’s unfair to expect a man to love you – really love you – if you don’t truly love yourself.
And what happens is probably what you’ve been experiencing over and over again:
You keep attracting men who you hope will love and accept you.
You twist yourself into a pretzel trying to become the woman you think he might – maybe – choose to love.
Then lose yourself in the relationship, forgetting about your own needs and desires, in the hopes that you will finally feel loved.
If this is resonating with you, you’re not alone.
This happens to be the most common complaint women have about what happens when they are in a relationship.
And the reason this happens again and again is because, on a fundamental level, you do not feel that you are worthy of the kind of love you want and deserve.
So you settle.
You settle for less than what you really want.
You try to convince yourself that what you have is what you want.
And, at the end of yet another heartbreaking relationship, you’re left feeling lost, empty, lonely, and afraid – wondering if you’ll ever really have the love and happiness your heart desires.
The best part about it is we’re starting tomorrow – February 13th, the day before Valentine’s Day – which means you won’t be alone on Valentine’s Day, you’ll be having fun, AND you’re going to experience what it’s like to feel truly loved by the person with whom you’ll have the longest relationship of your life: YOU!
So, hurry up!
Join The Self-Love Secretnow, and take the first step toward creating the love affair of a lifetime!
By the way, the book 30 Days and 30 Ways to Fall In Love with YOU! is only one of the 6 features you get in The Self-Love Secret Bundle, including a members-only Facebook page where you will receive daily self-love missions, get coaching and support, share your self-love victories!
CLICK HEREnow and begin your 21-day journey to attracting the love of your life today!
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