Swipe Smarter, Not Harder: Expert Insights & Strategies for Online Dating

Swipe Smarter, Not Harder: Expert Insights & Strategies for Online Dating

by | May 13, 2024 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Why do some people have an amazing experience with online dating and others feel like it stinks, sucks, or is just plain NOT fun?

In our modern world of dating and romance, online dating sites and apps are one of the main ways couples are meeting one another. They promise love, all from the convenience of your phone or laptop.

But diving into the world of online dating is less like jumping into a pool and more like stepping onto a high-speed treadmill… 

Here’s how to navigate the online dating scene, from getting your mindset in the right place, setting a powerful and inspiring intention and creating a magnetic profile that will attract the RIGHT man to you! (If you missed our last Love Chat With The Love Twins on this topic, click HERE to tune in!)

So why are some women matching with many high-quality men, getting asked out on dates, and having a ton of fun meeting and getting to know new men, while others feel like they’re matching with nothing but scammers, cat-fishers, or men who are still living in their mother’s basement? 

Let me relate to it like this:

There are some people that really love going to the gym, they love the atmosphere, the sweating, and the challenge. I’m not really one of those people – I really have to work at motivating myself to get there.

However, if I knew – without a doubt – that the results I wanted were on the other side of going – I’d probably feel differently! If I knew that strength, vitality, and health were waiting for me, just by showing up – that belief would shift my mindset and I’d be there every day!

It’s the same with online dating.

The truth is: If you’re not getting the results you want, the first place you need to look is at your mindset.

 

If you believe online dating won’t work for you, that you’ll only attract scammers, or that it will be hard, time consuming and scary – then that’s exactly what you’ll get. 

I can give you all the tips and tricks in the book to craft the perfect online profile (and I will in just a moment!), but if your mindset isn’t in the right place none of it will make a difference.

The first step in attracting Extraordinary Love through online dating is: 

Shifting Your Energy – What are some of the fears you have that are influencing what you’re experiencing in dating? 

Wouldn’t it be amazing if all you had to do is shift your mindset in order for the things you’re doing in dating to work! 

It really could be that simple! 

After you shift your energy, the 2nd thing to do is: 

Set Your Intention – What do you want to create in your online dating experience and future relationship?

Going back to the analogy of going to the gym and working out, my intention really matters in how motivated I’m going to be to do it.

If my intention is: “I want to lose the 10 pounds I haven’t been able to shed for the last 10 years.” I might not be very inspired to work for it. 

However, my intention is: “To recreate myself as a healthy woman who feels vibrant and alive so I can travel to visit my kids and live a long life with my future grandchildren.” – that’s a vision! 

Set a powerful and inspiring intention for your dating experience. For example: 

 “I’m open to meeting men who are aligned with my vision where I have fun and get to create an extraordinary relationship with one who will become my husband.”

Okay – so after you’ve made sure your mindset is in the right place and set a powerful and inspiring intention, then – and ONLY then, can you get on the apps and begin crafting the profile that will attract the RIGHT man to you! 

Craft a Magnetic Online Dating Profile

Your profile needs to reflect YOU.

Not to put the pressure on, but the fact is, you have 3-6 seconds (or in some cases, more like ½ a second) to grab the attention of a future date or partner.

Here are 5 keys to crafting the profile that will grab his attention, reflect you, and inspire the RIGHT men to swipe right!  

  1. Profile Pictures – A picture might say a thousand words, but make sure yours are saying the right ones. 

Include 4-5 photos in your profile. Make sure the first one is a headshot photo, where you’re facing forward, eyes open and smiling. NO SELFIES! 

For the remaining photos, opt for photos that show the “real” you—maybe you’re kayaking, reading in a coffee shop, or building a robot. 

*** Tips for great online dating profile pictures:

  • No group photos, or photos of other people’s heads or arms cut off. 
  • Make sure you’re the focus of the picture and if possible, include photos where you’re taking up ⅔ of the photo
  • Have at least one full-body shot
  • Include lifestyle photos showing things you enjoy doing
  • Do NOT use filters
  • SMILE 😀

2. 1st Line of Bio – Who are you? 

What’s the MOST important thing you want someone to know about you?

Not what you do for work – this isn’t LinkedIN. It’s not that you love dogs or that you’ve traveled the world.

WHO are you? What are the top three words that describe YOU? 

Example: “I am an optimistic, joyful, and spiritual woman.”

Leave out the masculine words like, determined, committed or punctual. These words are for your resume, not your dating profile. Remember your intention and that the goal here is to attract the RIGHT man. 

3. 2nd Line of Bio – Why are you here?

The next line in your online dating profile description or bio is to share what you’re looking to create. Share the top 5 words that describe what you want to create in the dating experience and relationship. (This is why it’s so important to have a clear intention and love vision!)

Examples:  

  • “I’m seeking to experience a fun, inspiring, loving relationship that leads to marriage.” 
  • “I’m looking to create a long-term loving relationship full of laughter, fun, spirituality and growth.” 

The person who’s inspired by your statement will probably be intrigued and keep reading! This is a vital key in attracting the RIGHT men to you.

4. 3rd Line of Bio – What do you enjoy doing? 

Next, share a few of the things you enjoy doing with someone else. 

Do you enjoy dancing, going on long hikes, meeting new people or learning how to cook new recipes? 

Take the opportunity to share a few of the things you’d enjoy doing on a date should someone connect with you further.

5. Invitation

The final piece of your magnetic profile is the invitation. 

 “If this sounds like an experience you’d like to share, I look forward to getting to know you.” 

 “If you have any questions, I’d love to hear from you.” 

Ultimately, online dating is an adventure, not a destination. It’s about meeting new people, learning about yourself, and maybe—just maybe—finding someone who gets your obscure movie references. 

Our mission is that the experiences you’re having are consistently moving you forward into the relationship you want to be in!

Focus on what you want and align your energy with the experiences you want to have for the rest of your life and see the results you want follow!

If you’d like even more, join us this Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass! 

This 3-hour exclusive training will support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

 

From Playful Banter to Lasting Connection: Tips for Fun & Successful Dating

From Playful Banter to Lasting Connection: Tips for Fun & Successful Dating

by | Mar 15, 2024 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Romance, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Flirting.

What comes to mind when you hear that word?

Is it fun? Does it feel uncomfortable? Can it be confusing?

Whether you’re flirting in person, over the phone, or through text, this will support you to know what flirting is – and isn’t –  and how to flirt with authenticity, confidence and magnetism!

After-all – those are the keys to a man’s attention and heart!

Flirting lets a man know you’re interested and is a powerful tool in dating. It’s the subtle art of communication that can ignite sparks, create interest, and open the door for deeper connection. 

But in today’s world, where the digital space is where a lot of interactions begin, has the art of flirting lost its charm? Let’s talk about flirting and its significance in modern dating.

Flirting, at its core, is about playful communication. It’s light and fun non-verbal and verbal exchange that conveys interest, attraction, and availability. From a coy smile to a witty remark, flirting is the language of romantic interest, and mastering it can significantly enhance your dating experiences.

One of the key aspects of flirting is body language. A subtle touch, maintaining eye contact, smiling, or leaning in during a conversation lets a man know you’re interested and are enjoying his company. Body language often speaks louder than words, and being attuned to these cues can help you gauge interest and respond accordingly.

Although body language is important, expressing yourself authentically with confidence and grace is important to let a man know you’re enjoying getting to know him. Men don’t like to feel rejected any more than women do and if he’s at all unsure that you want to see him again, chances are, he won’t ask.

If you’re having fun and enjoying being with him during a conversation or on a date, say so. Say things like: 

  • “I’m having fun!” 
  • “I’m enjoying getting to know you, I’d love to chat with you on the phone.” 
  • “That was a great choice of a restaurant!” 
  • “Thank you for planning such a fun date.” 
  • “I’d love to see you again!” 

Relax into your feminine receptive energy and allow him to lead the conversation, but be authentic and let him know if you’re enjoying yourself. Humor is also a powerful tool in flirting, as it shows confidence and a lighthearted attitude, both of which are attractive qualities.

Flirting isn’t just about being playful; it’s also about being attentive. Listening attentively, asking thoughtful questions, and showing genuine interest go a long way in creating a connection. 

 Flirting isn’t about following rules or playing games – it’s simply about being yourself, showing interest and having fun. 

Flirting can sometimes feel confusing because of mixed signals and misinterpretations. It’s essential to be mindful of the other person’s boundaries and comfort levels, and also not be afraid to share your own. What may be playful banter to one person may be seen as intrusive or inappropriate to another.

If the flirting becomes sexual in a way that makes you uncomfortable, it’s important to say so. Without lashing out or becoming defensive, you can say something like, “I get that you’re trying to be funny, but that type of talk makes me feel uncomfortable when I’m simply trying to get to know you.” 

If it doesn’t stop, you can clearly say, “Thank you, this isn’t a match for me.” And next.

In conclusion, flirting enhances your dating experience and creates memorable connections. Whether you’re exchanging playful banter over a coffee, sending witty texts late into the night, or engaging in flirtatious body language, flirting is about creating moments of connection, fun, and shared laughter. 

It’s about being light, fun, free, confident and your authentic Self! 

If you’d like to be able to show up this way in all of your interactions in life – confident, authentic, and magnetic – then join us next week for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU 5-Day Challenge! 

The Love You Deserve Is Waiting for YOU!

Over these five days, we’ll share with you the same steps we’ve used to help thousands of women across the globe attract and create Extraordinary Love using the same skills we used to create the deeply loving, lasting marriages we’ve always wanted with our husbands!

In just five days, your love life can be transformed into the happy, fulfilling experience your heart desires!

Click HERE to Register for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge that begins on March 18th, 2024!

Next time you’re out on a date, remember to embrace the art of flirting – you never know where it might lead.

 

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

by | Dec 20, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

“What happens when it all goes to (you know where)?!”

Do you ever have the feeling that something bad is inevitably going to happen, even when things are going great?

Things are going really well…

… but somewhere in the back of your mind there’s a little voice that’s saying, “Is this too good to be true?” 

If that ever happens to you – listen up. 

You have a fear or a limiting belief that when things are good, eventually they’re going to fall apart or go wrong. 

Sound familiar? 

We see this all the time with our clients  – and we’ve experienced it many times ourselves! 

You’re just about to have your breakthrough – and you’ll self-sabotage. 

Or things are going better than ever, in your job, your relationship, financially – and then you start to doubt and it all falls apart.

Here’s the thing… 

If you find yourself feeling uncertain, confused or like you don’t know what to do, there’s one thing that’s happening under all of it. 

You’re having a worthiness conversation. 

You’re wondering…

“Can I really have this?”

“Can I trust myself to be able to create this?”

“Can I actually handle all of this goodness?!”

At some point you created a belief that has you believe you can’t actually have the things you want. 

If you ever worry that you’ll have to “settle”… 

Then you don’t actually believe you can have exactly what you want. 

If you worry that even if you do meet him, it won’t last… 

Then deep down you don’t believe you can have and keep the relationship that you want. 

 So how do you shift these sabotaging thought patterns?

 Ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid of? 
  2. What created that belief? 
  3. Where did the belief come from? 

The first step to dismantling a belief that’s not serving you is to uncover what your current beliefs are. 

Once you understand what the belief is and where it came from, then you can begin to do the HeartWork to break apart the belief and dismantle it in order to create a new belief. 

And not just an affirmation or nice idea… 

We mean NEW neural pathways in your brain that actually transform the belief in the cells of your body so you begin to attract and manifest exactly what you want – and know that you can have it! 

This is exactly what we do at the Extraordinary Love Intensive, which is coming up in February 2024!

3 full days of shifting these dysfunctional patterns so that you can create everything you want NOW! 

The event is life-changing because I promise you, if this is impacting your love life, it’s impacting other areas, finances, career, family relationships, too. 

If you want to start your New Year empowered to create everything you want (and more!) then click below to claim your ticket for the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

YES! I Want to Create Extraordinary Love in 2024! 

Every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to have a breakthrough and transform an area of your life. 

 

The Key to Love, Confidence and Empowerment!

The Key to Love, Confidence and Empowerment!

by | Dec 1, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

What’s the key to true love?

Many women think it lies in finding the right person or having a perfected list of qualities you’re looking for in a partner.


Some think it’s about where or how you meet the person,  while others think the key is in “divine timing.”

What we’ve found from working with women of every age, from many countries, and all backgrounds is that there is one thing that truly separates the women that create the loving, intimate, long term relationship they desire and those who don’t.

The key to creating true love with another person is creating true love within yourself first.

That’s why we created the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle! The course begins TODAY, so now is your LAST chance to claim this before it’s gone for good!

Click HERE for the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle!

Now, we’re not talking about self-care, though we do encourage doing all the things that fill you up and nourish your soul.

Self-love is deeper.

Self-love is about the relationship you have with yourself.

Real Self-Love is:

  • The things you say about and to yourself
  • Feeling comfortable with the most intimate parts of who you are
  • The beliefs you hold about yourself
  • The way you trust who you are and how you feel
  • Loving and accepting every part of you, even the parts of you you’re afraid others may not like
  • Bringing forgiveness and acceptance to your past.

True self-love creates confidence, trust and the ability to create the things you most deeply desire.  

This is important whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in a relationship that isn’t everything you hoped it would be.

The relationship you have with yourself will be reflected in the relationships you create with other people.

We know that knowing exactly what to do and how to do it  brings incredible amounts of confidence,  joy, and empowerment, because the relationship you have with yourself is the ONE thing you have total control over.

Everything starts with you.

And that’s GREAT news!

When I was in the midst of my own journey to self-love, everything in my life looked perfect on the outside.

I had the job, I had great kids, I traveled with my girlfriends, and I was dating a lot — though none of those dating experiences ever went very far.

Men would always tell me that I had an amazing life and was an amazing woman, but that they knew they just couldn’t give me what I wanted.

I felt so confused and wondered why –

If my life was so awesome, how could I still come home at night and feel so miserable and lonely and alone?

Once I did the HeartWork I realized that all I wanted was someone to validate that I was lovable, when what I really needed was to create that love inside myself first.

Recognizing that belief, uncovering where it came from, and creating something different within myself was such a transformative experience that it’s literally why we started doing the work that we do.

We want every single woman to create the love and relationship that she deserves and desires, and we want it for you RIGHT NOW!

That’s why Gladys and I put together this insane Black Friday bundle AND why we extended the sale through TODAY (goes away FOR GOOD at midnight EST)!

Imagine breaking through the things that are blocking you from creating new love and creating the opening to call in the relationship of your dreams NOW.

When women work with us they create new jobs, receive promotions, manifest new homes, and create the relationship of their dreams — and you’re getting the opportunity to work with us for just $87!

If you’re ready to create a deeply loving, profound, and powerful relationship with yourself that will have you create the life and love you really want, then grab the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle before it goes away TODAY!

The Radiant YOU 21 Day program begins TODAY – so now is your last chance!

CLICK HERE TO JOIN US NOW! 

When you dive into all this bundle includes you’ll have exactly what you need to create everything your heart desires!

 

Unlock Your Irresistible Potential: 3 Steps to Manifest Your Heart’s Desires Today!

Unlock Your Irresistible Potential: 3 Steps to Manifest Your Heart’s Desires Today!

by | Oct 5, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

What were the goals you set in January?

Where did you want to be in your life?

We’ve entered the final three months of the year – Woah what?!

When you hear that… Do you feel confronted? Triggered? Excited? Ready?

Last weekend was our Irresistible Woman LIVE event and it was incredible. What a powerful week we spent with strong, empowered women with a desire to be irresistible!

Is that a desire you have?

If you answered yes, then how do you stop putting off the dreams that you have? 

How do you not make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past? 

How do you stop thinking about how much time you’ve wasted and move forward to create the life, including the relationship, of your dreams now?

Three Steps to Becoming the Irresistible Woman Who Can Create Everything Her Heart Desires NOW

1) Skills – Learn How to Rise Above Our Human Emotional Moments

You may or may not know that over the past month our mother has been in the hospital. There’s been moments when she seems to be doing better and moments when she doesn’t seem to know who we (her twin daughters) are – and it’s continuing to be a day-by-day process. 

The experience has been exhausting, sad, and heartbreaking.

You better believe there’ve been moments when I’ve wished I could go crawl into a bed and not think about any of this anymore – because I’m human…

Just like you. 

People have asked how Gladys and I have been able to continue running our business, taking care of our families and everything else on top of this ongoing struggle and the answer, in addition to our incredible partners, is our vision and mindset.  

This is one of the reasons we do what we do.

So we can support other women and teach them how to live through all of the ups and downs of life with the emotional skills to rise above them. 

2) Vision – Have the Courage to Believe and Declare You Can Have it NOW

Sometimes when we have a big goal we continue to feel like the little girl in the pool with floaties on. We hang on to what we have always done or known in the past and it gives us a false sense of safety or security.

But nothing extraordinary ever came from staying safe!

In order to create the big goals you have for your life you must declare it!

Admit what you want! 

Be free to say it out loud so you will attract the life, adventure and love you desire!

Own what you want, believe you can have it, and declare it boldly through your words and actions!

3) Commitment – Do Whatever it Takes 

The difference between wanting something and being committed is going all in and finding a way – no matter what. 

Want to know the #1 thing that makes the biggest difference when you’re working towards any dream or goal, and striving to rise above your human moments? 

Consistent guided support and coaching.

You don’t know what you don’t know, so having someone there who knows exactly how to create your heart’s desires telling you exactly what you need to do next makes all the difference in the world!

Having someone there when you hit a wall of disappointment, resistance or fear to pick you up and give you your very next best step – that’s what’s going to have you create the relationship of your dreams!

If you haven’t had a call with one of our Love Breakthrough Coaches yet – click here to schedule a call now!

Our coaches are there for this very purpose – to give you your next best step and support you in taking action towards the extraordinary love that you dream of! They know the HeartWork inside and out and they’re here so you can move forward!

Give yourself this gift and know that you’re on your way.

 What’s your vision? 

Who do you want to be known as? 

What’s your love legacy?

We all get to rise above and we get to do it together.  

Let us support you by clicking HERE to book a Love Breakthrough Call! 

 

Respect and Romance: Your Guide to Attracting High-Quality Men

Respect and Romance: Your Guide to Attracting High-Quality Men

by | Sep 1, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

We know that as you date in your desire to create an extraordinary relationship, the pursuit of a genuine connection with a high-quality and respectful man is important! 

If you’re having the experience that every single man you date wants to get physical right out the gate, pushes you to more than you’re comfortable with or doesn’t respect your boundaries it can cause you to not enjoy dating very much and start to believe that men only want something from you. 

While the dating experience may seem challenging at times, there are effective strategies that can empower you to attract the kind of men who align with your values, aspirations, and dreams.

Here’s the truth – a high-quality man will still want to sleep with you. 

But as you respect the boundaries you place for yourself, he’ll honor them as well. 

In this blog, we’ll delve into actionable steps you can utilize to make dating more fun and successful. By clearing any fears and thoughts that may be running in the background, deciding on your own boundaries and communicating them clearly, you’ll attract the type of high-quality men you’re looking for and enjoy getting to know them through dating.

  • Clear the Fears, Limiting Beliefs, and Thoughts that May Be Running in the Background. 

If you have any fears or limiting beliefs about men only wanting sex, wanting to take something from you, or anything similar you need to clear them out through the HeartWork or you will continue to attract exactly what you’re afraid of. 

Shifting your mindset has the power to transform your dating experiences. 

As you approach dating with an open heart, maintaining an optimistic outlook even if you meet men here and there that aren’t a match for your values, you’ll be able to view each interaction as an opportunity for growth. 

  • Audit Your Online Profile

Look at your online profile and make sure there’s nothing that suggests you’re looking for anything other than a committed, monogamous relationship. 

Sometimes in your desire to look attractive to men, especially if there’s any of the above mentioned fears or beliefs running in the background, you may include things on your profile that suggest something other than what you really want. 

  • Set Your Boundaries

To attract respectful men, it’s imperative to set clear standards and boundaries for yourself. Instead of trying to conform to outside ideas or attempting to fit into a mold, embrace your true self. 

Remember – your boundaries are for you. Boundaries aren’t for others to follow. You’re the one that gets to stand inside the line. 

What causes a lot of heartache and confusion is when you decide to move the line because you’re feeling such a great connection or you think “maybe just this once” and then get frustrated and angry when a man wants to get physical every time he sees you. 

Know your worth, what’s important to you and set your boundaries accordingly. Then stick to them no matter what. You can only expect men to respect your boundaries to the point that you do. 

  • Communicate Clearly  

Communicate your boundaries and expectations early on. Respectful men will demonstrate their willingness to invest in a relationship built on mutual respect and understanding. 

Whether it’s communication preferences, personal values, or emotional needs, articulate your boundaries with confidence and grace.

And remember – he doesn’t have to share your values to be a high-quality man. Some men (and some women) are okay with having sex on the first date – it’s not what we coach because we know it creates emotional attachment inside the woman too soon – however, it’s a preference. 

If you state your boundary clearly and he doesn’t feel the same, be respectful and move on. I love cheese and my husband won’t eat it on anything except pizza. We’re all different and that’s okay. 

As you clear out any fears and limiting beliefs that may be blocking you, you’ll attract high-quality and respectful men who will honor and respect your boundaries. 

By embracing your authenticity, defining your own boundaries, and communicating clearly, you’ll create meaningful connections with men who will cherish and respect you for who you truly are.