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Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Life With These Solutions!

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 10, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Does it feel like your results in dating keep getting sabotaged?

Have you noticed you keep having the same (or similar) experience over and over again (and they’re not the ones you want)?

Are you ready to break through these sabotaging patterns once and for all so you can create the relationship of your dreams?!

The top three patterns we see from our clients that are sabotaging their dating (consciously or unconsciously) are:

Dating only one man at a time
Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship
Complaining about dating

Do you think you may be falling into any of these patterns?

Let’s break each of them down so you see what we’re talking about.

#1 Sabotaging Pattern: Dating only one man at a time.

We’ve said it once, and we’ll say it a thousand more times: Dating only one man at a time is setting yourself up for failure. Not only that, but this pattern will cause the dating process to take so much more time than necessary.

And we know you don’t want to waste your time!

Solution: Date more than one man at a time.

What does this look like?

Dating means spending time with someone and getting to know them.
Dating more than one person at a time means going on dates with multiple men and getting to know them while noticing what you are and aren’t experiencing with them.

This doesn’t mean you’re sleeping around, having sex with all of them, or even kissing multiple men!

It simply means you’re talking, meeting, and getting to know them so that you can make an informed decision about whether you’d like to keep getting to know them or not.

Why does this matter? When you’re only seeing one man at a time, you limit your availability, options and experience.

When you open yourself up to seeing multiple men, you increase your chances of creating a relationship with the man that’s right for you.

You also take the pressure off of not only the men, but yourself!
You’re able to keep yourself from getting attached to anyone too soon, making a relationship out of something that’s not one, and getting your heart broken unnecessarily.

#2 Sabotaging Pattern: Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship

Choosing to keep seeing someone who is having you experience less than the relationship of your dreams, is settling.
Doing so, wastes precious time you could be spending with someone else (i.e. the RIGHT man!).

Solution: Do the HeartWork to break through this pattern.

Settling comes from a belief that you don’t deserve what you truly want, that it doesn’t exist, or that you won’t be able to get it, so you do what you think you have to do to save yourself from disappointment.

Why does this matter? Until you break through these limiting beliefs, you will never be able to create the relationship of your dreams and attract not only a man, but the man who is aligned with the experience and the kind of relationship you want to have.

#3 Sabotaging Pattern: Complaining about dating

Constantly talking about how hard dating is, how frustrated you are with the experience, how terrible the men you’re attracting are, or how long the process is taking is a sabotaging pattern.

When you do this, you then create experiences to prove that you’re right.
Do you really want to be right about any of that?

Solution: Pay attention to your language and create effective ways to date.

Why does this matter? Your mind believes what you tell it is true, and you then subconsciously create the experiences that will have you prove yourself right.

Energy flows where attention goes!

So, instead of complaining about what you don’t want or what isn’t working, get crystal-clear and stay laser-focused on the kind of relationship you want to experience for the rest of your life.

Your life — including the relationship of your dreams is your creation!

What do you want to create?

If you want to have a Love Breakthrough and turn these self-sabotaging patterns (plus the ones that you might not even realize are there for you!) around once and for all, then you need to join us for the Love Breakthrough Challenge!

In this 5-Day Love Breakthrough Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same EFFECTIVE, CLEAR, AND PROVEN steps of our HeartWork process, we’ve personally used in our own lives and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!

Click here to sign up for FREE now!

We start on Monday, September 20th, so sign up now.

This WILL transform you and your love life!

How to Embrace Your Feminine, Authentic Self

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 3, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you a driven, ambitious, successful woman?

Do you spend your daytime hours of your career in your masculine (“doing”) energy?

Do you find it difficult to relax into your feminine energy before a date, or when you’re with your partner?

If you answered yes, it’s perfectly natural. Being in our masculine/doing energy is called for when we’re at work and getting things done.

That said, when the work day is over, you get to take a moment and shift into your feminine energy.

If you’re getting feedback that…

You seem like you don’t need anyone else
You act like you don’t want a man in your life or that you’re fine alone
You’re intimidating
Nothing is ever good enough for you
You’re aggressive of “too direct”

…then it’s time to look at how you can shift and relax into your feminine energy!

Now, to be clear, as we said above, masculine energy isn’t “bad.”

The energy of doing, driving, managing, advising, etc. is what’s made you successful in your career and in other areas of your life!

The problem is that it simply doesn’t work when it comes to dating and romantic relationships.

Feminine Energy is NOT about being weak, not having a voice, acting like a doormat, or not having an opinion.

Being in your innate, feminine and Irresistible Essence is powerful! It’s what has you show up as vulnerable, authentic, light and joyful.

It IS the energy of BEing receptive.

It’s allowing your partner to be there with you and do things for you.

It’s allowing others to see you and deeply connect with you.

So what are the ways of BEing you can cultivate inside yourself so that your true feminine self shines through?

These ways of BEing are what we call your Irresistible Essences — your innate power of femininity that creates the magical spark that naturally draws masculine men to you.

We use the word MAGICAL to help you remember what they are:

M – Mesmerizing

A – Authentic

G – Gracious

I – Inspiring

C – Confident

A – Alluring

L – Love-able

Let’s dive in a bit deeper, shall we?

BEing Mesmerizing looks like captivating a man’s attention and drawing him into you through your Way of BEing. It’s like casting a spell that has men notice and be drawn to you.

BEing Authentic means being YOURSELF. It’s knowing that you’re more than enough and showing up that way. Remember: He can’t fall (or stay) in love with you if YOU are not even there!

BEing Gracious is allowing yourself to receive and giving him the gift of being able to give to you. Some women really struggle with this one, because they’re so used to doing for themselves. It’s important to point out that receiving is NOT about being entitled or not being able to take care of yourself.

For example, on a date, allowing the man to pay is not about “expecting” him to do something or feeling like you’re entitled to the dinner. It’s about graciously accepting that he’s invited you out and receiving that with grace and gratitude.

So, allow him to pay. Accept his compliments. And offer gratitude in return. Let him know how much you appreciated the dinner, his company, and the date. It’s highly attractive, and knowing he was able to make you smile will inspire him to want to do even more!

BEing Inspiring means being a breath of happiness, love and fun. No one wants to swim in a pool of upset. So instead of making him feel obligated to be with you or required to do anything, inspire him to show up for you by the way you are when you’re around him.

BEing Confident looks like doing your own thing and creating your own happiness. It’s knowing that you’re enough without feeling as if you have to “prove” it. Remember this: Confidence is the #1 most attractive thing to a man.

BEing Alluring is also a Way of BEing. It means being radiant, authentic, drawing people to you simply by being the amazing woman you are.

BEing Love-Able means knowing deep down, for real, that you are both able to love and be loved by another. It looks like knowing you don’t have to withhold love or be afraid to receive it.

So there you have it!

These 7 ways of BEing, the Irresistible Essences, are what will support you in relaxing into your feminine energy and attracting a man that wants to get to know you, and wants to stay with you!

If you’d like support with showing up more fully as your true, authentic, feminine self, book a call with our coaches now.

If it’s become second nature to be in your masculine energy, it’s okay! You can learn how to easily shift and feel more fully connected to you. We can show you how!

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life?

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing!

So what does vulnerability look like?

Vulnerability is…

Being open
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
Being willing to share yourself and your feelings
Trusting yourself to know who to trust
Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable?

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you?

Why is knowing this so important?

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself.

You pretend, hide, or resist.

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life.

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open .

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection?

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears.

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected.

You practice.

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life.

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

Have Online Dating Work For You Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 20, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

What is the number one question you have when it comes to online dating?

Does it have anything to do with your profile?

These are the questions we get asked the most….

❓ Why do I keep attracting the wrong kind of men?

❓ Why are none of the men I’m matching with reaching out?

❓ What should I include in my profile?

❓ What shouldn’t I include?

❓ What sites are the best to get on?

❓ What type of photos should I use?

We’re going to be answering ALL of these questions, plus more tomorrow at our Ultimate Attraction Dating Profile Workshop, but we wanted to give you just a few tips today.

So let’s dive in!

When it comes to online dating, your profile is the most important part!

Why? Because you have 3-6 seconds to capture a man’s attention which means your photos and the first sentence of your profile must be captivating!

Here’s what NOT to do:

DON’T start with a list of adjectives

DON’T include a list of things you like to do

DON’T put a timeline of your life

DON’T list all of your educational or professional credentials

DON’T put pictures of you with alcohol or showing too much skin

DON’T use sarcasm or put yourself down

You want your profile to showcase who you really are! You want it to be refreshing, different and full of depth. The more natural it sounds, the more receptive men will be to it so make sure it shows your authentic you!

DO make the first sentence inviting and interesting

DO introduce yourself the way you would introduce yourself at a party

DO start with “I am a woman who is….” and follow with something you’re really interested in

DO share something that you’re passionate about

DO be lighthearted and fun

Do be authentically yourself

These tips are so basic they often get overlooked.

And truthfully, these are things most women think they’re doing… but then we get our eyes on their profile and we know exactly why they’re attracting the type of men they are.

If you’re ready to start attracting the right kind of men in online dating, join us tomorrow for the Ultimate Attraction Online Dating Profile Workshop!

We’re going to be teaching you exactly what you need to know to have clarity around what to do before, during and after you create your online dating profile so that you attract high-quality, commitment-minded, ready-for-love men who will be ready to partner with you in creating the relationship of your dreams!

We’ll be answering your questions, giving you coaching and having hands-on activities so that you walk away with a profile that starts giving you the results you’ve been waiting for.

Have Online Dating Work for you Now!

In this hands-on, interactive workshop on how to attract the RIGHT man online, you’ll discover:

what to do before you ever type the first word or post the first picture on your profile that will make the difference between whether you attract the right man or not
what to put in your profile to make sure you’re attracting a man who is a perfect match for you
how to make sure your profile gets noticed by the right guys, not the ones who want to play games or be pen pals
and more!

Stop wasting your time attracting the wrong men online and learn how to create a profile that attracts the high quality, commitment-minded man you want to meet, get to know and marry!

Register Here!

You Can Break Through Your Fears Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 13, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

What are fears that come up in the realm of love and relationships?

Are you afraid you won’t be enough?

Are you terrified of rejection or abandonment?

Are you scared you’ll keep repeating your heartbreaking past and are afraid to try again now?

Maybe you’re afraid that…

dating will just be a waste of time
you’ll be controlled
you’ll lose yourself in a relationship
you won’t find someone who really understands you
it’ll be hard to share your life with someone
you’ll get your heartbroken (again)
he’ll lie or cheat like every other guy has

Obviously, those are only some of the fears that come up for women while dating.

What are your fears?

The thing about fear is that it’s a fact of life.

It’s part of being human, and there’s no way out of that.

The other thing about fear is that even though it’s a given in life, it doesn’t have to control your life.

Fear is your brain’s way of thinking about what you are afraid is or isn’t going to happen.

And your brain doesn’t recognize the difference between an imagined fear and what’s actually happening.

When fear is running the show, you’ll subconsciously sabotage your experiences in an attempt to either stop whatever you’re afraid of from happening, or force something to happen.

By taking ownership of your fears and recognizing what is an imagined fear vs reality, you take your power back and can be the conscious owner of your life and your results.

None of us want to waste our time, get our hearts broken, be rejected, or experience the same painful things we’ve experienced in the past.

When you take the time to do the necessary Heartwork, you increase your chances of attracting the man and relationships that will be good for you.

And the first step to doing that is to powerfully master your fears.

So, how do you do that?

1. Distinguish your fear by recognizing what it is and where it comes from.

2. Dismantle the fear by doing the work to release it and leave it in the past. Then, when fearful thoughts come up — because they will — you’ll be able to see them for what they are, instead of relating to them as “the truth.”

3. Replace the fear with a new empowering belief that has you open up to new ideas of what’s possible for you.

You don’t have to be afraid of what’s happened in the past.

You can experience love, happiness, peace and healing in your heart when you do the Heartwork necessary to break through your fears!

If you’d like support with learning how to master your thoughts and emotions so you aren’t being driven by them, we want to support you!

Our Ready to Love Again Program begins in just over a week, and this is the powerful work we begin with!

If you are at all interested in learning more, or if you’d simply like to chat with someone about how you (yes, YOU!) can learn to dismantle your fears and take control of your life, click below to book a Love Breakthrough Call.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session

Our coaches are here to support you in seeing what you can’t see right now, so that you can move forward and create the life and love your heart desires!

Stop Repelling Men and Receive Extraordinary Love Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 30, 2021 | Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance

by Gladys Diaz

Do you over-give in relationships?

Do you have a pattern of cooking dinner for men, offering to pay for things, giving gifts, or constantly planning dates?

If you answered yes, do your thoughts sound like these?

“If I do enough, I’ll be good enough”

“If I give enough, he’ll want me.”

“If I prove how good I am, someone will see that and stay.”

Overgiving is a pattern that doesn’t work in dating. It doesn’t work because masculine men need to provide and give in order to feel on purpose in the relationship.

It also doesn’t work because it will always lead you to feeling resentful and dissatisfied.

I used to do this in dating relationships.

I would give and give – and give some more – and then all the sudden I’d start feeling resentful. I’d think, “He’s just using me!” — even though he’d never asked me to do any of it!

I had all of the thoughts listed above, I was doing all of the things above and, you guessed it, it wasn’t working.

You see, underneath a pattern of over-giving is a self-worth conversation.

You’re either trying to hide what you’re afraid they’ll see in you – or – You’re trying to overcome something you believe already exists in you.

Either way, none of it is true!

The thing is – it’s not enough simply to know it’s not true.

It’s about what you’re going to do to breakthrough it!

So…

Why do you feel you need to prove your value?

What’s driving the pattern of behavior?

What need is being fulfilled?

Is it a need to be liked and accepted? Is it a need to feel needed or valuable to someone?

The first step in breaking through a pattern of overgiving is to get connected to what belief is driving the behavior.

Once you’ve gotten clear on that – you get to start questioning it. You get to go to the very center of why that belief exists and do the Heartwork to create something entirely different inside you.

You get to transform the belief so that the behavior disappears.

And once you do that, you get to a point where those beliefs don’t even phase you anymore. When the thought pops up, you can immediately shift and move on!

How amazing would that be?!

Through doing this Heartwork you will replace these patterns and be out there in the dating world in your Irresistible Essence, authentic self and attracting the man that will love and appreciate you for all of it!

Are you ready to shift these patterns? Are you ready to transform them once and for all?

If you answered yes, the Extraordinary Love Intensive, is what you need and it’s just around the corner! It’s happening next weekend and you don’t want to miss it!

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the patterns that are causing you to repel men and relationships (and overgiving is a big one!) and have you transform so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams.

After the event there will be no more trying to prove your value or doing too much in a relationship.

After the event you will not only know how to step back and be in your feminine receiving energy, but you’ll feel comfortable and naturally do so!

Join us for the Extraordinary Love Intensive by claiming your ticket now!

Remember, there’s a hurt or pain that hasn’t been healed when you’re compensating with overgiving behavior. It’s time to heal so you can experience happiness, joy, abundance, love, partnership support and so much more inside an extraordinary relationship!

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