Hope for 2025: Reflect, Reset, and Create Your Dream Relationship

Hope for 2025: Reflect, Reset, and Create Your Dream Relationship

by | Dec 12, 2024 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

As we approach the end of the year, it’s time for a powerful reality check—one rooted not in judgment, but in hope, clarity, and bold action.

You’ve accomplished so much in your career and life because you know how to set goals, push through obstacles, and make things happen.

But let me ask you this: Are you where you wanted to be in your love life?

If the answer isn’t a resounding “yes,” it’s time to pause, reflect, and reset. 

Because right now, you have the opportunity to make a difference—not by looking backward, but by boldly redefining what’s possible for your future.

Stop Looking to the Past for What’s Possible in the Future

Too often, we let the past dictate what we believe we’re capable of. Maybe you’ve told yourself:

  • “It didn’t work before, so why would it work now?”
  • “I’ve made mistakes—I should just settle for what I can get.”
  • “I’m too old, too busy, or too late to find extraordinary love.”

It’s time to let those beliefs go. 

The truth is, your past results are not a measure of your future potential—they’re just feedback. They show you what worked, what didn’t, and what you can adjust to create a different outcome.

You wouldn’t let a failed project at work stop you from pursuing your next big career goal, right? The same applies to your love life.

Be Real About What Happened

Let’s get honest for a moment:

  • Did you give your love life the attention it deserved this year?
  • Did you let old habits or doubts creep in and hold you back?
  • Did consistency or follow-through get in the way of your goals?

This is not about beating yourself up. 

This is about looking at the facts, without judgment, and asking yourself, “What worked, and what didn’t?“

Maybe you paused your dating journey because you were second-guessing yourself. 

Maybe an old pattern resurfaced, like tolerating emotionally unavailable partners or putting your own needs last. 

Whatever it is, acknowledge it, learn from it, and know that you’re not alone.

Hit the Reset Button

Here’s the best part: No matter where you are right now, you have the power to hit the reset button.

You’ve still got three weeks left in this year—three weeks is an incredible amount of time to make a difference. 

Ask yourself:

  • What am I committed to creating in the next three weeks?
  • What action can I take today to move closer to my vision?
  • How can I course-correct to align with the love life I truly want?

It’s not about overhauling everything overnight. 

It’s about setting clear, intentional actions and committing to them with the same drive you bring to every other area of your life.

The Unlimited Love You Deserve

If you’re feeling stuck or uncertain, let me remind you: The depth of love you get to experience is unlimited. You’re not alone, and you’re not destined to repeat old patterns.

This is your moment to believe in what’s possible. 

The extraordinary relationship you’ve been dreaming of—the one where you’re fully seen, cherished, and supported—is waiting for you. 

And it starts with the decision you make right now.

Ready to Take the Next Step? Join Us for the Unlimited Love Workshop!

On Tuesday, we’re hosting the Unlimited Love Workshop, where we’ll guide you through creating a crystal-clear vision for your dream relationship in 2025. 

This is your chance to:

  • Reflect on where you’ve been.
  • Reset your vision for the love life you truly want.
  • Learn the exact steps to make that vision a reality.

And we’re not stopping there! In the VIP Hour, we’ll take your vision to the next level by identifying and breaking through the challenges and questions that could hold you back.

💖 This is your moment to create the love life you deserve—register here.

Your Next Move

The time to reflect, reset, and create the love life you want isn’t “someday.” It’s now.

The past doesn’t define you. Your doubts don’t control you. The extraordinary love you deserve is within your reach—if you’re willing to take the bold step forward.

Are you ready to make 2025 the year you create your dream relationship?

Click here to register for the Unlimited Love Workshop and VIP Hour

This is your invitation to step into what’s possible. Let’s do this together.

 

The Key to Connection: Communication Skills Every High-Value Woman Needs

The Key to Connection: Communication Skills Every High-Value Woman Needs

by | Dec 9, 2024 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

As a high-achieving, driven woman, you’re no stranger to success. 

You’ve mastered the art of leading teams, making decisions under pressure, and reaching ambitious goals. 

Yet, when it comes to love and relationships, you might find yourself in unfamiliar territory—wondering why the skills that serve you so well in your career don’t seem to translate to the deeper, fulfilling connection you desire.

The truth is, powerful communication in love and relationships requires a different set of skills. 

It’s not about negotiation, commanding authority, or achieving outcomes; it’s about vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and authentic connection. And for many successful women, these skills are not only new—they can feel downright uncomfortable.

But here’s the good news: just like you learned to excel in your career, you can learn to master the skill of powerful communication in love and create the deep, meaningful relationship you deserve.

Why Communication Is the Foundation of Love

Communication is the heartbeat of any relationship. It’s how you express your needs, build trust, and navigate challenges. 

But here’s the catch: the way you communicate in relationships is often influenced by patterns you learned in childhood.

If you grew up in a home where your needs weren’t consistently met, you may have learned to:

  • Stay silent to avoid conflict.
  • Overachieve to feel worthy of love.
  • React defensively when you feel vulnerable.

These patterns can unconsciously shape your communication style in relationships today, leading to misunderstandings, emotional distance, or even attracting partners who reinforce these old wounds.

The Link Between Childhood Patterns and Communication Challenges

For the high-powered woman, childhood patterns often play out in subtle but impactful ways:

  • Overachieving for Validation: You might feel like you need to “earn” love by proving your worth, making it hard to ask for what you truly need.
  • Fear of Rejection: You may avoid expressing emotions, fearing they’ll make you seem “too much” or “too needy.”
  • Control as a Defense Mechanism: In an effort to protect yourself, you might try to control situations or avoid vulnerability altogether.

These patterns served a purpose in your past, helping you navigate challenging environments. 

But in your adult relationships, they can act as barriers to the connection and intimacy you truly crave.

The HeartWork™: Changing the Patterns

Changing these patterns requires what we call the HeartWork™—the deep, intentional process of uncovering your emotional triggers, healing old wounds, and learning new ways to communicate. 

Here’s how to start:

1. Reflect on Your Patterns

Take time to examine how your childhood experiences influence your communication style today. Ask yourself:

  • Do I avoid expressing my needs because I fear rejection?
  • Do I over-explain or justify myself to feel validated?
  • Do I shut down emotionally when I feel hurt?

Awareness is the first step toward change.

2. Reconnect with Your Worth

Remind yourself that your value is not tied to your achievements or how much you can “give” in a relationship. You’re worthy of love simply because you exist. 

When you approach communication from this place of confidence and worthiness, your interactions become more authentic and less defensive.

3. Practice Vulnerable Communication

Vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s the key to deeper connection. Start small:

  • Express how you feel instead of what you think.
  • Use “I” statements to own your emotions without blaming your partner.
  • Be open about your needs, even if it feels uncomfortable.

For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” instead try: “I feel unheard when I share something important, and it makes me feel disconnected. Can we talk about this?”

4. Set the Vision for Your Love Life

Imagine what you want your love life to look like in 2025. 

  • What kind of partner do you want to attract? 
  • How do you want to feel in your relationship? 

Write down your vision in detail, and include how you want communication to flow between you and your partner.

This clarity will not only guide your actions but also help you identify whether a relationship aligns with your goals.

What Mastering Communication Will Create for You

When you master the skill of powerful communication in love and relationships, you’ll experience:

  • Deeper Emotional Connection: Expressing your needs openly creates intimacy and trust.
  • Aligned Partnerships: Clear communication helps you attract a partner who matches your vision and values.
  • Confidence in Vulnerability: You’ll feel safe expressing your emotions without fear of judgment or rejection.
  • Resolution Over Reactivity: You’ll handle conflicts with grace, turning challenges into opportunities for growth.

Your Next Step: Taking Action

The love life you desire—a relationship where you feel seen, supported, and celebrated—isn’t out of reach. 

It starts with you. 

By mastering communication, breaking old patterns, and stepping into your worth, you create the space for the love and connection you’ve been craving.

Ask yourself:

  • What am I willing to let go of to create the relationship I deserve?
  • How can I prioritize doing the HeartWork™ to change my patterns?
  • What will my love life look like in 2025 if I start this work today?

Your Love Vision Starts Now

You’ve already proven that you can succeed in life. Now, it’s time to bring that same focus, intention, and confidence into your love life. 

Mastering the skill of powerful communication isn’t only about attracting a partner—it’s about creating a relationship that elevates every aspect of your life.

So, let this be the moment you decide: 2025 will be the year of Extraordinary Love.

As crazy as it may seem, this year is coming to a close. If you want to step into the New Year clear about your Love Vision and what to do to create it, then join us for the Unlimited Love Vision Workshop, next Tuesday, December 17th!

Click here to register! 

Your love story starts with the conversation you’re willing to have with yourself today. 💖

 

Mythbusters! How to Build a Relationship Without Losing Who You Are

Mythbusters! How to Build a Relationship Without Losing Who You Are

by | Sep 27, 2024 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

Do you have a fear of losing yourself in a relationship? 

You’re not alone. It’s one of the biggest fears many women have when it comes to love.

You’ve heard the stories, seen it happen to friends, and maybe even lived it yourself: 

You start off strong, confident, and vibrant, and then somewhere along the way, you find yourself bending, compromising, and shrinking just to keep the relationship going. Before you know it, you’re playing the role of someone else—someone who’s not the real you. 

It’s a story as old as time, but here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be YOUR story.

This week, we debunked the myth that being in a relationship means losing yourself. (If you missed this week’s LIVE Love Chat With The Love Twins, click HERE to Watch the Replay!)

Because the truth is, real love doesn’t ask you to give up who you are. In fact, it allows you to become even MORE of who you are.

The Myth: Losing Yourself in Love

There’s a lot of nonsense out there about what it means to be in a relationship. 

You might have heard that being in love means sacrificing who you are, giving up your dreams, or becoming half of a whole. 

Well, we’re here to tell you it’s a total myth. 

You don’t have to give up who you are to find love; in fact, holding on to your values, your quirks, and your dreams is what creates a magnetic pull for the right kind of love.

The Truth: The Right Relationship EXPANDS You

Research shows that the right relationship is one where both partners grow and expand. 

A study from Carnegie Mellon University found that people in supportive, loving relationships are more likely to take on new challenges, pursue their personal goals, and grow as individuals. 

They’re healthier, happier, and more confident. And yes, this applies to both men and women!

When you’re with the right partner, you don’t lose your identity; you enhance it. 

You become more of who you are. In the right relationship, you don’t have to hide parts of yourself or settle for less. Instead, you and your partner grow together, enriching each other’s lives.

Healing the Patterns That Created This Fear

But we get it: there’s a reason this fear exists. 

Maybe you’ve been in relationships in the past where you did lose yourself. You might have changed your appearance, put your dreams on the back burner, or even let go of your core values just to keep the peace. 

That’s not your fault; it’s a pattern that many women fall into, often without realizing it.

The key to breaking this pattern is to heal the wounds that created it. You see, when we don’t fully love and accept who we are, we look for validation in our partners. We let their opinions and desires dictate our actions, and slowly but surely, we lose sight of ourselves. 

To break free, you need to do the inner work: recognize where these fears come from and choose to let them go.

At the Irresistible Woman LIVE 3-Day Event, we dive deep into uncovering these patterns and fears that have kept you from showing up as the woman you truly are. Because when you understand where these fears originated, you can rewrite your story and step into a new chapter—one where you create a relationship that honors YOU.

The Difference Between Independent, Co-dependent, and Interdependent Relationships

Now, let’s break down the different types of relationships, so you know what to aim for and what to avoid.

  • Independent Relationships: In these relationships, each partner operates in their own bubble. There’s little sharing, support, or deep connection. While independence is important, when taken to an extreme, it can lead to loneliness and emotional distance.
  • Co-dependent Relationships: This is where you lose yourself. You become overly reliant on your partner for validation, support, and even your sense of identity. You bend over backward to meet their needs, often at the expense of your own. It’s an unhealthy dynamic that can feel suffocating and draining.
  • Interdependent Relationships: Ah, this is the sweet spot! Interdependence means that you and your partner are strong individuals who choose to support, love, and grow with each other. You don’t need each other to be whole, but you choose to share your lives and lift each other higher. You maintain your individuality while building a life together.

Interdependence is where love truly thrives, and it’s where you can grow without losing yourself. It’s about being two whole people who come together to create something even more beautiful!

Living Your Values: The Key to Lasting Love

Remember the movie Runaway Bride? Julia Roberts’ character didn’t even know how she liked her eggs because she always adapted to the preferences of whichever man she was with. She’d completely lose touch with her own desires and values. Sound familiar?

When you don’t know what you stand for, you’re easily swayed by others’ opinions. And in relationships, this is a recipe for disaster. 

But when you’re confident in who you are and live your values consistently, you not only feel more empowered, but you also attract a partner who loves you for exactly who you are.

Living your values means knowing what’s important to you—whether it’s honesty, adventure, kindness, or growth—and standing by those principles, even when it’s not easy. 

When you do this, you’ll naturally attract someone who respects those values and lives their own as well. The right man won’t want you to change; he’ll love you for who you are and join you on the journey of life!

Debunking the Mirror Myth: Disagreement Is Not a Bad Thing!

There’s another myth out there that says your partner should be your mirror, someone who thinks exactly like you and agrees with everything you say. 

False! 

You and your partner are two unique individuals, which means you’ll have different perspectives. And that’s okay!

The beauty of interdependence is that it allows space for both partners to be themselves. You don’t have to agree on everything. In fact, the healthiest relationships are those where partners respect each other’s differences and find ways to grow from them. Disagreements are an opportunity to learn, expand, and deepen your connection.

You Can Have the Life and Love Your Heart Desires

So, here’s the truth: you can love without losing yourself. You can find a partner who celebrates who you are, who joins you in living a life of growth, and who stands by your side as you both pursue your dreams. 

You deserve that kind of love, and it’s 100% possible for you.

If you’re ready to break free from the fears that have held you back and learn how to show up as the woman you declare yourself to be, we invite you to join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE event. This is your chance to uncover the patterns of the past, step into your power, and create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

Love doesn’t mean losing yourself; it means becoming the fullest version of who you are. 

And we’re here to show you exactly how to make that happen.

Join us at Irresistible Woman LIVE and learn how to love in a way that honors your values, your desires, and the woman you’re meant to be. 

Because when you do, you’ll attract a love that celebrates you and a partner who grows with you.

Your next chapter is waiting. Are you ready to say YES to it? 💖

 

How to Transform Your Love Story: 24 years of Joy Begins Today!  

How to Transform Your Love Story: 24 years of Joy Begins Today!  

by | Jul 14, 2024 | Communication, Dating, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Sex, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Today, Ric & I are celebrating our 24th Wedding Anniversary!

“24 years of marriage…”

 It feels surreal, especially when I once thought I’d never love again.

What fills my heart with joy is that we’re more in love than ever! 

Here’s what I know – reaching 24 years of marriage, 25 years together, and still being happy, best friends, with love, connection, intimacy, and adventure in our relationship isn’t something that “just happens,” no matter how “perfect” a match seems.

Do you want to know how to break through the patterns that are holding you back in love?

How to move past the fears that are keeping you from the relationship you want?
Are you willing to step outside of your comfort zone so you can create the type of relationship where you have 24, 64, 78 years together!

If you’re ready to transform your love life, then skip the reading, get all the juicy details, and claim your spot here: Join Us LIVE at No Cost this Saturday, July 20th, 2024.

Click the link above, secure your complimentary seat, and embark on your journey to creating a loving, lasting relationship with a high-quality man who will cherish you forever.

During these 3 hours together, you’ll learn how to:

💖 Easily attract a strong, confident man who is inspired and NOT intimidated by a successful woman like you

💖 Naturally become the kind of woman a man can’t help but fall in love with (without changing who you are)

💖 Create a lifelong relationship that adds joy and love to your life, and deepens over time, so you have someone to share all the wonders of life with

Join us for this transformative training and learn how to create the loving, supportive, and fulfilling relationship you want, where you get to experience everything you imagine love to be—and MORE. 🌟

If you’re ready to make your love story extraordinary – then click below to claim your spot NOW! 💖

Click HERE to Register for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

It’s your turn to meet the love of your life and start celebrating year after year of “Meet-a-Versaries,” “Kiss-a-Versaries,” and Wedding Anniversaries!

24 years from now you could be looking back at this Saturday, remembering the transformation you experienced that led to you creating your great love story.

Register for your spot at the Masterclass, and let’s begin writing YOUR story now!

 

How to Create Your Dream Love Story: Consistent Steps to Heartfelt Success!

How to Create Your Dream Love Story: Consistent Steps to Heartfelt Success!

by | Jul 5, 2024 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success

by Michelle Roza

Are you ready to revolutionize your love life and create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of? Imagine a life filled with passion, deep connection, and a partner who cherishes you every single day.

Sounds like a fairy tale, right? Well, it doesn’t have to be.

We’re here to tell you that you can manifest this reality, but it requires more than just hoping and dreaming. It demands clarity, determination, and consistent action. 

So how do you create that consistency, no matter what you may be experiencing in your daily life? 

1) Get Clear on What You Want

The first step to creating your love vision is to get crystal clear on what you want. Why? 

Your brain is always looking for what’s familiar, even if it’s not what you want, and when you go for comfort and familiarity, you repeat the past. You go back to the same guy, or you attract a new man who reminds you of someone from your past. 

Here’s the thing – Your Love Vision gets to be bigger than one guy or your past! 

So how do you get clear on what you want? 

Start by asking yourself some deep, introspective questions:

  • When I’m in the Relationship of My Dreams, what are three things you want to experience?
  • How do I want to feel in my relationship?
  • What values and interests should we share?

Take time to write these down. Be specific. 

Don’t just settle for “I want someone who loves me.” Dig deeper. Get detailed!

Do you want a relationship that’s full of adventure, support, and travel? 

A relationship where you both value personal growth, where you share a positive outlook on life and work together to create the life you truly want? 

Clarity is power. The more precise you are, the easier it is for the universe (and your subconscious mind) to align with your desires. When you know exactly what you want, you create a clear target to aim for.

2) Move Out of What’s Blocking You

Now that you know what you want, it’s time to clear the path. 

This step is all about identifying and removing the blocks that have been holding you back. These blocks can be limiting beliefs, past traumas, or even negative patterns you’ve picked up over the years.

Moving out of your blocks is like clearing the debris from a path; it allows you to walk smoothly towards your goal without tripping over old baggage.

If you’d like to identify your blocks, challenge beliefs that aren’t working, heal unresolved issues from the past that can sabotage your present and future relationships – then join us for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In this Masterclass, we’ll support you in recognizing the challenges you’re experiencing right now that are getting in the way of your Love Vision and heal them so you can BE the women who can walk away from the things that aren’t aligned with what you want. 

So you can create your Love Vision NOW! Click HERE to Register! 

3) Become the Woman You’ve Always Wanted to Be

This step is about personal transformation. 

To attract the love you desire, you need to become the best version of yourself. It’s not about changing who you are, but about evolving into the person who naturally attracts and maintains a healthy, loving relationship.

Here’s how to get started: 

  • Self-Improvement: Invest in your personal growth. This can be through reading, attending seminars, or taking courses. Focus on areas that need improvement, such as communication skills, self-esteem, or emotional intelligence.
  • Self-Care: Prioritize your well-being. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep are non-negotiables. When you feel good, you radiate confidence and positivity.
  • Hobbies and Interests: Engage in activities that you love. This not only makes you more interesting but also allows you to meet like-minded individuals.

Becoming the woman you’ve always wanted to be is about aligning your actions, thoughts, and feelings with the person you envision yourself to be. It’s about stepping into your power and living authentically.

4) Manifest It

Manifestation is the process of bringing your vision into reality through focused intention and action. It’s about harnessing the power of your mind to attract what you desire.

And it takes consistency. 

Now that sounds nice, but I probably don’t have to tell you that you can’t rely on willpower alone. 

You have a finite amount of willpower, and when it runs out, you will go back to what’s comfortable and familiar. Those old patterns and ways of being that may feel good, but aren’t working. 

So how do you stay consistent, when will-power runs out?  

When you don’t have the resources or energy to stay consistent with your Love Vision, make sure you do something every single day that makes you happy AND is good for you. – Something that connects you to your vision. 

Dedicate time each day to your love vision practices. 

Whether it’s morning visualization, taking time in a gratitude journal, going for a walk or a bike-ride, whatever makes you happy and gives you back energy.  Make it a absolute non-negotiable part of your day.

And remember to acknowledge and celebrate your progress. Every step forward is a step closer to your goal!

Creating the love life you desire is a journey, not a sprint. It requires clarity, clearing your blocks, becoming your best self, and manifesting with intention. But most importantly, it requires consistency. 

By integrating these practices into your daily life, you’ll be well on your way to unlocking the love of your life.

In order to create your Love Vision, you must BE the woman who aligns with that vision AND take steps that will support you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams. 

By integrating these practices into your daily life, you’ll be well on your way to unlocking the love of your life.

If you’d like even more, join us next Saturday, July 20th for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

This 3-hour exclusive training will support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

Click here to Register for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

Ready to transform your love life, {{contact.first_name}}? Start today, and watch your love vision become your reality.

 

 

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Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

by | Jun 13, 2024 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Are you tired of wasting time on relationships that go nowhere?

Do you find yourself constantly questioning if the man you’re with truly aligns with your vision and values?

If you’re nodding your head right now, you’re not alone. Many women find themselves stuck in the cycle of uncertainty, wasting precious time and emotional energy on men who don’t meet their standards.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Dating becomes FUN and EASY when you can confidently and quickly determine if a man is a match for your Love Vision and values. 

Sounds too good to be true? It’s not. And we’re going to show you how.

The Importance of Self-Awareness

First things first, you need to know yourself. Everything starts within, and even though it might sound cliché, the foundation of any successful relationship is a deep understanding of your own love vision and values. 

We define Love Vision as what you want to experience in the Relationship of Your Dreams. 

How do you want to feel when you’re with your partner?

Do you want the relationship to feel connected, fun, and light? Are openness, passion, and intimacy things you want to experience?  

What types of activities will you do together?

Do you want to travel together? Do you want to read books and have intellectual discussions? Do you want to enjoy hiking in nature? Do you want to spend Friday nights cooking an incredible dinner together?  

What values do you want to share?

What’s most important to YOU? Do you want to be with someone who values health and adventure? Are you wanting someone who wants to create a family?

This becomes the guidebook for what you want to experience in a relationship. The more clear you are, the quicker you’ll draw it to you. The fuzzier you are, the more confusing your experience in dating will be.

Self-awareness is your compass. It guides you in the right direction and helps you recognize when something (or someone) is off course. Take some time to reflect on your past relationships. What worked? What didn’t? What values did you compromise on, and how did that make you feel? Write these down. This exercise isn’t just about identifying deal-breakers; it’s about understanding what makes you thrive in a relationship.

Communication and Consistency

Now that you’ve got a clear understanding of your own vision and values, it’s time to communicate them and watch to see if someone is aligned. This isn’t about presenting a checklist on the first date – that’s a surefire way to scare anyone off! 

Instead, it’s about weaving your values into conversations naturally and giving yourself the opportunity to observe his behavior – which will inform you of his values.

Talk about what’s important to you. Share your goals, dreams, and what you’re passionate about. This not only gives you a chance to express your values, but it also provides an opportunity to gauge his reactions and responses. 

Is he supportive? Does he share similar goals? Or is he dismissive and uninterested?

Actions Speak Louder Than Words. Words are cheap. Anyone can say they value honesty, loyalty, and respect, but do their actions align with their words? This is where you need to be vigilant. Pay close attention to his behavior.

Does he follow through on his promises? How does he treat people around him – waitstaff, friends, family? Is he consistent in his actions, or does he say one thing and do another? These observations are crucial because they reveal his true character and values.

Consistency is Crucial. One-time grand gestures are impressive, but they don’t define a person’s character. And at the same time, anyone can be nervous on a first date and not show you who they really are.

Consistency over time is what you should be looking for. Give yourself time to see if someone is aligned. 

And values aren’t about “right” or “wrong”. They’re simply about what matters to YOU and what YOU want. Everything he does (or doesn’t do) is good information to have as you move toward knowing who’s the perfect match for you.

Alignment and BE-ing Your Love Vision and Values. 

This is where you get to BE what you want to experience.

If you say health is a top value of yours, what do you do to show it? 

If you want to experience openness, fun and laughter in the Relationship of Your Dreams, who are you BE-ing to bring those feelings into your dating experiences and relationships? 

Before each and every encounter you have with men, anchor yourself in your Love Vision. 

Read your Love Vision every time before going on the dating app. 

Get yourself into the energy of your Love Vision before you go on a date. 

Envision in your mind what your Love Vision looks like before you come home to your husband. 

The more aligned you are going into each experience with men, the more you’ll be able to assess compatibility and create what you want to experience!

Final Thoughts

Finding a man who matches your love vision and values isn’t about luck – it’s about clarity, communication, and keen observation. By understanding your own values, clearly communicating them, observing his actions and consistency, and BEing what you want to experience in the relationship –  you can confidently determine if someone is the right match for you.

Where can you see your vision and values creating your Yes’s and No’s in dating? 

How can you lean more into your Love Vision to know your metric for what you want to experience? 

By following these steps, you’ll empower yourself to make informed decisions about your love life, ensuring you spend your time and energy on a relationship that’s truly worth it! 

This is just the beginning! We’ll be going even deeper into this topic during the Manifest Your Love Vision NOW Challenge! 

You’ll walk away from the Challenge with crystal-clear clarity on what you want to experience inside the Relationship of Your Dreams and next-steps on how to manifest it NOW!

Click HERE to register for the FREE Challenge.

We’ll let you know the dates for the Challenge ASAP – we can’t wait to be with you! 

 

 

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