by Gladys Diaz
Do you feel like you’re constantly “surviving” in your life?
Are you stuck in a pattern of drama?
Do you feel like love is “too hard,” or that it “takes too much effort”?
Do you seem to always attract men that have a lot of baggage, don’t want to commit, or just aren’t good for you?
The pattern of drama is an easy one to fall into, but it’s life-changing when you choose to shift it.
Let me tell you my story.
After my divorce and before I met Arnie, I realized I had a pattern of drama. One day I was telling a friend about the latest guy I was going after, how he was back and forth between me and another relationship that wasn’t working out, and how it was taking so much time and energy!
After listening to me patiently this friend looked at me and he said, “Gosh Michelle, you have so much drama in your love life.”
I was a little taken aback by that comment and he continued by saying, “I’m not saying that what you’re saying isn’t happening, but I’m saying that you’re creating it.”
That was a wake-up call for me and I got to get really honest with myself.
Was I creating it?
I realized that I was. I realized that, from a very young age, I had learned that love is chaotic.
I had always had poor examples of relationships in my life. Both of my mother’s relationships included arguing, fighting, bickering, screaming, name-calling, and threatening. I had also watched my mom be “a martyr” and constantly give up what she wanted, not in a mutually compromising kind of way, but rather to “keep the peace.”
I then recognized that I had always created, and was continuing to create, the same thing in my own life.
My previous marriage had been filled with drama, constantly breaking up and then getting back together, and arguing about everything!
When I got divorced, I thought I could start a clean page and do things differently.
What I didn’t realize is that nothing inside of me had actually changed, so I continued to create the same thing in my new relationships.
I always attracted men that had lots of baggage, had many failed relationships in their past, and were just as good at arguing as I was. My dramatic energy was attracting more drama and chaos.
And I was over it.
When I realized I had this pattern and where it came from, everything began to change. I broke the pattern, changed my beliefs about what love and relationships look like, met Arnie, and, together, we are creating the relationship of our dreams.
If I can do it, you can too!
So, how do you break the pattern of drama?
1. Recognize It. Today is the day to get honest with yourself. Nothing is ever going to change if you don’t take a good hard look at what is happening in your life and see it for what it is.
2. Own It. Admit that if drama is showing up in your life, then you’re playing a part in creating it. When you do this, you stop being a victim to it. Take responsibility for it. You can choose to either keep going this way or create something new. And that’s where the power lies.
3. Accept It. This means not judging yourself because of it. By recognizing that it’s there and owning your piece in creating it, you’re not blaming yourself for it, rather, you’re taking ownership in creating it so that you can change it.
Ask yourself: What need am I trying to fill by keeping this pattern of drama in my life?
Maybe you feel important when you’re giving everything away for love.
Maybe you feel significant when you’re experiencing drama in your life.
Maybe you’re just so used to the feelings of drama – worry, anxiety, loss, frustration – that you stay in that surviving state because it’s your “normal.”
If you broke that pattern, what could be created?
If it doesn’t have to be that way, what’s a new possible belief?
4. Change it. Create a new definition of love and create new patterns. Decide what you want love to look like. And every time the old pattern shows up (because it will), recognize it, tell yourself that you’re not doing that anymore, and make a different choice.
Choose to be love-able and worthy, because you are!
When I changed this pattern, I decided that love got to be fun and easy. Love looked like communicating calmly and rationally. Love looked like being able to be 100% myself and still be loved.
When I deepened the relationship with myself and decided I was love-able and worthy, only then did I begin to attract the high-quality men that I deserved and wanted to spend time getting to know.
What do you want?
Are you willing to do the work to break this pattern and create something better in your life?
Are you ready to stop merely surviving, and start thriving?!
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You can thrive. You can have the relationship of your dreams.
You just have to choose it.
Lots of love,
Gladys & Michelle
The Love Twins