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Discover the 3 Self-Saboteurs Keeping You from the Right Man!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 11, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you finding yourself on an endless carousel of disappointing dates?

Are you attracting the wrong type of men, time and again?

Perhaps it’s not simply a matter of luck or circumstance, but of unconscious self-sabotage.

Sabotage is doing anything that’s not aligned with what you say you desire.

The reason why it’s unconscious is because you don’t realize you’re doing it! I’m sure you don’t wake up in the morning and think, “I can’t wait to sabotage my day (or love life)!”

Even so, the truth is – you’re always manifesting something, whether it’s what you want or what you don’t want.

And if you want to be in an extraordinary relationship, and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

Keep reading to explore three common self-saboteurs that might be hindering you from attracting the right man. Once you’re aware of these, you’ll be better equipped to make positive changes that can drastically improve your dating experiences.

Saboteur #1: Behaviors and Patterns

Since we said that most (if not all) self-sabotaging is unconscious, the easiest way to know if you’re self-sabotaging is to look at the behaviors and patterns that are not aligned with what you say you want.

Do you tolerate disrespectful behavior?

Do you not set or maintain your values and boundaries?

Do you constantly put others’ needs before your own?

Do you notice you settle for whatever’s showing up?

Do you get angry when a guy doesn’t call you for a 2nd date?

Do you write someone off before giving yourself a chance to get to know them because they aren’t tall enough, have been divorced or have kids?

Do you shut down and “take a break” from dating (perhaps for longer than really necessary) after a disappointing dating experience?

These are all examples of behaviors that can sabotage your dating experiences that you may not recognize.

Knowing what you want to experience inside the relationship of your dreams and BEing the woman who knows she can have it all supports you in transforming these behaviors and patterns that may be getting in the way.

When working to transform your actions it’s important to look for what thoughts are underneath them and driving the behavior.

Saboteur #2: Limiting Beliefs and Fears

The #1 most significant and common self-saboteur is overlooking the thoughts that are sabotaging you. Your thoughts lead to your behavior which leads to the patterns you’ve developed and the results you create.

What you attract is an energetic match for what you truly believe. In other words, you attract what you are, not what you want.

So, if you’re carrying unresolved issues, harboring negativity, or stuck in unhealthy patterns, you’re likely to attract individuals who mirror these same characteristics.

If you’re afraid you’re going to end up with a man who’s controlling, that’s probably exactly what you’re attracting – controlling men.

If you think all men are liars and cheaters, what will you attract? Men who don’t follow through with what they say and aren’t ready to commit.

Invest time in understanding and improving your thought patterns. If you’d like support with distinguishing, dismantling and replacing sabotaging thoughts, schedule a Love Breakthrough Session!

On this call we’ll support you to discover the thoughts that are leading to the dating experiences you don’t want so you can have a breakthrough and begin to create the results you desire!

Click HERE to Book your Complimentary Love Breakthrough Session Now!

By focusing on becoming the best version of you, you’ll naturally become more attractive to those who value and appreciate the qualities you’ve nurtured within yourself.

Saboteur #3: Clinging to What you Know and Not Getting Curious About What’s Not Working

If you want to be in the relationship of your dreams and you’re not – something is getting in the way.

I promise you, these are not the issues:

Where you live
What you do for a living
How much you weigh
Your age
How much debt you have
How many prior relationship you have (or haven’t) been in
There’s no good men out there or all the good ones are already taken

Holding onto these sabotaging and circumstantial beliefs can set you up for constant disappointment and make you overlook potentially great matches because they don’t fit your preconceived mold or because you don’t think you’re ready or deserving of love.

If you’re not attracting the type of man you’d like or creating the results you desire in dating and relationships, get curious and ask yourself, “Why am I attracting this?”

Attracting the right man is not about getting on the “right” dating apps or wearing the right outfit. It’s about introspection, self-improvement, and maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth.

If you find yourself constantly attracting the wrong kind of men, perhaps it’s time to step back and examine these areas of your life.

Avoid these self-sabotaging mistakes, and you’ll create a path to attract a partner who values, respects, and cherishes you, just as you are.

If you’d like support in having a breakthrough, then click HERE to schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with one of our fabulous Love Coaches.

Take this opportunity for yourself to overcome the thought and behavior patterns that are sabotaging your love life!

Remember, the journey to finding the right person often starts with being the right person to yourself. It’s time to become the person who attracts the love you deserve.

Reclaiming Your Power and Attracting the Love You Truly Deserve

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 30, 2023 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

One of the things we hear most from women is that they’re struggling to let go of a relationship – either a toxic relationship from the past or a “situationship” they’re currently in that’s not going anywhere.

They want to be able to break ties with their ex so they can be truly ready to attract the man who will be by their side forever.

They want to let go of the fear of rejection and allow themselves to really be seen, heard and loved!

They share that they have thoughts like this:

“Why can’t I let this go?”

“Why am I still stuck on this one person?”
“How will I ever move on from this toxic experience so I can have real love?”

“When am I going to stop settling for crumbs so that I can love and be loved the way I really want?”

Is this something you’ve dealt with (or are currently trying to break free from) too?

If being able to let go of past heartbreaks so you can manifest the committed relationship of your dreams is what you want, then this is for you.

Letting go can be challenging, but it’s essential for your growth and for opening up space in your heart to welcome true love. It involves recognizing what you’re holding onto, defining what it is that you really want and choosing to be in the relationship that is aligned.

So what does a toxic relationship look like?

Emotional/physical abuse
Verbal disrespect
Hurting each other on purpose
Brings out the worst in you or the other person
Manipulation
With someone who’s unavailable (married, separated, “getting divorced”)
Thinking you can “change” the person
Trying to “convince” them to want to commit to you or that they eventually will if you stay there long enough.

Basically any relationship where you have more unhappy moments than happy moments is toxic.

And yes, this includes situationships.

A “situationship” is where you’re spending time with someone and acting like you’re his girlfriend, when you’re not.

Even if you’re sleeping together, until he tells you straight that he wants to be committed to you, that he doesn’t want to see any other women and that he wants you to be committed to him – then it’s not a relationship.

If you say, “Well, it’s complicated.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you say, “We have an understanding and we’re both okay with it.”

It’s not a relationship.

If you have to ask him, “Where is this going?” then you already have your answer.

It’s not a relationship.

It’s either a relationship or it’s not and if it’s not and you’re acting like it is then you’re becoming emotionally attached and he’s not.

You may ask, “What’s so wrong with that?”

Here’s the problem with emotionally investing in a relationship that’s not reciprocated…

The heartache of breaking a situationship is just as bad and hurts just as much as breaking a real relationship (sometimes even more so).

Why?

Because you’ve invested so much emotion, time, attention and hope into something that wasn’t real anyway.

When you do that, you’re not only lying to yourself but over time you’ll feel resentment, regret, anger and like he used you (even though you were a willing participate).

These emotions – resentment, blame, anger, guilt, shame and regret – are toxic emotions that can be hard to move on from. You feel these emotions towards yourself and then project them onto the other person because you didn’t honor your boundaries, your dream, your vision.

Why would you do that to yourself?

We know that being alone can feel hard and painful sometimes, but here’s the truth:

Being in a relationship that’s anything less than what you really want is just as painful.

Even if it’s fun and passionate and exciting for a few weeks, it always ends in these toxic emotions and experiences that are hard to let go of and move on from.

We’ve coached women who have waited 2 years, 5 years, 12 years, 17 years for someone they thought they were in a relationship with to choose them!

If commitment and marriage is something you want, and for most of the women in our community that is what they want – then this is heartbreaking!

Most don’t want a long-term relationship. They don’t want something where they constantly have to wonder if he’s seeing other women, sleeping with someone else or if it’s ever going to go anywhere.

They want love, companionship and commitment.

So why do women stay in relationships or “situationships” that aren’t everything they want?

Fear that they’re never going to find what they want.
Feeling like something is better than nothing.
A belief that they type of man and relationship isn’t out there.
Not being clear on what they really want and then settling for whatever comes.

If you’re tired of not being in the relationship you want or settling for anything less…

Join us next Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!

In the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass, you’ll discover exactly what to stop doing and what to start doing, instead, so that you can easily let go of past toxic experiences and attract the perfect match for you.

You’ll learn how to easily and effortlessly attract the right man without wasting time, struggling, or settling.

These are the same steps we’ve taught and helped hundreds of women around the world meet the man they end up marrying in 30-90 days!

Why would you sentence yourself to “less than”?

How to Unlock the FUN, EASE and JOY of Dating:The Power of Dating with Purpose

by heartsdesireintl | May 26, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Are you dating just to date?

Or are you dating to meet your future husband?

Most of the ladies in our community are tired of wasting their time and are ready to meet their husband now!

And it’s possible! You can meet your husband THIS SUMMER!

How do I know? Because it happened to me!

One summer day I was stood up…

And that night I met my husband! If you would have told me that was going to happen – I would have said you were crazy!

But I went out to a reggae club and before I walked in, I set an intention that I was going to have fun…

And man, I did!

When people ask Ric what attracted him to me that night, he says it’s because I stood out because I was glowing and having so much fun.

Dating with Purpose

Now, in a world filled with swipe culture and fleeting encounters, dating with purpose is imperative to building meaningful connections.

It involves a conscious decision to embark on a journey of self-discovery and genuine exploration, seeking relationships that align with your values and long-term goals.

Dating with purpose emphasizes intentionality, personal growth, and the pursuit of connections that have the potential to flourish into fulfilling partnerships.

It’s about being intentional about your dating choices and focusing on quality over quantity.

Is it okay to go on lots of dates?

Of course!

But be willing to take the time to really get to know the men you’re dating so you can see beyond surface-level attractions.

When you date with purpose, you’re actively seeking relationships that align with your values, goals, and vision for the future.

Clarifying Your Values and Goals

In order to date with purpose, it’s crucial to gain clarity about your values and goals and what you want to experience inside the relationship of your dreams.

Take time to reflect on your personal values, what matters most to you, and what you’re looking for in a partner and relationship.

What do you want to feel when you’re together?
How do you want to feel when you’re apart?
What do you enjoy doing together?
Who are you when you’re in his presence?
Who is he?

This self-reflection will serve as a compass, guiding you towards relationships that have the potential for long-term fulfillment.

Embrace Personal Growth

Dating with purpose goes beyond the pursuit of finding a partner; it’s also about personal growth and self-improvement.

Dating is an opportunity to learn more about yourself, your preferences, and your boundaries. As you engage in meaningful connections, you’ll gain even more insights into your own desires and aspirations.

Every interaction and relationship can serve as a valuable learning experience, enabling you to grow and evolve as an Irresistible Woman.

Intentional Dating and Patience

Dating with purpose requires investing time and energy into building genuine connections.

It’s not about having a timeline, which can make you feel anxious and frustrated.

Remember that dating with purpose isn’t about rushing into a relationship but rather about allowing connections to unfold naturally and authentically.

It involves actively engaging in conversations, asking meaningful questions, and truly listening when you’re on dates. Have conversations that go beyond the superficial small-talk, and delve into values, interests, and long-term compatibility.

As you get to know men on a deeper level, you’re able to see if he’s a man who inspires you, challenges you intellectually, and supports your personal growth.

Practice vulnerability by expressing your desires, fears, and aspirations with potential partners. Allow yourself to be seen and understood, creating a foundation of trust and authenticity.

Navigating Setbacks and Rejections

Along the journey of dating with purpose, setbacks and rejections are inevitable, right?

Not every date and connection will be a perfect match, and that’s okay.

Embrace these challenges as opportunities for growth and refinement. See them as stepping stones towards finding your perfect match!

Remember, each experience teaches you something about yourself and what you truly desire in a relationship.

Now listen, there’s a lot of information out there about how to date, how not to date and how to find your husband!

And if you feel like you keep attracting men that aren’t aligned with what you’re looking for, men that only want to “hang out” or aren’t looking for a committed relationship…

Or if there’s anything that you’ve been bumping up against that’s taking you off of your purpose, confusing you, or having you self-sabotage your ability to easily attract the man that you want to marry – schedule a complimentary Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches.

On the call you’ll gain clarity, see what’s getting in your way and work through the setbacks so you can enjoy the journey of dating!

Our purpose and intention as your coaches is to provide you with coaching, training and support that will make the path to you attracting, meeting and marrying the man that you’re going to spend your life with easier, fun, and fulfilling!

Because dating gets to be easy and fun!

And you absolutely CAN meet your husband this summer!

The Key to Transform Your Love Life: Overcoming Fear and Finding Extraordinary Love NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 20, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to break through your deepest fears when it comes to love?

Even if you’ve done “all the work” and your brain is saying:

“I’ve already dealt with it.”

“I’ve done all there is to do!”

“I’ve worked through my fears.”

– If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, there’s still a hidden fear or limiting belief available for you to uncover!

That’s why it’s so important that you work with a strong mentor who can help you see the piece (your blindspot) you’re not seeing yet so you can have a real breakthrough!

The type of heart-changing experience that rises above and beyond what’s ordinary and creates an energetic shift that transforms you and the way you’re showing up in your life.

That’s powerful and it’s what we’ll be teaching you this weekend at the Detox Your Love Life Masterclass!!!

Since a breakthrough is an experience above and beyond the ordinary – it’s usually not something you can create for yourself. A real breakthrough requires the support of someone who can see what you can’t see AND support you in transforming it.

Creating a breakthrough in your life requires the assistance of a coach.

On top of having a coach, you must be:

1) Committed to having a breakthrough and declaring what you want.

2) Willing to move past what’s comfortable

3) Ready and excited to apply the coaching

Let’s dive deeper.

1) Committed to Having a Breakthrough and Declaring What You Want.

A declaration is not a list of things you don’t want or what you’re tired of creating.

A declaration is a powerful statement with crystal clarity of what you do want.

If you can’t articulate what you want, you’re not going to get it.

So what do you want?

What’s the ONE thing that if it was no longer in your way would accelerate your experience and have you create the relationship of your dreams?

Once you know that – that’s the first step to creating a breakthrough!

2) Willing to Move Past What’s Comfortable

Doing what you’ve always done will get you the same results you’ve always gotten. The relationship you’ve always dreamt of is outside your comfort zone!

You must prime your brain to stop the repetitive and sabotaging patterns that keep breaking your heart and are keeping you from reaching your goals in love.

In order to create the right relationship with the right man, you must take the right steps given to you by the right coach!

3) Be Ready and Excited to Apply the Coaching

Again, since a breakthrough is something above and beyond the ordinary, it’s going to take doing something above and beyond what you’ve always done.

The coaching you receive might not make perfect sense because it’s going to be something different. But if you’ll trust your coach and apply the coaching we give – you’ll have an extraordinary transformation!

You get to have a breakthrough so that you don’t keep doing the same patterns over and over forever and never create the results you want.

And the best news of all is that this weekend we’ve got the perfect opportunity for you at the Detox Your Love Life Masterclass!

Register for the FREE Masterclass NOW!

If you’re tired of not having the relationship of your dreams and can’t figure out what’s still in the way…

If you want to attract more love and are frustrated that you’re doing all the things and still not getting the results you want.

If you’ve been waiting a long time to start enjoying life with the RIGHT partner, but the clock keeps ticking and nothing is changing.

If you’re ready to have the loving, supportive, connected, safe love you desire – then you get to have a breakthrough NOW!

Join us Saturday (and be open and willing to receive) and we promise you’ll walk away with a breakthrough.

How long has it been since you’ve been in a safe, strong, beautiful, inspiring relationship?

How long have you been waiting to create the relationship of your dreams?

This really can be the moment everything changes for you.

Click HERE to register. We’ll see you there!

3 Steps to Stop Doubting Yourself and Attract the RIGHT Man NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 7, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever doubt yourself?

Do you ever question whether or not you’ve made the right decision about a career move, whether or not to keep dating someone you’ve grown to care about, or where to live?

What does it feel like to not be able to trust yourself to make the best decisions for your future?

One of the top things we hear from women, successful, driven, passionate women like you, is that they have a hard time trusting themselves.

And that lack of self-trust leaves them feeling disempowered and afraid.

When you can’t trust yourself life becomes a lot more scary than it actually is!

Whether you’re looking for a love that will take you around the world, bring you children and an expanded family or simply love and support in your already amazing life, we’re certain that you want your intuition to guide you to a good man who’ll be a good match for you and all of your hopes and dreams.

So what if you don’t trust yourself to find him?

What if you worry that your “picker” is broken or that you always choose the “wrong” men?

When you don’t trust yourself then what chooses for you isn’t you.

What chooses instead are your fears.

Your thoughts that you’re not good enough…

The fear of ending up alone forever…

Remembering all the “wrong” men you’ve attracted in the past and disbelief that anything will ever be any different.

Thinking you’ll be taken advantage of like you were before…

When these are the thoughts swirling around in your mind it’s debilitating and life and love feel scary as hell.

So how do you break through these fears and begin to trust you again?

Acceptance. First you get to accept yourself and everything about your past.

If you allow your past to determine your future you’ll always feel like you have something to prove, like there’s something to overcome, like you have to work to not become your mother or make the same mistakes you’ve already made.

Your past doesn’t have to define you, tell you who you are or let you know what you can expect of your future.
Forgiveness. Second, you get to forgive the version of you that chose the painful experiences of the past so you can heal and move forward.

You get to remove the emotional charge behind the memories so that they no longer have power to influence your present and future.
Clarity. After you’ve healed your past you can stand powerfully in who you are in the present. Then, and only then, can you be clear about what you want for your future.

Once you have crystal clarity around what it is that you want to experience in a relationship, you’ll be able to stand for the man and relationship you want instead of settling for whatever’s there.

It’s incredible what opens up when you’re able to accept and love yourself fully!

When you know what you want and can be yourself without reservation you feel happier and more comfortable with yourself because the real you is showing up!

Your intuition becomes stronger and you’re more and more able to make the decisions that are right for you quickly and without reservation or doubt.

And…

You’re able to attract the type of men that you WANT to be with and that want to be with the real you too!

If that’s something you want, then join us on Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass!

In this fun, interactive 3-hour workshop, you’ll:

Identify the barrier that have the fears and doubts show up instead of the right man
Gain Clarity about what you want in a relationship
Discover what men are looking for and what repels them
Manifest the life and love your heart desires for a LIFETIME

If that’s what you want – then click HERE to register for this free event!

Once you register, you’ll receive love notes throughout the rest of this week so you can receive support in love starting NOW and so you can come prepared on Saturday to meet the RIGHT man now!

We can’t wait to see you there!

The ONE Thing You Need to Know to Attract TRUE LOVE Into Your Life!

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 13, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever wonder whether or not extraordinary love is possible for you?

Do you fear you’ll never find someone who will see you, love you, hear you and want to share a life with you?

If you answered yes to either of those questions, you’re not alone and…

I know how you feel because I felt the exact same way for years.

After my husband cheated on me and we got divorced, putting myself out in the dating game again was not only hard and terrifying – it left me feeling doubtful and discouraged that I’d ever find someone who would love me again.

It wasn’t until I discovered the secret I’m going to share with you today that my love life, and whole life actually, were transformed.

This secret isn’t about doing something “more” or “better” than you’ve done in the past.

It points back to ONE fundamental thing and if you don’t know how to create this ONE thing, it will lead you to 5, 10, 20 more years of not creating the love and life that you want.

When I look back at who I was and what my life looked like BEFORE I learned this secret and who I became and how my life transformed AFTER, it’s like looking at 2 different lives!

What it all boiled down to was this…

Really being IN the experience of being in love with myself.

And not in a conceited, arrogant or entitled way.

And not in a weekly massages and pedicures kind of way either.

Loving myself at a deep, raw, true level so that when I looked in the mirror, I didn’t compare myself to my best friend or the actress on TV. I didn’t wish my thighs were smaller or that my teeth were straighter.

And when I looked myself in the eyes, I didn’t wish I was funnier, smarter or more successful.

I knew in my heart that I was enough, that I was love-able and that I would find someone else who felt the same.

And once I became whole in that way – only then was I able to create something extraordinary with someone else.

That’s the secret to creating real love and that’s why we’re hosting the Self-Love Secret Mission Challenge this week!

When you develop this type of love within yourself you:

💖 Have the courage to be who you really are

💖 Don’t have to spend days, months, years, (or even minutes!) recovering when someone makes you feel unloveable

💖 Communicate in a way that exemplifies true love and true power

💖 Speak your “truth” without having it look like your anger on a loud speaker.

💖Know at the ultimate level that you’re enough and be able to create an extraordinary relationship with another human being who knows and feels the same

Because until you develop this deep love within yourself, no one else’s love will make a difference.

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and we’re committed to YOU elevating what you’re doing in life and love so that you can have everything you dream of!

The Self-Love Secret Mission Challenge begins TONIGHT at 6pm EST and you get to be there!

This week can be the week that bridges the gap between where you are now and where you want to be because your love for yourself expands.

Here’s what ladies have said about the transformation this challenge created for them:

“My biggest takeaway from the Self-Love Secret Mission is that I am more than enough just as I am, and that I am my biggest champion! I now believe with all my heart that I will attract a high-quality man with whom I will create the relationship of my dreams! I highly recommend this challenge to anyone willing to love themselves like never before. You will truly fall in love with yourself!” -Cari

“Before I did The Self-Love Secret Mission, I felt stuck and like I needed change in my life and some direction. During the mission, I learned that self-love is a holistic act in that you feed your self with love, talk to yourself with love, eat food and think loving thoughts about yourself. I realized that I’ve been so negative about being in a relationship for years so now it’s just a process of noticing my self-talk, changing my limiting beliefs, and knowing I don’t have to do it all on my own. I seriously felt the best when I was doing this, and I totally want to get back into that energy again, where crazy magical things were happening!” -Anna

You get to experience extraordinary love from the INSIDE OUT!

When you learn to love yourself at this deep level, your confidence, compassion, trust, communication increase. And the list goes on – because it touches everything!

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