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The ONE Thing You Need to Know to Attract TRUE LOVE Into Your Life!

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 13, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever wonder whether or not extraordinary love is possible for you?

Do you fear you’ll never find someone who will see you, love you, hear you and want to share a life with you?

If you answered yes to either of those questions, you’re not alone and…

I know how you feel because I felt the exact same way for years.

After my husband cheated on me and we got divorced, putting myself out in the dating game again was not only hard and terrifying – it left me feeling doubtful and discouraged that I’d ever find someone who would love me again.

It wasn’t until I discovered the secret I’m going to share with you today that my love life, and whole life actually, were transformed.

This secret isn’t about doing something “more” or “better” than you’ve done in the past.

It points back to ONE fundamental thing and if you don’t know how to create this ONE thing, it will lead you to 5, 10, 20 more years of not creating the love and life that you want.

When I look back at who I was and what my life looked like BEFORE I learned this secret and who I became and how my life transformed AFTER, it’s like looking at 2 different lives!

What it all boiled down to was this…

Really being IN the experience of being in love with myself.

And not in a conceited, arrogant or entitled way.

And not in a weekly massages and pedicures kind of way either.

Loving myself at a deep, raw, true level so that when I looked in the mirror, I didn’t compare myself to my best friend or the actress on TV. I didn’t wish my thighs were smaller or that my teeth were straighter.

And when I looked myself in the eyes, I didn’t wish I was funnier, smarter or more successful.

I knew in my heart that I was enough, that I was love-able and that I would find someone else who felt the same.

And once I became whole in that way – only then was I able to create something extraordinary with someone else.

That’s the secret to creating real love and that’s why we’re hosting the Self-Love Secret Mission Challenge this week!

When you develop this type of love within yourself you:

💖 Have the courage to be who you really are

💖 Don’t have to spend days, months, years, (or even minutes!) recovering when someone makes you feel unloveable

💖 Communicate in a way that exemplifies true love and true power

💖 Speak your “truth” without having it look like your anger on a loud speaker.

💖Know at the ultimate level that you’re enough and be able to create an extraordinary relationship with another human being who knows and feels the same

Because until you develop this deep love within yourself, no one else’s love will make a difference.

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and we’re committed to YOU elevating what you’re doing in life and love so that you can have everything you dream of!

The Self-Love Secret Mission Challenge begins TONIGHT at 6pm EST and you get to be there!

This week can be the week that bridges the gap between where you are now and where you want to be because your love for yourself expands.

Here’s what ladies have said about the transformation this challenge created for them:

“My biggest takeaway from the Self-Love Secret Mission is that I am more than enough just as I am, and that I am my biggest champion! I now believe with all my heart that I will attract a high-quality man with whom I will create the relationship of my dreams! I highly recommend this challenge to anyone willing to love themselves like never before. You will truly fall in love with yourself!” -Cari

“Before I did The Self-Love Secret Mission, I felt stuck and like I needed change in my life and some direction. During the mission, I learned that self-love is a holistic act in that you feed your self with love, talk to yourself with love, eat food and think loving thoughts about yourself. I realized that I’ve been so negative about being in a relationship for years so now it’s just a process of noticing my self-talk, changing my limiting beliefs, and knowing I don’t have to do it all on my own. I seriously felt the best when I was doing this, and I totally want to get back into that energy again, where crazy magical things were happening!” -Anna

You get to experience extraordinary love from the INSIDE OUT!

When you learn to love yourself at this deep level, your confidence, compassion, trust, communication increase. And the list goes on – because it touches everything!

How You Could Be Kissing Your Man On New Years Eve!

by heartsdesireintl | Nov 7, 2022 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you like waiting for the things that you want?

If you’re like me – you don’t!

I don’t like waiting in lines. When I’m at a restaurant I want my food to come out fast…

And when I have a goal to create something that I really want – I do whatever it takes to make it happen now!

What about you?

What is a big goal you’ve had that you wish would just appear already!

I don’t know for sure, but since you’re reading this email I’m thinking that one of the desires of your heart is to be in the relationship of your dreams.

And not next year or 5 years from now…

You want it now!

Yes?

Here’s what I do know…

Sitting in complacency won’t work.

And complacency doesn’t always look like doing absolutely nothing.

Complacency could also look like:

Sitting and thinking about the goal
Planning out for the 10th time how you’re going to accomplish it
Processing why you haven’t created it yet
Talking to a friend about it.
Praying and waiting for God to make it happen.

Now, all of those things play a part in creating things that are important to you.

Thinking, planning, praying and support are all pieces to manifesting the things we want the most!

But nothing will actually be created without one thing…

ACTION!

Accomplishing goals takes ACTION.

And not just any action.

When it comes to dating, you may be doing all the things and still not be creating the results you want.

You’ve got to be taking the right actions!

What if in the next week, you could learn how to easily attract a really great man who also wants to be in a committed relationship with YOU?

What if, by December 31st, you could have met the man you’ll spend the rest of your life with?!

Miracles happen every single day so just think about how many miracles could happen in 8 weeks!

Yes – I’m ready to take action to create my miracle!

Our client Elena, met us during a challenge, came to an event and then 9 days later went on her first date with the man who’s now her husband. 9 months after the event she was married and they’re about to celebrate their one year anniversary this month!

Mary Beth came to an event last December and by December 31st had reconnected with someone she’d dated previously and now, less than a year later, she’s married too!

If your brain is saying, “That’s not possible for me” – ask yourself why?

Here’s the thing.

We’ve witnessed so many relationships be created following our events, we know it can happen for you too!

We’re on a mission to help 100 women be on the path to the relationships of their dreams by December 31st.

Will you be one of those women?

If you’re ready to stop putting off and waiting to be in the relationship of your dreams and want to get into action and create the love you dream of RIGHT NOW then join us for the Extraordinary Love NOW Event happening this weekend – November 12th-13th!

Claim Your Spot Here!

This is THE event to put you on the path to be in the relationship of your dreams by the end of the year.

This isn’t an event where you just come and sit, learn and process.

At this powerful 2-Day Intensive, you’ll be doing the work so that you leave the weekend READY, with the plan and the support you need, to be on the way to the relationship of your dreams!

By this time next Monday, you’ll be ready to:

Date successfully
Attract a man who’s a match for your values and vision
Create the relationship of your dreams because you have crystal clarity around what you want
Use the skills you’ve learned to attract the relationship of your dreams
Plus more!

Don’t keep putting this dream on hold.

Don’t be the woman who says, “I wish I would have done this two years ago.”

You get to be a woman who knows this is possible for you and knows how to shorten the gap between where you are now and being IN the relationship you’ve always wanted.

Join us now!

The #1 Mistake Women Make When Communicating With Men and What To Do Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 21, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you understand men?

Or do you find yourself asking:

What the @*!# was he thinking?

Did he really just say that?

Why doesn’t he listen to me?

If you don’t feel seen, heard and understood when you’re communicating with your partner, and you’re wondering why you feel so disconnected, there’s a reason AND a solution!

AND this is not just for romantic relationships – this is important to remember in all of your relationships with men – fathers, brothers, and male colleagues at work.

First… It’s not personal. It’s biological!

Men aren’t just hairier, more muscular versions of women. (Surprise!)

There’s a reason why women can multi-task and men need to focus on one thing at a time.

There’s a reason why men jump in, interrupt and try to solve your problem before you’ve even shared what you wanted to say.

And there’s a reason why you get home from a date where you experienced so much fun and connection and then feel confused when he doesn’t ask you out again.

It’s not a matter of intelligence or not caring.

Men are actually wired differently.

And the differences in how they think, speak, and act can create major conflict and frustration in you and your relationship, as you feel like you can’t talk, communicate, or connect with each other.

The good news is that, even with all of these differences, it IS possible to feel completely seen, heard, understood and loved by your man (and for him to feel the same way).

This is why we created the Decoding Your Man Masterclass – which is happening Saturday, October 22nd at 12pm EST

If you haven’t registered yet, REGISTER HERE!

Our goal is for you to understand how the differences in our biology impact every level of our relationships, and how you can still feel empowered to have better communication, deeper connection, and real, lasting intimacy with the man you love.

It’s absolutely possible to share what you feel, think, and need in a way that leaves you BOTH feeling seen, heard, understood, and loved!

In this powerful masterclass, you’ll learn the Decoding Your Man Method and:

The #1 mistake women make when communicating with men, and what to do instead!
Discover the differences between the way men’s and women’s brains are wired and how that impacts communication and romance with the opposite sex
Learn the keys to avoiding arguments and misunderstandings so that you can create love and partnership in your relationship vs. working against each other
Unlock and master the secrets to knowing exactly what to say and do get the love and support you want from your partner
How to create a happy, loving, passionate relationship that lasts for a lifetime!
And so much more!

The reason why he says “I’m busy” when you try to ask him a question while he’s working is because men are wired to focus on one thing at a time.z

The reason why he jumps in and interrupts you when you’re simply wanting to be listened to is because he hears you’re in pain and wants to be your hero and solve your problem.

And the reason why you have an incredible date but then don’t see him again is because while you were thinking about and assessing the entire date in the moment (and don’t tell us you don’t do that, hehe) – he was 100% focused on making sure the date was fun and enjoyable for you and then thought out those things after.

Is your mind blown?

We’ll be explaining so many more questions like these on Saturday and you’ll smile each time you hear yourself saying, “Aha! That explains it!”

It’s not just about knowing the facts and understanding why men do what they do.

It’s also about knowing how to dance with them by having the skills and knowing how to communicate in a way that sets you both up to win.

If you want to learn how to communicate in a way so that you can be received and responded to in a healthy, supportive, loving and caring way, make sure to join us for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass by registering for FREE at the link below.

Register for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass!

How to Have It All… (Success in Life AND Love)

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 23, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship Advice, Romance, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

There are so many women who believe they have to choose between having a successful business or a great relationship. They truly don’t believe it’s possible to have both.

Here’s the deal: If you believe you can’t have both, you’re living in a scarcity conversation, and you’re actually blocking the success you could be experiencing in BOTH!

So many of our clients are rocking it in their business as well as their love lives.

And we are too!

That’s why, we know that not only is it possible for you to have both – it actually makes all of it even better!

High-quality men want to support, be in contribution to, and pour into a high-quality woman.

Men want to support us.

I’ll never forget, years back, when I was crying, sitting in a restaurant with tears flowing down my face because I’d just been on the phone with my business coach.

I was feeling so defeated that I didn’t know what all of the tech terms meant or what all of this software I needed was, and didn’t know how I was ever going to be successful in my business when I felt so clueless about this aspect of running a business.

Ric saw the opportunity, and he literally learned how to create funnels, build websites and do all-things-tech related to our business, simply as a result of wanting to support me and my dream.

It’s okay if you don’t have a clue what any of those things mean either, what matters is that all these years later and I can’t even imagine where I, or Hearts Desire for that matter, would be without him.

The other reason why men love being with high-quality, successful, driven women is because it inspires them to be more.

I’ll also never forget the day when I heard Ric, my soft-spoken husband, stand on one of our stages at an event and say, “Seeing how committed Gladys is to her own transformation inspires me to become a better man.”

Definitely another tearful moment for me!

Until then I knew he admired the things I did, my career, and professional accomplishments.

But that day, he was talking about what he admired about ME and the woman I AM!

No award, degree, or certificate I’ve earned can hold a candle to that!

The most beautiful thing about creating a partnership with someone who loves and admires you AND your determination and commitment in the world is what you can create together.

It gives you the opportunity to lean on one another and lift each other up when you have days where you’re having a hard time seeing it in yourself.

Supportive partners see you, experience you and hear you in a way that you sometimes fail to see, and they share your life, your success, and all of the ordinary-extraordinary moments with you as you continue to strive for success in all areas of your life.

When you know that you’re a love-able woman, then you can attract someone who believes that, too.

When you’re honest and authentic about who you are, that’s when you’ll find the man who will love you completely.

When you trust yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re capable of creating an amazing relationship in your life, you WILL!

This is what I know was true for me and, it’s true for you too.

Break Your TRIGGERS To Be the Irresistible YOU!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 29, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success

by Gladys Diaz

Imagine you were in a conversation with someone where you felt upset, pressured, threatened or angry.

How would you normally respond?

There was a time when I would get into arguments with people, over things that didn’t even matter the next day.

I would be so sure that I was right…

…there’d be a big blow-up, and then…

…I’d just move on like they never existed.

That worked for me – until it didn’t.

When I started to recognize how distant all of my relationships were and how impossible I was making it to get close enough to anyone to create an intimate, loving, supportive partnership – I knew something needed to change!

Can you relate?

When our fear response is set off, our “reptilian brain” kicks in and our human, automatic response is triggered. Hormones are released, the subconscious is activated and an emotional response ensues.

And whatever you do when that situation arises is what you do – without even thinking about it.

You either:

FIGHT – You lash out with criticism, bitterness, yelling and insults in an attempt to deal with the fear and hurt you’re feeling. You have an “adult temper tantrum” and everyone has to know you’re upset.
FREEZE – You hold in your feelings and internalize your anger, eventually creating sickness in your body.
FLEE – You withdraw, avoid and numb out your emotions.

What’s your pattern when your triggers are set off?

When this automatic pattern is triggered, you’re not even aware of what’s happening.

You’re not conscious that you could be doing things another way. You feel great in the moment, but then, when the adrenaline wears off – you have the emotional hangover that you don’t know what to do with.

The thing is, there’s something bigger underneath it all.

The pattern is simply the coping mechanism you developed as a child to deal with the pain, hurt and heartbreak and when those fears that are still present for you are triggered – your pattern goes off.

The thing about love and intimate relationships is that these patterns simply don’t work. There’s nothing men despise more than drama.

What men want more than anything else is a woman who’s emotionally mature – even more than they want someone they’re physically attracted to!

They want a woman who knows herself, knows her triggers and has learned how to handle her emotions with grace.

The good news is there’s a way you can break these patterns.

It’s possible to feel your feelings, communicate your needs AND show up the way you want to!

It’s not about perfection, it’s about being able to get upset and handle it with grace.

If you don’t want to continue the patterns of your past, you get to create not just new ways – but effective ways to do things differently.

If you want to attract a man who’s a match for you, then you get to BE the woman that’s going to attract that.

This is why we’re so passionate about you joining us at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Over the course of 3 days we’ll be doing the HeartWork necessary to release the pain of the past and give you the tools to be able to communicate and relate to yourself and others effectively!

You’ll come out of the three-day weekend event KNOWING not only that you ARE an Irresistible Woman but also be able to show up as her in every area of your life!

What’s possible when you show up that way is literally incredible.

And that’s what we want for you!

There’s only one more day – TODAY – to grab your ticket to Irresistible Woman LIVE PLUS all of the bonuses we’re currently offering for $97.

Tonight at midnight Eastern time the price is going up and the bonuses are going away, so if you’ve been on the fence – the time to act is now.

Grab the Ultimate Love Bundle!

If you have toxic patterns, you’ll attract toxic men and create toxic relationships.

It’s just that simple.

When you learn how to rewrite those patterns and show up as the graceful, beautiful, Irresistible Woman that you are – that’s when the magic happens!

When you’re able to have circumstances show up and you’re unchanged – that’s real power!

Join us at The Irresistible Woman LIVE and step into your power now!

How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 8, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

How can you decipher the “truth” of what goes on inside your head?

How do you know if the negative thoughts you have (that we all have by the way) are what’s “real” or if they’re simply something you’re imagining, a limiting belief you have from the past or a “trigger”.

Here’s a secret for you…

90% of the thoughts you have are negative. Can you believe that?!

Those thoughts are not always, “the world is coming to an end” type of thoughts, but they are some form of fear, worry or anxiety.

This is true for us, for you and for every other person on the planet.

Why?

Because we’re human.

We’re designed to survive. It’s built into us to look for outside circumstances that may cause us harm.

Here’s the thing though…

Most of us no longer live in a world where we need to be on the constant look-out for danger.

Unfortunately our brains don’t know that and continue to throw worrying thoughts at you all day long!

When it comes to dating and relationships these negative thoughts might look like…

…”Why is my boyfriend going on a 3-day work trip with that female colleague of his? They usually only go for 2 days.”

… “Why hasn’t that guy called me yet? He said he would – he must be a flake!”

… “This guy is amazing! I can’t believe how much fun we’re having together. When am I going to find out the truth about him?”

… “Why is my husband always looking at his phone? Am I not interesting enough to want to talk to?”

You get the idea.

What are some of the negative thoughts that are currently impacting your love life?

The kicker is that all negative thoughts (left unchecked) lead to negative actions. These negative actions usually lead to some sort of emotional spin or fall-out.

Which is super unfortunate – especially if the negative thought is something that’s not even real right?!

So – what can you do to interrupt those negative thoughts so you don’t become the crazy lady that’s stalking your husband’s phone, doing late night drive-bys of your boyfriend’s house or constantly finding reasons to text the guy you just met.

(We’ve been there and chances are you have to.)

1) When a negative or fearful thought enters your mind – count to 3, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”

By doing this you’re interrupting the pattern. We aren’t always in control of the thoughts that come into our mind, but we are in control of what we do with them.

When you take a moment to pause – you’re taking control and beginning to have a conscious conversation with yourself rather than reacting to whatever’s happening inside or outside.

2) Do the HeartWork to uncover what’s underneath these thoughts. Get to the root of what has you feeling insecure, jealous, worried or afraid.

This is so important because if you don’t heal the root wound – nothing will ever change. You’ll constantly find reasons to continue to believe that you aren’t good enough, that men aren’t reliable or good or that you’ll never have the love you dream of.

Until you heal the thing that’s causing the negative belief in the first place, you’ll continue to experience the same worries, fear and insecurities.

Are you ready for something more?

Are you ready to take control of your thoughts and become the confident woman that KNOWS she is SAFE and LOVEABLE?

If you answered yes, then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

This challenge is 5 days of high energy, high fun, and high power transformation that will have you breakthrough what’s standing between you and the real love, happiness, connection and intimacy that you want.

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge here!

At the end of next week you’ll know exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship that you dream about and you will have broken through the thing that is continuing to stop you from creating it.

Your time is now!

Don’t waste another day swimming through the negative thoughts in your head.

Take control and begin creating the life and love you want now!

Join us here. We can’t wait to see you there.

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