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How To See the Real, Vulnerable, Inspiring, Authentic, Magnetic, Beautiful YOU!

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 29, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

We’re sure you’ve heard the saying, “Fake it til you make it” right?

Do you ever feel like you’re doing that when you’re on a date, in a job interview, working on a project or meeting someone new?

What if we told you that you never need to feel that way again?! That there’s no need to fake it until you make anything!

We believe the real magic is in the phrase, “Be It and Believe It and then You Will See It!”

What does that mean?

If you’re not in the relationship, job, house (or anything really) of your dreams, there’s something about the authentic you that’s not showing up.

The laws of the universe make it so that when you’re really authentically being you and accepting all of that – your frequency is elevated so high that you naturally attract exactly what you want to you.

When you’re BEing authentically YOU – your vibration is elevated so high that a high quality man that wants exactly who you are is drawn to you!

Well, if that’s true then why aren’t we all walking around being authentically ourselves all the time?

Why do we still sometimes feel like we have to “fake it”?

Here are 5 ways you may not be being authentic (that you may or may not be aware of):

Hiding – When you hide part of yourself, keep a mask up, don’t say what you want or that something’s hurting you – those are all examples of hiding and not being authentic
Fighting – Having a “take it or leave it” attitude because of residue from past heartbreak, being reactive because of fear, getting angry when you’re afraid to get vulnerable
Running Away – You stop responding to a guy if you don’t like something he says/does, break something off that you’re still enjoying because you’re afraid to get hurt
Settling – Pretending you’re happy in a relationship when you know it’s not what you want, convincing yourself that you’re in a relationship when you’re actually not, thinking that something is better than nothing
Holding on – Not letting go of something that’s over or that should be over because it’s not everything you/the other person really want

If you’re not being yourself a man simply can’t fall in love with YOU because he can only fall in love with what you’re showing him.

If there’s parts of you that aren’t being 100% yourself then whatever relationship you create is only a reflection of that and will never be complete.

When you do the HeartWork to develop the type of relationship with yourself that has you know and accept yourself – flaws and all – then your entire experience of life changes and what you attract into your life is a reflection of that!

That’s why you’ve got to join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU 5-Day Challenge next week!

In this challenge we’ll be showing you how to:

take off the masks you’re wearing
break through the walls you have up
take the things you’re doing to sabotage your goals and show you what to do instead

In 5 days you’ll be able to see the vulnerable, inspiring, authentic, magnetic, real beautiful YOU!!

Yes, I’m ready to fall in love with ME!

Here’s your opportunity. You can either keep doing this on your own, or you can do it with a coach by your side. So many women in our community have gotten engaged and married as a result of participating in this challenge – and that can soon be you!

Don’t miss out!

Sign up for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge Now.

Marriage Isn’t the Real Goal – Here’s What Is.

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 11, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the biggest mistake women make when it comes to dating?

Do you want to know the answer to why 50% of marriages in the United States fail?

Do you want to have a real conversation about what you can do to make sure you don’t become part of that statistic?

We’ve got you.

The biggest mistake women make while dating is being solely focused on finding the right man and not thinking about the lifetime that will follow.

Shortly after we started our coaching we noticed women getting amazing results – they were attracting really awesome men (which was no surprise to us!)

The problem was that then they would self-sabotage.

They would start doing the same things they did with the wrong men. The old patterns would resurface with the new, great guy, and there’d be a breakdown in the relationship.

That’s why we’re passionate about teaching women how to break through old patterns that are continuing to follow them around!

Because the real goal isn’t marriage.

The REAL goal is creating a life-time love.

Research has found that the most common reasons people give for their marriage ending are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse.

We understand this first hand because Michelle’s 1st marriage ended in divorce and after my first husband passed away and I found Ric, my marriage almost ended also.

When I was first married to Ric things were so incredible!

I would lay in bed at night with tears of gratitude streaming down my face because I was so in awe that I’d found Ric. I was in love again and with an incredibly good man!

It was incredible because there’d been a time when I didn’t think that was possible.

But then, 6 years later, we started to fall apart.

I didn’t have the skills to create a life-long love.

I didn’t have the communication skills that work.

I thought I always had to be right.

I thought I was being honest and encouraging when I would tell him what he should be doing and how good he’d be at it.

I almost lost that beautiful marriage.

But then I became super committed to learning about how to create a lasting relationship.

I learned that being right wasn’t that important.

I learned how to say things in a way that Ric could hear.

I learned how to respect his thoughts, ideas and opinions – even if I didn’t agree with them!

I learned that doing the Heartwork that we now teach along with learning the skills I didn’t have naturally was the key to not only maintaining the beautiful relationship I had found with Ric – but make it stronger and stronger year after year!

And here we are 23 years later and happier than ever.

So how do you break through your love barriers that are having you sabotage your relationships?

Get Curious

What are the patterns you’re seeing?

What isn’t working?

What are the things that keep showing up in your relationships that have them break down?

Dive into where the sabotaging patterns came from.

Why does this pattern exist for you?

What is the fear or belief behind the behavior?

When did you first experience this?

Learn what to do to replace the sabotaging pattern.

This is the part that most people miss! The only way to really break through a barrier in your life is to learn what to replace the old pattern with.

You have the ability to create a strong foundation for your relationship that you can keep growing and growing forever when you break through your love barriers and learn the skills that will have that relationship continue to grow in love, passion and respect for a life-time.

If you’re single and you’d like to attract the right man or if you’re in a relationship that you want to last forever, book a call with one of our coaches so you can have a breakthrough!

Schedule your Love Breakthrough Session

Come to the call knowing the pattern that you’re seeing and what you’re interested in creating so you can have a breakthrough!

You don’t need to be part of the 50% whose marriage will end in divorce. You can attract the right man and create a relationship together that will last a life-time – all you have to do is learn how.

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

by heartsdesireintl | Dec 17, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

What’s your initial reaction when a girlfriend offers to pay for your lunch?

What do you respond with when someone offers you a compliment?

What do you say when a man offers to help you out with something?

As we’re in this holiday season of love, sharing and connecting we wanted to shed some light on a topic that most women don’t think of as something that’s holding them back in love, but that is key to creating the relationship of your dreams.

In our work with thousands of women, we’ve found that for many of us, it’s hard to receive.

We work with so many women who want to create a loving, connected relationship with an incredible partner, but then can’t accept a compliment when given, don’t feel comfortable allowing a man to pay for dinner on a date, or don’t know how to graciously receive a gift.

Can you relate?

Why does it feel uncomfortable to accept things from others?

There’s vulnerability to receiving.

You can only experience love and intimacy to the level that you’re willing to be vulnerable, which is why it’s so important to be able to receive well.

The three things that are the most important to men are being able to:

1) Please

2) Protect

3) Provide

If you’re unable to receive from a man, it’s impossible for him to feel connected to you. He will either feel unappreciated and stop trying or he will interpret your behavior to mean you’re not interested.

So… if you notice that you feel uncomfortable receiving, the next couple of weeks are the perfect time to practice!

First, get curious about why receiving makes you uncomfortable.

In most cases, it’s a worthiness conversation.

You may have a belief that you have to “do” something in order to “earn” love”

You may think that you don’t deserve certain things.

You may believe you’re simply not good enough.

Whatever the underlying reason, get clear on where that feeling comes from for you so that you can break through it.

Then, take the opportunity this holiday season to stretch into allowing others to contribute to you, give to you and receive with grace and gratitude.

Being able to receive with grace and gratitude is the way to a man’s heart. It’s the key to turning on your feminine energy and attracting everything you desire to you.

If you’d like support in clearing up what causes you discomfort in receiving, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches!

The first step in creating the relationship of your dreams is getting clear on what’s holding you back so you can clear the way. Like we said before, receiving with grace is something that many women struggle with, but don’t see as a problem.

Take the first step in becoming a gracious and grateful receiver by booking your Love Breakthrough Session now.

If you don’t see any times available when you click above, please click the words, “contact us” and submit a request with some days and times and our coaches will get back to you.

Remember, you can only create love and connection to the degree you’re willing to be vulnerable. Get vulnerable this holiday season and receive the love you so freely deserve!

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 29, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

I wish I was better at communicating with my partner.

He never understands me!

I don’t dare say what I’m feeling because I don’t want to get into an argument.

I feel like I talk and he doesn’t even hear me!

These are just a few of the things we heard from women last weekend at Irresistible Woman LIVE and they’re the same things we hear from our clients when they first start working with us.

Communicating with men can seem difficult. We know it can feel like you’re speaking a completely different language that he doesn’t even care to try to understand.

It was a very hard part of my marriage for years. I would communicate things to Ric and I wouldn’t feel like he heard me.

So I would say it again – louder. I thought that would make him understand.

It didn’t work.

He would feel disrespected and I would feel like I was not being understood and before we knew it, we were two people yelling at each other – getting nowhere in the conversation.

It was a very painful dynamic of our relationship for many years…

…until we learned how to communicate effectively with one another in a way that would not only have the other person understand, but feel respected, loved and fully heard.

Communication is one of the biggest factors to whether or not you’ll have a successful relationship. Sharing your feelings and being able to express your needs is so important!

It’s how you create and build trust, intimacy, safety and love with those you are in relationship with.

When you learn how to communicate in a way where there’s no blaming, shaming, controlling and “making wrong” – it’s incredible what can be created!

This is exactly the type of communication we teach in our programs.

After working with us, our clients know exactly how to express their desires without being controlling, how to share what they prefer so they don’t end up feeling resentful and how to understand what the men in their lives are saying too!

If you’d like support with up-leveling your communication skills (because the things we teach don’t only apply to romantic relationships – but to every relationship in your life!) then book a love breakthrough call now!

Why would you want to wait to increase the understanding, intimacy and love in your relationship?

Why wouldn’t you want to be able to communicate your desires in dating starting now?

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

How to Break Through and Create the Love Your Heart Desires!

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 17, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you being a “victim” in your dating life?

Do you feel like you can’t trust yourself to make the best decisions?

Are you afraid that you’ll make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past, which led you to being hurt or taken advantage of?

If you answered yes to any of the following – or if you have that tingly feeling in your gut that’s telling you this is something you should listen to – here’s what you need to know.

If your goals aren’t coming to fruition there is something stopping you from creating the results you want. Something from the past is holding you back.

The thing is – the past is not a predictor of your future, it’s simply an informer.

The problem is – most women hold onto what happened in the past so tightly that they then create strategies to make sure whatever happened doesn’t happen again.

This doesn’t work.

The only thing that does work is to get to the root of WHY the thing happened in the first place and then heal ALL of it.

Whatever it is from your past that is still standing in the way is a love barrier and if you don’t find a way to break it and have a breakthrough around it, do you know what’s going to happen?

The next year will look just like the past year, or the past two years, or maybe even the last 10!

Not because that’s all that’s meant for you. But because that’s what you’ve been creating and will continue to create until you break through it.

So how do you break through?

First, you get to accept that the past doesn’t define you. The decisions you made or the circumstances that found you, aren’t who you are.

You get to forgive yourself and others for the experience you had and then you get to let it go.

Second, you get to recreate the story.

Do you know who you’d be without that story or suffering?

Most women stay stuck for this very reason. They don’t. And not knowing who they are is scarier than staying stuck.

Does this sound familiar?

If you want to transform and break out of the love barriers standing in your way, you have to break through the story that’s keeping you from creating the results that you want, from creating the relationship of your dreams!

If this is something you want then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

If you want to have a break through in:

⭐ dating high quality men

⭐ creating abundance in every area of your life

⭐ settling the past and moving forward

⭐ finding your feminine energy and flow

⭐ forgiving and trusting yourself again

⭐ believing that you can trust men and have fun again

⭐ finding freedom

⭐ not taking things personally

⭐ anything else that may be holding you back

… then this is the challenge for you!

In this 5-Day Real Love Breakthrough Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same effective, clear and proven steps of our HeartWork™️ process, we’ve personally used and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!

It’s FREE to join and it starts on Monday, so don’t delay.

Click here to register for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

If 2021 looks too similar to 2020 – or the year before that – there is a barrier in your way.

You get to be the source of the breakthrough to create everything your heart desires!

Join us on Monday!

Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Life With These Solutions!

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 10, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Does it feel like your results in dating keep getting sabotaged?

Have you noticed you keep having the same (or similar) experience over and over again (and they’re not the ones you want)?

Are you ready to break through these sabotaging patterns once and for all so you can create the relationship of your dreams?!

The top three patterns we see from our clients that are sabotaging their dating (consciously or unconsciously) are:

Dating only one man at a time
Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship
Complaining about dating

Do you think you may be falling into any of these patterns?

Let’s break each of them down so you see what we’re talking about.

#1 Sabotaging Pattern: Dating only one man at a time.

We’ve said it once, and we’ll say it a thousand more times: Dating only one man at a time is setting yourself up for failure. Not only that, but this pattern will cause the dating process to take so much more time than necessary.

And we know you don’t want to waste your time!

Solution: Date more than one man at a time.

What does this look like?

Dating means spending time with someone and getting to know them.
Dating more than one person at a time means going on dates with multiple men and getting to know them while noticing what you are and aren’t experiencing with them.

This doesn’t mean you’re sleeping around, having sex with all of them, or even kissing multiple men!

It simply means you’re talking, meeting, and getting to know them so that you can make an informed decision about whether you’d like to keep getting to know them or not.

Why does this matter? When you’re only seeing one man at a time, you limit your availability, options and experience.

When you open yourself up to seeing multiple men, you increase your chances of creating a relationship with the man that’s right for you.

You also take the pressure off of not only the men, but yourself!
You’re able to keep yourself from getting attached to anyone too soon, making a relationship out of something that’s not one, and getting your heart broken unnecessarily.

#2 Sabotaging Pattern: Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship

Choosing to keep seeing someone who is having you experience less than the relationship of your dreams, is settling.
Doing so, wastes precious time you could be spending with someone else (i.e. the RIGHT man!).

Solution: Do the HeartWork to break through this pattern.

Settling comes from a belief that you don’t deserve what you truly want, that it doesn’t exist, or that you won’t be able to get it, so you do what you think you have to do to save yourself from disappointment.

Why does this matter? Until you break through these limiting beliefs, you will never be able to create the relationship of your dreams and attract not only a man, but the man who is aligned with the experience and the kind of relationship you want to have.

#3 Sabotaging Pattern: Complaining about dating

Constantly talking about how hard dating is, how frustrated you are with the experience, how terrible the men you’re attracting are, or how long the process is taking is a sabotaging pattern.

When you do this, you then create experiences to prove that you’re right.
Do you really want to be right about any of that?

Solution: Pay attention to your language and create effective ways to date.

Why does this matter? Your mind believes what you tell it is true, and you then subconsciously create the experiences that will have you prove yourself right.

Energy flows where attention goes!

So, instead of complaining about what you don’t want or what isn’t working, get crystal-clear and stay laser-focused on the kind of relationship you want to experience for the rest of your life.

Your life — including the relationship of your dreams is your creation!

What do you want to create?

If you want to have a Love Breakthrough and turn these self-sabotaging patterns (plus the ones that you might not even realize are there for you!) around once and for all, then you need to join us for the Love Breakthrough Challenge!

In this 5-Day Love Breakthrough Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same EFFECTIVE, CLEAR, AND PROVEN steps of our HeartWork process, we’ve personally used in our own lives and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!