by Gladys Diaz
Believing you can have the love you desire is the key to creating the relationship of your dreams.
Do you really believe it’s possible for you?
Your answer is probably yes.
But, here’s the kicker.: Your brain is getting in the way.
Whether it’s been years since your last relationship, or you’re in one right now, if you’re struggling to know how to make it work the way you want it to, there’s a belief that’s getting in the way.
Everything we believe is given by something that happened in our past.
Things happen. Promises are broken, something unexpected happens, people change, partners die… and we start to wonder: Can I really have the love I want?
No matter what your relationship status, ask yourself this: What is getting in the way of me having the relationship I really want?
The first thing to pay attention to is what you’re thinking in the little moments.
What’s the very first thing that comes to your mind when someone says you’re beautiful?
When he doesn’t call after a date?
When he’s 10 minutes late to pick you up?
When your boss calls you in for a meeting?
The reason it’s important to pay attention to those thoughts is because those thoughts are the ones running the show.
They’re creating your “reality.”
Even if you say you know you can have the relationship you really want, but you don’t fully believe it, you won’t be able to create it.
You will always listen to your beliefs over your thoughts or words.
So, what’s running your show?
What are your dominant thoughts focused on?
Do you think you can’t trust him? That relationships never last?
Do you feel like relationships are too hard, or that a great relationship is never going to happen for you?
These thoughts were created before you had your first kiss or your first crush.
And that’s why it’s important to get to the root beliefs under those thoughts, so that you can dig them up and replace them with beliefs that will serve you.
It’s like when I’m pulling those pesky weeds out of my yard. If I don’t pull them all the way out, including the roots, they will just grow back! But if I pull them out, roots and all, they will be gone for good.
It’s the same with our beliefs.
When you get to the root of the belief that’s tainting your reality, then, and only then, can you replace it by planting new experiences which create new beliefs that are just as strong and deeply rooted as the old belief.
Those pesky beliefs that cause you to run the same patterns in your life cause disappointing experiences. Enough disappointment leads to apathy and more disempowering beliefs, and the tug-of-war in your life goes on and on!
The conversation you’re having in your head is what’s keeping you stuck exactly where you are.
If you’re done suffering and are tired of having a hard time in relationships, let us help you!
Relationships are joyful, fun, exciting, adventurous, intimate and happy! Let us help you uncover what’s making it seem so hard. Because it doesn’t have to be.
If what you really, truly believe isn’t giving you what you want, let’s talk. It can be easy!