Swipe Smarter, Not Harder: Expert Insights & Strategies for Online Dating

Swipe Smarter, Not Harder: Expert Insights & Strategies for Online Dating

by | May 13, 2024 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Why do some people have an amazing experience with online dating and others feel like it stinks, sucks, or is just plain NOT fun?

In our modern world of dating and romance, online dating sites and apps are one of the main ways couples are meeting one another. They promise love, all from the convenience of your phone or laptop.

But diving into the world of online dating is less like jumping into a pool and more like stepping onto a high-speed treadmill… 

Here’s how to navigate the online dating scene, from getting your mindset in the right place, setting a powerful and inspiring intention and creating a magnetic profile that will attract the RIGHT man to you! (If you missed our last Love Chat With The Love Twins on this topic, click HERE to tune in!)

So why are some women matching with many high-quality men, getting asked out on dates, and having a ton of fun meeting and getting to know new men, while others feel like they’re matching with nothing but scammers, cat-fishers, or men who are still living in their mother’s basement? 

Let me relate to it like this:

There are some people that really love going to the gym, they love the atmosphere, the sweating, and the challenge. I’m not really one of those people – I really have to work at motivating myself to get there.

However, if I knew – without a doubt – that the results I wanted were on the other side of going – I’d probably feel differently! If I knew that strength, vitality, and health were waiting for me, just by showing up – that belief would shift my mindset and I’d be there every day!

It’s the same with online dating.

The truth is: If you’re not getting the results you want, the first place you need to look is at your mindset.

 

If you believe online dating won’t work for you, that you’ll only attract scammers, or that it will be hard, time consuming and scary – then that’s exactly what you’ll get. 

I can give you all the tips and tricks in the book to craft the perfect online profile (and I will in just a moment!), but if your mindset isn’t in the right place none of it will make a difference.

The first step in attracting Extraordinary Love through online dating is: 

Shifting Your Energy – What are some of the fears you have that are influencing what you’re experiencing in dating? 

Wouldn’t it be amazing if all you had to do is shift your mindset in order for the things you’re doing in dating to work! 

It really could be that simple! 

After you shift your energy, the 2nd thing to do is: 

Set Your Intention – What do you want to create in your online dating experience and future relationship?

Going back to the analogy of going to the gym and working out, my intention really matters in how motivated I’m going to be to do it.

If my intention is: “I want to lose the 10 pounds I haven’t been able to shed for the last 10 years.” I might not be very inspired to work for it. 

However, my intention is: “To recreate myself as a healthy woman who feels vibrant and alive so I can travel to visit my kids and live a long life with my future grandchildren.” – that’s a vision! 

Set a powerful and inspiring intention for your dating experience. For example: 

 “I’m open to meeting men who are aligned with my vision where I have fun and get to create an extraordinary relationship with one who will become my husband.”

Okay – so after you’ve made sure your mindset is in the right place and set a powerful and inspiring intention, then – and ONLY then, can you get on the apps and begin crafting the profile that will attract the RIGHT man to you! 

Craft a Magnetic Online Dating Profile

Your profile needs to reflect YOU.

Not to put the pressure on, but the fact is, you have 3-6 seconds (or in some cases, more like ½ a second) to grab the attention of a future date or partner.

Here are 5 keys to crafting the profile that will grab his attention, reflect you, and inspire the RIGHT men to swipe right!  

  1. Profile Pictures – A picture might say a thousand words, but make sure yours are saying the right ones. 

Include 4-5 photos in your profile. Make sure the first one is a headshot photo, where you’re facing forward, eyes open and smiling. NO SELFIES! 

For the remaining photos, opt for photos that show the “real” you—maybe you’re kayaking, reading in a coffee shop, or building a robot. 

*** Tips for great online dating profile pictures:

  • No group photos, or photos of other people’s heads or arms cut off. 
  • Make sure you’re the focus of the picture and if possible, include photos where you’re taking up ⅔ of the photo
  • Have at least one full-body shot
  • Include lifestyle photos showing things you enjoy doing
  • Do NOT use filters
  • SMILE 😀

2. 1st Line of Bio – Who are you? 

What’s the MOST important thing you want someone to know about you?

Not what you do for work – this isn’t LinkedIN. It’s not that you love dogs or that you’ve traveled the world.

WHO are you? What are the top three words that describe YOU? 

Example: “I am an optimistic, joyful, and spiritual woman.”

Leave out the masculine words like, determined, committed or punctual. These words are for your resume, not your dating profile. Remember your intention and that the goal here is to attract the RIGHT man. 

3. 2nd Line of Bio – Why are you here?

The next line in your online dating profile description or bio is to share what you’re looking to create. Share the top 5 words that describe what you want to create in the dating experience and relationship. (This is why it’s so important to have a clear intention and love vision!)

Examples:  

  • “I’m seeking to experience a fun, inspiring, loving relationship that leads to marriage.” 
  • “I’m looking to create a long-term loving relationship full of laughter, fun, spirituality and growth.” 

The person who’s inspired by your statement will probably be intrigued and keep reading! This is a vital key in attracting the RIGHT men to you.

4. 3rd Line of Bio – What do you enjoy doing? 

Next, share a few of the things you enjoy doing with someone else. 

Do you enjoy dancing, going on long hikes, meeting new people or learning how to cook new recipes? 

Take the opportunity to share a few of the things you’d enjoy doing on a date should someone connect with you further.

5. Invitation

The final piece of your magnetic profile is the invitation. 

 “If this sounds like an experience you’d like to share, I look forward to getting to know you.” 

 “If you have any questions, I’d love to hear from you.” 

Ultimately, online dating is an adventure, not a destination. It’s about meeting new people, learning about yourself, and maybe—just maybe—finding someone who gets your obscure movie references. 

Our mission is that the experiences you’re having are consistently moving you forward into the relationship you want to be in!

Focus on what you want and align your energy with the experiences you want to have for the rest of your life and see the results you want follow!

If you’d like even more, join us this Saturday for the Attract the RIGHT Man Masterclass! 

This 3-hour exclusive training will support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

 

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

by | Dec 20, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

“What happens when it all goes to (you know where)?!”

Do you ever have the feeling that something bad is inevitably going to happen, even when things are going great?

Things are going really well…

… but somewhere in the back of your mind there’s a little voice that’s saying, “Is this too good to be true?” 

If that ever happens to you – listen up. 

You have a fear or a limiting belief that when things are good, eventually they’re going to fall apart or go wrong. 

Sound familiar? 

We see this all the time with our clients  – and we’ve experienced it many times ourselves! 

You’re just about to have your breakthrough – and you’ll self-sabotage. 

Or things are going better than ever, in your job, your relationship, financially – and then you start to doubt and it all falls apart.

Here’s the thing… 

If you find yourself feeling uncertain, confused or like you don’t know what to do, there’s one thing that’s happening under all of it. 

You’re having a worthiness conversation. 

You’re wondering…

“Can I really have this?”

“Can I trust myself to be able to create this?”

“Can I actually handle all of this goodness?!”

At some point you created a belief that has you believe you can’t actually have the things you want. 

If you ever worry that you’ll have to “settle”… 

Then you don’t actually believe you can have exactly what you want. 

If you worry that even if you do meet him, it won’t last… 

Then deep down you don’t believe you can have and keep the relationship that you want. 

 So how do you shift these sabotaging thought patterns?

 Ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid of? 
  2. What created that belief? 
  3. Where did the belief come from? 

The first step to dismantling a belief that’s not serving you is to uncover what your current beliefs are. 

Once you understand what the belief is and where it came from, then you can begin to do the HeartWork to break apart the belief and dismantle it in order to create a new belief. 

And not just an affirmation or nice idea… 

We mean NEW neural pathways in your brain that actually transform the belief in the cells of your body so you begin to attract and manifest exactly what you want – and know that you can have it! 

This is exactly what we do at the Extraordinary Love Intensive, which is coming up in February 2024!

3 full days of shifting these dysfunctional patterns so that you can create everything you want NOW! 

The event is life-changing because I promise you, if this is impacting your love life, it’s impacting other areas, finances, career, family relationships, too. 

If you want to start your New Year empowered to create everything you want (and more!) then click below to claim your ticket for the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

YES! I Want to Create Extraordinary Love in 2024! 

Every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to have a breakthrough and transform an area of your life. 

 

The Key to Love, Confidence and Empowerment!

The Key to Love, Confidence and Empowerment!

by | Dec 1, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

What’s the key to true love?

Many women think it lies in finding the right person or having a perfected list of qualities you’re looking for in a partner.


Some think it’s about where or how you meet the person,  while others think the key is in “divine timing.”

What we’ve found from working with women of every age, from many countries, and all backgrounds is that there is one thing that truly separates the women that create the loving, intimate, long term relationship they desire and those who don’t.

The key to creating true love with another person is creating true love within yourself first.

That’s why we created the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle! The course begins TODAY, so now is your LAST chance to claim this before it’s gone for good!

Click HERE for the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle!

Now, we’re not talking about self-care, though we do encourage doing all the things that fill you up and nourish your soul.

Self-love is deeper.

Self-love is about the relationship you have with yourself.

Real Self-Love is:

  • The things you say about and to yourself
  • Feeling comfortable with the most intimate parts of who you are
  • The beliefs you hold about yourself
  • The way you trust who you are and how you feel
  • Loving and accepting every part of you, even the parts of you you’re afraid others may not like
  • Bringing forgiveness and acceptance to your past.

True self-love creates confidence, trust and the ability to create the things you most deeply desire.  

This is important whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in a relationship that isn’t everything you hoped it would be.

The relationship you have with yourself will be reflected in the relationships you create with other people.

We know that knowing exactly what to do and how to do it  brings incredible amounts of confidence,  joy, and empowerment, because the relationship you have with yourself is the ONE thing you have total control over.

Everything starts with you.

And that’s GREAT news!

When I was in the midst of my own journey to self-love, everything in my life looked perfect on the outside.

I had the job, I had great kids, I traveled with my girlfriends, and I was dating a lot — though none of those dating experiences ever went very far.

Men would always tell me that I had an amazing life and was an amazing woman, but that they knew they just couldn’t give me what I wanted.

I felt so confused and wondered why –

If my life was so awesome, how could I still come home at night and feel so miserable and lonely and alone?

Once I did the HeartWork I realized that all I wanted was someone to validate that I was lovable, when what I really needed was to create that love inside myself first.

Recognizing that belief, uncovering where it came from, and creating something different within myself was such a transformative experience that it’s literally why we started doing the work that we do.

We want every single woman to create the love and relationship that she deserves and desires, and we want it for you RIGHT NOW!

That’s why Gladys and I put together this insane Black Friday bundle AND why we extended the sale through TODAY (goes away FOR GOOD at midnight EST)!

Imagine breaking through the things that are blocking you from creating new love and creating the opening to call in the relationship of your dreams NOW.

When women work with us they create new jobs, receive promotions, manifest new homes, and create the relationship of their dreams — and you’re getting the opportunity to work with us for just $87!

If you’re ready to create a deeply loving, profound, and powerful relationship with yourself that will have you create the life and love you really want, then grab the Radiant and Ready for Love Bundle before it goes away TODAY!

The Radiant YOU 21 Day program begins TODAY – so now is your last chance!

CLICK HERE TO JOIN US NOW! 

When you dive into all this bundle includes you’ll have exactly what you need to create everything your heart desires!

 

Unlock Your Irresistible Potential: 3 Steps to Manifest Your Heart’s Desires Today!

Unlock Your Irresistible Potential: 3 Steps to Manifest Your Heart’s Desires Today!

by | Oct 5, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Michelle Roza

What were the goals you set in January?

Where did you want to be in your life?

We’ve entered the final three months of the year – Woah what?!

When you hear that… Do you feel confronted? Triggered? Excited? Ready?

Last weekend was our Irresistible Woman LIVE event and it was incredible. What a powerful week we spent with strong, empowered women with a desire to be irresistible!

Is that a desire you have?

If you answered yes, then how do you stop putting off the dreams that you have? 

How do you not make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past? 

How do you stop thinking about how much time you’ve wasted and move forward to create the life, including the relationship, of your dreams now?

Three Steps to Becoming the Irresistible Woman Who Can Create Everything Her Heart Desires NOW

1) Skills – Learn How to Rise Above Our Human Emotional Moments

You may or may not know that over the past month our mother has been in the hospital. There’s been moments when she seems to be doing better and moments when she doesn’t seem to know who we (her twin daughters) are – and it’s continuing to be a day-by-day process. 

The experience has been exhausting, sad, and heartbreaking.

You better believe there’ve been moments when I’ve wished I could go crawl into a bed and not think about any of this anymore – because I’m human…

Just like you. 

People have asked how Gladys and I have been able to continue running our business, taking care of our families and everything else on top of this ongoing struggle and the answer, in addition to our incredible partners, is our vision and mindset.  

This is one of the reasons we do what we do.

So we can support other women and teach them how to live through all of the ups and downs of life with the emotional skills to rise above them. 

2) Vision – Have the Courage to Believe and Declare You Can Have it NOW

Sometimes when we have a big goal we continue to feel like the little girl in the pool with floaties on. We hang on to what we have always done or known in the past and it gives us a false sense of safety or security.

But nothing extraordinary ever came from staying safe!

In order to create the big goals you have for your life you must declare it!

Admit what you want! 

Be free to say it out loud so you will attract the life, adventure and love you desire!

Own what you want, believe you can have it, and declare it boldly through your words and actions!

3) Commitment – Do Whatever it Takes 

The difference between wanting something and being committed is going all in and finding a way – no matter what. 

Want to know the #1 thing that makes the biggest difference when you’re working towards any dream or goal, and striving to rise above your human moments? 

Consistent guided support and coaching.

You don’t know what you don’t know, so having someone there who knows exactly how to create your heart’s desires telling you exactly what you need to do next makes all the difference in the world!

Having someone there when you hit a wall of disappointment, resistance or fear to pick you up and give you your very next best step – that’s what’s going to have you create the relationship of your dreams!

If you haven’t had a call with one of our Love Breakthrough Coaches yet – click here to schedule a call now!

Our coaches are there for this very purpose – to give you your next best step and support you in taking action towards the extraordinary love that you dream of! They know the HeartWork inside and out and they’re here so you can move forward!

Give yourself this gift and know that you’re on your way.

 What’s your vision? 

Who do you want to be known as? 

What’s your love legacy?

We all get to rise above and we get to do it together.  

Let us support you by clicking HERE to book a Love Breakthrough Call! 

 

Alone to Adored: How Three Women Created Extraordinary Love and How YOU can TOO! 

Alone to Adored: How Three Women Created Extraordinary Love and How YOU can TOO! 

by | Aug 21, 2023 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Last week on Love Chat with The Love Twins, three successful, inspiring, beautiful women joined us to share a little about their journey to creating Extraordinary Love. 

They shared how their participation in our coaching programs impacted their relationships, career, health, and finances!

All three of them have created the Relationship of their Dreams and between them they’ve: 

  • Created clarity in their careers
  • Bought houses
  • Healed a tumor
  • Received raises and bonuses
  • Created additional friendships
  • Healed relationships with mothers and sisters
  • Are working on starting families and so much more!

If you missed it, you can watch the replay by clicking HERE! 

Jenna had a belief that men couldn’t love. For years she’d continued the pattern of rushing into relationships, becoming invested before she even really knew the man, realized he wasn’t the one and then, heartbroken, spending time getting over and moving on from the toxic relationship.

Jada had a fear of being alone which led her to get physically intimate and attached to men too soon by not communicating her boundaries and then finding out he was married, not who he said he was and that once again, this was not it!  

And Roslyn believed she wasn’t enough, which had her date unavailable men and twist herself into a pretzel to try to become whatever he wanted. This caused unnecessary drama in her life and created a spiral of continually dwindling her self-confidence.

Through the coaching they were open to and the HeartWork they did, they were able to breakthrough their sabotaging patterns and create the love they had always wanted!

They learned how to:

  • Not take things personally
  • Communicate boundaries in relationships
  • Find their voice
  • Live their values
  • Be authentic
  • Share effectively with men
  • Just to name a few!

The awesome thing is that these are all things we’ll be teaching this weekend in the Decoding Your Man Masterclass!     

Jenna, Jada and Roslyn all shared that this particular masterclass was one of the things that made a big difference for them in their journey to extraordinary love.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this masterclass will expand your knowledge AND skills so you can communicate and understand the men in your life – and create the type of relationships you want!

If you want to experience more love, connection and intimacy then click HERE to register for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass happening this Saturday, August 26th!

This masterclass is worth over $500 and this Saturday, you have the opportunity to attend – on us! 

Don’t miss it!  

 

Swipe Right on Love: Dating Strategies for Busy Women

Swipe Right on Love: Dating Strategies for Busy Women

by | May 22, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Single Mother, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you struggle making time for your love life?

You may be a single mom and have a hard time finding a babysitter. 

Maybe you travel a lot for work and find it hard to make time for dating or your partner. 

Finding time for dating can feel challenging. 

Juggling work commitments, household responsibilities, and parenting duties can make it seem that there’s little room for personal endeavors. 

We get it. 

Both Gladys and I are entrepreneurs running multiple businesses, wives, mothers, and dog-moms. We have clients, team members and family to take care of – on top of making time for our own work-outs, self-care and rest.

I remember when I was a single mom trying to make it all work and wondering if it was possible to have it all… 

The thing to remember is that carving out time for romance is essential for self-care and building meaningful connections. 

In this blog post, we’ll explore practical strategies and mindset shifts to help busy professionals and single moms make time for dating in their demanding lives.

#1:  Make Your Love Life and Dating a Top Priority in Your Life

The first thing you must do is make dating a top priority. Right up there with taking care of yourself.

If you don’t make your love life a priority then another summer goes by and you’re still alone. Another birthday comes and goes and you aren’t spending it with the one you love.

Let’s get rid of regret and start creating your dreams NOW!

Dating isn’t just another thing you have to do and until you start relating to it as self-care and not an item to be checked off your list – only then will you start enjoying it and start creating the results you want! 

#2: Prioritize Self-Care

As a single mom and professional, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. When you don’t, you slowly begin to resent the people in your life that need you and want to spend time with you.

This puts you in low energy and makes it impossible to attract the things you want into your life! 

When you prioritize taking care of yourself, you boost your well-being AND enhance your ability to be present and engaged in dating. 

Set aside dedicated time each day and week for activities that rejuvenate you, such as exercise, meditating, praying, reading, pursuing a hobby (or sitting and doing nothing if that’s what you want to do)!

By nurturing your own happiness, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of dating while managing your all of your other responsibilities.

#3: Create Opportunities in Your Schedule to Date and Spend Time With Your Partner

Sometimes you get to be creative when you have a lot of priorities and are short on time. 

Remember how I said we get it? We do! 

Sometimes spending time together looks like long walks, movies and going to bed together.

And sometimes we get to be creative! 

If Arnie and I have a particularly full day, we’ll wake up 15  minutes early so we can sit on the porch and have our coffee together. 

Gladys and Ric go to lunch together every single Friday, which they’ve been doing for years! 

Why? 

Because prioritizing our relationships is important to us and it’s imperative to keeping the love alive!

If you’re looking at opportunities to meet men as something you dread or as a time-waster – it’s time to shift your mindset and embrace meeting men as something that is fun and worth it! 

#4: Create a Structure for Your Time and Manage Your Time Well

You’re precious, your time is precious and you get to manage it well. 

Prioritize your tasks, set realistic deadlines, plan dating into your calendar and create a structured schedule.

Look for pockets of time in your routine where you can squeeze in a date or a brief phone call with a potential partner. 

TIP: You don’t need to be juggling 15 dating apps and chatting with 100 men at a time – now that might feel overwhelming! 

You need to be on three dating apps with a profile that will attract the men who are a match for you! 

If you don’t have that or you need support with your mindset or time management – Schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with a Coach! 

As a busy professional and/or single mom, making time for dating can feel like an uphill battle. However, by shifting your mindset and making it a priority, prioritizing self-care, creating creative opportunities to date, creating a structure for it and managing your time well, you can successfully integrate dating into your busy life. 

Remember, finding love and nurturing relationships is a vital aspect of personal growth and happiness! 

And you get to have it ALL!