What’s Really Stopping You From Having the Love You Want

What’s Really Stopping You From Having the Love You Want

by Gladys Diaz

 

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You’re successful.

You have great friends and a good life.

But one thing is missing.

You don’t have that special someone with whom to share it.

As successful as you feel in other areas of your life, you just can’t seem to figure out why you can’t attract the right man into your life.
Maybe you have no problem getting dates, but they just don’t end up going past the first or second date.

Maybe it’s been months or years since your last long-term relationship and you just haven’t found someone you really feel connected to.

Perhaps it’s just beginning to feel like this “relationship thing” just isn’t for you.

If you find yourself relating to any of these situations, we’ve got some great news for you.

First of all, there’s nothing broken or wrong with you, so you can stop trying to fix yourself!

The reason you’re not having the success you want in love is that there are barriers blocking you from attracting the right man.

And, because many of these barriers are “invisible” to you, it looks like online dating not working, guys not wanting to commit, and you being “cursed” with attracting emotionally unavailable guys!

Just like you’re unable to avoid a car that’s in your blind spot, it’s impossible for you to break through a love barrier you can’t see.

If you’re ready to stop suffering and start loving, join Michelle and me for a new teleclass we’ve created especially for you called, “Breaking Through Your Love Barriers to Attract the Love You Want!”

In this teleclass you will learn:

  • How to uncover your Love Barriers – those “invisible” emotional and behavioral patterns that are blocking you from attracting the right man into your life and experiencing the kind of love you really want
  • The practical steps you can take to break through these barriers, feel more confident in dating, trust your intuition to guide you to choose the man who will love and treat you the way you desire and deserve
  • The keys to attracting the right kind of man so that you can have more fun in dating and experience happiness and LOVE in your relationship

 

Seeing what’s in your blind spot can help you avoid a car accident.

Getting clear on what your love barriers are can help you avoid heartache so that you can start having more fun while dating, begin attracting men you are attracted to, and be in the kind of relationship your heart desires!

Join us for this FREE teleclass on Tuesday, June 9th and get ready for a love breakthrough!

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It’s time to break through your barriers and experience the love you want!

Your happiness is your responsibility. If you’ve been feeling disappointed and frustrated with your experience of dating and relationships, it’s time to make a change! Join us and take the first step toward attracting the love you’ve been longing for!
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What Does “True Success” Mean to You?

What Does “True Success” Mean to You?

by Gladys Diaz

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This weekend I attended a very powerful UN-Conference hosted by the Women’s Prosperity Network and there was a question that kept being asked all weekend long:

What does “success” mean to YOU?

When most people think about success, they think about the goals they have achieved, how much money they are making, and what position or title they hold in their career.

Certainly, those things make up a part of success, but there are so many other aspects to our lives: family, health, spirituality, and, of course, our love lives.

Do you include those things in your definition of success?

I do. Michelle does. And I hope you do, too!

See, when you experience success in some parts of our lives, it’s not surprising that, no matter how many achievements, accolades, and awards we receive, there is still a part of you that feels unfulfilled – empty, even, as if there is an insatiable hole that just can’t seem to be filled, no matter how good things appear to be going.

This is because success – true success – consists of feeling happy, secure, and fulfilled in all of the areas of our lives.  So, when we don’t feel that – and, even worse, when we deny that we want to feel successful in all of the areas of our lives (especially our romantic lives!) – there is a direct impact on our sense of aliveness, fulfillment, peace, and joy.

So, now I’ll ask you a different question:

Do you want to experience success in every area of your life?

If so, you just made my day, because I have several events I will be inviting you to attend this month that are going to not just going to tell you why it’s important to experience success in every area of your life, but they will show you how to do it!  

The first two events take place this weekso I wanted to make sure I sent you that information first, and I’ll let you know about the others in a separate email!

The first event begins today. 

It’s the Global Latino Summit, where 27 passionate, inspiring, and successful thought leaders (including yours truly) will be sharing our secrets to success in the personal, professional, and romantic areas of your life!   My interview will air in a few days and is titled: “How to Go from Heartbreak to Finding Your Soulmate.” (You are going to LOVE it!)

The great part about this event is that it’s global, so you can participate from any part of the world;  everyone can attend, and it’s absolutely FREE!

Click here to register now!

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Tphoto(31)he second event is for those of you living in South Florida!  

Come join me tomorrow, Tuesday, September 16th, where I will be speaking at the Coral Gables Chamber of Commerce Women’s Business Network Luncheon about “You CAN  Have it All: How to Go from Invincible in the Workplace to Irresistible in Your Love Life!”

Not only will this event give you an opportunity to meet and network with some pretty amazing women, but you’ll get a delicious lunch, and I’ll get a chance to meet you in person, which I would love!!!  All of the information regarding this event is included in the image:

 

 
If you will be attending either or both of these events, please let me know by commenting below, so that I can welcome you personally

 

Success is about experiencing joy, peace, and fulfillment in every area of our lives.  Join me in participating in these two fantastic events so that together we can continue expanding our ability to learn, grow, and love!

P.S. Remember to reply and let me know if you’ll be coming to either or both events!  Knowing you’ll be there makes such a difference for me! 🙂

Ready to Embrace YOUR Freedom?

Ready to Embrace YOUR Freedom?

by Gladys Diaz

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This weekend we celebrated Independence Day in the United States. While I’m always grateful to live in this country, on July 4th in particular I am present to how incredibly blessed I am to have the freedom and opportunities available to me!

One of the truths about freedom is that it’s never “free.”  Freedom comes with a price.  There are millions of men throughout history who have fought for, stood for, and given their lives so that I could enjoy the freedom I have today to create the life my heart desires.

The same holds true when it comes to you and your life. Whether or not you live in the U.S., you actually have the power to break free from the past and create a new future where you are able to experience the love and joy your heart desires!  But that freedom also comes with a price.

To create the type relationship your heart truly desires, you have to be willing to let go of a few things.

You have to let go of the stories you have been telling yourself about you not being worthy or deserving enough to experience that type of love.

You have to let go of the resentment, regrets, and anger that you’ve been holding onto and have kept you bound to your past.

You have to let go of fear and be courageous enough to trust and open your heart to love once again.

Once you let go of those things that have been holding you back, keeping you stuck, and blocking you from attracting and experiencing the type of love you want, there is FREEDOM on the other side!

Freedom from pain.  

Freedom from fear.  

Freedom from a past that no longer serves you!

So, if you are in a place in your life right now where you feel held back, held down, and unable to move forward, I invite you to LET GO and embrace the love, happiness, and freedom that are already waiting for you!

And we’ll be there to welcome you on the other side!

 

Questions?  Comments?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!

What to Do if He Won’t Stop Watching Porn

by Gladys Diaz

Man hiding face with laptop_FDP_ID-100194485I received the following question from a reader in response to the article Why Ultimatums Don’t Work in Relationships.” 

Hi Gladys!

This is a completely different subject but still in the line of ultimatums. My boyfriend watched porn before we got together but we agreed he’d stop for us to be together, so he threw his CDs away. 7 months later, I found one of the “thrown away” CDs out after I came home from visiting family in a different state. He broke it and promised not to do it again. But since then, I’ve found out he’s still watching it because it was on the history (and we only have an 18mo old and one on the way, so no other adults in the house). He started deleting the history and promised once again he would not watch it because he wants us to stay together and he loves his family. Finally, today I found out he watched another one and deleted it (it had a time stamp on the computer) the other day when I went to get my haircut and our son was taking a nap.

So how do I let him know that I’m finished with his porn addiction? He needs to stop or we are gone. I love him and I know he loves us…but I can’t keep putting negative thoughts into my head when it’s not about me.
*Confused*

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Dear, Confused,

I know that this can be a very sensitive topic, so I appreciate you reaching out to write about it. I can hear that you are feeling very frustrated and unsure about what to do.

People have different opinions regarding porn, and it’s clear that yours is that you don’t like it, agree with it, or want anything to do with it. Apparently, your boyfriend feels differently.  He enjoys watching porn, and was doing so before getting together with you, so it’s important that you realize that his choice has nothing to do with you.

You continue looking for evidence, catching him, and telling him he has to stop. He continues to promise you that he won’t watch it anymore because he loves you, and, therefore, doesn’t want you to be upset and he wants to try to make you happy. This cycle will probably continue for as long as you continue to try to get him to stop.

The fact is that he is a grown man, and, whether or not this is a true addiction or simply something that he enjoys, telling him what he can or cannot do is something that may be okay when it comes to your 18-month-old, but not for an adult man.

In fact, the more you try to control him by telling him what he can and cannot do, the more likely he is to want to do it.

As you read in the other article, ultimatums rarely work, especially when it comes to relationships. So threatening him to leave and take your children with you may get him to stop — perhaps temporarily — but it will most likely impact the love and intimacy in your relationship because (1) you’re threatening to take your children away, and (2) you’re treating him like a child, rather than the man who is the father of your child.

Telling him what to do hasn’t worked, and threatening him hasn’t and probably won’t work. The only way he is going to stop watching porn is if he chooses to stop of his own free will.

True change only ever “sticks” when it comes from within.

So, what are your options?

Well, you say that you love him and you know he loves you. The fact that you know this tells me that he’s probably a good man and father. It also tells me that you probably don’t want to leave him. So, before you threaten to leave and take your children with you, you want to make sure that you are willing to go through with it, should he choose to continue watching porn.

Another option is letting him know that you do not want pornography in the house. By expressing your desire in this manner, you are making it about you and what you want – or, in this case what you don’t want – rather than what you want him to do or not do.  This doesn’t mean that he will stop, but at least you will have expressed yourself in a respectful manner.

You can also accept that this is something that he enjoys watching, acknowledge that it has nothing to do with you or how he feels about you, and let it go.  I know it probably won’t be easy, given your feelings about it.  However, it is possible to respect him and his choices without agreeing with them.

If you do choose to leave and take your children with you, it’s important that you not make your choice to leave about him not wanting to stop watching porn. Instead, own your choice and make it about you not being willing or able to accept it. That way, you can be empowered in making your choice, rather than seeing yourself as a victim of his.

As I said, I know this is a sensitive topic, and you may have additional questions, so, if you’d like to talk about it some more, feel free to contact me and we’ll schedule a time to talk so that I can offer further support!

Questions? Comments?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!

 

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You Need to Love Yourself More Than Him

You Need to Love Yourself More Than Him

by Gladys Diaz

 

If you’ve ever had your heart broken, you know how difficult it can be to find the courage to move on. One of the things that can make moving forward difficult is when you still have feelings for the other person. Memories can be tricky beasts, especially when you’re feeling lonely. Memories can remind you of all of the great moments and make you forget the reasons why the relationship ended in the first place. And loneliness can make you think that being in that relationship is better than being alone.

These thoughts and feelings can make you believe that maybe you’re not ready to move on.

How could you possibly open your heart to someone else if you still have feelings for your previous love?

Shouldn’t you wait until you no longer have any feelings for that person before beginning to date someone else?

When I lost my first husband, I honestly did not believe I would be able to love anyone ever again. I just could not imagine ever being “over” him. There wasn’t any reason for me to stop loving him, and, what’s more, I didn’t want to have to stop loving him!

When I met Ric, there was a moment where I wondered if it would be fair to him for me to continue dating him, knowing that I still loved and missed my late husband very much. Would I be leading him on? Would it be fair to him or myself to even explore the possibility of dating and getting to know one another?

When my sister, Michelle, ended the on-again-off-again dating pattern she had with Arnie, she knew she wasn’t willing to wait for him to make up his mind about whether or not he wanted to be in a relationship. She asked herself the same questions: Should I wait until I’m over him before dating someone else?

The answer?

No!

Thankfully, neither one of us chose to stop loving the man we loved before opening our hearts to someone else.  In my case, it lead to experiencing 15 years of more love and happiness than I ever dreamed was possible!

For Michelle, it led to her meeting and dating another wonderful man. And when Arnie came back to her, asking her to give him another chance, she then had a choice regarding who she was going to choose to love, and she’s now married to Arnie and living in the relationship of her dreams!

Even if you still love someone else, putting your life on hold until you feel you’re over him only serves to keep you stuck right where you are.

Now, do I believe you should take some time to grieve the loss of the relationship? Yes, of course. You want to acknowledge your feelings for that person and grieve the loss of the relationship. But what you don’t want to do is keep putting your life on hold until you are completely over him!

Why?

Because, even though you may still love him, you need to love yourself even more!

Loving yourself more means that you can give yourself permission to continue loving and missing him while also giving yourself permission to open your heart to new love!

Trying to resist or ignore your feelings is only going to intensify them. Hence, the saying: What you resist persists.

So, rather than pretending you don’t love and miss him, you can acknowledge that you do and that you also love yourself enough to know that you deserve to be in a happy and fulfilling relationship with someone who loves you, too!

Once you allow yourself to feel what is there, then you can begin opening up to the possibility of meeting that someone new who will reciprocate your love and create a the type of loving relationship your heart truly desires.  

And you can do it guilt-free because you’re not hiding your feelings from yourself.

As you meet and get to know new men, you’ll have new experiences, new moments of joy, new moments of feeling loved and cherished, and you may find that the feelings for your previous love getting less intense. And, while they may not disappear completely, it’s okay.

Your heart has an unlimited capacity to love. The more you expand it, the more love you are able to feel, experience, give, and receive.

So, if you’ve been putting your life and happiness on hold, waiting for your feelings for a previous love to disappear, grant yourself permission to continue loving him, and then choose to love yourself even more so that you can graciously welcome new and extraordinary love into your life!

 

Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!

Do You Feel Like Giving Up on Your Dreams?

Do You Feel Like Giving Up on Your Dreams?

by Gladys Diaz

 

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We’ve all been there.

After working on ourselves, trying hard to make changes, and not seeing the results we thought we’d have, we begin to wondering whether we should just stop trying so hard, throw in the towel, and give up on our dreams.

I’ve been there myself, and I know how painful and disillusioning it can be to think that what my heart desires just “wasn’t meant to be.”

When you have a big dream – the type of dream that moves and inspires you, that fills you up with joy at the very thought of it, and that you know in your heart it’s what you want more than anything else in the world – and it doesn’t seem to be happening, it can be heartbreaking.

In those heart-wrenching times, it’s easy to let your fears and doubts get in the way of your vision. It can feel like it’s easier to just let your dream go and walk away from it, rather than continue taking the steps that will lead you in the direction of making those dreams come true.

Maybe your dream is that you’ll meet the man who’s perfect for you, but you’re tired of dating men who aren’t interested in being in a relationship or with whom you just don’t feel a real connection. This scares you, and the little voice in your head keeps telling you that maybe you’re just not meant to be in a relationship.

Maybe your dream is about reigniting the love and passion you and your man once shared. But it’s been such a long time since you’ve felt that closeness, and you wonder whether the relationship was ever meant to be and if it’s even worth saving.

Maybe your dream is to go back to school, start a new career, or launch that business you’ve always wanted to have, but you’ve been too afraid to step away from what you’re already doing and from the salary you’re already making to branch off into something new. So you try to convince yourself that maybe you’re already doing what you were meant to do, even though in your heart of hearts, you know that simply isn’t true.

No matter what your dream is, if you’re thinking about giving it up, I’m here to tell you: DON’T!

There is a reason that dream was placed in your heart in the first place, and you owe it to yourself to do everything you can to make it come true!

There were times in the beginning of my marriage where I wondered whether I’d made a mistake and married the wrong man. I’d tell myself it would be easier to just be single again so that I could find someone else that I could make things work with. The truth is I was terrified to make the changes I knew could help our relationship because I was afraid he wouldn’t want to make it work, and then I’d feel rejected.

There have been times in my business where I’ve wondered if maybe it would just be easier to go get a job or do something else. While I knew in my heart that relationship coaching is what I was born to do, I was afraid to do the work it would take to reach out to new clients, that I’d something in a blog post or email that would upset someone, and that I might not be able to actually make a living doing what I love.

As scared as I was in both of these situations, the one thing I refused to do was give up. Why?

Because my faith in my dream was bigger than any fear that might show it’s ugly face!

A huge part of loving yourself is being true to yourself and honoring your heart’s desires. When you sell out on yourself and your dreams, you’ll never really experience the fulfillment you long for!

So, how do you push past the fear and keep believing in your dreams, even when things are not flowing, you’re not getting the results you want, or you have other people telling that maybe you should just give up?

You recommit.

You recommit to yourself and your dream.

You remind yourself that this is your dream, this is your life, and that it’s up to you to make that dream come true!

You find people in your life who believe in you and your dream and are willing to help you make it come true!

You remember that the dream in your heart was placed there by something greater than you and that this means that there IS a way to make it happen!

 

So, right now, take a moment and think about your dream.

Have you been taking the steps to push past your fear and make it happen?

Have you reached out to people who believe in you and who can help you in making that dream come true?

Have you made your faith in yourself and your dream bigger than your fears?

If you answered “No” to any of the above questions, I have another question for you:

Are you ready to recommit to your dream?

If you are, I first want to congratulation you and let you know that I’d love to be one of those people who will stand for and encourage you in helping it come true!

I also want to invite you to post it in the comments section of the blog and declare your re-commitment to your dream and one step you are going to take within the next 7 days to make it come true!

Something powerful happens when you are courageous enough to declare your dream publicly. It invites others to stand with and for you in helping them become a reality!

And, as always, I want to encourage you to let us know if there is any way we can help support you in taking the steps that lead you in the direction of your dreams!

Here’s to living a life of dreams come true!

Remember to post below your re-commitment and one step you’re going to take in the direction of your dreams!