Are there patterns that keep showing up in your relationships?
Dating unfaithful or unavailable men?
Short-lived romances that end after a few dates?
Getting emotionally attached too quickly to a man?
Having sex too early in a relationship?
Knowing that there is a pattern is only the first step in possibly breaking through it. To truly break through a pattern, you need to know how to distinguish and dismantle the pattern!
In the recording below, you can go through an exercise to identify one of your patterns and listen in on a live coaching session with a participant on our “Love Breakthrough” Live Q&A Call. You’ll also learn the steps you can take to break through your own self-sabotaging patterns once and for all!
How can I break the patterns that keep sabotaging my relationships? (Exercise and Live Coaching Session)
Have you ever been in what you thought was a relationship, only to find out that the guy you thought you were in a relationship with was actually “just dating” you?
Ouch! I’ve been there, and can be a rude awakening, to say the least!
It’s why it’s so important to be clear about what the difference is between dating and being in a relationship with someone.
In today’s video, I answer a question from a reader who is confused because the guy she was dating seemed to be treating her like his girlfriend on one week, but then blowing her off on the other. This hot-then-cold cycle took a toll on her and she reacted in a not-so-effective way that ended up pushing him away!
Got questions of your own?
If you have a question you’d like answered about love, dating, and relationships, join Michelle and me for a LIVE “Love Breakthrough” Q&A Call on Tuesday, June 23rd at 9:00pm Eastern!
On this FREE call, we will be providing you with the answers to your questions LIVE and giving you the same coaching we give our private and group coaching clients to help them have the breakthroughs in love that lead to them attracting and having the relationship of their dreams!
Don’t miss out on having your questions answered on this Love Breakthrough call with the Love Twins!
You don’t have that special someone with whom to share it.
As successful as you feel in other areas of your life, you just can’t seem to figure out why you can’t attract the right man into your life. Maybe you have no problem getting dates, but they just don’t end up going past the first or second date.
Maybe it’s been months or years since your last long-term relationship and you just haven’t found someone you really feel connected to.
Perhaps it’s just beginning to feel like this “relationship thing” just isn’t for you.
If you find yourself relating to any of these situations, we’ve got some great news for you.
First of all, there’s nothing broken or wrong with you, so you can stop trying to fix yourself!
The reason you’re not having the success you want in love is that there are barriers blocking you from attracting the right man.
And, because many of these barriers are “invisible” to you, it looks like online dating not working, guys not wanting to commit, and you being “cursed” with attracting emotionally unavailable guys!
Just like you’re unable to avoid a car that’s in your blind spot, it’s impossible for you to break through a love barrier you can’t see.
If you’re ready to stop suffering and start loving, join Michelle and me for a new teleclass we’ve created especially for you called, “Breaking Through Your Love Barriers to Attract the Love You Want!”
In this teleclass you will learn:
How to uncover your Love Barriers – those “invisible” emotional and behavioral patterns that are blocking you from attracting the right man into your life and experiencing the kind of love you really want
The practical steps you can take to break through these barriers, feel more confident in dating, trust your intuition to guide you to choose the man who will love and treat you the way you desire and deserve
The keys to attracting the right kind of man so that you can have more fun in dating and experience happiness and LOVE in your relationship
Seeing what’s in your blind spot can help you avoid a car accident.
Getting clear on what your love barriers are can help you avoid heartache so that you can start having more fun while dating, begin attracting men you are attracted to, and be in the kind of relationship your heart desires!
Join us for this FREE teleclass on Tuesday, June 9th and get ready for a love breakthrough!
It’s time to break through your barriers and experience the love you want!
Your happiness is your responsibility. If you’ve been feeling disappointed and frustrated with your experience of dating and relationships, it’s time to make a change! Join us and take the first step toward attracting the love you’ve been longing for! << Click here now>>
This weekend I attended a very powerful UN-Conference hosted by the Women’s Prosperity Network and there was a question that kept being asked all weekend long:
What does “success” mean to YOU?
When most people think about success, they think about the goals they have achieved, how much money they are making, and what position or title they hold in their career.
Certainly, those things make up a part of success, but there are so many other aspects to our lives: family, health, spirituality, and, of course, our love lives.
Do you include those things in your definition of success?
I do. Michelle does. And I hope you do, too!
See, when you experience success in some parts of our lives, it’s not surprising that, no matter how many achievements, accolades, and awards we receive, there is still a part of you that feels unfulfilled – empty, even, as if there is an insatiable hole that just can’t seem to be filled, no matter how good things appear to be going.
This is because success – true success – consists of feeling happy, secure, and fulfilled in all of the areas of our lives. So, when we don’t feel that – and, even worse, when we deny that we want to feel successful in all of the areas of our lives (especially our romantic lives!) – there is a direct impact on our sense of aliveness, fulfillment, peace, and joy.
So, now I’ll ask you a different question:
Do you want to experience success in every area of your life?
If so, you just made my day, because I have several events I will be inviting you to attend this month that are going to not just going to tell you why it’s important to experience success in every area of your life, but they will show you how to do it!
The first two events take place this week, so I wanted to make sure I sent you that information first, and I’ll let you know about the others in a separate email!
The first event begins today.
It’s the Global Latino Summit, where 27 passionate, inspiring, and successful thought leaders (including yours truly) will be sharing our secrets to success in the personal, professional, and romantic areas of your life! My interview will air in a few days and is titled: “How to Go from Heartbreak to Finding Your Soulmate.” (You are going to LOVE it!)
The great part about this event is that it’s global, so you can participate from any part of the world; everyone can attend, and it’s absolutely FREE!
The second event is for those of you living in South Florida!
Come join me tomorrow, Tuesday, September 16th, where I will be speaking at the Coral Gables Chamber of Commerce Women’s Business Network Luncheonabout “You CAN Have it All: How to Go from Invincible in the Workplace to Irresistible in Your Love Life!”
Not only will this event give you an opportunity to meet and network with some pretty amazing women, but you’ll get a delicious lunch, and I’ll get a chance to meet you in person, which I would love!!! All of the information regarding this event is included in the image:
If you will be attending either or both of these events, please let me know by commenting below, so that I can welcome you personally!
Success is about experiencing joy, peace, and fulfillment in every area of our lives. Join me in participating in these two fantastic events so that together we can continue expanding our ability to learn, grow, and love!
P.S. Remember to reply and let me know if you’ll be coming to either or both events! Knowing you’ll be there makes such a difference for me! 🙂
This weekend we celebrated Independence Day in the United States. While I’m always grateful to live in this country, on July 4th in particular I am present to how incredibly blessed I am to have the freedom and opportunities available to me!
One of the truths about freedom is that it’s never “free.” Freedom comes with a price. There are millions of men throughout history who have fought for, stood for, and given their lives so that I could enjoy the freedom I have today to create the life my heart desires.
The same holds true when it comes to you and your life. Whether or not you live in the U.S., you actually have the power to break free from the past and create a new future where you are able to experience the love and joy your heart desires! But that freedom also comes with a price.
To create the type relationship your heart truly desires, you have to be willing to let go of a few things.
You have to let go of the stories you have been telling yourself about you not being worthy or deserving enough to experience that type of love.
You have to let go of the resentment, regrets, and anger that you’ve been holding onto and have kept you bound to your past.
You have to let go of fearand be courageous enough to trust and open your heart to love once again.
Once you let go of those things that have been holding you back, keeping you stuck, and blocking you from attracting and experiencing the type of love you want,there is FREEDOM on the other side!
Freedom from pain.
Freedom from fear.
Freedom from a past that no longer serves you!
So, if you are in a place in your life right now where you feel held back, held down, and unable to move forward, I invite you to LET GO and embrace the love, happiness, and freedom that are already waiting for you!
And we’ll be there to welcome you on the other side!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
This is a completely different subject but still in the line of ultimatums. My boyfriend watched porn before we got together but we agreed he’d stop for us to be together, so he threw his CDs away. 7 months later, I found one of the “thrown away” CDs out after I came home from visiting family in a different state. He broke it and promised not to do it again. But since then, I’ve found out he’s still watching it because it was on the history (and we only have an 18mo old and one on the way, so no other adults in the house). He started deleting the history and promised once again he would not watch it because he wants us to stay together and he loves his family. Finally, today I found out he watched another one and deleted it (it had a time stamp on the computer) the other day when I went to get my haircut and our son was taking a nap.
So how do I let him know that I’m finished with his porn addiction? He needs to stop or we are gone. I love him and I know he loves us…but I can’t keep putting negative thoughts into my head when it’s not about me.
*Confused*
I know that this can be a very sensitive topic, so I appreciate you reaching out to write about it. I can hear that you are feeling very frustrated and unsure about what to do.
People have different opinions regarding porn, and it’s clear that yours is that you don’t like it, agree with it, or want anything to do with it. Apparently, your boyfriend feels differently. He enjoys watching porn, and was doing so before getting together with you, so it’s important that you realize that his choice has nothing to do with you.
You continue looking for evidence, catching him, and telling him he has to stop. He continues to promise you that he won’t watch it anymore because he loves you, and, therefore, doesn’t want you to be upset and he wants to try to make you happy. This cycle will probably continue for as long as you continue to try to get him to stop.
The fact is that he is a grown man, and, whether or not this is a true addiction or simply something that he enjoys, telling him what he can or cannot do is something that may be okay when it comes to your 18-month-old, but not for an adult man.
In fact, the more you try to control him by telling him what he can and cannot do, the more likely he is to want to do it.
As you read in the other article, ultimatums rarely work, especially when it comes to relationships. So threatening him to leave and take your children with you may get him to stop — perhaps temporarily — but it will most likely impact the love and intimacy in your relationship because (1) you’re threatening to take your children away, and (2) you’re treating him like a child, rather than the man who is the father of your child.
Telling him what to do hasn’t worked, and threatening him hasn’t and probably won’t work. The only way he is going to stop watching porn is if he chooses to stop of his own free will.
True change only ever “sticks” when it comes from within.
So, what are your options?
Well, you say that you love him and you know he loves you. The fact that you know this tells me that he’s probably a good man and father. It also tells me that you probably don’t want to leave him. So, before you threaten to leave and take your children with you, you want to make sure that you are willing to go through with it, should he choose to continue watching porn.
Another option is letting him know that you do not want pornography in the house. By expressing your desire in this manner, you are making it about you and what you want – or, in this case what you don’t want – rather than what you want him to do or not do. This doesn’t mean that he will stop, but at least you will have expressed yourself in a respectful manner.
You can also accept that this is something that he enjoys watching, acknowledge that it has nothing to do with you or how he feels about you, and let it go. I know it probably won’t be easy, given your feelings about it. However, it is possible to respect him and his choices without agreeing with them.
If you do choose to leave and take your children with you, it’s important that you not make your choice to leave about him not wanting to stop watching porn. Instead, own your choice and make it about you not being willing or able to accept it. That way, you can be empowered in making your choice, rather than seeing yourself as a victim of his.
As I said, I know this is a sensitive topic, and you may have additional questions, so, if you’d like to talk about it some more, feel free to contact me and we’ll schedule a time to talk so that I can offer further support!
Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!
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