Don’t Settle in Love: The Secret to Getting the Relationship You Truly Want

Don’t Settle in Love: The Secret to Getting the Relationship You Truly Want

by Gladys Diaz

Have you ever settled for less than what your heart truly desires?

Compromising your values, or worse, convincing yourself that what you’re getting is as good as it gets? 

Settling is the silent killer of dreams and desires. 

This is such an important topic because, let’s be real – it’s not just about romantic love; it’s about self-worth, self-respect, and ultimately, the quality of life you’re creating for yourself.

Why You Settle: The Fear That You Can’t Have What You Really Want

At the root of settling is a deep-seated fear: the fear that you can’t have the fullness that your heart desires. 

  • You may have been burned in the past. 
  • Maybe you’ve faced rejection, heartache, or betrayal. 

These fears try to convince you that this is as good as it gets, that there’s nothing you can do about it, and that you’re alone. 

Over time, these experiences chip away at your belief in what’s possible, creating a nagging voice in your head that says, “Maybe this is as good as it gets” or “This must be all I deserve.

It’s that fear whispering in your ear that you should lower your expectations, make compromises, and stop asking for too much.

But here’s the truth: When you settle in love, you’re not just settling in relationships… 

You’re settling in life. 

You’re telling yourself that your dreams don’t matter, that your desires are too grand, too unrealistic. And that, my friend, is a lie.

The Vicious Cycle: How Settling Creates More Disappointment

When you settle, you set off a vicious cycle. 

You accept less than what you truly want, which leads to a string of disappointing experiences. These experiences then reinforce the very fears and limiting beliefs that caused you to settle in the first place.

Let’s break it down:

  1. You Settle: You accept a relationship that doesn’t truly fulfill you because you believe it’s the best you can get.
  2. You Experience Disappointment: Because you’ve settled, the relationship doesn’t meet your needs, and you feel unfulfilled, frustrated, and maybe even resentful.
  3. Your Beliefs Harden: The disappointment reinforces your belief that you can’t have what you truly want, which makes you more likely to settle again in the future.

And so the cycle continues, keeping you trapped in a loop of dissatisfaction and despair.

Breaking the Cycle: Get 100% Clear on What You Want

The first step to breaking this cycle is to get crystal clear on what you do want and why you’re settling for less. 

I’m not talking about some vague notion of “happiness” or “a good partner.” I’m talking about getting down to the nitty-gritty details of what your heart truly desires in a relationship.

  • What are your non-negotiables? 
  • What do you value most? 
  • What kind of love do you dream about when you’re lying in bed at night? 

Be specific. Be unapologetic. And most importantly, don’t let fear or past disappointments color your vision.

This clarity is crucial because it serves as your compass. Without it, you’re wandering aimlessly, easily swayed by fear, doubt, or the shiny distractions of relationships that seem “good enough” or “just for now.” 

But with it, you become unstoppable. You can confidently reject anything that doesn’t align with your vision because you know exactly what you’re aiming for.

The Difference Between Unrealistic Expectations and High Standards

Now, let’s clear up a common misconception: the difference between unrealistic expectations and high standards.

Unrealistic expectations are demands you place on a partner that are either impossible to meet or based on fantasy. They might involve expecting someone to always make you happy, never have flaws, or fulfill all your needs. 

Expectations often leave you waiting, hoping someone will rise to the occasion, and they’re a recipe for disappointment because no one is going to always say or do exactly what you want them to.

High standards, on the other hand, are non-negotiables that align with your core values and desires. They’re based on what you know you deserve and what you’re willing to give in return. High standards are about maintaining the integrity of your Love Vision and not compromising on what truly matters to you.

Having high standards doesn’t mean you’re being picky or difficult; it means you’re protecting your happiness, your future, and your heart. It means you know what you want and that you deserve the kind of relationship that will bring you joy, growth, and fulfillment.

Aligning Your Standards with What You Want to Experience

To stop settling in love, you need to align your standards with what you want to experience in dating and relationships. This means living in accordance with your values and being clear about the kind of love you want to create.

  1. Identify Your Core Values: What are the principles that matter most to you in a relationship? Honesty? Respect? Growth? 
  2. Set Non-Negotiables: These are the deal-breakers—the things you absolutely must have in a relationship. Don’t compromise on these, no matter what.
  3. Be Willing to Walk Away: If a relationship doesn’t meet your standards, have the courage to walk away. It’s better to be alone than to be in a relationship that isn’t what you truly want.
  4. Stay True to Your Vision: Don’t let fear or doubt cloud your judgment. Hold onto the vision of the love you want, and don’t settle for anything less.

Conclusion: Claim the Love You Deserve

Settling in love is a choice. 

It’s a choice to give in to fear, to compromise on your dreams, and to accept less than what you truly want. But it’s also a choice that you can stop making today.

By getting clear on what you want, distinguishing between unrealistic expectations and high standards, and aligning your standards with your core values, you can break the cycle of disappointment and create the love you deserve.

If you’d like support in getting clear on your values, what you want in a relationship, or how to walk away from something that you know in your heart isn’t what you want – book a call with our coaches.

On this Love Breakthrough Call, our team will work with you to create a step-by-step plan with you so you can stop settling and start creating exactly what you want and more!

Click HERE to Book Your Love Breakthrough Call Now!

Stand for the love that aligns with your heart’s desires, and don’t settle for anything less. Your future self will thank you.

 

How to Create Your Dream Love Story: Consistent Steps to Heartfelt Success!

How to Create Your Dream Love Story: Consistent Steps to Heartfelt Success!

by Michelle Roza

Are you ready to revolutionize your love life and create the relationship you’ve always dreamed of? Imagine a life filled with passion, deep connection, and a partner who cherishes you every single day.

Sounds like a fairy tale, right? Well, it doesn’t have to be.

We’re here to tell you that you can manifest this reality, but it requires more than just hoping and dreaming. It demands clarity, determination, and consistent action. 

So how do you create that consistency, no matter what you may be experiencing in your daily life? 

1) Get Clear on What You Want

The first step to creating your love vision is to get crystal clear on what you want. Why? 

Your brain is always looking for what’s familiar, even if it’s not what you want, and when you go for comfort and familiarity, you repeat the past. You go back to the same guy, or you attract a new man who reminds you of someone from your past. 

Here’s the thing – Your Love Vision gets to be bigger than one guy or your past! 

So how do you get clear on what you want? 

Start by asking yourself some deep, introspective questions:

  • When I’m in the Relationship of My Dreams, what are three things you want to experience?
  • How do I want to feel in my relationship?
  • What values and interests should we share?

Take time to write these down. Be specific. 

Don’t just settle for “I want someone who loves me.” Dig deeper. Get detailed!

Do you want a relationship that’s full of adventure, support, and travel? 

A relationship where you both value personal growth, where you share a positive outlook on life and work together to create the life you truly want? 

Clarity is power. The more precise you are, the easier it is for the universe (and your subconscious mind) to align with your desires. When you know exactly what you want, you create a clear target to aim for.

2) Move Out of What’s Blocking You

Now that you know what you want, it’s time to clear the path. 

This step is all about identifying and removing the blocks that have been holding you back. These blocks can be limiting beliefs, past traumas, or even negative patterns you’ve picked up over the years.

Moving out of your blocks is like clearing the debris from a path; it allows you to walk smoothly towards your goal without tripping over old baggage.

If you’d like to identify your blocks, challenge beliefs that aren’t working, heal unresolved issues from the past that can sabotage your present and future relationships – then join us for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In this Masterclass, we’ll support you in recognizing the challenges you’re experiencing right now that are getting in the way of your Love Vision and heal them so you can BE the women who can walk away from the things that aren’t aligned with what you want. 

So you can create your Love Vision NOW! Click HERE to Register! 

3) Become the Woman You’ve Always Wanted to Be

This step is about personal transformation. 

To attract the love you desire, you need to become the best version of yourself. It’s not about changing who you are, but about evolving into the person who naturally attracts and maintains a healthy, loving relationship.

Here’s how to get started: 

  • Self-Improvement: Invest in your personal growth. This can be through reading, attending seminars, or taking courses. Focus on areas that need improvement, such as communication skills, self-esteem, or emotional intelligence.
  • Self-Care: Prioritize your well-being. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep are non-negotiables. When you feel good, you radiate confidence and positivity.
  • Hobbies and Interests: Engage in activities that you love. This not only makes you more interesting but also allows you to meet like-minded individuals.

Becoming the woman you’ve always wanted to be is about aligning your actions, thoughts, and feelings with the person you envision yourself to be. It’s about stepping into your power and living authentically.

4) Manifest It

Manifestation is the process of bringing your vision into reality through focused intention and action. It’s about harnessing the power of your mind to attract what you desire.

And it takes consistency. 

Now that sounds nice, but I probably don’t have to tell you that you can’t rely on willpower alone. 

You have a finite amount of willpower, and when it runs out, you will go back to what’s comfortable and familiar. Those old patterns and ways of being that may feel good, but aren’t working. 

So how do you stay consistent, when will-power runs out?  

When you don’t have the resources or energy to stay consistent with your Love Vision, make sure you do something every single day that makes you happy AND is good for you. – Something that connects you to your vision. 

Dedicate time each day to your love vision practices. 

Whether it’s morning visualization, taking time in a gratitude journal, going for a walk or a bike-ride, whatever makes you happy and gives you back energy.  Make it a absolute non-negotiable part of your day.

And remember to acknowledge and celebrate your progress. Every step forward is a step closer to your goal!

Creating the love life you desire is a journey, not a sprint. It requires clarity, clearing your blocks, becoming your best self, and manifesting with intention. But most importantly, it requires consistency. 

By integrating these practices into your daily life, you’ll be well on your way to unlocking the love of your life.

In order to create your Love Vision, you must BE the woman who aligns with that vision AND take steps that will support you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams. 

By integrating these practices into your daily life, you’ll be well on your way to unlocking the love of your life.

If you’d like even more, join us next Saturday, July 20th for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

This 3-hour exclusive training will support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you attract and create the Relationship of Your Dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

Click here to Register for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

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Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

Say Goodbye to Doubt: How to Know If He’s the Perfect Match for You

by Gladys Diaz

Are you tired of wasting time on relationships that go nowhere?

Do you find yourself constantly questioning if the man you’re with truly aligns with your vision and values?

If you’re nodding your head right now, you’re not alone. Many women find themselves stuck in the cycle of uncertainty, wasting precious time and emotional energy on men who don’t meet their standards.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Dating becomes FUN and EASY when you can confidently and quickly determine if a man is a match for your Love Vision and values. 

Sounds too good to be true? It’s not. And we’re going to show you how.

The Importance of Self-Awareness

First things first, you need to know yourself. Everything starts within, and even though it might sound cliché, the foundation of any successful relationship is a deep understanding of your own love vision and values. 

We define Love Vision as what you want to experience in the Relationship of Your Dreams. 

How do you want to feel when you’re with your partner?

Do you want the relationship to feel connected, fun, and light? Are openness, passion, and intimacy things you want to experience?  

What types of activities will you do together?

Do you want to travel together? Do you want to read books and have intellectual discussions? Do you want to enjoy hiking in nature? Do you want to spend Friday nights cooking an incredible dinner together?  

What values do you want to share?

What’s most important to YOU? Do you want to be with someone who values health and adventure? Are you wanting someone who wants to create a family?

This becomes the guidebook for what you want to experience in a relationship. The more clear you are, the quicker you’ll draw it to you. The fuzzier you are, the more confusing your experience in dating will be.

Self-awareness is your compass. It guides you in the right direction and helps you recognize when something (or someone) is off course. Take some time to reflect on your past relationships. What worked? What didn’t? What values did you compromise on, and how did that make you feel? Write these down. This exercise isn’t just about identifying deal-breakers; it’s about understanding what makes you thrive in a relationship.

Communication and Consistency

Now that you’ve got a clear understanding of your own vision and values, it’s time to communicate them and watch to see if someone is aligned. This isn’t about presenting a checklist on the first date – that’s a surefire way to scare anyone off! 

Instead, it’s about weaving your values into conversations naturally and giving yourself the opportunity to observe his behavior – which will inform you of his values.

Talk about what’s important to you. Share your goals, dreams, and what you’re passionate about. This not only gives you a chance to express your values, but it also provides an opportunity to gauge his reactions and responses. 

Is he supportive? Does he share similar goals? Or is he dismissive and uninterested?

Actions Speak Louder Than Words. Words are cheap. Anyone can say they value honesty, loyalty, and respect, but do their actions align with their words? This is where you need to be vigilant. Pay close attention to his behavior.

Does he follow through on his promises? How does he treat people around him – waitstaff, friends, family? Is he consistent in his actions, or does he say one thing and do another? These observations are crucial because they reveal his true character and values.

Consistency is Crucial. One-time grand gestures are impressive, but they don’t define a person’s character. And at the same time, anyone can be nervous on a first date and not show you who they really are.

Consistency over time is what you should be looking for. Give yourself time to see if someone is aligned. 

And values aren’t about “right” or “wrong”. They’re simply about what matters to YOU and what YOU want. Everything he does (or doesn’t do) is good information to have as you move toward knowing who’s the perfect match for you.

Alignment and BE-ing Your Love Vision and Values. 

This is where you get to BE what you want to experience.

If you say health is a top value of yours, what do you do to show it? 

If you want to experience openness, fun and laughter in the Relationship of Your Dreams, who are you BE-ing to bring those feelings into your dating experiences and relationships? 

Before each and every encounter you have with men, anchor yourself in your Love Vision. 

Read your Love Vision every time before going on the dating app. 

Get yourself into the energy of your Love Vision before you go on a date. 

Envision in your mind what your Love Vision looks like before you come home to your husband. 

The more aligned you are going into each experience with men, the more you’ll be able to assess compatibility and create what you want to experience!

Final Thoughts

Finding a man who matches your love vision and values isn’t about luck – it’s about clarity, communication, and keen observation. By understanding your own values, clearly communicating them, observing his actions and consistency, and BEing what you want to experience in the relationship –  you can confidently determine if someone is the right match for you.

Where can you see your vision and values creating your Yes’s and No’s in dating? 

How can you lean more into your Love Vision to know your metric for what you want to experience? 

By following these steps, you’ll empower yourself to make informed decisions about your love life, ensuring you spend your time and energy on a relationship that’s truly worth it! 

This is just the beginning! We’ll be going even deeper into this topic during the Manifest Your Love Vision NOW Challenge! 

You’ll walk away from the Challenge with crystal-clear clarity on what you want to experience inside the Relationship of Your Dreams and next-steps on how to manifest it NOW!

Click HERE to register for the FREE Challenge.

We’ll let you know the dates for the Challenge ASAP – we can’t wait to be with you! 

 

 

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From Playful Banter to Lasting Connection: Tips for Fun & Successful Dating

From Playful Banter to Lasting Connection: Tips for Fun & Successful Dating

by Gladys Diaz

Flirting.

What comes to mind when you hear that word?

Is it fun? Does it feel uncomfortable? Can it be confusing?

Whether you’re flirting in person, over the phone, or through text, this will support you to know what flirting is – and isn’t –  and how to flirt with authenticity, confidence and magnetism!

After-all – those are the keys to a man’s attention and heart!

Flirting lets a man know you’re interested and is a powerful tool in dating. It’s the subtle art of communication that can ignite sparks, create interest, and open the door for deeper connection. 

But in today’s world, where the digital space is where a lot of interactions begin, has the art of flirting lost its charm? Let’s talk about flirting and its significance in modern dating.

Flirting, at its core, is about playful communication. It’s light and fun non-verbal and verbal exchange that conveys interest, attraction, and availability. From a coy smile to a witty remark, flirting is the language of romantic interest, and mastering it can significantly enhance your dating experiences.

One of the key aspects of flirting is body language. A subtle touch, maintaining eye contact, smiling, or leaning in during a conversation lets a man know you’re interested and are enjoying his company. Body language often speaks louder than words, and being attuned to these cues can help you gauge interest and respond accordingly.

Although body language is important, expressing yourself authentically with confidence and grace is important to let a man know you’re enjoying getting to know him. Men don’t like to feel rejected any more than women do and if he’s at all unsure that you want to see him again, chances are, he won’t ask.

If you’re having fun and enjoying being with him during a conversation or on a date, say so. Say things like: 

  • “I’m having fun!” 
  • “I’m enjoying getting to know you, I’d love to chat with you on the phone.” 
  • “That was a great choice of a restaurant!” 
  • “Thank you for planning such a fun date.” 
  • “I’d love to see you again!” 

Relax into your feminine receptive energy and allow him to lead the conversation, but be authentic and let him know if you’re enjoying yourself. Humor is also a powerful tool in flirting, as it shows confidence and a lighthearted attitude, both of which are attractive qualities.

Flirting isn’t just about being playful; it’s also about being attentive. Listening attentively, asking thoughtful questions, and showing genuine interest go a long way in creating a connection. 

 Flirting isn’t about following rules or playing games – it’s simply about being yourself, showing interest and having fun. 

Flirting can sometimes feel confusing because of mixed signals and misinterpretations. It’s essential to be mindful of the other person’s boundaries and comfort levels, and also not be afraid to share your own. What may be playful banter to one person may be seen as intrusive or inappropriate to another.

If the flirting becomes sexual in a way that makes you uncomfortable, it’s important to say so. Without lashing out or becoming defensive, you can say something like, “I get that you’re trying to be funny, but that type of talk makes me feel uncomfortable when I’m simply trying to get to know you.” 

If it doesn’t stop, you can clearly say, “Thank you, this isn’t a match for me.” And next.

In conclusion, flirting enhances your dating experience and creates memorable connections. Whether you’re exchanging playful banter over a coffee, sending witty texts late into the night, or engaging in flirtatious body language, flirting is about creating moments of connection, fun, and shared laughter. 

It’s about being light, fun, free, confident and your authentic Self! 

If you’d like to be able to show up this way in all of your interactions in life – confident, authentic, and magnetic – then join us next week for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU 5-Day Challenge! 

The Love You Deserve Is Waiting for YOU!

Over these five days, we’ll share with you the same steps we’ve used to help thousands of women across the globe attract and create Extraordinary Love using the same skills we used to create the deeply loving, lasting marriages we’ve always wanted with our husbands!

In just five days, your love life can be transformed into the happy, fulfilling experience your heart desires!

Click HERE to Register for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge that begins on March 18th, 2024!

Next time you’re out on a date, remember to embrace the art of flirting – you never know where it might lead.

 

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

From Sabotage to Success: How to Believe You Can Have It ALL!

by Gladys Diaz

What happens when it all goes to (you know where)?!”

Do you ever have the feeling that something bad is inevitably going to happen, even when things are going great?

Things are going really well…

… but somewhere in the back of your mind there’s a little voice that’s saying, “Is this too good to be true?” 

If that ever happens to you – listen up. 

You have a fear or a limiting belief that when things are good, eventually they’re going to fall apart or go wrong. 

Sound familiar? 

We see this all the time with our clients  – and we’ve experienced it many times ourselves! 

You’re just about to have your breakthrough – and you’ll self-sabotage. 

Or things are going better than ever, in your job, your relationship, financially – and then you start to doubt and it all falls apart.

Here’s the thing… 

If you find yourself feeling uncertain, confused or like you don’t know what to do, there’s one thing that’s happening under all of it. 

You’re having a worthiness conversation. 

You’re wondering…

“Can I really have this?”

“Can I trust myself to be able to create this?”

“Can I actually handle all of this goodness?!”

At some point you created a belief that has you believe you can’t actually have the things you want. 

If you ever worry that you’ll have to “settle”… 

Then you don’t actually believe you can have exactly what you want. 

If you worry that even if you do meet him, it won’t last… 

Then deep down you don’t believe you can have and keep the relationship that you want. 

 So how do you shift these sabotaging thought patterns?

 Ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid of? 
  2. What created that belief? 
  3. Where did the belief come from? 

The first step to dismantling a belief that’s not serving you is to uncover what your current beliefs are. 

Once you understand what the belief is and where it came from, then you can begin to do the HeartWork to break apart the belief and dismantle it in order to create a new belief. 

And not just an affirmation or nice idea… 

We mean NEW neural pathways in your brain that actually transform the belief in the cells of your body so you begin to attract and manifest exactly what you want – and know that you can have it! 

This is exactly what we do at the Extraordinary Love Intensive, which is coming up in February 2024!

3 full days of shifting these dysfunctional patterns so that you can create everything you want NOW! 

The event is life-changing because I promise you, if this is impacting your love life, it’s impacting other areas, finances, career, family relationships, too. 

If you want to start your New Year empowered to create everything you want (and more!) then click below to claim your ticket for the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

YES! I Want to Create Extraordinary Love in 2024! 

Every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to have a breakthrough and transform an area of your life. 

 

Respect and Romance: Your Guide to Attracting High-Quality Men

Respect and Romance: Your Guide to Attracting High-Quality Men

by Gladys Diaz

We know that as you date in your desire to create an extraordinary relationship, the pursuit of a genuine connection with a high-quality and respectful man is important! 

If you’re having the experience that every single man you date wants to get physical right out the gate, pushes you to more than you’re comfortable with or doesn’t respect your boundaries it can cause you to not enjoy dating very much and start to believe that men only want something from you. 

While the dating experience may seem challenging at times, there are effective strategies that can empower you to attract the kind of men who align with your values, aspirations, and dreams.

Here’s the truth – a high-quality man will still want to sleep with you. 

But as you respect the boundaries you place for yourself, he’ll honor them as well. 

In this blog, we’ll delve into actionable steps you can utilize to make dating more fun and successful. By clearing any fears and thoughts that may be running in the background, deciding on your own boundaries and communicating them clearly, you’ll attract the type of high-quality men you’re looking for and enjoy getting to know them through dating.

  • Clear the Fears, Limiting Beliefs, and Thoughts that May Be Running in the Background. 

If you have any fears or limiting beliefs about men only wanting sex, wanting to take something from you, or anything similar you need to clear them out through the HeartWork or you will continue to attract exactly what you’re afraid of. 

Shifting your mindset has the power to transform your dating experiences. 

As you approach dating with an open heart, maintaining an optimistic outlook even if you meet men here and there that aren’t a match for your values, you’ll be able to view each interaction as an opportunity for growth. 

  • Audit Your Online Profile

Look at your online profile and make sure there’s nothing that suggests you’re looking for anything other than a committed, monogamous relationship. 

Sometimes in your desire to look attractive to men, especially if there’s any of the above mentioned fears or beliefs running in the background, you may include things on your profile that suggest something other than what you really want. 

  • Set Your Boundaries

To attract respectful men, it’s imperative to set clear standards and boundaries for yourself. Instead of trying to conform to outside ideas or attempting to fit into a mold, embrace your true self. 

Remember – your boundaries are for you. Boundaries aren’t for others to follow. You’re the one that gets to stand inside the line. 

What causes a lot of heartache and confusion is when you decide to move the line because you’re feeling such a great connection or you think “maybe just this once” and then get frustrated and angry when a man wants to get physical every time he sees you. 

Know your worth, what’s important to you and set your boundaries accordingly. Then stick to them no matter what. You can only expect men to respect your boundaries to the point that you do. 

  • Communicate Clearly  

Communicate your boundaries and expectations early on. Respectful men will demonstrate their willingness to invest in a relationship built on mutual respect and understanding. 

Whether it’s communication preferences, personal values, or emotional needs, articulate your boundaries with confidence and grace.

And remember – he doesn’t have to share your values to be a high-quality man. Some men (and some women) are okay with having sex on the first date – it’s not what we coach because we know it creates emotional attachment inside the woman too soon – however, it’s a preference

If you state your boundary clearly and he doesn’t feel the same, be respectful and move on. I love cheese and my husband won’t eat it on anything except pizza. We’re all different and that’s okay. 

As you clear out any fears and limiting beliefs that may be blocking you, you’ll attract high-quality and respectful men who will honor and respect your boundaries. 

By embracing your authenticity, defining your own boundaries, and communicating clearly, you’ll create meaningful connections with men who will cherish and respect you for who you truly are.