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Get Over Your Fears and Attract the RIGHT Man Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 1, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Do you have any of these thoughts (or do you maybe even say these things out loud to your girlfriends or family)?

“Dating is the worst!”

“I’m better off alone with my dog.”

“I’m tired of wasting my time!”

“Meeting lots of men just doesn’t fulfill me.”

“I’m over it.”

Do you want to understand why you keep having the same experience over and over with dating, when you want so deeply to find the relationship of your dreams?

Dating doesn’t have to be hard or complicated.

If there’s a gap between the type of men you’d like to be attracting and the men you actually are attracting – there’s something in the way.

If there are fears in the background (or maybe not so much in the background) swirling around like a hurricane in your head – it’s impossible to attract a man that’s right for you.

You either attract what you want or you attract what you fear.

When those fears are swirling around in your mind, you will attract what you fear. Each time you do, you gather more and more evidence that what you fear is your truth – and nothing changes.

If you’re attracting what you don’t want – it’s not your fault! It’s not because something’s wrong with you – so if that’s what you’re hearing… stop and listen.

It’s okay.

Let us support you in finding out what fears and limiting beliefs are in your space. Let’s get to the bottom of what you see (or what you don’t see) that’s having you have that looping experience.

When you clear up those fears and get clear on what you really want – you WILL attract the man that is absolutely, 100% right for YOU.

We want to support you in clearing up those fears so you can attract the relationship of your dreams!!

Truly, when you do – everything changes.

How to Embrace Your Feminine, Authentic Self

by heartsdesireintl | Sep 3, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you a driven, ambitious, successful woman?

Do you spend your daytime hours of your career in your masculine (“doing”) energy?

Do you find it difficult to relax into your feminine energy before a date, or when you’re with your partner?

If you answered yes, it’s perfectly natural. Being in our masculine/doing energy is called for when we’re at work and getting things done.

That said, when the work day is over, you get to take a moment and shift into your feminine energy.

If you’re getting feedback that…

You seem like you don’t need anyone else
You act like you don’t want a man in your life or that you’re fine alone
You’re intimidating
Nothing is ever good enough for you
You’re aggressive of “too direct”

…then it’s time to look at how you can shift and relax into your feminine energy!

Now, to be clear, as we said above, masculine energy isn’t “bad.”

The energy of doing, driving, managing, advising, etc. is what’s made you successful in your career and in other areas of your life!

The problem is that it simply doesn’t work when it comes to dating and romantic relationships.

Feminine Energy is NOT about being weak, not having a voice, acting like a doormat, or not having an opinion.

Being in your innate, feminine and Irresistible Essence is powerful! It’s what has you show up as vulnerable, authentic, light and joyful.

It IS the energy of BEing receptive.

It’s allowing your partner to be there with you and do things for you.

It’s allowing others to see you and deeply connect with you.

So what are the ways of BEing you can cultivate inside yourself so that your true feminine self shines through?

These ways of BEing are what we call your Irresistible Essences — your innate power of femininity that creates the magical spark that naturally draws masculine men to you.

We use the word MAGICAL to help you remember what they are:

M – Mesmerizing

A – Authentic

G – Gracious

I – Inspiring

C – Confident

A – Alluring

L – Love-able

Let’s dive in a bit deeper, shall we?

BEing Mesmerizing looks like captivating a man’s attention and drawing him into you through your Way of BEing. It’s like casting a spell that has men notice and be drawn to you.

BEing Authentic means being YOURSELF. It’s knowing that you’re more than enough and showing up that way. Remember: He can’t fall (or stay) in love with you if YOU are not even there!

BEing Gracious is allowing yourself to receive and giving him the gift of being able to give to you. Some women really struggle with this one, because they’re so used to doing for themselves. It’s important to point out that receiving is NOT about being entitled or not being able to take care of yourself.

For example, on a date, allowing the man to pay is not about “expecting” him to do something or feeling like you’re entitled to the dinner. It’s about graciously accepting that he’s invited you out and receiving that with grace and gratitude.

So, allow him to pay. Accept his compliments. And offer gratitude in return. Let him know how much you appreciated the dinner, his company, and the date. It’s highly attractive, and knowing he was able to make you smile will inspire him to want to do even more!

BEing Inspiring means being a breath of happiness, love and fun. No one wants to swim in a pool of upset. So instead of making him feel obligated to be with you or required to do anything, inspire him to show up for you by the way you are when you’re around him.

BEing Confident looks like doing your own thing and creating your own happiness. It’s knowing that you’re enough without feeling as if you have to “prove” it. Remember this: Confidence is the #1 most attractive thing to a man.

BEing Alluring is also a Way of BEing. It means being radiant, authentic, drawing people to you simply by being the amazing woman you are.

BEing Love-Able means knowing deep down, for real, that you are both able to love and be loved by another. It looks like knowing you don’t have to withhold love or be afraid to receive it.

So there you have it!

These 7 ways of BEing, the Irresistible Essences, are what will support you in relaxing into your feminine energy and attracting a man that wants to get to know you, and wants to stay with you!

If you’d like support with showing up more fully as your true, authentic, feminine self, book a call with our coaches now.

If it’s become second nature to be in your masculine energy, it’s okay! You can learn how to easily shift and feel more fully connected to you. We can show you how!

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life?

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing!

So what does vulnerability look like?

Vulnerability is…

Being open
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
Being willing to share yourself and your feelings
Trusting yourself to know who to trust
Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable?

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you?

Why is knowing this so important?

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself.

You pretend, hide, or resist.

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life.

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open .

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection?

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears.

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected.

You practice.

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life.

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

Stop Repelling Men and Receive Extraordinary Love Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 30, 2021 | Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance

by Gladys Diaz

Do you over-give in relationships?

Do you have a pattern of cooking dinner for men, offering to pay for things, giving gifts, or constantly planning dates?

If you answered yes, do your thoughts sound like these?

“If I do enough, I’ll be good enough”

“If I give enough, he’ll want me.”

“If I prove how good I am, someone will see that and stay.”

Overgiving is a pattern that doesn’t work in dating. It doesn’t work because masculine men need to provide and give in order to feel on purpose in the relationship.

It also doesn’t work because it will always lead you to feeling resentful and dissatisfied.

I used to do this in dating relationships.

I would give and give – and give some more – and then all the sudden I’d start feeling resentful. I’d think, “He’s just using me!” — even though he’d never asked me to do any of it!

I had all of the thoughts listed above, I was doing all of the things above and, you guessed it, it wasn’t working.

You see, underneath a pattern of over-giving is a self-worth conversation.

You’re either trying to hide what you’re afraid they’ll see in you – or – You’re trying to overcome something you believe already exists in you.

Either way, none of it is true!

The thing is – it’s not enough simply to know it’s not true.

It’s about what you’re going to do to breakthrough it!

So…

Why do you feel you need to prove your value?

What’s driving the pattern of behavior?

What need is being fulfilled?

Is it a need to be liked and accepted? Is it a need to feel needed or valuable to someone?

The first step in breaking through a pattern of overgiving is to get connected to what belief is driving the behavior.

Once you’ve gotten clear on that – you get to start questioning it. You get to go to the very center of why that belief exists and do the Heartwork to create something entirely different inside you.

You get to transform the belief so that the behavior disappears.

And once you do that, you get to a point where those beliefs don’t even phase you anymore. When the thought pops up, you can immediately shift and move on!

How amazing would that be?!

Through doing this Heartwork you will replace these patterns and be out there in the dating world in your Irresistible Essence, authentic self and attracting the man that will love and appreciate you for all of it!

Are you ready to shift these patterns? Are you ready to transform them once and for all?

If you answered yes, the Extraordinary Love Intensive, is what you need and it’s just around the corner! It’s happening next weekend and you don’t want to miss it!

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the patterns that are causing you to repel men and relationships (and overgiving is a big one!) and have you transform so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams.

After the event there will be no more trying to prove your value or doing too much in a relationship.

After the event you will not only know how to step back and be in your feminine receiving energy, but you’ll feel comfortable and naturally do so!

Join us for the Extraordinary Love Intensive by claiming your ticket now!

Remember, there’s a hurt or pain that hasn’t been healed when you’re compensating with overgiving behavior. It’s time to heal so you can experience happiness, joy, abundance, love, partnership support and so much more inside an extraordinary relationship!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 16, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

What is standing in your way of creating the relationship of your dreams?

Are there self-sabotaging tendencies and patterns that are causing your love life to not move forward like you’d like it to?

If so, are you getting frustrated, angry or hopeless?

The frustration you feel that things aren’t happening like you’d like can manifest differently for different people.

Maybe you feel angry – thinking that all men are jerks, dating sucks, and online dating will never lead you to a good man.

Perhaps you feel sad and hopeless – thinking that it’s never really going to happen for you, so why even try? Which leads you to wanting to give up.

If that’s what you’re currently experiencing, it’s important to look at how often those feelings show up, not just in your love life, but in every aspect of your life, because that’s going to give you the clues to what you need to shift.

So, how do you make the relationship of your dreams happen now?

First, you have to get crystal-clear on what you want to experience in that relationship.

Notice that we didn’t say, get crystal-clear on what you want the man to be like or what you want to get out of the relationship.

It’s about the experience you want to have!

When you focus on what the man is like – if he has kids, what his career is, what he looks like, etc – it causes you to focus outside of you and to give up your power to create what you want It feels like there is this “one specific person that must exist” in order for you to be happy, and that has you giving your power away.

When you focus on the experience you want to create, it’s not about looking for “one person” so that you can have the relationship you want, it’s about creating something that another person wants to be part of creating with you!

What do you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?

Do you want to experience….

💕 laughing

💕 understanding

💕 calm communication

💕 affection

💕 soul-level intimacy

💕 fun

💕 respect

💕 unconditional love

💕 having a best friend and someone championing you in life

💕 feeling heard

💕 travel the world

💕 adventures

💕 honesty and faithfulness

The second thing you need in order to begin experiencing the relationship of your dreams is to have the skills to create your crystal-clear vision.

You may say you want a cheerleader and best friend as a partner in life, but then you spend time protecting yourself and criticizing every man that comes along.

You may say you want to have fun and adventure, but then don’t want to spend time meeting new men on the app.

See the disconnect? Fear is standing in the way of you attracting what you want.

How do you recognize that there’s a fear that’s running you?

That’s where we come in!

A coach will tell you when and where you’re sabotaging yourself.
A coach will support you in seeing what you can’t see.

We will show you the fears you have and the masks you may be wearing that are blocking you from having the love you want.

AND, we’ll teach you how to get those Love Barriers out of the way so that you can begin experiencing the love, happiness, and intimacy you desire and deserve!

We will cause you to have a breakthrough!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough so you can actually start experiencing the kind of love you desire, then join us tomorrow, Saturday, July 17th at 12pm ET for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you?

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

When you don’t have the conscious knowledge of what’s holding you back, all you can do is what you already know to do. And if you keep doing what you’ve always done – all you can hope to experience is what you’ve always had.

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do differently so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams… starting right NOW!!!

How to Inspire a Man to Ask You On a Date!

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 18, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel like you’d like to “throw in the towel” when it comes to love?

We understand the heartache that comes when you feel like it’s getting too hard, when you’re wondering if this relationship thing is ever going to work for you.

You feel this way because you haven’t gotten the results you want… YET.

That’s where we come in!

The work we do with women will support you to step into your confidence and tap into the power you already have so you can attract the relationship you want.

Once you have that, you will attract the right man who will honor and cherish you for the rest of your life!

So, how do you get a guy to ask you out on a date?

It’s actually not about “getting” a man to do anything.

It’s really about “inspiring” a man.

It’s about being magnetic and inspiring so that he naturally wants to ask you out.

In fact… He can’t resist wanting to be with you!

Here are some important tips for inspiring the date…

1. When you’re on the app, stay on there for a while while you transition to a date.

By doing this, you get the opportunity to see how often he contacts you, which lets you know how interested he is in getting to know you. You also get to know him.

And, if the dating site is alerted about any “scamming” or fake profiles, you’ll get the alerts in your notifications.

2. Before accepting a date, have multiple phone conversations before you meet in person.

You want to show that you are a woman who values herself, her time, and who she spends it with.

By sharing that you prefer to talk on the phone before meeting, you demonstrate this, as well as taking the opportunity to see if this is someone you want to spend your precious time going on a date with.

3. Keep talking to multiple men at a time, and take your time!

We know this is hard. Women are hard-wired to want connection, to feel secure, and to want to know that he’s the one. But rushing at the beginning can cost you a lot of time, energy, and heartache in the long run. And wasting the time you could be spending with the RIGHT man is not something you want to do.

Remain open to meeting and getting to know different men, and allow yourself the gift of allowing things to unfold naturally.

4. The most important thing to remember is to not take things personally!

Remember: He doesn’t know you, and men are not the enemy.

If you find yourself not having fun or getting “triggered” easily, take a breath and ask yourself, “What am I actually upset about?” or “What am I afraid of?”

Once you do the Heartwork to overcome these fears and deepen the relationship with yourself, you’ll stop attracting men who are attracted to your past, fears, and limiting beliefs..

You’ll only attract men who are RIGHT for you — men who want the same loving, committed relationship you want!

If you’d like an opportunity to do this Heartwork with us, one of the BEST things you can do is join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge, which starts on Monday, June 21st!

The BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge is for you if you’re ready to:

💜 Remove the mask you hide behind that’s blocking you from attracting and having the love you want.

💜 Find your voice and say what you want and feel without being afraid

💜 Stop pretending and not honoring your boundaries

💜 Stop settling for less than you want and deserve in relationships

💜 Stop doubting your ability to attract the man and relationship of your dreams

💜 Let go of the anxiety you feel around dating and relationships and have fun BEing YOU!

💜 And sooooo much more!

The challenge is FREE to join, and it’s going to be a game-changer for you and your love life!

It’s time for you to know that you CAN be authentically YOU and attract the man who will love & cherish you for being the Irresistible Woman you are!

Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU challenge!

We’re in the middle of 2021! If you want to experience a New Year’s kiss with the love of your life in about 6 months, then NOW is the time to get your heart and life ready to receive it!

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