Swipe Right on Love: Dating Strategies for Busy Women

Swipe Right on Love: Dating Strategies for Busy Women

by | May 22, 2023 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Parenting, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Single Mother, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you struggle making time for your love life?

You may be a single mom and have a hard time finding a babysitter. 

Maybe you travel a lot for work and find it hard to make time for dating or your partner. 

Finding time for dating can feel challenging. 

Juggling work commitments, household responsibilities, and parenting duties can make it seem that there’s little room for personal endeavors. 

We get it. 

Both Gladys and I are entrepreneurs running multiple businesses, wives, mothers, and dog-moms. We have clients, team members and family to take care of – on top of making time for our own work-outs, self-care and rest.

I remember when I was a single mom trying to make it all work and wondering if it was possible to have it all… 

The thing to remember is that carving out time for romance is essential for self-care and building meaningful connections. 

In this blog post, we’ll explore practical strategies and mindset shifts to help busy professionals and single moms make time for dating in their demanding lives.

#1:  Make Your Love Life and Dating a Top Priority in Your Life

The first thing you must do is make dating a top priority. Right up there with taking care of yourself.

If you don’t make your love life a priority then another summer goes by and you’re still alone. Another birthday comes and goes and you aren’t spending it with the one you love.

Let’s get rid of regret and start creating your dreams NOW!

Dating isn’t just another thing you have to do and until you start relating to it as self-care and not an item to be checked off your list – only then will you start enjoying it and start creating the results you want! 

#2: Prioritize Self-Care

As a single mom and professional, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. When you don’t, you slowly begin to resent the people in your life that need you and want to spend time with you.

This puts you in low energy and makes it impossible to attract the things you want into your life! 

When you prioritize taking care of yourself, you boost your well-being AND enhance your ability to be present and engaged in dating. 

Set aside dedicated time each day and week for activities that rejuvenate you, such as exercise, meditating, praying, reading, pursuing a hobby (or sitting and doing nothing if that’s what you want to do)!

By nurturing your own happiness, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of dating while managing your all of your other responsibilities.

#3: Create Opportunities in Your Schedule to Date and Spend Time With Your Partner

Sometimes you get to be creative when you have a lot of priorities and are short on time. 

Remember how I said we get it? We do! 

Sometimes spending time together looks like long walks, movies and going to bed together.

And sometimes we get to be creative! 

If Arnie and I have a particularly full day, we’ll wake up 15  minutes early so we can sit on the porch and have our coffee together. 

Gladys and Ric go to lunch together every single Friday, which they’ve been doing for years! 

Why? 

Because prioritizing our relationships is important to us and it’s imperative to keeping the love alive!

If you’re looking at opportunities to meet men as something you dread or as a time-waster – it’s time to shift your mindset and embrace meeting men as something that is fun and worth it! 

#4: Create a Structure for Your Time and Manage Your Time Well

You’re precious, your time is precious and you get to manage it well. 

Prioritize your tasks, set realistic deadlines, plan dating into your calendar and create a structured schedule.

Look for pockets of time in your routine where you can squeeze in a date or a brief phone call with a potential partner. 

TIP: You don’t need to be juggling 15 dating apps and chatting with 100 men at a time – now that might feel overwhelming! 

You need to be on three dating apps with a profile that will attract the men who are a match for you! 

If you don’t have that or you need support with your mindset or time management – Schedule a Love Breakthrough Call with a Coach! 

As a busy professional and/or single mom, making time for dating can feel like an uphill battle. However, by shifting your mindset and making it a priority, prioritizing self-care, creating creative opportunities to date, creating a structure for it and managing your time well, you can successfully integrate dating into your busy life. 

Remember, finding love and nurturing relationships is a vital aspect of personal growth and happiness! 

And you get to have it ALL! 

 

The Secret To Stop Getting “Triggered”!

The Secret To Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by | Jul 15, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease? 

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy? 

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you? 

Tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop we’re going to be showing you how to create just that!

See if this scenario sounds familiar: 

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway
 

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry. 

You’re “triggered.” 

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake. 

We’ve all been there, . 

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer then 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived. 

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity. 

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way? 

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control? 

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen? 

That’s what we’re going to be teaching you how to do tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop. 

You’re going to learn how to: 

  • Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.
  • Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires
  • Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do. 

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this. 

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space. 

And that’s what we want for you too. 

 

 

How To Be the Confident, Secure Woman Who’s Ready for Love Now!

How To Be the Confident, Secure Woman Who’s Ready for Love Now!

by | Jun 13, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel insecure while dating?

Do you wonder things like…

“What if he doesn’t like me?”
“What if we don’t feel the same connection when we see each other that we felt on the phone?”
“What if the same insecurities that had me sabotage the last relationship come up this time?”
“Will I ever just be able to be myself and know that it’s enough?”

When you feel insecure your thoughts take you away from where would really make a difference for you to be – which is inside yourself.

The key to successful dating – and the eventual dream relationship is knowing what you want, feeling secure with who you are and choosing a partner that supports you in creating that relationship.

So – how can you feel secure while dating?

The #1 thing that has women feel insecure in dating is not dating correctly and thinking they are in a relationship before they actually are.

The most important thing to remember while you’re dating is this –

Dating IS NOT a relationship.

Dating involves getting to know different men so that you can have as many different experiences as possible while discovering what it is that you want to experience in a relationship.

If you start out expecting something to become a relationship then you get attached to the idea of the man too soon – before you actually know him. Those expectations cause you to feel insecure when he doesn’t reciprocate the attachment as quickly and usually leads to the man pulling away and the dating experience coming to an end. 

On the other hand, if you’re dating many men at the same time and allowing yourself to really get to know them – you keep yourself from becoming too attached to anyone prematurely and allow yourself to be fully awake to see who is showing up for you, how you feel in the experience and what you want to develop further.

And trust us – when a man wants to be in a relationship, you will know it!

Good high, quality men who know what they want, don’t waste any time becoming exclusive and committed to the woman they want to be with.

Now – here’s the thing:

Even though dating correctly and remembering that there are plenty of good men out there is important –

– the most important thing you can do to make sure you feel secure in dating – is to increase your confidence in yourself and get crystal clear about what it is that you want to experience in life and in a relationship.

If you continue to attract men who don’t know what they want or aren’t aligned with what you’d like to experience in a relationship then you need to do the HeartWork to understand what is causing you to attract what you don’t want and how you can break through and create something different!

When you create clarity, you increase your level of security and can feel certain within yourself no matter what others do or what your outside circumstances are.

When you become connected to your authentic self and fully see the vulnerable beauty that you are – then men are attracted to that energy in you!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough and become the confident, secure woman who’s ready for love then you need to join us on Saturday for Love Breakthrough LIVE!

On this FREE LIVE Love Breakthrough Coaching Call, we’ll be coaching YOU on how to identify your love barriers, break through them, and step into the love your heart truly desires.

Click here to register to join us!

After you register you’ll have the opportunity to apply to be coached live on the session – 

And when you do, you’ll be coached on the call the same way we coach our clients, which will lead you to have incredible breakthroughs and create the love you want NOW!

We can’t wait for Saturday and hope we see your face there!

 

 

 

Image courtesy of Unsplash.com

 

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

by | Oct 29, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

I wish I was better at communicating with my partner. 

He never understands me! 

I don’t dare say what I’m feeling because I don’t want to get into an argument. 

I feel like I talk and he doesn’t even hear me!

These are just a few of the things we heard from women last weekend at Irresistible Woman LIVE and they’re the same things  we hear from our clients when they first start working with us. 

Communicating with men can seem difficult. We know it can feel like you’re speaking a completely different language that he doesn’t even care to try to understand. 

It was a very hard part of my marriage for years. I would communicate things to Ric and I wouldn’t feel like he heard me. 

So I would say it again – louder. I thought that would make him understand. 

It didn’t work. 

He would feel disrespected and I would feel like I was not being understood and before we knew it, we were two people yelling at each other – getting nowhere in the conversation. 

It was a very painful dynamic of our relationship for many years… 

…until we learned how to communicate effectively with one another in a way that would not only have the other person understand, but feel respected, loved and fully heard. 

Communication is one of the biggest factors to whether or not you’ll have a successful relationship. Sharing your feelings and being able to express your needs is so important! 

It’s how you create and build trust, intimacy, safety and love with those you are in relationship with. 

When you learn how to communicate in a way where there’s no blaming, shaming, controlling and “making wrong” – it’s incredible what can be created!

This is exactly the type of communication we teach in our programs.

After working with us, our clients know exactly how to express their desires without being controlling, how to share what they prefer so they don’t end up feeling resentful and how to understand what the men in their lives are saying too! 

If you’d like support with up-leveling your communication skills (because the things we teach don’t only apply to romantic relationships – but to every relationship in your life!) then book a love breakthrough call now! 

Why would you want to wait to increase the understanding, intimacy and love in  your relationship? 

Why wouldn’t you want to be able to communicate your desires in dating starting now?

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

Discover the Secret to Manifesting Extraordinary Success in Your Life!

Discover the Secret to Manifesting Extraordinary Success in Your Life!

by | Oct 15, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you want to have extraordinary success in every area of your life? 

Do you have success at work and wonder why you can’t seem to create success in love? 

Do you have beautiful relationships with other women, but can’t keep a man around longer than 5 minutes? 

If you’re not creating what you want in any area of your life, there’s something out of alignment for you. 

What does that mean? 

Being out of alignment means something in your thoughts, words or behavior are not aligned with what you say you want. 

The biggest problem with that is when you live like that long enough – you start to be okay with it. 

You normalize mediocrity. 

You make it okay that you don’t have everything you want. Even though underneath, there’s a deep stirring for more. 

You keep thinking it’s going to change. You keep waiting for it to get better. 

And before you know it, two years (or two decades!) have passed and you’re still in the same place, doing the same things, and wondering why it’s not working for you. 

Here’s what we know for sure.

You must be 100% crystal-clear about what you want. The clearer you are about what you want, the greater the possibility there is to create it.

In order for you to create that crystal clarity you have to be able to see what’s in the way of you creating what you dream of, know how to break it down, and move past it!

We know there are some traumatic experiences that have happened in your life that have left you feeling powerless.

But you know what?

All of that can change for you. 

All of the waiting and wondering can be over and you can claim the extraordinary life AND love you imagine! 

You can have it all!!

 Join us next weekend for the Irresistible Woman LIVE Virtual Event! It’s happening October 22nd-24th and we want you there with us!!

Yesterday was our 51st birthday and even though these tickets normally sell for $500+ dollars, we decided to give you a ticket for only $51!!

Why would we do that? 

Because we’re 100% committed to women experiencing the relationship of their dreams!! 

Grab your birthday flash sale ticket here!

After the 3 days at Irresistible Woman LIVE, you will feel: 

⭐ Aligned

⭐ Enlightened

⭐ In complete representation of who you really are! 

⭐ Clear about what you want and know how to go and create it

⭐ Excited about your future

⭐ And so much more!

On Sunday you’ll realize that coming was one of the best decisions you’ve ever made for your life. 

Here’s what others have said about their experience at Irresistible Woman LIVE:

“This event will empower you to be the best version of you and develop life long sisterhood as you continue to reach new levels of greatness in your life. I Highly recommend every woman to attend the Irresistible Women Live event!!” ~Candy Davies

“During the seminar I was going through a very tough time. I was struggling with the decision of leaving a relationship where I felt disrespected, unsupported, and diminished, and I was angry with myself for not honoring myself. I realized at the seminar that I had to stop.

I chose to see myself beyond what I was going through and regain my power by focusing on me and my happiness.

Once I let go of the relationship and regained my self-love and self-respect, I allowed myself to dream again.The result was the fulfillment of everything my heart desires! I got a scholarship, found the job of my dreams, and I found the Prince Charming I wanted since childhood. All because I chose me! Trust the process, trust yourself, and have faith because nothing is impossible!” ~ Diana (Now happily married!)

Creating extraordinary success in every area of your life starts with you! 

Click HERE to Claim your Ticket and Join us at Irresistible Woman LIVE!

Marriages have been healed. 

Families have been restored.  

Business have been started. 

Relationships have been created. 

All because of one decision to spend a weekend learning how to be an irresistible woman! 

You get to have it. Join us now.

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

by | Oct 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever feel… 

… like you don’t feel comfortable being yourself? 

… afraid you’ll be rejected again? 

… that when you show up as yourself, you’re not accepted? 

… like you hold back around other people and don’t show up as you? 

… that you can’t connect with others or like there’s a block between you and others?

The good news is that you can break through those barriers!

 You can show up as the authentic YOU and attract those that will love and accept you to you! 

Here’s the thing. 

In your life, you’ve either learned you were supposed to be “fill-in-the-blank” in order to be liked. 

Or you had an experience that made you believe that if you showed up that way then you would be rejected. 

But here’s the truth… 

The longer you pretend to be someone you’re not, the more you risk forgetting who you really are.

It’s our Heartwork that will support you in having the courage to show up as yourself and know that when you do, you will attract the man that will adore you!

When you do this Heartwork:

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You create new experiences and thought patterns for yourself 

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… you haven’t forgotten who you are. 

Underneath all of the experiences, stories you’ve created in your head, junk and limiting beliefs, is your true self. 

And you get to uncover her and let her shine! 

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

Clarity and certainty in who you are lead to confidence.