The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

by | Dec 17, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

What’s your initial reaction when a girlfriend offers to pay for your lunch? 

What do you respond with when someone offers you a compliment? 

What do you say when a man offers to help you out with something? 

As we’re in this holiday season of love, sharing and connecting we wanted to shed some light on a topic that most women don’t think of as something that’s holding them back in love, but that is key to creating the relationship of your dreams. 

In our work with thousands of women, we’ve found that for many of us, it’s hard to receive. 

We work with so many women who want to create a loving, connected relationship with an incredible partner, but then can’t accept a compliment when given, don’t feel comfortable allowing a man to pay for dinner on a date, or don’t know how to graciously receive a gift. 

Can you relate? 

Why does it feel uncomfortable to accept things from others? 

There’s vulnerability to receiving. 

You can only experience love and intimacy to the level that you’re willing to be vulnerable, which is why it’s so important to be able to receive well. 

The three things that are the most important to men are being able to:

1) Please

2) Protect 

3) Provide 

If you’re unable to receive from a man, it’s impossible for him to feel connected to you. He will either feel unappreciated and stop trying or he will interpret your behavior to mean you’re not interested. 

So… if you notice that you feel uncomfortable receiving, the next couple of weeks are the perfect time to practice! 

First, get curious about why receiving makes you uncomfortable. 

In most cases, it’s a worthiness conversation.

You may have a belief that you have to “do” something in order to “earn” love” 

You may think that you don’t deserve certain things. 

You may believe you’re simply not good enough. 

Whatever the underlying reason, get clear on where that feeling comes from for you so that you can break through it. 

Then, take the opportunity this holiday season to stretch into allowing others to contribute to you, give to you and receive with grace and gratitude. 

Being able to receive with grace and gratitude is the way to a man’s heart. It’s the key to turning on your feminine energy and attracting everything you desire to you. 

If you’d like support in clearing up what causes you discomfort in receiving, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches! 

The first step in creating the relationship of your dreams is getting clear on what’s holding you back so you can clear the way. Like we said before, receiving with grace is something that many women struggle with, but don’t see as a problem. 

Take the first step in becoming a gracious and grateful receiver by booking your Love Breakthrough Session now. 

If you don’t see any times available when you click above, please click the words, “contact us” and submit a request with some days and times and our coaches will get back to you. 

Remember, you can only create love and connection to the degree you’re willing to be vulnerable. Get vulnerable this holiday season and receive the love you so freely deserve!

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

by | Oct 29, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

I wish I was better at communicating with my partner. 

He never understands me! 

I don’t dare say what I’m feeling because I don’t want to get into an argument. 

I feel like I talk and he doesn’t even hear me!

These are just a few of the things we heard from women last weekend at Irresistible Woman LIVE and they’re the same things  we hear from our clients when they first start working with us. 

Communicating with men can seem difficult. We know it can feel like you’re speaking a completely different language that he doesn’t even care to try to understand. 

It was a very hard part of my marriage for years. I would communicate things to Ric and I wouldn’t feel like he heard me. 

So I would say it again – louder. I thought that would make him understand. 

It didn’t work. 

He would feel disrespected and I would feel like I was not being understood and before we knew it, we were two people yelling at each other – getting nowhere in the conversation. 

It was a very painful dynamic of our relationship for many years… 

…until we learned how to communicate effectively with one another in a way that would not only have the other person understand, but feel respected, loved and fully heard. 

Communication is one of the biggest factors to whether or not you’ll have a successful relationship. Sharing your feelings and being able to express your needs is so important! 

It’s how you create and build trust, intimacy, safety and love with those you are in relationship with. 

When you learn how to communicate in a way where there’s no blaming, shaming, controlling and “making wrong” – it’s incredible what can be created!

This is exactly the type of communication we teach in our programs.

After working with us, our clients know exactly how to express their desires without being controlling, how to share what they prefer so they don’t end up feeling resentful and how to understand what the men in their lives are saying too! 

If you’d like support with up-leveling your communication skills (because the things we teach don’t only apply to romantic relationships – but to every relationship in your life!) then book a love breakthrough call now! 

Why would you want to wait to increase the understanding, intimacy and love in  your relationship? 

Why wouldn’t you want to be able to communicate your desires in dating starting now?

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

How to Break Through and Create the Love Your Heart Desires!

How to Break Through and Create the Love Your Heart Desires!

by | Sep 17, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you being a “victim” in your dating life? 

Do you feel like you can’t trust yourself to make the best decisions? 

Are you afraid that you’ll make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past, which led you to being hurt or taken advantage of?

If you answered yes to any of the following – or if you have that tingly feeling in your gut that’s telling you this is something you should listen to – here’s what you need to know. 

If your goals aren’t coming to fruition there is something stopping you from creating the results you want. Something from the past is holding you back. 

The thing is – the past is not a predictor of your future, it’s simply an informer. 

The problem is – most women hold onto what happened in the past so tightly that they then create strategies to make sure whatever happened doesn’t happen again. 

This doesn’t work. 

The only thing that does work is to get to the root of WHY the thing happened in the first place and then heal ALL of it. 

Whatever it is from your past that is still standing in the way is a love barrier and if you don’t find a way to break it and have a breakthrough around it, do you know what’s going to happen? 

The next year will look just like the past year, or the past two years, or maybe even the last 10!

Not because that’s all that’s meant for you. But because that’s what you’ve been creating and will continue to create until you break through it. 

So how do you break through? 

First, you get to accept that the past doesn’t define you. The decisions you made or the circumstances that found you, aren’t who you are. 

You get to forgive yourself and others for the experience you had and then you get to let it go. 

Second, you get to recreate the story. 

Do you know who you’d be without that story or suffering? 

Most women stay stuck for this very reason. They don’t. And not knowing who they are is scarier than staying stuck.

Does this sound familiar? 

If you want to transform and break out of the love barriers standing in your way, you have to break through the story that’s keeping you from creating the results that you want, from creating the relationship of your dreams!

If this is something you want then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge! 

If you want to have a break through in: 

⭐ dating high quality men

⭐ creating abundance in every area of your life

⭐ settling the past and moving forward

⭐ finding your feminine energy and flow

⭐ forgiving and trusting yourself again

⭐ believing that you can trust men and have fun again

⭐ finding freedom

⭐ not taking things personally

⭐ anything else that may be holding you back

… then this is the challenge for you! 

In this 5-Day Real Love Breakthrough Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same effective, clear and proven steps of our HeartWork™️ process, we’ve personally used and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!

It’s FREE to join and it starts on Monday, so don’t delay. 

Click here to register for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge! 

If 2021 looks too similar to 2020 – or the year before that – there is a barrier in your way. 

You get to be the source of the breakthrough to create everything your heart desires! 

Join us on Monday! 

Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Life With These Solutions!

Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Life With These Solutions!

by | Sep 10, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

Does it feel like your results in dating keep getting sabotaged?

Have you noticed you keep having the same (or similar) experience over and over again (and they’re not the ones you want)? 

Are you ready to break through these sabotaging patterns once and for all so you can create the relationship of your dreams?!

The top three patterns we see from our clients that are sabotaging their dating (consciously or unconsciously) are: 

  1. Dating only one man at a time
  2. Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship
  3. Complaining about dating

Do you think you may be falling into any of these patterns? 

Let’s break each of  them down so you see what we’re talking about. 

#1 Sabotaging Pattern: Dating only one man at a time. 

We’ve said it once, and we’ll say it a thousand more times: Dating only one man at a time is setting yourself up for failure. Not only that, but this pattern will cause the dating process to take so much more time than necessary.

And we know you don’t want to waste your time!

Solution: Date more than one man at a time.

What does this look like? 

Dating means spending time with someone and getting to know them.
Dating more than one person at a time means going on dates with multiple men and getting to know them while noticing what you are and aren’t experiencing with them. 

This doesn’t mean you’re sleeping around, having sex with all of them, or even kissing multiple men! 

It simply means you’re talking, meeting, and getting to know them so that you can make an informed decision about whether you’d like to keep getting to know them or not. 

Why does this matter? When you’re only seeing one man at a time, you limit your availability, options and experience.

When you open yourself up to seeing multiple men, you increase your chances of creating a relationship with the man that’s right for you. 

You also take the pressure off of not only the men, but yourself!
You’re able to keep yourself from getting attached to anyone too soon, making a relationship out of something that’s not one, and getting your heart broken unnecessarily. 

#2 Sabotaging Pattern: Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship

Choosing to keep seeing someone who is having you experience less than the relationship of your dreams, is settling.
Doing so, wastes precious time you could be spending with someone else (i.e. the RIGHT man!).

Solution:  Do the HeartWork to break through this pattern. 

Settling comes from a belief that you don’t deserve what you truly want, that it doesn’t exist, or that you won’t be able to get it, so you do what you think you have to do to save yourself from disappointment. 

Why does this matter? Until you break through these limiting beliefs, you will never be able to create the relationship of your dreams and attract not only a man, but the man who is aligned with the experience and the kind of relationship you want to have.

#3 Sabotaging Pattern: Complaining about dating

Constantly talking about how hard dating is, how frustrated you are with the experience, how terrible the men you’re attracting are, or how long the process is taking is a sabotaging pattern. 

When you do this, you then create experiences to prove that you’re right.
Do you really want to be right about any of that?

Solution: Pay attention to your language and create effective ways to date. 

Why does this matter? Your mind believes what you tell it is true, and you then subconsciously create the experiences that will have you prove yourself right.

Energy flows where attention goes!

So, instead of complaining about what you don’t want or what isn’t working, get crystal-clear and stay laser-focused on the kind of relationship you want to experience for the rest of your life. 

Your life — including the relationship of your dreams is your creation!

What do you want to create? 

If you want to have a Love Breakthrough and turn these self-sabotaging patterns (plus the ones  that you might not even realize are there for you!) around once and for all,  then you need to join us for the Love Breakthrough Challenge! 

In this 5-Day Love Breakthrough Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same EFFECTIVE, CLEAR, AND PROVEN steps of our HeartWork process, we’ve personally used in our own lives and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!

Click here to sign up for FREE now!

We start on Monday, September 20th, so sign up now. 

This WILL transform you and your love life!

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life? 

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing! 

So what does vulnerability look like? 

Vulnerability is…

  • Being open
  • Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
  • Being willing to share yourself and your feelings 
  • Trusting yourself to know who to trust
  • Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
  • Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
  • The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable? 

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think. 

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you? 

Why is knowing this so important? 

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself. 

You pretend, hide, or resist. 

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life. 

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open . 

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness. 

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection? 

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears. 

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected. 

You practice. 

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today. 

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life. 

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

You Can Break Through Your Fears Now!

You Can Break Through Your Fears Now!

by | Aug 13, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz 

What are fears that come up in the realm of love and relationships? 

Are you afraid you won’t be enough? 

Are you terrified of rejection or abandonment? 

Are you scared you’ll keep repeating your heartbreaking past and are afraid to try again now? 

Maybe you’re afraid that…

  • dating will just be a waste of time
  • you’ll be controlled
  • you’ll lose yourself in a relationship 
  • you won’t find someone who really understands you
  • it’ll be hard to share your life with someone 
  • you’ll get your heartbroken (again)
  • he’ll lie or cheat like every other guy has

Obviously, those are only some of the fears that come up for women while dating.

What are your fears?

The thing about fear is that it’s a fact of life. 

It’s part of being human, and there’s no way out of that. 

The other thing about fear is that even though it’s a given in life, it doesn’t have to control your life.

Fear is your brain’s way of thinking about what you are afraid is or isn’t going to happen. 

And your brain doesn’t recognize the difference between an imagined fear and what’s actually happening. 

When fear is running the show, you’ll subconsciously sabotage your experiences in an attempt to either stop whatever you’re afraid of from happening, or force something to happen. 

By taking ownership of your fears and recognizing what is an imagined fear vs reality, you take your power back and can be the conscious owner of your life and your results.

None of us want to waste our time, get our hearts broken, be rejected, or experience the same painful things we’ve experienced in the past. 

When you take the time to do the necessary Heartwork, you increase your chances of attracting the man and relationships that will be good for you. 

And the first step to doing that is to powerfully master your fears. 

So, how do you do that?

1. Distinguish your fear by recognizing what it is and where it comes from.

2. Dismantle the fear by doing the work to release it and leave it in the past. Then, when fearful thoughts come up — because they will — you’ll be able to see them for what they are, instead of relating to them as “the truth.”

3. Replace the fear with a new empowering belief that has you open up to new ideas of what’s possible for you. 

You don’t have to be afraid of what’s happened in the past. 

You can experience love, happiness, peace and healing in your heart when you do the Heartwork necessary to break through your fears! 

If you’d like support with learning how to master your thoughts and emotions so you aren’t being driven by them, we want to support you! 

Our Ready to Love Again Program begins in just over a week, and this is the powerful work we begin with!   

If you are at all interested in learning more, or if you’d simply like to chat with someone about how you (yes, YOU!) can learn to dismantle your fears and take control of your life, click below to book a Love Breakthrough Call.  

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session

Our coaches are here to support you in seeing what you can’t see right now, so that you can move forward and create the life and love your heart desires!