Do you have a relationship from the past that you haven’t fully let go of?
Is there someone that is still holding a piece of your heart?
Maybe it wasn’t even a recent break-up, maybe it’s been two years, three years or even ten years ago, and it’s still blocking you from moving forward in love.
If this is you, we hear you! It can be so frustrating when you want to run freely forward without anything from the past holding you back, but just seem to be stuck.
If this is you, we know that you want to get unstuck (otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this right now), but you just don’t know how.
The first step in letting someone from the past go is understanding how holding onto that person and relationship is impacting you now, in the present. Whenever there’s something from the past that’s still in your space, it won’t allow you to move forward.
And how else is it impacting you?
To uncover the impact the past is still having on you, first look at your results.
What are you currently experiencing?
Are you going on dates or are you holding back?
If you are going on dates, are you enjoying the process?
Look at your last couple of dates. Are there patterns that are presenting themselves?
Is there something wrong with every single person you goout with?
Are you not attracted to anyone?
Do you feel disconnected, and, immediately during or after every date,feel like he’s definitely not the one?
No, you’re not going to be attracted to or want to date every single person you meet. It’s natural to not be interested in every single man you go on a date with. But, if it seems you aren’t feeling it for anyone then you may be holding onto someone from the past.
Recently a client expressed frustration with this very thing. She said that while she’s dating, she finds herself comparing every single guy to her ex. She said he was the best boyfriend and that it was the best relationship she’d ever had. I lovingly pointed out to her that it couldn’t have been “the best,” because they’re not together anymore, and that there was a reason for that. There’s a reason that it didn’t work out, and as long as she keeps romanticizing this past relationship and putting that man on a pedestal, she will never have space for the right man — the one who really will be the best!
Sound familiar?
If you find yourself having this experience, it’s time to get curious.
Ask yourself,
What’s really going on here?
Why am I not feeling connection?
Why am I never attracted to anyone?
What’s really holding me back?
Get curious
You will start to discover your blind spots by saying, “I wonder…”
“I wonder if I’m still holding onto the past?”
“I wonder why I can’t let go?”
“I wonder what that person represents for me?”
“I wonder if I’m afraid to move on?”
When it comes to breakups, it would be weird if you didn’t miss someone that you once spent time with, and it’s normal to take time to grieve. However, sometimes we think that the longer we grieve or the more time we stay stuck, the more validation we give to the relationship. But, how much more time do you want to waste staying safe and alone?
It’s okay to love someone and let them go.
Letting someone go does not invalidate the love you shared with him, the memories you created together, who he is as a person, or the lessons the relationship taught you.
And, just because you shared an incredible love once, doesn’t mean you can never find it (or something even MORE incredible) again.
When I lost my first husband and then found Ric, I realized that there’s more than just one “The One.” There are multiple people on this planet that can make you happy and love you forever!
But only if you are open to it.
Only if you are willing to do the HeartWork to bring the past to a close, release it from your mind AND your heart, and open the door to welcome the new love that’s already waiting for you.
I promise you, there’s a love out there that’s even bigger and better than that person from the past. Someone even bigger and better than you can even imagine. And someone who wants to spend his life with you!
Because of this, Michelle and I would love for you to join us for our 2020 Love Vision Event, happening in just a few weeks!
At this event, we’ll be helping you to complete 2019 and step powerfully into 2020 with a crystal-clear vision for love that your heart deeply desires.
We’ll show you the exact steps and tools you’ll need to create and experience that love right now!
The process we’ll be taking you through is hands-on, experiential, and transformative.
We’re going to help you create your Love Vision, teach you HOW to actually live into it so you can create it in real life in 2020!
The absolute truth is that in order to open up to a new chapter, you have to complete the past. You take what worked and what didn’t work about that past relationship, release your attachment to the person, take whatever serves you into the future, and let go of everything else.
It’s time for you to let go of the past and open up to the love that is already waiting for you.
Do you know that girl that just seems to get all the guys?
You know… that girlfriend that always seems to get people’s attention… no matter where she is??
What is it about her?
What if we told you the secret to turning a man on?
What if we gave you the tools that would have men not just BE attracted to you, but STAY attracted to you.
What if we told you exactly how to have men ask you out on the spot?
Keep reading, because what we’re about to share with you has had men turn around their cars around and PARK, or leave their seat in a restaurant to ask a girl out in the parking lot! (True stories!).
See, there’s a limiting belief many women have that men only want one thing. (I’m sure you can guess what that one thing is.)
But, guess what?! It’s not true!
Research shows that there is something that men want, something they notice right away in a woman, before they ever speak to her, and that is if she looks like she feels happy and confident.
Men notice and are attracted to a woman’s eyes and her smile before anything else..
Why?
A woman’s’ eyes reveal whether or not she feels confident.
Are you able to see a man you find attractive and make eye contact with him?
Are you able to then hold that contact?
If so, a man knows you are confident.
A woman’s smile let’s a man know how she feels. Is she happy? Does she look like she can create her own happiness, and is she enjoying her life?
Those two things are what turns a man on and makes him not only notice you, but want to do something about it.
And, for those of you already in relationships, trust us when we tell you that your eyes and your smile STILL turn your boyfriend or husband on.
Doubt us? Try it! Smile at him and hold eye contact for 3-5 seconds as you do. Then let us know how he responds! 😉
So what are the ways of BEing you can cultivate inside yourself so that your eyes shine with confidence and your smile radiates happiness?
We call them the Irresistible Essences — your innate power to create that magical spark that naturally draws men (and everyone else, for that matter) to you.
We use the word MAGICAL to help you remember what they are:
M – Mesmerizing
A – Authentic
G – Gracious
I – Inspiring
C – Confident
A – Alluring
L – Love-able
Let’s dive in a bit deeper, shall we?
BEing Mesmerizing looks like captivating a man’s attention and drawing him into you through your Way of BEing. It’s like casting a spell that has men notice and be drawn to you.
BEing Authentic means being YOURSELF. It’s knowing that you’re more than enough and showing up that way. Remember: He can’t fall (or stay) in love with you if you’re not even there!
BEing Gracious is allowing yourself to receive and giving him the gift of being able to give to you. Some women really struggle with this one, because they’re so used to doing for themselves. It’s important to point out that receiving is NOT about being entitled or not being able to take care of yourself. It’s about graciously accepting that he’s invited you out and receiving that with grace and gratitude..
So, allow him to pay. Accept his compliments. And offer gratitude in return. Let him know how much you appreciated the dinner, his company, and the date.
BEing Inspiring means being a breath of happiness, love and fun. No one wants to swim in a pool of upset. So instead of making him feel obligated to be with you or required to do anything, inspire him to show up for you by the way you are when you’re around him.
BEing Confident looks like doing your own thing and creating your own happiness. It’s knowing that you’re enough without feeling as if you have to “prove” it. Remember: This is the #1 most attractive thing to a man.
BEing Alluring is also a Way of BEing. It means being radiant, authentic, drawing people to you simply by being the amazing woman you are.
BEing Love-Able means knowing deep down, for real, that you are both able to love and be loved by another. It looks like knowing you don’t have to withhold love or be afraid to receive it.
So there you have it! The 7 ways of BEing, the Irresistible Essences, that turn a man on and attract him to want to get to know you and then want to stay with you!
If you want to dive into this even further so that you can create the relationship of your dreams NOW, then you will want to join us for our 2020 Love Vision Event, happening in just a few weeks!
At this event, we’ll be helping you to complete 2019 and step powerfully into 2020 with a crystal-clear vision for love that your heart desires deeply and the exact steps and tools you’ll need to create and experience it in 2020! There are limited spots at this event and they are already filling up, so make sure to claim your spot now.
Remember: It’s not just about getting a man to ask you out. It’s about BEing the irresistible woman that he decides he can’t live without. That’s when all your dreams will become a reality!
Do you feel like you don’t know what’s best, or how to make the right decisions?
Do you feel like you can’t trust men? Your friends? Yourself?
That last one’s important, because… if you can’t trust yourself, how are you ever going to be able to trust anyone else?
The other day I was talking to a woman, and, as we were talking, the issue of trust just kept coming up. Finally, I asked, “How many times have you experienced someone cheating on you?” Her answer shocked me for someone for her age. It was over 5 times! As we continued talking, we discovered that the issue of infidelity was something that had been in her family for years. – Of course she has a hard time trusting men!
As women, our biggest need is to feel safe. How can we feel safe with others when we feel we can’t trust the person we’re with?
I was there, too. Because of the alcohol abuse, abandonment, and pretending that I engaged in during in my childhood to hide what was going on in our home from everyone around me, I had trouble trusting people. My thought was, “If I can’t trust my own mother, how am I ever going to trust anyone else, or even myself.
Because of that limiting belief, I wasn’t making the best decisions about who I was allowing into my life, and I kept attracting the wrong guys. I was dating terrible men – mean men who didn’t love, honor, or respect me.
When I started to do my HeartWork,I forgave my mom, my ex-boyfriends, and myself for the choices we had all made. Not long after that, I met Ric. He was so authentic! His honesty was something I found super-attractive. I took my time getting to know him, saw that I could trust myself to choose a good man, and the rest is history! How grateful I am that I learned how to trust??? Very!
Here’s the thing… if you’re feeling like you don’t trust others – especially men – then y consider that you don’t trust yourself.
So…How do you shift that?
Here’s the formula that Michelle and I use with our clients to help them know whether it’s their intuitionthat’s guiding them or if it’s their fears, limiting beliefs, and superstitions doing the talking.
It’s simple.
If it’s your intuition, then there is evidence of it around you.
If it’s your fears, limiting beliefs, and superstitions then you’re making up the evidence.
What if you can’t tell the difference?
Give yourself some space. Detach from the situation a little bit so that you can see what’s actually happening and what’s not happening.
Take a look and see if maybe you’re making something up that’s not actually happening in reality?
Is a memory being triggered?
Are you choosing to ignore something that is happening?
Are you crossing and not honoring your own boundaries for someone else?
When you take a step back and look at it with new eyes, I promise you you’ll be able to hear what your intuition is telling you!
And then you get to trust it and yourself to make the choice that’s right for you!
If you’re having a lot of trouble trusting others and don’t know where to start, start by forgiving yourself for the choices you’ve made in the past and give yourself permission to move on! Because the time is now.
There are 88 days left in 2019.
Eighty-eight!
Are you living the Love Resolution you made at the beginning of the year?
Are you where you want to be on December 31st, or is there a gap?
If you’re not there yet, the good news is that THERE ARE STILL 88 days to create a real shift!
We have a client who just got a promise ring from her man, and another that is getting married next week! There is still time for YOU to create the love of your dreams in 2019.
If you’re not sure where to start, click here to schedule a complimentary call with us about The Ready to Love Again Program, a 12-month coaching program for single women who want to attract the right man and create the relationship of their dreams (enrollment closes October 8th, so don’t wait!):
Just a quick note: the only way to reserve a spot in the program is to chat with us, so that together, we can determine whether it’s a good fit for you, right now.
You get to create that love for yourself and what better time than right now?
Do you find yourself thinking about how your man isn’t giving you the time and attention you want – whether it’s someone you’re dating, your boyfriend, or your husband?
Even worse… Do you allow those thoughts to pop out of your mouth in the form of statements like:
“We never spend any quality time together?”
“You have time for everyone and everything else, except me!”
“Why don’t you want to spend time with me anymore?”
While it may seem as if you are simply “being honest” or “sharing your feelings,” the truth is that there are a few words that describe those kinds of statements: nagging, complaining, and criticizing.
Now, before you scroll down to write a comment to tell me off or give me all the reasons why this IS how you feel, hear me out.
I get that you want to spend more time with him. Chances are that, when you see him spending less time with you, it triggers some fears and doubts in you about how he really feels about you. In fact, you may even have asked him how he feels about you (something I’ll cover in another post!).
I really do hear you.
However, consider that those statements, while they may be said with underlying valid feelings and desires, they don’t communicate the real feelings and thoughts underneath the complaints. Instead, they communicate:
“You’re wrong.”
“I’m needy.”
“It’s your responsibility to make me happy.”
So, how can you say what you feel WITHOUT nagging, complaining, or pushing your guy away?
Say some simple and clear messages such as:
“I miss you.”
“I feel lonely.”
“I love spending time with you.”
I know… Those are pretty vulnerable statements and it’s scary to be vulnerable, especially if you’re questioning how he feels about you.
However, if you close your eyes, take a deep breath, and breathe deep into your heart for just a minute, you’ll see the truth in them: This is how you really feel.
What’s even better, if you share your feelings with him this way, he’ll actually be able to hear you!
And that’s what you really want, right?
See, the truth is that there isn’t a man on this planet who has EVER been inspired by nagging, criticism, or complaining.
These statements are simply not inspiring or motivating. In fact, you’ve probably noticed that they have the opposite effect, making him pull further away from you, and they don’t really do much to change the situations… Which has you bring it up again, and again, and again, with NO different results.
If this has been your experience, we’d like to invite you to try something different!
The next time you’re feeling as if your guy isn’t spending enough time with you, and you’re tempted to complain about it, I invite you to say something like:
“I miss you.”
“I’d love to spend time together.”
“I can’t wait to have some time alone.”
These statements are A LOT more inspiring, they let him know how you are feeling, and they will allow him to hear you.
Oh! And don’t be surprised if he begins spending more time with you!
If you’re feeling like you’re not getting the time and attention you want from your man and you’d like support and guidance on how to turn things around, we’ve opened up some time in our calendars for you to schedule a Love Breakthrough Session with one of us.
On this call, we’ll help you see what is getting in the way of you having the kind of experience you want to have in dating or your relationship, and we’ll create a step-by-step plan for you to follow so that you being to experience the love and happiness your heart desires!
Love, dating, and relationships do NOT have to be hard. They are easy when you know exactly what to do and say to get the results you want without having to force, nag, or “get him” to do what you want! Let us help you!
It’s been over three weeks since The Irresistible Woman LIVE Event took place and there is still not a single day that goes by that Michelle and I do not receive an email, a text message, or a post in our Facebook group of someone sharing a new breakthrough, miracle, or manifestation that has occurred in her life as a result of having attended the event!
Here’s the fascinating thing. The event was only three days long, yet women are sharing life-altering changes. For example (and I am using intitials because these breakthroughs were shared in a private group:
C has experienced major breakthroughs in the ares of finances, her improv acting experiences, and in the attention she is receiving from a really high-quality man!
D is experiencing a whole new level of fulfillment in her relationship with her amazing boyfriend (who she met while participating in our Ready to Love Again Program!), in her career, and in her relationships with others. In fact, her friends and family are commenting on how happy and full of life and love she is!
Z. is finally pain-free after dealing with excruciating and chronic back and shoulder pain that doctors had been unable to diagnose and treat for over 2 years! And she had a wonderful trip with her family where she felt able to trust her husband and watched as he truly stepped up and made her feel safe, secure, and worry-free, in spite of some very unexpected and sometimes difficult situations they faced during the trip.
P. and her husband are completely falling in love with one another again. There is more love, communication and romance in their marriage (they even had a wonderful date night the other night!)
L. had a fantastic first date with a wonderful man is excited about dating again!
Y. was able to confidently and respectfully walk away from a dating experience that made her feel uncomfortable and did not match the experience she wants to have in a relationship.
So, what is it that allows this kind of shift to take place after an event that was only a few days long?
It’s the process we take women through in our events and programs that have them move from “receiving information” to “Creating Transformation.”
See, there is an overwhelming amount of information out there. You know there is.
You’ve read the books.
You’ve listened to the podcasts.
You’ve watched the videos.
You’ve even taken courses.
But, despite all of this information, you still feel stuck and continue repeating old patterns that keep you in a cycle of heartache.
You still can’t let go of your ex and move forward.
You still keep attracting the wrong kind of man into your life.
You still continue arguing with your partner about the same things.
You still feel frustrated and stuck and, at times, hopeless.
If all it took to create a real and permanent shift was information, or even having a powerful insight, you would have already made the changes you know you need to make.
However, it takes more than good information or content, or even a really powerful “a-ha” moment to take what you are learning and seeing about yourself and create a truly permanent change.
In our work, we help you not only distinguish and work through the fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that are creating dysfunctional patterns in your life and love life. We also teach you how to replacethose Love Barriers with new and empowering thoughts, actions, and attitudes that allow you to create permanent, life-altering transformation in your life!
If you’re ready to learn more about this, check out the quick video I shot for you on Friday and then hit “reply” to this email and answer the 2 questions I ask you at the end of the video.
I will personally be reading and responding to each of the emails and I will be opening up a few spots on my calendar specifically to help you create your own Love Breakthrough Action Plan on a Love Breakthrough Session.
Obviously, there are not enough slots in my calendar to speak personally to all of the thousands of women who will be reading this email. However, I know that the truly committed women will watch the video, reply to this email, and be open to receiving your next best steps to create a true transformation in your love life.
If that is YOU, and you are READY to create true and permanent change in your life, and you are ready to do what it takes to make the necessary changes to create your own personal transformation, then all you have to do is:
Watchthevideo.
Click reply and answer the 2 questions I ask at the end of the video.
Get ready to create a TRUE TRANSFORMATION in your love life!
Remember:
Creating a true and permanent transformation does not have to be “hard.” It can be easy and effortless when you know exactly what steps you need to take and you have guidance from someone who can help you create the results you want. Let’s do this together!
Watch the video know and reply to send me your responses!
I can’t wait to read them and write back to you!
Remember:
Creating a true and permanent transformation does not have to be “hard.” It can be easy and effortless when you know exactly what steps you need to take and you have guidance from someone who can help you create the results you want. Let’s do this together!
Watch the video know and reply to send me your responses!
There’s a real problem affecting women – especially smart, successful women like you – and it pushes good men away.
See, there’s something that many powerful women don’t realize that they are doing to self-sabotage their relationships. And the energy being given off by doing this is like “relationship kryptonite”!
What is it?
It’s leaking masculine energy in the form of control!
Now, before you bounce off the page or get triggered, let me explain, because, if you’re not in a happy, intimate relationship right now, and you knew you could learn what you can stop doing to sabotage your love life and happiness, isn’t that worth just a few minutes of your time?
Here’s the deal.
More than anything, a good man – the kind of man who is interested in loving, supporting, and spending his life with an amazing woman like you – wants one thing more than anything else. (And, no, it’s not sex!)
See, one of a good man’s greatest superpowers is his need to make the woman that he cares about happy. Honestly, it’s like a drug he can’t get enough of when he sees that you are smiling and he knows that hehad something to do with the smile on your face!
Now, perhaps you don’t believe me, especially if this hasn’t been your experience with men – or the man you’re with.
However, consider that there may be somethings you’re doing to either attract the kind of man who isn’t interested in making you happy, or you may subconsciously and unintentionally saying and doing things that stop him from being able to make you happy.
It’s true. Many of the things you are doing to kill a man’s desire to make you happy are happening subconsciously.
This means you’re not even aware of what you’re doing to self-sabotage your relationships!
And that’s why, unless you learn exactly what is pushing away a man’s desire to be with and please you, it’s virtually impossible for you to stop doing it so that you can turn things around in your love life and have the kind of relationship you really want!
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As a smart, successful woman, you know that getting what you want means, not only knowing exactly what to do, but how to get it in the easiest, most effective way! And that’s exactly what I’m going to teach you on this online class, so make sure you grab your spot now!
You can’t change something you can’t see. If you’re not in the happy, loving relationship you truly want, and you want to learn the fastest, most effortless way to have that, make sure you join us for this online class!
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