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The #1 Mistake Women Make When Communicating With Men and What To Do Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 21, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you understand men?

Or do you find yourself asking:

What the @*!# was he thinking?

Did he really just say that?

Why doesn’t he listen to me?

If you don’t feel seen, heard and understood when you’re communicating with your partner, and you’re wondering why you feel so disconnected, there’s a reason AND a solution!

AND this is not just for romantic relationships – this is important to remember in all of your relationships with men – fathers, brothers, and male colleagues at work.

First… It’s not personal. It’s biological!

Men aren’t just hairier, more muscular versions of women. (Surprise!)

There’s a reason why women can multi-task and men need to focus on one thing at a time.

There’s a reason why men jump in, interrupt and try to solve your problem before you’ve even shared what you wanted to say.

And there’s a reason why you get home from a date where you experienced so much fun and connection and then feel confused when he doesn’t ask you out again.

It’s not a matter of intelligence or not caring.

Men are actually wired differently.

And the differences in how they think, speak, and act can create major conflict and frustration in you and your relationship, as you feel like you can’t talk, communicate, or connect with each other.

The good news is that, even with all of these differences, it IS possible to feel completely seen, heard, understood and loved by your man (and for him to feel the same way).

This is why we created the Decoding Your Man Masterclass – which is happening Saturday, October 22nd at 12pm EST

If you haven’t registered yet, REGISTER HERE!

Our goal is for you to understand how the differences in our biology impact every level of our relationships, and how you can still feel empowered to have better communication, deeper connection, and real, lasting intimacy with the man you love.

It’s absolutely possible to share what you feel, think, and need in a way that leaves you BOTH feeling seen, heard, understood, and loved!

In this powerful masterclass, you’ll learn the Decoding Your Man Method and:

The #1 mistake women make when communicating with men, and what to do instead!
Discover the differences between the way men’s and women’s brains are wired and how that impacts communication and romance with the opposite sex
Learn the keys to avoiding arguments and misunderstandings so that you can create love and partnership in your relationship vs. working against each other
Unlock and master the secrets to knowing exactly what to say and do get the love and support you want from your partner
How to create a happy, loving, passionate relationship that lasts for a lifetime!
And so much more!

The reason why he says “I’m busy” when you try to ask him a question while he’s working is because men are wired to focus on one thing at a time.z

The reason why he jumps in and interrupts you when you’re simply wanting to be listened to is because he hears you’re in pain and wants to be your hero and solve your problem.

And the reason why you have an incredible date but then don’t see him again is because while you were thinking about and assessing the entire date in the moment (and don’t tell us you don’t do that, hehe) – he was 100% focused on making sure the date was fun and enjoyable for you and then thought out those things after.

Is your mind blown?

We’ll be explaining so many more questions like these on Saturday and you’ll smile each time you hear yourself saying, “Aha! That explains it!”

It’s not just about knowing the facts and understanding why men do what they do.

It’s also about knowing how to dance with them by having the skills and knowing how to communicate in a way that sets you both up to win.

If you want to learn how to communicate in a way so that you can be received and responded to in a healthy, supportive, loving and caring way, make sure to join us for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass by registering for FREE at the link below.

Register for the Decoding Your Man Masterclass!

The Breakthrough That Has You Find The Love of Your Life

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 18, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Are you ready to have a breakthrough in love?

Do you know what a breakthrough feels like?

Did you know there’s a difference between a breakthrough and an insight?

Here’s how you can tell…

An insight is a logical experience where you suddenly realize or see something new that supports you in understanding why you’re creating what you have in your life.

An insight could be remembering an event from your childhood that created the fear of abandonment that’s running your love life or realizing that you keep creating the same experience over and over again with different men.

Those are all insights – and they’re super important to have!

However – a breakthrough is something more.

A breakthrough is a heart-changing experience that rises above and beyond what’s ordinary. Having a breakthrough creates an energetic shift that transforms you and the way you’re showing up in your life.

It’s powerful!!!

So how do you create one?

First of all – since a breakthrough is an experience above and beyond the ordinary – it’s usually not something you can create for yourself. A real breakthrough requires the support of someone who can see what you can’t see AND support you in transforming it.

Creating a breakthrough in your life requires the assistance of a coach.

On top of having a coach, you must be:

1) Committed to having a breakthrough and declaring what you want.
2) Willing to move past what’s comfortable
3) Ready and excited to apply the coaching

So let’s dive deeper.

1) Committed to Having a Breakthrough and Declaring What You Want.

A declaration is not a list of things you don’t want or what you’re tired of creating.

A declaration is a powerful statement with crystal clarity of what you do want.

If you can’t articulate what you want, you’re not going to get it.

So what do you want?

What’s the thing that if it was no longer in your way would accelerate your experience and have you create the relationship of your dreams?

Once you know that – that’s the first step to creating a breakthrough!

2) Willing to Move Past What’s Comfortable

Doing what you’ve always done will get you the same results you’ve always gotten. The relationship you’ve always dreamt of is outside your comfort zone!

3) Be Ready and Excited to Apply the Coaching

Again, since a breakthrough is something above and beyond the ordinary, it’s going to take doing something above and beyond what you’ve always done.

The coaching you receive might not make perfect sense because it’s going to be something different. But if you’ll trust your coach and apply the coaching they give – you will have a transformation!

You get to have a breakthrough so that you don’t keep doing the same patterns over and over forever and never create the results you want.

And the best news of all is that tomorrow we’ve got the perfect opportunity for you at Love Breakthrough LIVE!

Register for Love Breakthrough LIVE Now!

If you want to attract more love and are frustrated that you’re doing all the things and still not getting the results you desire.

If you keep thinking you have more time, but are realizing that the time keeps ticking and nothing is changing.

If you want to have conversations with your partner that don’t require a breakdown or a fight to get resolved.

If you’re ready to have the loving, supportive, connected, safe love you desire – then you get to have a breakthrough NOW!

Join us tomorrow (and be open and willing to receive) and we promise you’ll walk away with a breakthrough.

Allow us to help you break through the bricks that are up and blocking you.

This really can be the moment everything changes.

How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | May 13, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Michelle Roza

Are you ready to meet the RIGHT man?

The man who’s not only good for you and to you, but also someone who you feel magic with?

We have found that women who are dating find themselves in one of two scenarios…

1. You keep attracting men into your life who aren’t good for you. They’re the “bad guys” who don’t show up, only want sex, aren’t looking for commitment, or ghost you after the first date (if you even make it to a date!).

There’s chemistry and connection, but, obviously, these interactions aren’t going anywhere.

The problem with this, is that these women start to believe that all men are like this, and they then lose faith in dating and their ability to attract a different kind of man.

Scenario Two: You attract good men into your life – men of integrity and honor. Men who are seeking out the same loving, passionate, committed relationship that you are.

Sounds great right?

It would be except for that you often don’t feel a connection with these men. There’s no chemistry, and even though you’re glad that you’re attracting good men, you still can’t seem to attract the right one… The man you can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with.

Do you see yourself in either of those scenarios?

Are you tired of meeting man after man, but never having it turn into the loving, passionate, committed relationship you really want?

After I got divorced, I went into the dating experience really excited and thought I was finally going to be able to attract the man that was right for me.

Five years later, that excitement had turned into disenchantment, disappointment and resignation. I was thinking, “Maybe I’m meant to be single.”

Life was pretty good, I was doing great at work, my children were thriving and I thought maybe I should let go of this desire to be in love.

But the truth was that underneath that resignation was the fear that there was something wrong with me, the fear that it simply was never going to happen and the uncertainty of why what I was doing wasn’t working.

That’s when I began my journey of doing the HeartWork and getting underneath these fears and patterns to see what it was that I needed to heal and shift within myself.

I knew that if I could just crack the code to attracting the man that would love me for me and that I would love for him – I would be able to create the extraordinary relationship I had always dreamt of.

We’re committed to extraordinary love.

The type of love that feels magical and takes your breath away.

The type of love that has you feeling on top of the world and like you can do anything.

The type of love that is just that – extraordinary.

It starts with attracting the RIGHT man. And that starts with you.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, please join us tomorrow for the Attract the RIGHT Man Webinar, where we’ll be diving into how to break the patterns that are keeping you stuck in dating once and for all!

In this 3-hour masterclass, you will:

Learn what to STOP doing so that you can stop being attracted to and attracting the wrong man into your life
Discover what to START doing instead, so that you start attracting the kind of man who wants to create a happy, loving, committed relationship with you
Apply the steps and practices that will have you experience dating and relationships differently because you will be attracting and getting to know a completely different kind of man!

Click here to say “YES!” to Attracting the RIGHT Man into Your Life!

Whether you find that you keep attracting and dating “good guys” who are nice enough, but you simply don’t feel a connection with,

you keep bringing in the same “bad guy” in a different body, we’re going to show you how to break this pattern and bring in the RIGHT man — the one who will honor you, cherish you, and love you for the rest of your life!

It’s time for you to attract the RIGHT man now!

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Marriage Isn’t the Real Goal – Here’s What Is.

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 11, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the biggest mistake women make when it comes to dating?

Do you want to know the answer to why 50% of marriages in the United States fail?

Do you want to have a real conversation about what you can do to make sure you don’t become part of that statistic?

We’ve got you.

The biggest mistake women make while dating is being solely focused on finding the right man and not thinking about the lifetime that will follow.

Shortly after we started our coaching we noticed women getting amazing results – they were attracting really awesome men (which was no surprise to us!)

The problem was that then they would self-sabotage.

They would start doing the same things they did with the wrong men. The old patterns would resurface with the new, great guy, and there’d be a breakdown in the relationship.

That’s why we’re passionate about teaching women how to break through old patterns that are continuing to follow them around!

Because the real goal isn’t marriage.

The REAL goal is creating a life-time love.

Research has found that the most common reasons people give for their marriage ending are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse.

We understand this first hand because Michelle’s 1st marriage ended in divorce and after my first husband passed away and I found Ric, my marriage almost ended also.

When I was first married to Ric things were so incredible!

I would lay in bed at night with tears of gratitude streaming down my face because I was so in awe that I’d found Ric. I was in love again and with an incredibly good man!

It was incredible because there’d been a time when I didn’t think that was possible.

But then, 6 years later, we started to fall apart.

I didn’t have the skills to create a life-long love.

I didn’t have the communication skills that work.

I thought I always had to be right.

I thought I was being honest and encouraging when I would tell him what he should be doing and how good he’d be at it.

I almost lost that beautiful marriage.

But then I became super committed to learning about how to create a lasting relationship.

I learned that being right wasn’t that important.

I learned how to say things in a way that Ric could hear.

I learned how to respect his thoughts, ideas and opinions – even if I didn’t agree with them!

I learned that doing the Heartwork that we now teach along with learning the skills I didn’t have naturally was the key to not only maintaining the beautiful relationship I had found with Ric – but make it stronger and stronger year after year!

And here we are 23 years later and happier than ever.

So how do you break through your love barriers that are having you sabotage your relationships?

Get Curious

What are the patterns you’re seeing?

What isn’t working?

What are the things that keep showing up in your relationships that have them break down?

Dive into where the sabotaging patterns came from.

Why does this pattern exist for you?

What is the fear or belief behind the behavior?

When did you first experience this?

Learn what to do to replace the sabotaging pattern.

This is the part that most people miss! The only way to really break through a barrier in your life is to learn what to replace the old pattern with.

You have the ability to create a strong foundation for your relationship that you can keep growing and growing forever when you break through your love barriers and learn the skills that will have that relationship continue to grow in love, passion and respect for a life-time.

If you’re single and you’d like to attract the right man or if you’re in a relationship that you want to last forever, book a call with one of our coaches so you can have a breakthrough!

Schedule your Love Breakthrough Session

Come to the call knowing the pattern that you’re seeing and what you’re interested in creating so you can have a breakthrough!

You don’t need to be part of the 50% whose marriage will end in divorce. You can attract the right man and create a relationship together that will last a life-time – all you have to do is learn how.

The Secret to Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 25, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease?

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy?

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you?

See if this scenario sounds familiar:

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry.

You get “triggered.”

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake.

We’ve all been there.

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer than 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived.

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity.

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way?

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control?

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen?

That’s what we teach you in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop.

You’ll learn how to:

Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.

Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires

Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do.

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this.

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space.

And that’s what we want for you too.

Click HERE to grab a recording of the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop

Learn how to stop getting emotionally triggered by taking things personally and how to start experiencing more fun and joy in life, dating, and relationships!

Grab your copy now!

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

by heartsdesireintl | Dec 17, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

What’s your initial reaction when a girlfriend offers to pay for your lunch?

What do you respond with when someone offers you a compliment?

What do you say when a man offers to help you out with something?

As we’re in this holiday season of love, sharing and connecting we wanted to shed some light on a topic that most women don’t think of as something that’s holding them back in love, but that is key to creating the relationship of your dreams.

In our work with thousands of women, we’ve found that for many of us, it’s hard to receive.

We work with so many women who want to create a loving, connected relationship with an incredible partner, but then can’t accept a compliment when given, don’t feel comfortable allowing a man to pay for dinner on a date, or don’t know how to graciously receive a gift.

Can you relate?

Why does it feel uncomfortable to accept things from others?

There’s vulnerability to receiving.

You can only experience love and intimacy to the level that you’re willing to be vulnerable, which is why it’s so important to be able to receive well.

The three things that are the most important to men are being able to:

1) Please

2) Protect

3) Provide

If you’re unable to receive from a man, it’s impossible for him to feel connected to you. He will either feel unappreciated and stop trying or he will interpret your behavior to mean you’re not interested.

So… if you notice that you feel uncomfortable receiving, the next couple of weeks are the perfect time to practice!

First, get curious about why receiving makes you uncomfortable.

In most cases, it’s a worthiness conversation.

You may have a belief that you have to “do” something in order to “earn” love”

You may think that you don’t deserve certain things.

You may believe you’re simply not good enough.

Whatever the underlying reason, get clear on where that feeling comes from for you so that you can break through it.

Then, take the opportunity this holiday season to stretch into allowing others to contribute to you, give to you and receive with grace and gratitude.

Being able to receive with grace and gratitude is the way to a man’s heart. It’s the key to turning on your feminine energy and attracting everything you desire to you.

If you’d like support in clearing up what causes you discomfort in receiving, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches!

The first step in creating the relationship of your dreams is getting clear on what’s holding you back so you can clear the way. Like we said before, receiving with grace is something that many women struggle with, but don’t see as a problem.

Take the first step in becoming a gracious and grateful receiver by booking your Love Breakthrough Session now.

If you don’t see any times available when you click above, please click the words, “contact us” and submit a request with some days and times and our coaches will get back to you.

Remember, you can only create love and connection to the degree you’re willing to be vulnerable. Get vulnerable this holiday season and receive the love you so freely deserve!

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