Marriage Isn’t the Real Goal – Here’s What Is.

Marriage Isn’t the Real Goal – Here’s What Is.

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you know what is the biggest mistake women make when it comes to dating?

Do you want to know the answer to why 50% of marriages in the United States fail?

Do you want to have a real conversation about what you can do to make sure you don’t become part of that statistic? 

We’ve got you. 

The biggest mistake women make while dating is being solely focused on finding the right man and not thinking about the lifetime that will follow. 

Shortly after we started our coaching we noticed women getting amazing results – they were attracting really awesome men (which was no surprise to us!) 

The problem was that then they would self-sabotage. 

They would start doing the same things they did with the wrong men. The old patterns would resurface with the new, great guy, and there’d be a breakdown in the relationship. 

That’s why we’re passionate about teaching women how to break through old patterns that are continuing to follow them around! 

Because the real goal isn’t marriage. 

The REAL goal is creating a life-time love.

Research has found that the most common reasons people give for their marriage ending are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse.

We understand this first hand because Michelle’s 1st marriage ended in divorce and after my first husband passed away and I found Ric, my marriage almost ended also. 

When I was first married to Ric things were so incredible!

I would lay in bed at night with tears of gratitude streaming down my face because I was so in awe that I’d found Ric. I was in love again and with an incredibly good man! 

It was incredible because there’d been a time when I didn’t think that was possible. 

But then, 6 years later, we started to fall apart. 

I didn’t have the skills to create a life-long love. 

I didn’t have the communication skills that work. 

I thought I always had to be right. 

I thought I was being honest and encouraging when I would tell him what he should be doing and how good he’d be at it.  

I almost lost that beautiful marriage. 

But then I became super committed to learning about how to create a lasting relationship. 

I learned that being right wasn’t that important. 

I learned how to say things in a way that Ric could hear. 

I learned how to respect his thoughts, ideas and opinions – even if I didn’t agree with them! 

I learned that doing the Heartwork that we now teach along with learning the skills I didn’t have naturally was the key to not only maintaining the beautiful relationship I had found with Ric – but make it stronger and stronger year after year! 

And here we are 23 years later and happier than ever. 

So how do you break through your love barriers that are having you sabotage your relationships? 

  • Get Curious 

What are the patterns you’re seeing? 

What isn’t  working? 

What are the things that keep showing up in your relationships that have them break down?

  • Dive into where the sabotaging patterns came from.

Why does this pattern exist for you? 

What is the fear or belief behind the behavior? 

When did you first experience this? 

  • Learn what to do to replace the sabotaging pattern. 

This is the part that most people miss! The only way to really break through a barrier in your life is to learn what to replace the old pattern with. 

You have the ability to create a strong foundation for your relationship that you can keep growing and growing forever when you break through your love barriers and learn the skills that will have that relationship continue to grow in love, passion and respect for a life-time. 

If you’re single and you’d like to attract the right man or if you’re in a relationship that you want to last forever, book a call with one of our coaches so you can have a breakthrough! 

Schedule your Love Breakthrough Session

Come to the call knowing the pattern that you’re seeing and what you’re interested in creating so you can have a breakthrough! 

You don’t need to be part of the 50% whose marriage will end in divorce. You can attract the right man and create a relationship together that will last a life-time – all you have to do is learn how.

The Secret to Stop Getting “Triggered”!

The Secret to Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by Gladys Diaz 

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease? 

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy? 

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you? 

See if this scenario sounds familiar: 

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding 

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry. 

You get “triggered.” 

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake. 

We’ve all been there. 

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer than 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived. 

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity. 

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way? 

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control? 

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen? 

That’s what we teach you in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop. 

You’ll learn how to: 

  • Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.
  • Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires
  • Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do. 

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this. 

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space. 

And that’s what we want for you too. 

Click HERE to grab a recording of the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop

Learn how to stop getting emotionally triggered by taking things personally and how to start experiencing more fun and joy in life, dating, and relationships!

Grab your copy now!

How to Get Out of Your Own Way

How to Get Out of Your Own Way

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever feel like there’s something standing in the way of your biggest dreams? 

So many women think that the reason they aren’t finding the love they desire is because of people around them, outside circumstances and other things. 

“There’s no men in this town, I’d have to move if I wanted to meet someone interesting.” “I don’t have time to date.” 

“Men aren’t attracted to me. I’ll start dating after I lose weight.”

“I’m working on my career. When it’s the right time he’ll find me.” 

And those are just a few examples! 

Do they sound familiar? Do you ever find yourself having similar thoughts? 

Here’s the thing. 

None of those things are stopping you from creating the relationship of your dreams.

So what is it then?  

It’s actually you. 

Now listen, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you, 

It’s simply that you have doubts, limiting beliefs from your past and subconscious patterns that are keeping you stuck.

Doubts get in the way because when you’re doubting, you’re questioning if you can be the person you want to be, do the things you want to do and have the things you say you want to have.  

Fears and limiting beliefs cause doubtful thinking patterns which then have you do nothing or do things that don’t bring you the results that you want. 

Well, it’s about time to get out of your own way and realize you can create anything!

Yes, ANYTHING!

The best way to have a breakthrough is to be at the steering wheel of your life and to ask, “What’s the next best thing I can be doing?” 

Everything we’ve ever manifested into our lives is a miracle because we’ve done the Heartwork to get out of our own way and get moving in the direction needed, with actions that resulted in all of the things we now have in our lives. 

So what about you? 

What if this year is the year you stop getting ready to get ready to be ready? 

What if this is the year that you can break into extraordinary love and create the magic that we know is possible for you! 

If you’re a high achieving woman who’s wanting to go to the next level in your life, then book a love breakthrough call with one of our coaches.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

The people who get what they want in life take the right actions and they don’t wait. 

Take action now. 

You can manifest everything your heart desires when you get out of your own way!

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

by Gladys Diaz 

What’s your initial reaction when a girlfriend offers to pay for your lunch? 

What do you respond with when someone offers you a compliment? 

What do you say when a man offers to help you out with something? 

As we’re in this holiday season of love, sharing and connecting we wanted to shed some light on a topic that most women don’t think of as something that’s holding them back in love, but that is key to creating the relationship of your dreams. 

In our work with thousands of women, we’ve found that for many of us, it’s hard to receive

We work with so many women who want to create a loving, connected relationship with an incredible partner, but then can’t accept a compliment when given, don’t feel comfortable allowing a man to pay for dinner on a date, or don’t know how to graciously receive a gift. 

Can you relate? 

Why does it feel uncomfortable to accept things from others? 

There’s vulnerability to receiving. 

You can only experience love and intimacy to the level that you’re willing to be vulnerable, which is why it’s so important to be able to receive well. 

The three things that are the most important to men are being able to:

1) Please

2) Protect 

3) Provide 

If you’re unable to receive from a man, it’s impossible for him to feel connected to you. He will either feel unappreciated and stop trying or he will interpret your behavior to mean you’re not interested. 

So… if you notice that you feel uncomfortable receiving, the next couple of weeks are the perfect time to practice! 

First, get curious about why receiving makes you uncomfortable. 

In most cases, it’s a worthiness conversation.

You may have a belief that you have to “do” something in order to “earn” love” 

You may think that you don’t deserve certain things. 

You may believe you’re simply not good enough. 

Whatever the underlying reason, get clear on where that feeling comes from for you so that you can break through it. 

Then, take the opportunity this holiday season to stretch into allowing others to contribute to you, give to you and receive with grace and gratitude. 

Being able to receive with grace and gratitude is the way to a man’s heart. It’s the key to turning on your feminine energy and attracting everything you desire to you. 

If you’d like support in clearing up what causes you discomfort in receiving, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches! 

The first step in creating the relationship of your dreams is getting clear on what’s holding you back so you can clear the way. Like we said before, receiving with grace is something that many women struggle with, but don’t see as a problem. 

Take the first step in becoming a gracious and grateful receiver by booking your Love Breakthrough Session now. 

If you don’t see any times available when you click above, please click the words, “contact us” and submit a request with some days and times and our coaches will get back to you. 

Remember, you can only create love and connection to the degree you’re willing to be vulnerable. Get vulnerable this holiday season and receive the love you so freely deserve!

It’s Not Too Good to Be True… How to Have it All!

It’s Not Too Good to Be True… How to Have it All!

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever feel like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop?

Things are going really well in a relationship – you’re having fun and things are feeling easy and flowy… 

… but somewhere in the back of your mind there’s a little voice that’s saying, “Is this too good to be true?” 

If that ever happens to you – listen up. 

You have a fear or a limiting belief that when things are good, eventually they’re going to fall apart or go wrong. 

Sound familiar? 

We see this all the time with our clients  – and we’ve experienced it many times ourselves! 

You’re just about have your breakthrough – and you’ll self-sabotage. 

Or things are going better than ever, in your job, your relationship, financially – and then you start to doubt yourself and it all falls apart.

Here’s the thing… 

 If you find yourself in what we like to call “the swirl”, you know that feeling of uncertainty, confusion or like you don’t know what to do, there’s one thing that’s happening under all of it. 

 You’re having a worthiness conversation. 

 You’re wondering…

“Can I really have this?”

“Can I trust myself to be able to create this?”

“Can I actually handle all of this goodness?!”

 That’s all it is! 

 So how do you pull yourself out of “the swirl”?

 Ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid of? 
  2. What scares me about that? 
  3. What scares me most about that
  4. Make a choice

 You see, our brains sometimes think they’re keeping us “safe” by keeping us in the swirl. By keeping you stuck in a place that feels familiar, you save yourself from the unknown. 

However, you also keep yourself from having and experiencing all that’s meant for you on the other side of those fears and limiting beliefs! 

Staying stuck in fear is a choice. 

Making a step in faith is also a choice. 

And they take about the same amount of energy, either way!  

The important thing to remember is that staying stuck leads to feeling disempowered, and taking a step in faith leads you to feeling empowered

 You get to choose. 

 Every single moment of every single day is an opportunity to have a breakthrough and transform an area of your life. 

 That’s why we’re so excited to be offering you our final challenge of 2021!! 

 Join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge, starting next Monday, November 29th! 

 The love you deserve is waiting for YOU!

Over seven days, we’ll share with you the same steps that we’ve used to help hundreds of women across the globe attract and create Extraordinary Love using the same skills we used to create the deeply loving, lasting marriages we’ve always wanted with our husbands!

In just seven days, your love life can be transformed into the happy, fulfilling experience your heart desires!

Join us for the BE–YOU-tifully YOU 7-Day Challenge!​

When you step out of your comfort zone and decide to trust yourself, you become empowered.

When you see yourself for the incredible, successful, lovable woman that you are – you know that you can handle all of the goodness! 

And that’s what we want for you. 

I’m ready for all of the goodness! 

See you soon! 

(photo credit: https://onlineforlove.com/)

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

by Gladys Diaz 

I wish I was better at communicating with my partner. 

He never understands me! 

I don’t dare say what I’m feeling because I don’t want to get into an argument. 

I feel like I talk and he doesn’t even hear me!

These are just a few of the things we heard from women last weekend at Irresistible Woman LIVE and they’re the same things  we hear from our clients when they first start working with us. 

Communicating with men can seem difficult. We know it can feel like you’re speaking a completely different language that he doesn’t even care to try to understand. 

It was a very hard part of my marriage for years. I would communicate things to Ric and I wouldn’t feel like he heard me. 

So I would say it again – louder. I thought that would make him understand. 

It didn’t work. 

He would feel disrespected and I would feel like I was not being understood and before we knew it, we were two people yelling at each other – getting nowhere in the conversation. 

It was a very painful dynamic of our relationship for many years… 

until we learned how to communicate effectively with one another in a way that would not only have the other person understand, but feel respected, loved and fully heard

Communication is one of the biggest factors to whether or not you’ll have a successful relationship. Sharing your feelings and being able to express your needs is so important! 

It’s how you create and build trust, intimacy, safety and love with those you are in relationship with. 

When you learn how to communicate in a way where there’s no blaming, shaming, controlling and “making wrong” – it’s incredible what can be created!

This is exactly the type of communication we teach in our programs.

After working with us, our clients know exactly how to express their desires without being controlling, how to share what they prefer so they don’t end up feeling resentful and how to understand what the men in their lives are saying too

If you’d like support with up-leveling your communication skills (because the things we teach don’t only apply to romantic relationships – but to every relationship in your life!) then book a love breakthrough call now! 

Why would you want to wait to increase the understanding, intimacy and love in  your relationship? 

Why wouldn’t you want to be able to communicate your desires in dating starting now?

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.