How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

by Gladys Diaz 

What is standing in your way of creating the relationship of your dreams? 

Are there self-sabotaging tendencies and patterns that are causing your love life to not move forward like you’d like it to? 

If so, are you getting frustrated, angry or hopeless? 

The frustration you feel that things aren’t happening like you’d like can manifest differently for different people. 

Maybe you feel angry – thinking that all men are jerks, dating sucks, and online dating will never lead you to a good man.

Perhaps you feel sad and hopeless – thinking that it’s never really going to happen for you, so why even try? Which leads you to wanting to give up. 

If that’s what you’re currently experiencing, it’s important to look at how often those feelings show up, not just in your love life, but in every aspect of your life, because that’s going to give you the clues to what you need to shift.

So, how do you make the relationship of your dreams happen now

First, you have to get crystal-clear on what you want to experience in that relationship

Notice that we didn’t say, get crystal-clear on what you want the man to be like or what  you want to get out of the relationship.

It’s about the experience you want to have! 

When you focus on what the man is like – if he has kids, what his career is, what he looks like, etc – it causes you to focus outside of you and to give up your power to create what you want It feels like there is this “one specific person that must exist” in order for you to be happy, and that has you giving your power away. 

When you focus on the experience you want to create, it’s not about looking for “one person” so that you can have the relationship you want, it’s about creating something that another person wants to be part of creating with you!

What do you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?

Do you want to experience….

💕 laughing

💕 understanding

💕 calm communication

💕 affection

💕 soul-level intimacy

💕 fun

💕 respect

💕 unconditional love

💕 having a best friend and someone championing you in life

💕 feeling heard

💕 travel the world

💕 adventures

💕 honesty and faithfulness

The second thing you need in order to begin experiencing the relationship of your dreams is to have the skills to create your crystal-clear vision

You may say you want a cheerleader and best friend as a partner in life, but then you spend time protecting yourself and criticizing every man that comes along.

You may say you want to have fun and adventure, but then don’t want to spend time meeting new men on the app.

See the disconnect? Fear is standing in the way of you attracting what you want.

How do you recognize that there’s a fear that’s running you?  

That’s where we come in!  

A coach will tell you when and where you’re sabotaging yourself.
A coach will support you in seeing what you can’t see. 

We will show you the fears you have and the masks you may be wearing that are blocking you from having the love you want. 

AND, we’ll teach you how to get those Love Barriers out of the way so that you can begin experiencing the love, happiness, and intimacy you desire and deserve!

We will cause you to have a breakthrough!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough so you can actually start experiencing the kind of love  you desire, then join us tomorrow, Saturday, July 17th at 12pm ET for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!  

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you?

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

When you don’t have the conscious knowledge of what’s holding you back, all you can do is what you already know to do. And if you keep doing what you’ve always done – all you can hope to experience is what you’ve always had.

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do differently so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams… starting right NOW!!!

How to Move On So You Can Attract Extraordinary Love NOW!

How to Move On So You Can Attract Extraordinary Love NOW!

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you having a hard time getting over a past relationship? 

When thinking about that past relationship, do you find yourself thinking…

“But I still love him.” 

…“I really thought he was the one.”

…“How will I know I’m choosing the right man next time, when I was wrong this time?”

We hear these things from women all the time, and if you’re in this position right now, we’re here to tell you (with love)… It’s time to let it go!

If you’re still energetically connected to someone, whether you say you are or not, then it’s really difficult (if not impossible!) for someone new to come into your life. 

And, even if you do meet someone who you’re compatible with, the chemistry’s there, and you have a great time with him, it will still feel like something is off

It’s simply not possible to create something new and lasting if there’s something in the space that you haven’t let go of. 

If you’ve been “getting over someone” for 9 months, 2 years, 12 years, 40 years (gasp!), it’s time to get curious about why you feel as if you’re not able to move on. 

What’s really keeping you stuck?

Sometimes it’s the person and the past relationship you feel you can’t let go of.

Sometimes it’s the idea of the past relationship that you’ve glorified in your mind that’s keeping you stuck.

But, more often than not, it’s the fear that you won’t be able to feel the same way you felt about that someone again, and you’re afraid to let go and even try. 

Here’s the thing… 

You have to find the courage to let go of the past in order to move forward and create something new. 

The work there is to do is to accept what actually happened in the past relationship and complete it so that you can be present in current experiences, move forward and be happy NOW!

You don’t have to let go of the love you had/have for that person. You can choose to love him forever, if you want to.

What you do need to let go of is the attachment to being with him and having him be a part of your life… even if that part is only in your head. 

We believe there are people that come into our lives to teach us things or give us experiences that we need to have. 

When you can accept that a past relationship was simply that, and you are able to release it and move forward, that’s when magic starts to occur.  

Letting go and moving on from someone doesn’t have to take a year OR years!

When you make yourself the victim of someone else’s choices, it robs you of your power and you sacrifice: 

  • Having happiness now
  • Experiencing the relationship of your dreams now
  • Attracting the man that will love you fully and completely for the rest of your life
  • And everything else your heart desires

When you stop allowing someone else to determine whether or not you get to have the relationship of your dreams, you take back your power and you begin to attract men who are right for you now

If you’re ready to let go of your past and move forward into the love you dream about then let go of one hand and join us next Saturday for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!  

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you!

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

We know you aren’t staying stuck on purpose, but without knowing these steps, you are playing trial and error with your heart, causing yourself unnecessary heartache, and we want you to get unstuck now!

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!!!

How to Re-Enter the Dating Scene Today!

How to Re-Enter the Dating Scene Today!

by Gladys Diaz 

Has it been a while since you’ve been in the dating scene? 

Have you recently come out of a relationship and are wanting to get back out there? 

Or maybe you’ve been single for a while, and aren’t sure how you could possibly start dating again.

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re not alone! This topic has been requested so many times from the women in our community and we listened! 

So, what is it exactly that has you resist stepping back out there?

FEAR. 

Fear of….

… allowing yourself to be seen again.

… opening yourself up to rejection.

,,, wasting your time with the wrong man (or men)

… looking silly because you don’t know how to date anymore.

… not trusting this new thing called “online dating”

And those are just to name a few!

The starting over phase can feel like too much, which is why many women stay in toxic or abusive relationships or stay single when they really desire to be in a relationship. 

We get it. Doing anything for the first time, or for the first time in a long time, can be scary and feel really hard! 

But you can step back out there, and we’re here to show you how.

The first thing you need to remember is to grant yourself some space and grace

If you’re just coming out of a relationship, there is healing and HeartWork that must occur before you’ll be ready to jump back into the dating game. 

It’s necessary, and it’s okay! 

That being said, this healing time doesn’t need to take 5, 10, or 15 years! 

Give yourself enough time to get clear on why the past relationship didn’t work and to do any healing inside yourself that is necessary to have dating work the next time around.

There are two things you need to get clear on before you’ll be ready to date again. 

  • What had the relationship not work? 

Did you jump in too soon without knowing the person well enough? 

Was there poor communication? 

Were there character flaws you didn’t notice (or didn’t want to see) soon enough? 

Were there personal fears or limiting beliefs that had you sabotage the relationship?

  • What Heartwork do you need to do? 

Do you have limiting beliefs about men? About online dating, or dating in general? 

Do you have limiting beliefs about yourself? Men? Relationships?

Are you recognizing any patterns with the dating experiences you’re having? 

If you’re experiencing the same thing over and over again, what is having you be attracted to that? 

 Be open to the possibility that your limiting beliefs and fears aren’t “the truth,” and that there’s another possible truth.

Be crystal-clear about what you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams.. 

And then learn the best way to get back out there with power, grace, ease, and FUN! 

The longer you wait, the harder it’s going to be. 

Do the inner work, and then start taking steps that will lead you in the right direction.

Learn how to set up an online profile that attracts the kind of man you want to share your life with.

Let your family, friends and co-workers know you’re ready to start dating again and that you’re open to meeting good, 100% available men. Look on Eventbrite or MeetUp for opportunities to meet people, and go to singles activities in your community.

There are so many ways to meet good men! 

Be courageous. 

Be open. 

Allow yourself to be seen and known. 

Learn the BEST steps to take  to attract the RIGHT man so that you can be alert and aware vs. scared and suspicious. 

Oh! And remember to have FUN!! 

If you’d like support in getting clear on the best, most effective ways to get back out there, or if you’re struggling to find the courage to date again, we’d love to speak with you! 

Book a call to talk to one of our coaches now!  They will support you in identifying the Heartwork you need to do and validating that you’re ready so you can attract the man who will love you forever, starting right now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

One of the #1 Fears in Dating Is…

One of the #1 Fears in Dating Is…

by Gladys Diaz 

One of the #1 fears women have is: “I’m  afraid I  will lose myself  in a relationship.” 

Can you relate? 

The thing is, in dating and relationships, you don’t really lose yourself. 

What happens is that you give away your power by straying away from your values.
You give in a little here and a little there, move a boundary further and further past the point that is true for you… and eventually… you simply disappear. 

If you’ve ever felt this way in a relationship, the question to ask yourself is: Which of my  values is  not being honored?

Discovering the answer to that question is the easy way to get back in alignment with yourself and what’s true for you. 

Knowing what your values are, and making sure that you’re living your life according to them, is the simplest way to date — and to live!

In dating, you’re not going to agree on everything. The problem comes in when differences create a conflict within yourself. 

Whether the misalignment is about religion, whether or not you want to wait to be intimate, family relationships, medical conditions, or something else; those things can be worked out – (1) If they are aligned with your values, and (2) if they also align with what your partner wants and values.

But you have to be clear about what your values are.

When these things come up you can handle them as a strong, mature woman instead of as a woman who’s afraid of losing something. 

When you show up as someone who knows who she is, what she wants, where she’s at, and what she’s looking for, then you’ll attract someone who is aligned with and and wants that kind of woman as a partner. 

Having values you live by is  not about having an insurmountable list of “standards” that a man must meet. That way of dating keeps you feeling “safe,” but it also keeps you alone.

Living a life and making choices that are aligned with what you truly value is about raising your standards for yourself. That’s what creates irresistibility. 

You must get crystal-clear on what you want and what your values and standards are in order to create a relationship and partnership that honors them.

When you’re not clear, your brain makes stuff up to make people, things, and situations “fit,”  and that’s when things get “complicated.”

When you’re crystal-clear, there’s no sorta/maybe when it comes to making choices for yourself, your life, and what you want in a relationship.Everything is either aligned with your values, or it’s not. 

It’s that simple. 

If you meet a man that’s not aligned with your values or you’re not aligned with his, trust that he’s not the right one. Honor yourself, admire him for being true to himself, and let it go. 

The more you practice being true to yourself, the easier it gets. 

The more confident you are about your own values, the easier it gets to live in it and create a life and love that reflects and embodies what your heart truly desires. 

When you date this way, you can create an amazing and incredible relationship with someone who is absolutely in love with you– The Real You. 

Sometimes, you may not even realize you’re not clear about what your values are or how to honor them,  so, if you’d like support with discovering what your values are and how you can live more authentically into them, book a call and speak with one of our coaches now.

It’s time for you to find true love!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Trust Yourself to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams

Trust Yourself to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you trust yourself?

Do you feel like you’re someone you can count on? 

Do you feel confident in your ability to make the right choices? 

Do you believe that you’ll be able to make the big life-changing decisions that will be best for you? 

If you don’t trust yourself, you’ll find yourself struggling to make choices (especially big ones!) and then doubting the decision once you do.

This is a stressful way to live! 

It also doesn’t lead to being able to create the relationship (and life) of your dreams. 

If you answered yes to any of those questions above, what made you stop trusting yourself? 

Maybe it was a decision you made that didn’t work out?

Or possibly you realized that you’d made a choice that you’d known wasn’t good for you and it turned out badly?

Or it could be that you simply don’t follow through with the things you say you will do (like waking up at a certain time, exercising daily, etc.) which eventually leads to you feeling like you can’t count on yourself.

When these things go unhealed, the trust in yourself fades and you begin to doubt even the most basic of decisions. 

Sound familiar?

So, how do you rebuild that trust so you can feel confident in your ability to be the leader of your life? 

  • Recognize what you’re still holding onto that’s causing you to doubt yourself.

The first thing you need to do in the process of rebuilding trust with yourself is to recognize what it was that began the erosion of trust in the first place. 

For example, one of our clients had married a man who she’d known was not good for her. Before they got married, her intuition had tried to warn her he had character flaws she shouldn’t overlook but she chose to marry him anyways. 

After years of dishonesty and affairs, and a few children later, she finally removed herself from the situation but she continued to carry that around with her. 

She thought that if she continued to hold that decision from years ago against herself that it would help her to not make the same mistake again. 

But that’s not how it works. 

When you continue to hold something against yourself that you did in the past all you’re actually doing is perpetuating the experience of doubting yourself which will only lead to the same experiences you’ve created in the past.

So what do you do?   

  • Accept the impact that the decision had on your life and forgive yourself. 

You must accept the things in your life that the decision created for you and then stop holding onto the past.

Have it be okay that the woman that made the decision you made, was doing the best she could do at the time! It’s easy to look back and wish we’d chosen differently with what we know now, but unfortunately that’s not how it works. We learn from our mistakes and seeing them as opportunities for growth helps you to forgive yourself. 

When you forgive yourself and let go of the past, you open up the opportunity for new experiences to come in. The energy that you were using to continually beat yourself up, you can now take and use to create something extraordinary.

  • Identify the values you have for yourself and consistently move forward with them.

Once you’ve let go of the past, forgiven yourself and committed to moving forward then you must do so with integrity and consistency to rebuild that broken trust!

Identify what you value, what matters to you most, and do those things consistently. 

If you say you’ll wake up at 6am every morning, do it! If you say you’ll exercise 3 times this week, make sure it happens! 

Become the kind of person you can count on because if you end up snoozing the alarm and not getting out of bed until 7 or if you only exercise 1 or 2 times when you said 3… it will continue to be hard to trust yourself.

The more you’re able to count on yourself, the more you’ll believe in your ability to create the relationship of your dreams!

You may need some support with any of these steps and if you do, that’s where we come in! A lifetime of doubting yourself makes it difficult to believe you can create the things that you want. 

If you’d like support identifying what it is that has you doubting yourself, figuring out how to forgive yourself and let it go, or create some accountability in consistently moving forward with your goals and rebuilding that trust with yourself, book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

 Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Remember, you are not your decisions or your mistakes. 

Open yourself up and free your heart, mind and soul so that you irresistible essence can shine through! 

Ditch Control and Inspire the Man in Your Relationship!

Ditch Control and Inspire the Man in Your Relationship!

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you know what’s kryptonite to relationships and a behavior a lot of women don’t even realize they have?

It’s one of the things that is most unattractive to men and will diminish the love and respect in a relationship faster than anything else.

It’s also one of the things we get asked about by women the most because, when they recognize it as a pattern, they immediately know they want to adjust. 

Can you guess what it is? 

We’re talking about control.

Being controlling isn’t just unattractive, it’s extremely ineffective in relationships. We want to support you in understanding what control looks like and how you can adjust your behavior so that you can have less control and a lot more love and respect in your relationship. 

Trying to control my husband through constant criticism and correcting was something I didn’t even realize I was doing for a very long time.  It’s also what almost led to us splitting up.

What I felt was me being supportive, encouraging, and helpful was actually diminishing, emasculating, and stripping away the love and intimacy in my marriage.  But it was a blindspot for me.  I just didn’t see how controlling I was being.

Since you can’t change a behavior you don’t know you have, what does control look and sound like? 

The most common form control takes is through your communication

You may think you’re simply “being honest” with your partner or sharing your feelings with someone you’re dating… But the words you choose you may be coming off as controlling. 

Let’s say, for example, that you would really like to have more conversations on the phone with the man  you’re dating…

Do you say, “You never call me like you used to.” or “Call me tomorrow at 5pm”? 

If so, you are exhibiting control. 

Why?

Because, in the first statement, you’re not saying what you want or how you feel. You’re complaining.

In the second statement, you’re telling him what to do and when to do it.

So, how can you say this instead? 

Say, “I’d love to chat on the phone soon!” or “I would prefer to talk on the phone more often.” 

These statements focus 100% on you and serve as a very appealing invitation to call you.

Let’s say you’d like to go away for the weekend with your partner. 

Do you say, “We should go somewhere together this weekend?” 

Yep, that’s controlling. 

Instead, say, “I’d love to go away together.

These simple adjustments in your communication are inspiring to a man and show love for him and respect for his desires and feelings, while at the same time expressing yours. 

The reason control is kryptonite in a relationship is because when a man feels like he’s being controlled, he will do one of two things. 

  1. He will dig his heels in and refuse to do the thing you’d like him to do.
  2. He will submit. 

You don’t want either of those things! 

You want a man to be inspired to be with you, to desire to make you happy, and to have fun, lightness and joy present in your relationship. 

Wonder what causes that almost-immediate urge to tell him what to do and say?

The urge to control always stems from a fear that something is or isn’t going to happen. 

So, how do you shift out of that fear and, instead, show your man that you respect him and see him as a strong man, capable of making good decisions, and trusting that he wants to make you happy?

Before you speak, ask yourself these three questions: 

  1. What am I afraid will/will not happen if I don’t say this?
  2. How can I say what I want to say, focusing solely on what I’m feeling and want to express without bringing him or his actions into the statement. 
  3. What emotion will I inspire in my partner by saying this?

It takes some conscious effort to interrupt that internal chatter that;s always going on in our heads and think about how the words we choose will land for our partners. 

Shifting out of a pattern of control isn’t easy, but it is so worth it! 

And as you practice, it becomes easier and easier to do.

If you’d like some support in shifting a pattern of control in your dating experiences or relationships, let us support you by booking a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches. On this call, we’ll explore what some of your control triggers are, and give you some clear steps on what to do to shift from controlling to inspiring your man!

Like we said, many times, these controlling behaviors are things you may not even realize you have, and with some support to help you see them, you can completely transform them and create more love and intimacy in  your relationship.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

When a man feels respected, loved and connected to you, he will do just about anything to make you happy.

Choose your words wisely so you inspire that type of connection in your relationship!