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How to Effectively Talk to Men!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 29, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

I wish I was better at communicating with my partner.

He never understands me!

I don’t dare say what I’m feeling because I don’t want to get into an argument.

I feel like I talk and he doesn’t even hear me!

These are just a few of the things we heard from women last weekend at Irresistible Woman LIVE and they’re the same things we hear from our clients when they first start working with us.

Communicating with men can seem difficult. We know it can feel like you’re speaking a completely different language that he doesn’t even care to try to understand.

It was a very hard part of my marriage for years. I would communicate things to Ric and I wouldn’t feel like he heard me.

So I would say it again – louder. I thought that would make him understand.

It didn’t work.

He would feel disrespected and I would feel like I was not being understood and before we knew it, we were two people yelling at each other – getting nowhere in the conversation.

It was a very painful dynamic of our relationship for many years…

…until we learned how to communicate effectively with one another in a way that would not only have the other person understand, but feel respected, loved and fully heard.

Communication is one of the biggest factors to whether or not you’ll have a successful relationship. Sharing your feelings and being able to express your needs is so important!

It’s how you create and build trust, intimacy, safety and love with those you are in relationship with.

When you learn how to communicate in a way where there’s no blaming, shaming, controlling and “making wrong” – it’s incredible what can be created!

This is exactly the type of communication we teach in our programs.

After working with us, our clients know exactly how to express their desires without being controlling, how to share what they prefer so they don’t end up feeling resentful and how to understand what the men in their lives are saying too!

If you’d like support with up-leveling your communication skills (because the things we teach don’t only apply to romantic relationships – but to every relationship in your life!) then book a love breakthrough call now!

Why would you want to wait to increase the understanding, intimacy and love in your relationship?

Why wouldn’t you want to be able to communicate your desires in dating starting now?

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Oct 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Do you ever feel…

… like you don’t feel comfortable being yourself?

… afraid you’ll be rejected again?

… that when you show up as yourself, you’re not accepted?

… like you hold back around other people and don’t show up as you?

… that you can’t connect with others or like there’s a block between you and others?

The good news is that you can break through those barriers!

You can show up as the authentic YOU and attract those that will love and accept you to you!

Here’s the thing.

In your life, you’ve either learned you were supposed to be “fill-in-the-blank” in order to be liked.

Or you had an experience that made you believe that if you showed up that way then you would be rejected.

But here’s the truth…

The longer you pretend to be someone you’re not, the more you risk forgetting who you really are.

It’s our Heartwork that will support you in having the courage to show up as yourself and know that when you do, you will attract the man that will adore you!

When you do this Heartwork:

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You create new experiences and thought patterns for yourself

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… you haven’t forgotten who you are.

Underneath all of the experiences, stories you’ve created in your head, junk and limiting beliefs, is your true self.

And you get to uncover her and let her shine!

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

Clarity and certainty in who you are lead to confidence.

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life?

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing!

So what does vulnerability look like?

Vulnerability is…

Being open
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
Being willing to share yourself and your feelings
Trusting yourself to know who to trust
Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable?

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you?

Why is knowing this so important?

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself.

You pretend, hide, or resist.

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life.

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open .

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection?

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears.

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected.

You practice.

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life.

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

Stop Repelling Men and Receive Extraordinary Love Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 30, 2021 | Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance

by Gladys Diaz

Do you over-give in relationships?

Do you have a pattern of cooking dinner for men, offering to pay for things, giving gifts, or constantly planning dates?

If you answered yes, do your thoughts sound like these?

“If I do enough, I’ll be good enough”

“If I give enough, he’ll want me.”

“If I prove how good I am, someone will see that and stay.”

Overgiving is a pattern that doesn’t work in dating. It doesn’t work because masculine men need to provide and give in order to feel on purpose in the relationship.

It also doesn’t work because it will always lead you to feeling resentful and dissatisfied.

I used to do this in dating relationships.

I would give and give – and give some more – and then all the sudden I’d start feeling resentful. I’d think, “He’s just using me!” — even though he’d never asked me to do any of it!

I had all of the thoughts listed above, I was doing all of the things above and, you guessed it, it wasn’t working.

You see, underneath a pattern of over-giving is a self-worth conversation.

You’re either trying to hide what you’re afraid they’ll see in you – or – You’re trying to overcome something you believe already exists in you.

Either way, none of it is true!

The thing is – it’s not enough simply to know it’s not true.

It’s about what you’re going to do to breakthrough it!

So…

Why do you feel you need to prove your value?

What’s driving the pattern of behavior?

What need is being fulfilled?

Is it a need to be liked and accepted? Is it a need to feel needed or valuable to someone?

The first step in breaking through a pattern of overgiving is to get connected to what belief is driving the behavior.

Once you’ve gotten clear on that – you get to start questioning it. You get to go to the very center of why that belief exists and do the Heartwork to create something entirely different inside you.

You get to transform the belief so that the behavior disappears.

And once you do that, you get to a point where those beliefs don’t even phase you anymore. When the thought pops up, you can immediately shift and move on!

How amazing would that be?!

Through doing this Heartwork you will replace these patterns and be out there in the dating world in your Irresistible Essence, authentic self and attracting the man that will love and appreciate you for all of it!

Are you ready to shift these patterns? Are you ready to transform them once and for all?

If you answered yes, the Extraordinary Love Intensive, is what you need and it’s just around the corner! It’s happening next weekend and you don’t want to miss it!

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the patterns that are causing you to repel men and relationships (and overgiving is a big one!) and have you transform so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams.

After the event there will be no more trying to prove your value or doing too much in a relationship.

After the event you will not only know how to step back and be in your feminine receiving energy, but you’ll feel comfortable and naturally do so!

Join us for the Extraordinary Love Intensive by claiming your ticket now!

Remember, there’s a hurt or pain that hasn’t been healed when you’re compensating with overgiving behavior. It’s time to heal so you can experience happiness, joy, abundance, love, partnership support and so much more inside an extraordinary relationship!

How to Move On So You Can Attract Extraordinary Love NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

Are you having a hard time getting over a past relationship?

When thinking about that past relationship, do you find yourself thinking…

…“But I still love him.”

…“I really thought he was the one.”

…“How will I know I’m choosing the right man next time, when I was wrong this time?”

We hear these things from women all the time, and if you’re in this position right now, we’re here to tell you (with love)… It’s time to let it go!

If you’re still energetically connected to someone, whether you say you are or not, then it’s really difficult (if not impossible!) for someone new to come into your life.

And, even if you do meet someone who you’re compatible with, the chemistry’s there, and you have a great time with him, it will still feel like something is off.

It’s simply not possible to create something new and lasting if there’s something in the space that you haven’t let go of.

If you’ve been “getting over someone” for 9 months, 2 years, 12 years, 40 years (gasp!), it’s time to get curious about why you feel as if you’re not able to move on.

What’s really keeping you stuck?

Sometimes it’s the person and the past relationship you feel you can’t let go of.

Sometimes it’s the idea of the past relationship that you’ve glorified in your mind that’s keeping you stuck.

But, more often than not, it’s the fear that you won’t be able to feel the same way you felt about that someone again, and you’re afraid to let go and even try.

Here’s the thing…

You have to find the courage to let go of the past in order to move forward and create something new.

The work there is to do is to accept what actually happened in the past relationship and complete it so that you can be present in current experiences, move forward and be happy NOW!

You don’t have to let go of the love you had/have for that person. You can choose to love him forever, if you want to.

What you do need to let go of is the attachment to being with him and having him be a part of your life… even if that part is only in your head.

We believe there are people that come into our lives to teach us things or give us experiences that we need to have.

When you can accept that a past relationship was simply that, and you are able to release it and move forward, that’s when magic starts to occur.

Letting go and moving on from someone doesn’t have to take a year OR years!

When you make yourself the victim of someone else’s choices, it robs you of your power and you sacrifice:

Having happiness now
Experiencing the relationship of your dreams now
Attracting the man that will love you fully and completely for the rest of your life
And everything else your heart desires

When you stop allowing someone else to determine whether or not you get to have the relationship of your dreams, you take back your power and you begin to attract men who are right for you now.

If you’re ready to let go of your past and move forward into the love you dream about then let go of one hand and join us next Saturday for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you!

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

We know you aren’t staying stuck on purpose, but without knowing these steps, you are playing trial and error with your heart, causing yourself unnecessary heartache, and we want you to get unstuck now!

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!!!

NOW is the Time to Become Unleashed!

by heartsdesireintl | May 21, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

When you’re not getting the results you want, it’s easy to look outside yourself and think it’s because of something outside.

When it comes to your love life, you may be doing everything you know how to do – and that’s actually the problem.

You are only able to do the things you know to do.

But what about the things you don’t know to do?

We know that when you’re doing everything you know to do and not getting the results you want – it gets frustrating.

That frustration can turn into anger and cause you to want to give up, “take a break” or quit altogether.

You’re angry because you’re unfulfilled.

You’re angry because there’s something in your life that you want and desire that’s not coming to fruition, and even if you make a little progress here and there, you’re still not free.

Are you allowing yourself to be in the shackles of your fears?

The fears of what you think will or won’t happen?

…about whether or not he’ll like you.

…about getting hurt or trying again?

Are you allowing yourself to stay burdened by the limiting beliefs that are holding you down?

Are you allowing yourself to stay stuck under the patterns you don’t know how to break, or wondering why everyone can have this “except me”?

If you’re allowing any of those things to keep hold of you, you’re not free.

Which is why we’re here to tell you, it’s time to become unleashed!

When you become unleashed you’re able to:

have the confidence and clarity you need to create the results you desire NOW
dismantle and replace your dysfunctional patterns
unleash the power to create the extraordinary love your heart desires

Becoming unleashed is about the energy you hold. Everything carries energy, which is why you manifest what you’re committed to!

When you become unleashed, you have a magnetic energy that has you, not only attract what you want in love and life, but also keep it!

Becoming unleashed means being ready for what you want, and then being able to actually receive it.

The fact of the matter is, if you’re not ready, you will miss it!

Even if the universe is sending you amazing men and incredible opportunities, they will slip right through your fingertips if you’re not ready.

Here’s the deal: If you want to be married by this time next year, you’ve got to get focused on this now!

You can have the happy, loving relationship you want, but how many more “laters” do you have?

Why wait a few more months? Or years?

Why wait until you have everything figured out?

The work we do supports you in your inner work – your Heartwork – while also learning how to date effectively, how to communicate in a way that he will understand you, and how to break patterns that have you want to be the pursuer or put the breaks on when it comes to dating and relationships.

Imagine what could be possible if you had the freedom to really be yourself?

Imagine what could open up for you if you stopped allowing your fear and doubt to win the game?

Once you become unleashed, you’ll stop experiencing the frustration these dysfunctional experiences create, once and for all, and you’ll begin to experience the JOY that comes from creating and having everything you want and deserve.

Imagine how amazing THAT will be!

If you are 100% ready and committed to breaking free from your past, unleashing your magnetic essence, and claiming the life and love you want, then you’re ready for a Love Breakthrough!

Click the link below and we’ll help you create a step-by-step plan to get you on track to having the love you want NOW!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now

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