The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

The Secret to a Man’s Heart.

by | Dec 17, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

What’s your initial reaction when a girlfriend offers to pay for your lunch? 

What do you respond with when someone offers you a compliment? 

What do you say when a man offers to help you out with something? 

As we’re in this holiday season of love, sharing and connecting we wanted to shed some light on a topic that most women don’t think of as something that’s holding them back in love, but that is key to creating the relationship of your dreams. 

In our work with thousands of women, we’ve found that for many of us, it’s hard to receive. 

We work with so many women who want to create a loving, connected relationship with an incredible partner, but then can’t accept a compliment when given, don’t feel comfortable allowing a man to pay for dinner on a date, or don’t know how to graciously receive a gift. 

Can you relate? 

Why does it feel uncomfortable to accept things from others? 

There’s vulnerability to receiving. 

You can only experience love and intimacy to the level that you’re willing to be vulnerable, which is why it’s so important to be able to receive well. 

The three things that are the most important to men are being able to:

1) Please

2) Protect 

3) Provide 

If you’re unable to receive from a man, it’s impossible for him to feel connected to you. He will either feel unappreciated and stop trying or he will interpret your behavior to mean you’re not interested. 

So… if you notice that you feel uncomfortable receiving, the next couple of weeks are the perfect time to practice! 

First, get curious about why receiving makes you uncomfortable. 

In most cases, it’s a worthiness conversation.

You may have a belief that you have to “do” something in order to “earn” love” 

You may think that you don’t deserve certain things. 

You may believe you’re simply not good enough. 

Whatever the underlying reason, get clear on where that feeling comes from for you so that you can break through it. 

Then, take the opportunity this holiday season to stretch into allowing others to contribute to you, give to you and receive with grace and gratitude. 

Being able to receive with grace and gratitude is the way to a man’s heart. It’s the key to turning on your feminine energy and attracting everything you desire to you. 

If you’d like support in clearing up what causes you discomfort in receiving, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches! 

The first step in creating the relationship of your dreams is getting clear on what’s holding you back so you can clear the way. Like we said before, receiving with grace is something that many women struggle with, but don’t see as a problem. 

Take the first step in becoming a gracious and grateful receiver by booking your Love Breakthrough Session now. 

If you don’t see any times available when you click above, please click the words, “contact us” and submit a request with some days and times and our coaches will get back to you. 

Remember, you can only create love and connection to the degree you’re willing to be vulnerable. Get vulnerable this holiday season and receive the love you so freely deserve!

Three Steps to Attracting the Man of Your Dreams

Three Steps to Attracting the Man of Your Dreams

by | Nov 5, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever wonder why the men that are showing up in your life aren’t the kind of men you want? 

If what you’re doing is working and you’re meeting lots of incredible men into your life – that’s great!! Don’t fix what’s not broken!

However – 

If you ever catch yourself thinking (or even saying out loud) something like… 

”All men are cheaters.” 

”There’s absolutely no men out there for me!” 

“Every man will end up hurting me.” 

“All the men on the apps want it sex.”

… Or any other variation of that –  We have some news for you!

You’re wrong! 

We say that with love, but it’s simply the truth. 

There are many women out there who are meeting incredible men on the apps, who are creating extraordinary relationships with high quality men, and who are getting married to men that are willing to wait for marriage. 

You can be one of them!!

There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken. But if the type of men that are showing up for you aren’t the type of men you want – then there’s a shift that gets to be made. 

The questions to ask yourself are: “What can I shift?” and “What am I in control of?”

The only thing you’re 100% in control of is your thoughts and your actions. You get to shift your mindset so you can stop attracting what you don’t want and start attracting the men that will lead you to creating the relationship of your dreams with the man that’s 100% right for you!

So how do you create that shift? 

1 – Get clear on what your current beliefs are.

Tell yourself the truth about what you currently believe about dating and men. If you’re telling your girlfriends there’s no good men on the app, chances are, that’s limiting belief for you. 

You must be honest with yourself and get to the bottom of these beliefs. 

Until you do – no matter how much you pretend they’re not there – they will show up in your profile, out on a date at dinner and in any relationship. 

2 – Have clarity around your intention and vision. 

What’s your intention for dating? 

What’s your intention for being on the dating app?

What’s your vision for the experience you want to have inside the relationship of your dreams?  

You have the power to attract and create exactly what you want and you have to know exactly what that is first. 

3 – BE the woman that’s aligned with your vision. 

Showing up in a way that’s aligned with the intention you have is what gives it power! 

When you’re aligned in who you are BEing, your actions  will automatically be aligned to bring you the results you desire. 

Energy attracts energy and when who you are being and what you are doing are aligned with what you want to experience – the people and experiences you don’t want simply won’t be attracted to you. 

You can be 100% in your power around your actions, beliefs and mindset and the rest will follow!

If you’re ready to stop wasting time and find clarity around what you want and what beliefs are stopping you from creating it, book a call with one of our coaches now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

Our coaches are trained to be able to listen to you and then tell you what fears, patterns and limiting beliefs they hear. Then they will give you the steps you can take so you can leave the call with a plan of action to move forward in creating the relationship of your dreams! 

Let us say it again, there are so many women who are meeting their incredible partners – and you can be one of them! 

If you want to do that quickly and easily, then book your love breakthrough call now.

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

How to Effectively Talk to Men!

by | Oct 29, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

I wish I was better at communicating with my partner. 

He never understands me! 

I don’t dare say what I’m feeling because I don’t want to get into an argument. 

I feel like I talk and he doesn’t even hear me!

These are just a few of the things we heard from women last weekend at Irresistible Woman LIVE and they’re the same things  we hear from our clients when they first start working with us. 

Communicating with men can seem difficult. We know it can feel like you’re speaking a completely different language that he doesn’t even care to try to understand. 

It was a very hard part of my marriage for years. I would communicate things to Ric and I wouldn’t feel like he heard me. 

So I would say it again – louder. I thought that would make him understand. 

It didn’t work. 

He would feel disrespected and I would feel like I was not being understood and before we knew it, we were two people yelling at each other – getting nowhere in the conversation. 

It was a very painful dynamic of our relationship for many years… 

…until we learned how to communicate effectively with one another in a way that would not only have the other person understand, but feel respected, loved and fully heard. 

Communication is one of the biggest factors to whether or not you’ll have a successful relationship. Sharing your feelings and being able to express your needs is so important! 

It’s how you create and build trust, intimacy, safety and love with those you are in relationship with. 

When you learn how to communicate in a way where there’s no blaming, shaming, controlling and “making wrong” – it’s incredible what can be created!

This is exactly the type of communication we teach in our programs.

After working with us, our clients know exactly how to express their desires without being controlling, how to share what they prefer so they don’t end up feeling resentful and how to understand what the men in their lives are saying too! 

If you’d like support with up-leveling your communication skills (because the things we teach don’t only apply to romantic relationships – but to every relationship in your life!) then book a love breakthrough call now! 

Why would you want to wait to increase the understanding, intimacy and love in  your relationship? 

Why wouldn’t you want to be able to communicate your desires in dating starting now?

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now.

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

Let Your Authentic Self Shine and Attract the Right Man NOW!

by | Oct 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Relationship, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you ever feel… 

… like you don’t feel comfortable being yourself? 

… afraid you’ll be rejected again? 

… that when you show up as yourself, you’re not accepted? 

… like you hold back around other people and don’t show up as you? 

… that you can’t connect with others or like there’s a block between you and others?

The good news is that you can break through those barriers!

 You can show up as the authentic YOU and attract those that will love and accept you to you! 

Here’s the thing. 

In your life, you’ve either learned you were supposed to be “fill-in-the-blank” in order to be liked. 

Or you had an experience that made you believe that if you showed up that way then you would be rejected. 

But here’s the truth… 

The longer you pretend to be someone you’re not, the more you risk forgetting who you really are.

It’s our Heartwork that will support you in having the courage to show up as yourself and know that when you do, you will attract the man that will adore you!

When you do this Heartwork:

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You create new experiences and thought patterns for yourself 

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… you haven’t forgotten who you are. 

Underneath all of the experiences, stories you’ve created in your head, junk and limiting beliefs, is your true self. 

And you get to uncover her and let her shine! 

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

Clarity and certainty in who you are lead to confidence.

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life? 

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing! 

So what does vulnerability look like? 

Vulnerability is…

  • Being open
  • Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
  • Being willing to share yourself and your feelings 
  • Trusting yourself to know who to trust
  • Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
  • Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
  • The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable? 

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think. 

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you? 

Why is knowing this so important? 

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself. 

You pretend, hide, or resist. 

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life. 

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open . 

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness. 

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection? 

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears. 

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected. 

You practice. 

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today. 

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life. 

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

Stop Repelling Men and Receive Extraordinary Love Instead!

Stop Repelling Men and Receive Extraordinary Love Instead!

by | Jul 30, 2021 | Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you over-give in relationships?

Do you have a pattern of cooking dinner for men, offering to pay for things, giving gifts, or constantly planning dates?

If you answered yes, do your thoughts sound like these?

“If I do enough, I’ll be good enough”

“If I give enough, he’ll want me.” 

“If I prove how good I am, someone will see that and stay.”

Overgiving is a pattern that doesn’t work in dating. It doesn’t work because masculine men need to provide and give in order to feel on purpose in the relationship. 

It also doesn’t work because it will always lead you to feeling resentful and dissatisfied.

I used to do this in dating relationships. 

I would give and give – and give some more – and then all the sudden I’d start feeling resentful. I’d think, “He’s just using me!” — even though he’d never asked me to do any of it!

I had all of the thoughts listed above, I was doing all of the things above and, you guessed it, it wasn’t working. 

You see, underneath a pattern of over-giving is a self-worth conversation. 

You’re either trying to hide what you’re afraid they’ll see in you – or – You’re trying to overcome something you believe already exists in you. 

Either way, none of it is true! 

The thing is – it’s not enough simply to know it’s not true.

It’s about what you’re going to do to breakthrough it! 

So… 

Why do you feel you need to prove your value?

What’s driving the pattern of behavior?

What need is being fulfilled? 

Is it a need to be liked and accepted? Is it a need to feel needed or valuable to someone? 

The first step in breaking through a pattern of overgiving is to get connected to what belief is driving the behavior.

Once you’ve gotten clear on that – you get to start questioning it. You get to go to the very center of why that belief exists and do the Heartwork to create something entirely different inside you. 

You get to transform the belief so that the behavior disappears.

And once you do that, you get to a point where those beliefs don’t even phase you anymore. When the thought pops up, you can immediately shift and move on!

How amazing would that be?!

Through doing this Heartwork you will replace these patterns and be out there in the dating world in your Irresistible Essence, authentic self and attracting the man that will love and appreciate you for all of it! 

Are you ready to shift these patterns? Are you ready to transform them once and for all?

If you answered yes, the Extraordinary Love Intensive, is what you need and it’s just around the corner! It’s happening next weekend and you don’t want to miss it! 

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the patterns that are causing you to repel men and relationships (and overgiving is a big one!) and have you transform so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams. 

After the event there will be no more trying to prove your value or doing too much in a relationship. 

After the event you will not only know how to step back and be in your feminine receiving energy, but you’ll feel comfortable and naturally do so!

Join us for the Extraordinary Love Intensive by claiming your ticket now! 

Remember, there’s a hurt or pain that hasn’t been healed when you’re compensating with overgiving behavior. It’s time to heal so you can experience happiness, joy, abundance, love, partnership support and so much more inside an extraordinary relationship!