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How To Take Control of the Negative Thoughts In Your Head!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 8, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

How can you decipher the “truth” of what goes on inside your head?

How do you know if the negative thoughts you have (that we all have by the way) are what’s “real” or if they’re simply something you’re imagining, a limiting belief you have from the past or a “trigger”.

Here’s a secret for you…

90% of the thoughts you have are negative. Can you believe that?!

Those thoughts are not always, “the world is coming to an end” type of thoughts, but they are some form of fear, worry or anxiety.

This is true for us, for you and for every other person on the planet.

Why?

Because we’re human.

We’re designed to survive. It’s built into us to look for outside circumstances that may cause us harm.

Here’s the thing though…

Most of us no longer live in a world where we need to be on the constant look-out for danger.

Unfortunately our brains don’t know that and continue to throw worrying thoughts at you all day long!

When it comes to dating and relationships these negative thoughts might look like…

…”Why is my boyfriend going on a 3-day work trip with that female colleague of his? They usually only go for 2 days.”

… “Why hasn’t that guy called me yet? He said he would – he must be a flake!”

… “This guy is amazing! I can’t believe how much fun we’re having together. When am I going to find out the truth about him?”

… “Why is my husband always looking at his phone? Am I not interesting enough to want to talk to?”

You get the idea.

What are some of the negative thoughts that are currently impacting your love life?

The kicker is that all negative thoughts (left unchecked) lead to negative actions. These negative actions usually lead to some sort of emotional spin or fall-out.

Which is super unfortunate – especially if the negative thought is something that’s not even real right?!

So – what can you do to interrupt those negative thoughts so you don’t become the crazy lady that’s stalking your husband’s phone, doing late night drive-bys of your boyfriend’s house or constantly finding reasons to text the guy you just met.

(We’ve been there and chances are you have to.)

1) When a negative or fearful thought enters your mind – count to 3, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”

By doing this you’re interrupting the pattern. We aren’t always in control of the thoughts that come into our mind, but we are in control of what we do with them.

When you take a moment to pause – you’re taking control and beginning to have a conscious conversation with yourself rather than reacting to whatever’s happening inside or outside.

2) Do the HeartWork to uncover what’s underneath these thoughts. Get to the root of what has you feeling insecure, jealous, worried or afraid.

This is so important because if you don’t heal the root wound – nothing will ever change. You’ll constantly find reasons to continue to believe that you aren’t good enough, that men aren’t reliable or good or that you’ll never have the love you dream of.

Until you heal the thing that’s causing the negative belief in the first place, you’ll continue to experience the same worries, fear and insecurities.

Are you ready for something more?

Are you ready to take control of your thoughts and become the confident woman that KNOWS she is SAFE and LOVEABLE?

If you answered yes, then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge!

This challenge is 5 days of high energy, high fun, and high power transformation that will have you breakthrough what’s standing between you and the real love, happiness, connection and intimacy that you want.

Join us for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge here!

At the end of next week you’ll know exactly what’s keeping you from experiencing the relationship that you dream about and you will have broken through the thing that is continuing to stop you from creating it.

Your time is now!

Don’t waste another day swimming through the negative thoughts in your head.

Take control and begin creating the life and love you want now!

Join us here. We can’t wait to see you there.

The Secret To Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 15, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease?

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy?

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you?

Tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop we’re going to be showing you how to create just that!

See if this scenario sounds familiar:

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry.

You’re “triggered.”

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake.

We’ve all been there, .

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer then 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived.

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity.

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way?

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control?

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen?

That’s what we’re going to be teaching you how to do tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop.

You’re going to learn how to:

Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.

Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires

Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do.

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this.

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space.

And that’s what we want for you too.

Register for this powerful free masterclass HERE!

The #1 Thing Men Are Looking For In A Relationship

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 8, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Ready to Love Again, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Ever wonder what men are looking for in a relationship?

We’ve asked many men, including our husbands, as well as looked at the research, and the top 3 answers may surprise you:

Peace
Respect
Emotional Intelligence

Not sex…

not perfection…

Peace, respect, and emotional intelligence!

And… the truth is that, without those 3 things a relationship simply cannot work!

That’s why we’re hosting the Girl, It’s Not Personal free masterclass this weekend!

This workshop was offered only to our clients as a very special bonus earlier this year, but it was so powerful (and fun!) that we thought… why not make it available to you, too!?

Do you want to know how to communicate better with your partner or the men you’re dating?

Would you like to be able to increase your self-confidence and not worry so much about what others do, think or say?

Do you want to know how to let others actions (or inactions) roll off your back so you’re not spinning out emotionally?

Would you like to know how to master the top 2 things men are looking for in a relationship?

These are just a few of the things we’ll be covering in the masterclass on Saturday!

Stop your emotional triggers and start experiencing the love, happiness, and connection you want in your relationships now!

See you on Saturday!

Tips For Talking About Religion With A Date.

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 24, 2022 | Communication, Dating, Gratitude, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Does spirituality or religion play an integral role in your life?

Some of the questions we often get from our clients about this topic are:

When is it appropriate to bring up religion in the dating experience?
What if he doesn’t share my same beliefs? Can a relationship still work?
How much should I share?
What if we’re not aligned?
What if I can’t ever find someone I’m attracted to that’s in my religion?

So, let’s give you some answers!

If you’re unwilling to date outside of your religion – put it in your dating profile. If this matters to you, trust that you will find someone who is aligned because hiding it or pushing down that desire won’t ever work.

Otherwise, we suggest that you don’t bring it up and allow it to come up naturally in the dating experience.

We recommend not having heavy and significant conversations early on while dating. The beginning of getting to know someone should feel light and fun and exciting!

If the topic comes up naturally, and it’s something that’s important for you to share, then simply be honest and authentic.

This is how it happened for me…

Ric and I met at a dance club and then we spent hours more talking that night. The topic of religion came up naturally because in Ric sharing about his divorce, I shared that my previous husband had passed away.

Ric asked me how I ever got through something like that and my authentic response was, “My faith in God is the only thing that got me through it.”

That was authentic and a very natural response for me because my religion was a big part of my life at the time. I was in a Christian band, I was a youth minister, and I went to church every Sunday.

Ric had very different beliefs.

While he was also Catholic, he wasn’t actively practicing. Later in our dating relationship we talked about religion more and he expressed that his main concern was that I would try and convert him.

We decided then that mutual respect and peace were two values that we would always hold in our marriage. We wouldn’t ever feel the need to defend or debate our beliefs.

I expressed that it was important that my children be baptized and that I was married in the church. He didn’t have a problem with either of those things and that’s what happened.

Over 20 years into marriage and that mutual respect has remained. Having differing beliefs has never been a problem.

It can work!

What’s important is that you’re gracious, accepting, authentic, respectful and honest with yourself and with him from the beginning.

Marriage will throw many different balls at you and the fact is, you and your partner aren’t going to always agree. That doesn’t mean that someone has to be wrong.

Respect is what will get you through.

Being clear on who you are and what you want is critical.

The most important thing to remember while dating is that a man can’t fall in love with you if you aren’t there. You get to be authentic and show up fully as you!

Let go of judgments. Be honest. Be authentic.

If you’re ready to be in the relationship of your dreams, want to get crystal clear on who you are and know how to attract that relationship to you before the end of this year then join us at the Irresistible Woman LIVE 2022 in September!

This 3-day virtual event is specifically for smart, successful, strong women who also want to be successful in love.

We have a special offer that includes a ticket going on now and the price is only going to go up.

If you know you want to join us, so yourself a favor and grab your ticket here now!

How to Stop Meeting Mr. Wrong and Meet Mr. Right, Instead!

by heartsdesireintl | May 13, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Michelle Roza

Are you ready to meet the RIGHT man?

The man who’s not only good for you and to you, but also someone who you feel magic with?

We have found that women who are dating find themselves in one of two scenarios…

1. You keep attracting men into your life who aren’t good for you. They’re the “bad guys” who don’t show up, only want sex, aren’t looking for commitment, or ghost you after the first date (if you even make it to a date!).

There’s chemistry and connection, but, obviously, these interactions aren’t going anywhere.

The problem with this, is that these women start to believe that all men are like this, and they then lose faith in dating and their ability to attract a different kind of man.

Scenario Two: You attract good men into your life – men of integrity and honor. Men who are seeking out the same loving, passionate, committed relationship that you are.

Sounds great right?

It would be except for that you often don’t feel a connection with these men. There’s no chemistry, and even though you’re glad that you’re attracting good men, you still can’t seem to attract the right one… The man you can’t wait to spend the rest of your life with.

Do you see yourself in either of those scenarios?

Are you tired of meeting man after man, but never having it turn into the loving, passionate, committed relationship you really want?

After I got divorced, I went into the dating experience really excited and thought I was finally going to be able to attract the man that was right for me.

Five years later, that excitement had turned into disenchantment, disappointment and resignation. I was thinking, “Maybe I’m meant to be single.”

Life was pretty good, I was doing great at work, my children were thriving and I thought maybe I should let go of this desire to be in love.

But the truth was that underneath that resignation was the fear that there was something wrong with me, the fear that it simply was never going to happen and the uncertainty of why what I was doing wasn’t working.

That’s when I began my journey of doing the HeartWork and getting underneath these fears and patterns to see what it was that I needed to heal and shift within myself.

I knew that if I could just crack the code to attracting the man that would love me for me and that I would love for him – I would be able to create the extraordinary relationship I had always dreamt of.

We’re committed to extraordinary love.

The type of love that feels magical and takes your breath away.

The type of love that has you feeling on top of the world and like you can do anything.

The type of love that is just that – extraordinary.

It starts with attracting the RIGHT man. And that starts with you.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, please join us tomorrow for the Attract the RIGHT Man Webinar, where we’ll be diving into how to break the patterns that are keeping you stuck in dating once and for all!

In this 3-hour masterclass, you will:

Learn what to STOP doing so that you can stop being attracted to and attracting the wrong man into your life
Discover what to START doing instead, so that you start attracting the kind of man who wants to create a happy, loving, committed relationship with you
Apply the steps and practices that will have you experience dating and relationships differently because you will be attracting and getting to know a completely different kind of man!

Click here to say “YES!” to Attracting the RIGHT Man into Your Life!

Whether you find that you keep attracting and dating “good guys” who are nice enough, but you simply don’t feel a connection with,

you keep bringing in the same “bad guy” in a different body, we’re going to show you how to break this pattern and bring in the RIGHT man — the one who will honor you, cherish you, and love you for the rest of your life!

It’s time for you to attract the RIGHT man now!

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How To See the Real, Vulnerable, Inspiring, Authentic, Magnetic, Beautiful YOU!

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 29, 2022 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

We’re sure you’ve heard the saying, “Fake it til you make it” right?

Do you ever feel like you’re doing that when you’re on a date, in a job interview, working on a project or meeting someone new?

What if we told you that you never need to feel that way again?! That there’s no need to fake it until you make anything!

We believe the real magic is in the phrase, “Be It and Believe It and then You Will See It!”

What does that mean?

If you’re not in the relationship, job, house (or anything really) of your dreams, there’s something about the authentic you that’s not showing up.

The laws of the universe make it so that when you’re really authentically being you and accepting all of that – your frequency is elevated so high that you naturally attract exactly what you want to you.

When you’re BEing authentically YOU – your vibration is elevated so high that a high quality man that wants exactly who you are is drawn to you!

Well, if that’s true then why aren’t we all walking around being authentically ourselves all the time?

Why do we still sometimes feel like we have to “fake it”?

Here are 5 ways you may not be being authentic (that you may or may not be aware of):

Hiding – When you hide part of yourself, keep a mask up, don’t say what you want or that something’s hurting you – those are all examples of hiding and not being authentic
Fighting – Having a “take it or leave it” attitude because of residue from past heartbreak, being reactive because of fear, getting angry when you’re afraid to get vulnerable
Running Away – You stop responding to a guy if you don’t like something he says/does, break something off that you’re still enjoying because you’re afraid to get hurt
Settling – Pretending you’re happy in a relationship when you know it’s not what you want, convincing yourself that you’re in a relationship when you’re actually not, thinking that something is better than nothing
Holding on – Not letting go of something that’s over or that should be over because it’s not everything you/the other person really want

If you’re not being yourself a man simply can’t fall in love with YOU because he can only fall in love with what you’re showing him.

If there’s parts of you that aren’t being 100% yourself then whatever relationship you create is only a reflection of that and will never be complete.

When you do the HeartWork to develop the type of relationship with yourself that has you know and accept yourself – flaws and all – then your entire experience of life changes and what you attract into your life is a reflection of that!

That’s why you’ve got to join us for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU 5-Day Challenge next week!

In this challenge we’ll be showing you how to:

take off the masks you’re wearing
break through the walls you have up
take the things you’re doing to sabotage your goals and show you what to do instead

In 5 days you’ll be able to see the vulnerable, inspiring, authentic, magnetic, real beautiful YOU!!

Yes, I’m ready to fall in love with ME!

Here’s your opportunity. You can either keep doing this on your own, or you can do it with a coach by your side. So many women in our community have gotten engaged and married as a result of participating in this challenge – and that can soon be you!

Don’t miss out!

Sign up for the BE-YOU-tifully YOU Challenge Now.

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