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The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life?

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing!

So what does vulnerability look like?

Vulnerability is…

Being open
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
Being willing to share yourself and your feelings
Trusting yourself to know who to trust
Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable?

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you?

Why is knowing this so important?

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself.

You pretend, hide, or resist.

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life.

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open .

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection?

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears.

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected.

You practice.

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today.

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life.

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

Have Online Dating Work For You Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Aug 20, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

What is the number one question you have when it comes to online dating?

Does it have anything to do with your profile?

These are the questions we get asked the most….

❓ Why do I keep attracting the wrong kind of men?

❓ Why are none of the men I’m matching with reaching out?

❓ What should I include in my profile?

❓ What shouldn’t I include?

❓ What sites are the best to get on?

❓ What type of photos should I use?

We’re going to be answering ALL of these questions, plus more tomorrow at our Ultimate Attraction Dating Profile Workshop, but we wanted to give you just a few tips today.

So let’s dive in!

When it comes to online dating, your profile is the most important part!

Why? Because you have 3-6 seconds to capture a man’s attention which means your photos and the first sentence of your profile must be captivating!

Here’s what NOT to do:

DON’T start with a list of adjectives

DON’T include a list of things you like to do

DON’T put a timeline of your life

DON’T list all of your educational or professional credentials

DON’T put pictures of you with alcohol or showing too much skin

DON’T use sarcasm or put yourself down

You want your profile to showcase who you really are! You want it to be refreshing, different and full of depth. The more natural it sounds, the more receptive men will be to it so make sure it shows your authentic you!

DO make the first sentence inviting and interesting

DO introduce yourself the way you would introduce yourself at a party

DO start with “I am a woman who is….” and follow with something you’re really interested in

DO share something that you’re passionate about

DO be lighthearted and fun

Do be authentically yourself

These tips are so basic they often get overlooked.

And truthfully, these are things most women think they’re doing… but then we get our eyes on their profile and we know exactly why they’re attracting the type of men they are.

If you’re ready to start attracting the right kind of men in online dating, join us tomorrow for the Ultimate Attraction Online Dating Profile Workshop!

We’re going to be teaching you exactly what you need to know to have clarity around what to do before, during and after you create your online dating profile so that you attract high-quality, commitment-minded, ready-for-love men who will be ready to partner with you in creating the relationship of your dreams!

We’ll be answering your questions, giving you coaching and having hands-on activities so that you walk away with a profile that starts giving you the results you’ve been waiting for.

Have Online Dating Work for you Now!

In this hands-on, interactive workshop on how to attract the RIGHT man online, you’ll discover:

what to do before you ever type the first word or post the first picture on your profile that will make the difference between whether you attract the right man or not
what to put in your profile to make sure you’re attracting a man who is a perfect match for you
how to make sure your profile gets noticed by the right guys, not the ones who want to play games or be pen pals
and more!

Stop wasting your time attracting the wrong men online and learn how to create a profile that attracts the high quality, commitment-minded man you want to meet, get to know and marry!

Register Here!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 16, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

What is standing in your way of creating the relationship of your dreams?

Are there self-sabotaging tendencies and patterns that are causing your love life to not move forward like you’d like it to?

If so, are you getting frustrated, angry or hopeless?

The frustration you feel that things aren’t happening like you’d like can manifest differently for different people.

Maybe you feel angry – thinking that all men are jerks, dating sucks, and online dating will never lead you to a good man.

Perhaps you feel sad and hopeless – thinking that it’s never really going to happen for you, so why even try? Which leads you to wanting to give up.

If that’s what you’re currently experiencing, it’s important to look at how often those feelings show up, not just in your love life, but in every aspect of your life, because that’s going to give you the clues to what you need to shift.

So, how do you make the relationship of your dreams happen now?

First, you have to get crystal-clear on what you want to experience in that relationship.

Notice that we didn’t say, get crystal-clear on what you want the man to be like or what you want to get out of the relationship.

It’s about the experience you want to have!

When you focus on what the man is like – if he has kids, what his career is, what he looks like, etc – it causes you to focus outside of you and to give up your power to create what you want It feels like there is this “one specific person that must exist” in order for you to be happy, and that has you giving your power away.

When you focus on the experience you want to create, it’s not about looking for “one person” so that you can have the relationship you want, it’s about creating something that another person wants to be part of creating with you!

What do you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?

Do you want to experience….

💕 laughing

💕 understanding

💕 calm communication

💕 affection

💕 soul-level intimacy

💕 fun

💕 respect

💕 unconditional love

💕 having a best friend and someone championing you in life

💕 feeling heard

💕 travel the world

💕 adventures

💕 honesty and faithfulness

The second thing you need in order to begin experiencing the relationship of your dreams is to have the skills to create your crystal-clear vision.

You may say you want a cheerleader and best friend as a partner in life, but then you spend time protecting yourself and criticizing every man that comes along.

You may say you want to have fun and adventure, but then don’t want to spend time meeting new men on the app.

See the disconnect? Fear is standing in the way of you attracting what you want.

How do you recognize that there’s a fear that’s running you?

That’s where we come in!

A coach will tell you when and where you’re sabotaging yourself.
A coach will support you in seeing what you can’t see.

We will show you the fears you have and the masks you may be wearing that are blocking you from having the love you want.

AND, we’ll teach you how to get those Love Barriers out of the way so that you can begin experiencing the love, happiness, and intimacy you desire and deserve!

We will cause you to have a breakthrough!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough so you can actually start experiencing the kind of love you desire, then join us tomorrow, Saturday, July 17th at 12pm ET for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you?

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

When you don’t have the conscious knowledge of what’s holding you back, all you can do is what you already know to do. And if you keep doing what you’ve always done – all you can hope to experience is what you’ve always had.

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do differently so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams… starting right NOW!!!

How to Move On So You Can Attract Extraordinary Love NOW!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Sex

by Gladys Diaz

Are you having a hard time getting over a past relationship?

When thinking about that past relationship, do you find yourself thinking…

…“But I still love him.”

…“I really thought he was the one.”

…“How will I know I’m choosing the right man next time, when I was wrong this time?”

We hear these things from women all the time, and if you’re in this position right now, we’re here to tell you (with love)… It’s time to let it go!

If you’re still energetically connected to someone, whether you say you are or not, then it’s really difficult (if not impossible!) for someone new to come into your life.

And, even if you do meet someone who you’re compatible with, the chemistry’s there, and you have a great time with him, it will still feel like something is off.

It’s simply not possible to create something new and lasting if there’s something in the space that you haven’t let go of.

If you’ve been “getting over someone” for 9 months, 2 years, 12 years, 40 years (gasp!), it’s time to get curious about why you feel as if you’re not able to move on.

What’s really keeping you stuck?

Sometimes it’s the person and the past relationship you feel you can’t let go of.

Sometimes it’s the idea of the past relationship that you’ve glorified in your mind that’s keeping you stuck.

But, more often than not, it’s the fear that you won’t be able to feel the same way you felt about that someone again, and you’re afraid to let go and even try.

Here’s the thing…

You have to find the courage to let go of the past in order to move forward and create something new.

The work there is to do is to accept what actually happened in the past relationship and complete it so that you can be present in current experiences, move forward and be happy NOW!

You don’t have to let go of the love you had/have for that person. You can choose to love him forever, if you want to.

What you do need to let go of is the attachment to being with him and having him be a part of your life… even if that part is only in your head.

We believe there are people that come into our lives to teach us things or give us experiences that we need to have.

When you can accept that a past relationship was simply that, and you are able to release it and move forward, that’s when magic starts to occur.

Letting go and moving on from someone doesn’t have to take a year OR years!

When you make yourself the victim of someone else’s choices, it robs you of your power and you sacrifice:

Having happiness now
Experiencing the relationship of your dreams now
Attracting the man that will love you fully and completely for the rest of your life
And everything else your heart desires

When you stop allowing someone else to determine whether or not you get to have the relationship of your dreams, you take back your power and you begin to attract men who are right for you now.

If you’re ready to let go of your past and move forward into the love you dream about then let go of one hand and join us next Saturday for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you!

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

We know you aren’t staying stuck on purpose, but without knowing these steps, you are playing trial and error with your heart, causing yourself unnecessary heartache, and we want you to get unstuck now!

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!!!

How to Re-Enter the Dating Scene Today!

by heartsdesireintl | Jul 7, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Has it been a while since you’ve been in the dating scene?

Have you recently come out of a relationship and are wanting to get back out there?

Or maybe you’ve been single for a while, and aren’t sure how you could possibly start dating again.

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re not alone! This topic has been requested so many times from the women in our community and we listened!

So, what is it exactly that has you resist stepping back out there?

FEAR.

Fear of….

… allowing yourself to be seen again.

… opening yourself up to rejection.

,,, wasting your time with the wrong man (or men)

… looking silly because you don’t know how to date anymore.

… not trusting this new thing called “online dating”

And those are just to name a few!

The starting over phase can feel like too much, which is why many women stay in toxic or abusive relationships or stay single when they really desire to be in a relationship.

We get it. Doing anything for the first time, or for the first time in a long time, can be scary and feel really hard!

But you can step back out there, and we’re here to show you how.

The first thing you need to remember is to grant yourself some space and grace.

If you’re just coming out of a relationship, there is healing and HeartWork that must occur before you’ll be ready to jump back into the dating game.

It’s necessary, and it’s okay!

That being said, this healing time doesn’t need to take 5, 10, or 15 years!

Give yourself enough time to get clear on why the past relationship didn’t work and to do any healing inside yourself that is necessary to have dating work the next time around.

There are two things you need to get clear on before you’ll be ready to date again.

What had the relationship not work?

Did you jump in too soon without knowing the person well enough?

Was there poor communication?

Were there character flaws you didn’t notice (or didn’t want to see) soon enough?

Were there personal fears or limiting beliefs that had you sabotage the relationship?

What Heartwork do you need to do?

Do you have limiting beliefs about men? About online dating, or dating in general?

Do you have limiting beliefs about yourself? Men? Relationships?

Are you recognizing any patterns with the dating experiences you’re having?

If you’re experiencing the same thing over and over again, what is having you be attracted to that?

Be open to the possibility that your limiting beliefs and fears aren’t “the truth,” and that there’s another possible truth.

Be crystal-clear about what you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams..

And then learn the best way to get back out there with power, grace, ease, and FUN!

The longer you wait, the harder it’s going to be.

Do the inner work, and then start taking steps that will lead you in the right direction.

Learn how to set up an online profile that attracts the kind of man you want to share your life with.

Let your family, friends and co-workers know you’re ready to start dating again and that you’re open to meeting good, 100% available men. Look on Eventbrite or MeetUp for opportunities to meet people, and go to singles activities in your community.

There are so many ways to meet good men!

Be courageous.

Be open.

Allow yourself to be seen and known.

Learn the BEST steps to take to attract the RIGHT man so that you can be alert and aware vs. scared and suspicious.

Oh! And remember to have FUN!!

If you’d like support in getting clear on the best, most effective ways to get back out there, or if you’re struggling to find the courage to date again, we’d love to speak with you!

Book a call to talk to one of our coaches now! They will support you in identifying the Heartwork you need to do and validating that you’re ready so you can attract the man who will love you forever, starting right now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

One of the #1 Fears in Dating Is…

by heartsdesireintl | Jun 4, 2021 | Communication, Dating, Infidelity, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

One of the #1 fears women have is: “I’m afraid I will lose myself in a relationship.”

Can you relate?

The thing is, in dating and relationships, you don’t really lose yourself.

What happens is that you give away your power by straying away from your values.
You give in a little here and a little there, move a boundary further and further past the point that is true for you… and eventually… you simply disappear.

If you’ve ever felt this way in a relationship, the question to ask yourself is: “Which of my values is not being honored?”

Discovering the answer to that question is the easy way to get back in alignment with yourself and what’s true for you.

Knowing what your values are, and making sure that you’re living your life according to them, is the simplest way to date — and to live!

In dating, you’re not going to agree on everything. The problem comes in when differences create a conflict within yourself.

Whether the misalignment is about religion, whether or not you want to wait to be intimate, family relationships, medical conditions, or something else; those things can be worked out – (1) If they are aligned with your values, and (2) if they also align with what your partner wants and values.

But you have to be clear about what your values are.

When these things come up you can handle them as a strong, mature woman instead of as a woman who’s afraid of losing something.

When you show up as someone who knows who she is, what she wants, where she’s at, and what she’s looking for, then you’ll attract someone who is aligned with and and wants that kind of woman as a partner.

Having values you live by is not about having an insurmountable list of “standards” that a man must meet. That way of dating keeps you feeling “safe,” but it also keeps you alone.

Living a life and making choices that are aligned with what you truly value is about raising your standards for yourself. That’s what creates irresistibility.

You must get crystal-clear on what you want and what your values and standards are in order to create a relationship and partnership that honors them.

When you’re not clear, your brain makes stuff up to make people, things, and situations “fit,” and that’s when things get “complicated.”

When you’re crystal-clear, there’s no sorta/maybe when it comes to making choices for yourself, your life, and what you want in a relationship.Everything is either aligned with your values, or it’s not.

It’s that simple.

If you meet a man that’s not aligned with your values or you’re not aligned with his, trust that he’s not the right one. Honor yourself, admire him for being true to himself, and let it go.

The more you practice being true to yourself, the easier it gets.

The more confident you are about your own values, the easier it gets to live in it and create a life and love that reflects and embodies what your heart truly desires.

When you date this way, you can create an amazing and incredible relationship with someone who is absolutely in love with you– The Real You.

Sometimes, you may not even realize you’re not clear about what your values are or how to honor them, so, if you’d like support with discovering what your values are and how you can live more authentically into them, book a call and speak with one of our coaches now.

It’s time for you to find true love!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

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