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Trust Yourself to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams

by heartsdesireintl | Apr 6, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Do you trust yourself?

Do you feel like you’re someone you can count on?

Do you feel confident in your ability to make the right choices?

Do you believe that you’ll be able to make the big life-changing decisions that will be best for you?

If you don’t trust yourself, you’ll find yourself struggling to make choices (especially big ones!) and then doubting the decision once you do.

This is a stressful way to live!

It also doesn’t lead to being able to create the relationship (and life) of your dreams.

If you answered yes to any of those questions above, what made you stop trusting yourself?

Maybe it was a decision you made that didn’t work out?

Or possibly you realized that you’d made a choice that you’d known wasn’t good for you and it turned out badly?

Or it could be that you simply don’t follow through with the things you say you will do (like waking up at a certain time, exercising daily, etc.) which eventually leads to you feeling like you can’t count on yourself.

When these things go unhealed, the trust in yourself fades and you begin to doubt even the most basic of decisions.

Sound familiar?

So, how do you rebuild that trust so you can feel confident in your ability to be the leader of your life?

Recognize what you’re still holding onto that’s causing you to doubt yourself.

The first thing you need to do in the process of rebuilding trust with yourself is to recognize what it was that began the erosion of trust in the first place.

For example, one of our clients had married a man who she’d known was not good for her. Before they got married, her intuition had tried to warn her he had character flaws she shouldn’t overlook but she chose to marry him anyways.

After years of dishonesty and affairs, and a few children later, she finally removed herself from the situation but she continued to carry that around with her.

She thought that if she continued to hold that decision from years ago against herself that it would help her to not make the same mistake again.

But that’s not how it works.

When you continue to hold something against yourself that you did in the past all you’re actually doing is perpetuating the experience of doubting yourself which will only lead to the same experiences you’ve created in the past.

So what do you do?

Accept the impact that the decision had on your life and forgive yourself.

You must accept the things in your life that the decision created for you and then stop holding onto the past.

Have it be okay that the woman that made the decision you made, was doing the best she could do at the time! It’s easy to look back and wish we’d chosen differently with what we know now, but unfortunately that’s not how it works. We learn from our mistakes and seeing them as opportunities for growth helps you to forgive yourself.

When you forgive yourself and let go of the past, you open up the opportunity for new experiences to come in. The energy that you were using to continually beat yourself up, you can now take and use to create something extraordinary.

Identify the values you have for yourself and consistently move forward with them.

Once you’ve let go of the past, forgiven yourself and committed to moving forward then you must do so with integrity and consistency to rebuild that broken trust!

Identify what you value, what matters to you most, and do those things consistently.

If you say you’ll wake up at 6am every morning, do it! If you say you’ll exercise 3 times this week, make sure it happens!

Become the kind of person you can count on because if you end up snoozing the alarm and not getting out of bed until 7 or if you only exercise 1 or 2 times when you said 3… it will continue to be hard to trust yourself.

The more you’re able to count on yourself, the more you’ll believe in your ability to create the relationship of your dreams!

You may need some support with any of these steps and if you do, that’s where we come in! A lifetime of doubting yourself makes it difficult to believe you can create the things that you want.

If you’d like support identifying what it is that has you doubting yourself, figuring out how to forgive yourself and let it go, or create some accountability in consistently moving forward with your goals and rebuilding that trust with yourself, book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

Remember, you are not your decisions or your mistakes.

Open yourself up and free your heart, mind and soul so that you irresistible essence can shine through!

Ditch Control and Inspire the Man in Your Relationship!

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 25, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz

Do you know what’s kryptonite to relationships and a behavior a lot of women don’t even realize they have?

It’s one of the things that is most unattractive to men and will diminish the love and respect in a relationship faster than anything else.

It’s also one of the things we get asked about by women the most because, when they recognize it as a pattern, they immediately know they want to adjust.

Can you guess what it is?

We’re talking about control.

Being controlling isn’t just unattractive, it’s extremely ineffective in relationships. We want to support you in understanding what control looks like and how you can adjust your behavior so that you can have less control and a lot more love and respect in your relationship.

Trying to control my husband through constant criticism and correcting was something I didn’t even realize I was doing for a very long time. It’s also what almost led to us splitting up.

What I felt was me being supportive, encouraging, and helpful was actually diminishing, emasculating, and stripping away the love and intimacy in my marriage. But it was a blindspot for me. I just didn’t see how controlling I was being.

Since you can’t change a behavior you don’t know you have, what does control look and sound like?

The most common form control takes is through your communication.

You may think you’re simply “being honest” with your partner or sharing your feelings with someone you’re dating… But the words you choose you may be coming off as controlling.

Let’s say, for example, that you would really like to have more conversations on the phone with the man you’re dating…

Do you say, “You never call me like you used to.” or “Call me tomorrow at 5pm”?

If so, you are exhibiting control.

Why?

Because, in the first statement, you’re not saying what you want or how you feel. You’re complaining.

In the second statement, you’re telling him what to do and when to do it.

So, how can you say this instead?

Say, “I’d love to chat on the phone soon!” or “I would prefer to talk on the phone more often.”

These statements focus 100% on you and serve as a very appealing invitation to call you.

Let’s say you’d like to go away for the weekend with your partner.

Do you say, “We should go somewhere together this weekend?”

Yep, that’s controlling.

Instead, say, “I’d love to go away together.”

These simple adjustments in your communication are inspiring to a man and show love for him and respect for his desires and feelings, while at the same time expressing yours.

The reason control is kryptonite in a relationship is because when a man feels like he’s being controlled, he will do one of two things.

He will dig his heels in and refuse to do the thing you’d like him to do.
He will submit.

You don’t want either of those things!

You want a man to be inspired to be with you, to desire to make you happy, and to have fun, lightness and joy present in your relationship.

Wonder what causes that almost-immediate urge to tell him what to do and say?

The urge to control always stems from a fear that something is or isn’t going to happen.

So, how do you shift out of that fear and, instead, show your man that you respect him and see him as a strong man, capable of making good decisions, and trusting that he wants to make you happy?

Before you speak, ask yourself these three questions:

What am I afraid will/will not happen if I don’t say this?
How can I say what I want to say, focusing solely on what I’m feeling and want to express without bringing him or his actions into the statement.
What emotion will I inspire in my partner by saying this?

It takes some conscious effort to interrupt that internal chatter that;s always going on in our heads and think about how the words we choose will land for our partners.

Shifting out of a pattern of control isn’t easy, but it is so worth it!

And as you practice, it becomes easier and easier to do.

If you’d like some support in shifting a pattern of control in your dating experiences or relationships, let us support you by booking a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches. On this call, we’ll explore what some of your control triggers are, and give you some clear steps on what to do to shift from controlling to inspiring your man!

Like we said, many times, these controlling behaviors are things you may not even realize you have, and with some support to help you see them, you can completely transform them and create more love and intimacy in your relationship.

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!

When a man feels respected, loved and connected to you, he will do just about anything to make you happy.

Choose your words wisely so you inspire that type of connection in your relationship!

How to Get Unstuck and Experience Love Now!

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 12, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Relationship, Romance, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

Are you having a hard time getting over a past relationship?

Have you done everything you know to do, and you still find yourself longing for someone that’s long gone?

When thinking about that past relationship, do you find yourself thinking…

…“But I still love him.”

…“I really thought he was the one.”

…“How will I know I’m choosing the right man next time, when I was wrong this time?”

We hear these things from women all the time, and if you’re in this position right now, we’re here to call you forward and say: It’s time to let it go!

If you’re still energetically connected to someone, whether you say you are or not, then it’s really difficult (if not impossible!) for someone new to come into your life.

And, even if you do meet someone who you’re compatible with, the chemistry’s there, and you have a great time with him, it will still feel like something is off.

It’s simply not possible to create something new and lasting if there is something in the space that you haven’t let go of.

If you’ve been “getting over someone” for 9 months, 2 years, 12 years, 40 years, it’s time to get curious about why feel as if you’re not able to move on.

What’s really keeping you stuck?

Sometimes it’s the person and the past relationship you feel you can’t let go of.

Sometimes it’s the idea of the past relationship that you’ve glorified in your mind that’s keeping you stuck.

But, more often than not, it’s the fear that you won’t be able to feel the same way you felt about that someone again, and you’re afraid to let go and even try.

Here’s the thing…

Think about when you were a little girl at recess, swinging on the monkey bars.
You couldn’t just hang on to one bar forever, right?
At some point, you had to have the courage to let go of one hand so that you could move forward.
And then you had to do the same thing with the other hand: Let go… and move forward.

It’s the same thing when it comes to moving forward from a past relationship.

You have to find the courage to let go of the past in order to move forward and create something new.

The work there is to do is to accept what actually happened in the past relationship and complete it so that you can be present in current experiences, move forward and be happy NOW!

You don’t have to let go of the love you had/have for that person. You can choose to love him forever, if you want to.

What you do need to let go of is the attachment to being with him and having him be a part of your life… even if that part is only in your head.

We believe there are people that come into our lives to teach us things or give us experiences that we need to have.

When you can accept that a past relationship was simply that, and you are able to release it and move forward, that’s when magic starts to occur.

Letting go and moving on from someone doesn’t have to take a year OR years!

When you make yourself the victim of someone else’s choices, it robs you of your power and you sacrifice:

Having happiness now
Experiencing the relationship of your dreams now
Attracting the man that will love you fully and completely for the rest of your life
And everything else your heart desires

When you stop allowing someone else to determine whether or not you get to have the relationship of your dreams, you take back your power and you begin to attract men who are right for you now.

If you’re ready to let go of your past and move forward into the love you dream about then let go of one hand and join us this weekend for the Extraordinary Love Intensive! This 3-day event starts TODAY at 12:00pm ET, and it’s exactly what you need to get unstuck right now.

At the event we’re going to take you through a specific exercise that will have you recognize what it is that you need to let go of and give you the exact steps that you’ve felt incapable of taking before.

Join us at the Extraordinary Love Intensive

We know you aren’t staying stuck on purpose, but without knowing these steps, you are playing trial and error with your heart, causing yourself unnecessary heartache, and we want you to get unstuck now!

You will leave the event with crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do so that you can start moving forward on the monkey bars of your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!!!

I’m ready right now!

Confidence is the KEY to Attracting the Right Man

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 5, 2021 | Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz

What comes to mind when you hear the word confidence?

More specifically, what do you think of when you hear the term “confident woman”?

Confidence looks like:

Self-assurance
Unwavering
Having morals and boundaries
Trusting yourself
Powerful
At ease, even if you’re nervous
And more!

Confidence is what has people — including the right man — notice you. That energy is what attracts men to you and has them want to get to know you.

On the other hand, “fake confidence,” you know that “fake-it-til-you-make-it” or “I’ve-got-it-all-together” attitude, are what repel a man.

That fake confidence feels like a struggle, because all of your energy is going into keeping up the facade.

And, even if you can keep up the facade (though it’s not fun for you!), it simply won’t work. A man wants to feel like the person he’s sitting across from is the person she says she is – and there are few things that will make a man run faster than catching onto that that isn’t the case.

So how do you develop this type of confidence? The confidence that will not only attract the right men to you, but have them stay?

💜 You heal yourself and break free from the love barriers that are holding you down.

💜 You break free from your limiting beliefs that tell you something is wrong with you or that you’re “broken”

💜 You do the HeartWork and create new experiences and thought patterns

💜 You learn to believe that real confidence looks like knowing you’re going to make mistakes and that you’re not always going to have it all together, and that’s okay

💜 You get clear on what you want and who you are so that you can be crystal-clear about the kind of woman you are and the kind of love you want to experience

The absolute truth is this… There’s nothing wrong with you. You aren’t broken. You have everything you need to create the relationship of your dreams.

And that relationship begins with you.

When you truly heal and break free from the doubts holding you back, then you get to love freely and feel assured in your choices.

When I discovered the things that I was covering up and had the courage to work through them, it took a very short amount of time before the type of men I started attracting started to shift.

When I finally understood that it didn’t have to be hard for me, that I was LUCKY to be me, and that any man that gets to be with me is lucky, too – everything changed.

That’s the kind of shift that will have you attracting the RIGHT man and manifesting the life and love your heart desires!

It’s also the kind of shift that will have you trust yourself to make the right choices!

If that’s the kind of confidence you want, then make sure you join us tomorrow for the Attract the RIGHT Man Webinar!

This 3-hour exclusive training is going to support you in getting crystal-clear on who you are and the kind of experience you want to have in a loving relationship so that you are creating the relationship of your dreams with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!

You’ll start to understand the things you can do to easily exude confidence in every area of your life.

AND we’ll be giving you the 3 KEY pieces you need to start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!

I’m ready to attract the man of my dreams!

Clarity and certainty lead to confidence. Join us tomorrow so you can begin to feel safe, confident, and secure within yourself and create the life and love you want and deserve NOW!

How to Break Through the Patterns Sabotaging You

by heartsdesireintl | Mar 2, 2021 | breakups, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, heartache, keeping the love alive, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Do you feel like you keep experiencing the same disappointing results in your love life?

Do you feel like you’re trying new things and doing all the :right things,” but the same sabotaging behaviors show up?

Does it seem like, no matter what you do, you just keep repeating the patterns and getting the same results?

First, you’re not alone.

We all have patterns, or habitual thoughts and behaviors, that hold us back from creating the results we want in our lives. These patterns are subconscious and they stem from fears and limiting beliefs that you don’t even realize are there!

The only way to stop these fears and beliefs from sabotaging your life and happiness is to break through and replace them so that they are no longer running the show.

And here’s what we want you to know: Repeating these patterns is not a reflection of how much you want to change them or whether you’re able to break through them.

You can have all the desire in the world for things to change in your love life, and if you’re not doing the internal Heart Work to truly through these barriers, nothing will change.

The hard truth is, if you’re still not experiencing the relationship of your dreams and creating the results you want in your love life, there’s still some Heart Work to be done.

There are still sabotaging thoughts and behaviors to get to the bottom of and break up. There are still wounds that need to be healed.

You get to do the full Heart Work so that you can create everything you dream of.

And if you’re in the place of thinking “Well, what about the years of therapy (or courses, workshops and retreats) I’ve already done” or “I’ve already done everything…” if you don’t have the results, there’s still a little work to do.

Consider that all of the work you’ve done already has led you to this place and moment you’re in right now, and that because of that work, you’re ready to bust through the final beliefs NOW! Consider that this is your time for real change.

The first step in breaking through these sabotaging patterns that are holding you back, is to be willing to look at what’s not working.

Ask yourself, “What might be having me do the same thing over and over again?”

Then recognize that it’s not anything outside of you!

I promise you that 99.99999% of the time, it’s not the app, or the man, or your ex, or your past., It’s something internal.

If you have these thoughts on repeat… “I can’t trust people” or “Everyone lets me down” (along with a thousand other possible thoughts!), those are the fears and beliefs that are running the show of your life and stopping you from experiencing the fun, joy, and love you really want.

After years of hearing those thoughts replaying incessantly over and over in your head, you stop realizing that you’re hearing them, and there comes a point where those thoughts become your “truth.” …And you relate to them as the truth.

They become what we call a “Love Barrier” which blocks your ability to give and receive love freely. These Love Barriers are usually blind spots that you can’t see for yourself.But when you receive the guidance and support you need to recognize and break them down, you are able to get past them and create a flow in your love life.

Once there’s flow, you’re able to CHOOSE who you want to trust, spend time with, and love because the limiting beliefs and sabotaging patterns are no longer listening, speaking, or choosing for you..

So what about you?

Are you willing to recognize that what you’ve been doing simply isn’t working to bring you the happiness, love, and relationship you want, and that you could use some support in recognizing what your blind spots that are creating the patterns that are sabotaging your dreams?

We hoped you’d say Yes!” which is why we’re inviting you to join us at the Extraordinary Love Intensive on March 12-14th!

This 3-day event intensive is designed to have you break through those Love Barriers, transform your love life, and attract and create the extraordinary, loving relationship of your dreams!

You will come out of this immersive weekend experience having more clarity about who you are and the patterns that are holding you back.

You’ll do some of the deep and transformational Heartwork that’s necessary to break these patterns, and you’ll be so much closer to creating the relationship of your dreams.

The powerful thing about these events is that when you’re there with us LIVE, you remember the work that you do. These patterns can be broken up once and for all, because what you’re experiencing it LIVE at the event is that powerful.

Claim your ticket to the Extraordinary Love Intensive

Don’t wait. Don’t keep putting your happiness on hold. I probably don’t need to tell you that waiting is another self-sabotaging behavior pattern that you can break free from now!

Claim Your Ticket Now!

Vulnerability is the KEY to Connection!

by heartsdesireintl | Feb 22, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

Did you know that vulnerability is your superpower?

Why?

Because vulnerability is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

So what does vulnerability look like?

Vulnerability is…

Trusting yourself to know who to trust
Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
Having clarity with yourself and living in an alignment with your values and who you really are.
The ability to be yourself without beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable?

Fear.

If you aren’t being 100% vulnerable with others then there is a fear at play behind the scenes.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think.

Fear that if you do _____ then ______ will (or wont’) happen.

Fear that if you say ________ then they will think _______.

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve.

Do any of these fears show up for you?

If you’re afraid of being vulnerable, there is some pain you’re trying to avoid or something you’re trying to force/make happen.

These fears lead us to either pretend, hide, or resist.

They lead us to try to control how everyone around us thinks and feels.

They lead us to think that we must show up one way in order to get a certain reaction from people.

How exhausting!

What’s worse is that people can usually pick up on the inauthenticity.Most people are be able to feel the insecurity behind everything you’re trying to cover up, and, eventually, it will all come out.

Imagine going on a date with you and all of the things you’re trying to control…
It’s you, him, and a pile of fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs sitting across from each other.

Doesn’t sound very fun, right? Or very real.

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection?

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears.

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected.

You practice. The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Now, we know that it’s usually easier said than done. (If you knew how to do all of this, you’d probably already be doing it, right?)

Doing the HeartWork to tear down the walls of pretense and stepping into your authentic and Irresistible Essence takes knowing what to do, what not to do, and what to do differently.

That’s where we come in, and that’s why we’re inviting you to join us at the Extraordinary Love Intensive on March 12-14th! This 3-day event intensive is designed to have you break through your Love Barriers, transform your love life, and attract and create the extraordinary, loving relationship of your dreams!

You will come out of this incredible weekend having more clarity about who you are and the patterns that are holding you back. You’ll do some of the deep and transformational Heartwork that’s necessary to break these patterns and you’ll be so much closer to creating the relationship of your dreams. This is the work we usually only do with our clients, but we want to share it with YOU so that you can stop pretending and start BEing the authentic, vulnerable irresistible version of yourself that is going to have you attract an amazing man with whom you get to create Extraordinary Love!

Life doesn’t stop. Time is going to keep going by, no matter what choices you make.
Why not make a choice that’s going to lead to more joy, love, happiness and freedom in your life…And the kind of love you’ve always wanted?!

Claim Your Ticket Now!
Hurry! Before the 2-pay option goes away!

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward the life and love your heart desires!

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