The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

The #1 Ingredient in Creating Intimacy in Relationships

by | Aug 27, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Romance, Sex

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you know what is the most vital ingredient in creating intimate relationships?

Do you know what would make it possible for you to connect deeply with a man and enhance your love life? 

What would it feel like to actually allow yourself to be seen by others for who YOU truly are?

Being vulnerably YOU in dating is the key to creating the loving, passionate, connected relationship you want.

If you’re not in the relationship of your dreams yet, this is the most important that may be missing! 

So what does vulnerability look like? 

Vulnerability is…

  • Being open
  • Being vulnerable and honest with yourself
  • Being willing to share yourself and your feelings 
  • Trusting yourself to know who to trust
  • Sharing authentically and honestly, yet appropriately
  • Having clarity about and living in an alignment with your values and boundaries, and who you really are.
  • The ability to be yourself without judging or beating yourself up.

So what stops you from being vulnerable? 

Fear.

Fear of being abandoned.

Fear of rejection.

Fear that you may get taken advantage of.

Fear of looking “weak”.

Fear of disappointment.

Fear of what others might think. 

Fear that if you show up as yourself, people won’t like or approve of you.

What fears show up for you? 

Why is knowing this so important? 

It’s important when it comes to dating, because, when you’re afraid, you suppress yourself. 

You pretend, hide, or resist. 

You don’t trust yourself to go for the things you want in life. 

You say you want a deep, intimate relationship, but you’re not willing to actually show up authentically and open . 

You may even worry that if you create the relationship you want, you’ll lose it, and then that fear causes you to sabotage every opportunity at true love and happiness. 

So how do you overcome these fears and show up with vulnerability in order to create genuine connection? 

You do the Heartwork to uncover and heal those fears. 

You learn how to express yourself with intention so that your authentic and honest shares come out in a way where they can be received and respected. 

You practice. 

The more you practice vulnerability, the more confident you will feel in simply being yourself.

Doing this on your own isn’t always easy, because, think about it: If you knew how to do that, you probably would have done it already.

If you know that being vulnerable is something you struggle with, and you’d like support in doing this HeartWork and breaking through the fear so that you can authentically connect with someone and create the relationship of your dreams, book a Love Breakthrough Session with one of our coaches today. 

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

Remember, it takes courage to go for the things you really want in your life. 

Vulnerability is the only way to create true love.

Let us guide you toward having the life and love your heart desires!

Stop Repelling Men and Receive Extraordinary Love Instead!

Stop Repelling Men and Receive Extraordinary Love Instead!

by | Jul 30, 2021 | Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Romance

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you over-give in relationships?

Do you have a pattern of cooking dinner for men, offering to pay for things, giving gifts, or constantly planning dates?

If you answered yes, do your thoughts sound like these?

“If I do enough, I’ll be good enough”

“If I give enough, he’ll want me.” 

“If I prove how good I am, someone will see that and stay.”

Overgiving is a pattern that doesn’t work in dating. It doesn’t work because masculine men need to provide and give in order to feel on purpose in the relationship. 

It also doesn’t work because it will always lead you to feeling resentful and dissatisfied.

I used to do this in dating relationships. 

I would give and give – and give some more – and then all the sudden I’d start feeling resentful. I’d think, “He’s just using me!” — even though he’d never asked me to do any of it!

I had all of the thoughts listed above, I was doing all of the things above and, you guessed it, it wasn’t working. 

You see, underneath a pattern of over-giving is a self-worth conversation. 

You’re either trying to hide what you’re afraid they’ll see in you – or – You’re trying to overcome something you believe already exists in you. 

Either way, none of it is true! 

The thing is – it’s not enough simply to know it’s not true.

It’s about what you’re going to do to breakthrough it! 

So… 

Why do you feel you need to prove your value?

What’s driving the pattern of behavior?

What need is being fulfilled? 

Is it a need to be liked and accepted? Is it a need to feel needed or valuable to someone? 

The first step in breaking through a pattern of overgiving is to get connected to what belief is driving the behavior.

Once you’ve gotten clear on that – you get to start questioning it. You get to go to the very center of why that belief exists and do the Heartwork to create something entirely different inside you. 

You get to transform the belief so that the behavior disappears.

And once you do that, you get to a point where those beliefs don’t even phase you anymore. When the thought pops up, you can immediately shift and move on!

How amazing would that be?!

Through doing this Heartwork you will replace these patterns and be out there in the dating world in your Irresistible Essence, authentic self and attracting the man that will love and appreciate you for all of it! 

Are you ready to shift these patterns? Are you ready to transform them once and for all?

If you answered yes, the Extraordinary Love Intensive, is what you need and it’s just around the corner! It’s happening next weekend and you don’t want to miss it! 

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the patterns that are causing you to repel men and relationships (and overgiving is a big one!) and have you transform so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams. 

After the event there will be no more trying to prove your value or doing too much in a relationship. 

After the event you will not only know how to step back and be in your feminine receiving energy, but you’ll feel comfortable and naturally do so!

Join us for the Extraordinary Love Intensive by claiming your ticket now! 

Remember, there’s a hurt or pain that hasn’t been healed when you’re compensating with overgiving behavior. It’s time to heal so you can experience happiness, joy, abundance, love, partnership support and so much more inside an extraordinary relationship!

How to Stop Rushing and Start Believing It’s Coming

How to Stop Rushing and Start Believing It’s Coming

by | Jul 23, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, heartache, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you feeling impatient with dating? 

Are you wondering if it’s ever going to happen for you?

Does it feel like it’s taking sooooooo long, you’re beginning to wonder if you even care anymore?

I remember feeling that way. 

I remember feeling extremely disappointed in the experience I was having with dating. 

I remember after I’d gotten divorced I had this incredible feeling like, “Wow! I finally have a chance to have everything I want now!”

It wasn’t too long before I realized it may not be as fun or as easy as I’d thought it would be and I began to want to give up. 

I know the feelings. 

I know the stirring of impatience. 

…wondering if it’s ever going to happen for me.

…the frustration.

…the (what seemed like) endless crying.

… questioning my judgement because I kept picking the wrong men.

…wanting to give up and instead, focus on my kids and my career.

I know how all of that feels which is why it’s become our mission to share what we learned with you. 

Why is it so important to stay patient while dating?

So you can maintain the excitement for it, which will have you attract exactly what you desire.

And so that you don’t go into desperation and are able to stick with the process as you develop the skills.

There are three important things to remember while dating: 

  • Have Faith.

Believe that it’s going to happen for you. It wouldn’t be a desire in your heart, if it wasn’t meant to happen for you. 

Believe that you’ll find the right coach. 

Believe that what is meant for you is coming if you simply stay the course. 

  • Believe in Yourself.

Know that you can turn your patterns around. 

Know that you’ll be able to stay strong and committed through the process. 

Know that you can do it. 

You can create anything your heart desires. Believing that I deserved it is what changed everything for me.

  • Follow Through on the Promises you Make to Yourself.

If you don’t stand for yourself and for what you want, you will grasp for anything you can get. You will go into desperation mode and won’t let it happen naturally. 

Lean into the coaching and training you are in this community to have. If you don’t, you’ll talk yourself out of the miracle that’s waiting for you.

My life became miraculously magical when I did the HeartWork. Everything, not just my love life, began to shift. 

Everything changed when I learned to take my time and BE the kind of woman that could attract the man I wanted. 

There was no rush because I knew it was coming. 

Imagine what it would be like to BE in your life like that? 

To live without rush or desperation because you know it’s already on its way and that, not only do you deserve it, but that you have the skills to create it. 

You deserve to have the type of love you want. You deserve to have your heart’s desire!

The Extraordinary Love Intensive is just around the corner and if you’d like to shift your love life (not to mention your whole life!) when you need to join us! 

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the barriers holding you back so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams. 

After the event there will be no more thinking it’s never going to happen or that being in the relationship your heart desires is not for you. 

After the event you will know it’s coming for you, believe in yourself and your ability to create it and have the skills to follow through and stay the course! 

Claim your ticket here. 

Remember, it wouldn’t be a desire in your heart if it wasn’t meant to happen for you. 

See you at the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

by | Jul 16, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz 

What is standing in your way of creating the relationship of your dreams? 

Are there self-sabotaging tendencies and patterns that are causing your love life to not move forward like you’d like it to? 

If so, are you getting frustrated, angry or hopeless? 

The frustration you feel that things aren’t happening like you’d like can manifest differently for different people. 

Maybe you feel angry – thinking that all men are jerks, dating sucks, and online dating will never lead you to a good man.

Perhaps you feel sad and hopeless – thinking that it’s never really going to happen for you, so why even try? Which leads you to wanting to give up. 

If that’s what you’re currently experiencing, it’s important to look at how often those feelings show up, not just in your love life, but in every aspect of your life, because that’s going to give you the clues to what you need to shift.

So, how do you make the relationship of your dreams happen now? 

First, you have to get crystal-clear on what you want to experience in that relationship. 

Notice that we didn’t say, get crystal-clear on what you want the man to be like or what  you want to get out of the relationship.

It’s about the experience you want to have! 

When you focus on what the man is like – if he has kids, what his career is, what he looks like, etc – it causes you to focus outside of you and to give up your power to create what you want It feels like there is this “one specific person that must exist” in order for you to be happy, and that has you giving your power away. 

When you focus on the experience you want to create, it’s not about looking for “one person” so that you can have the relationship you want, it’s about creating something that another person wants to be part of creating with you!

What do you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?

Do you want to experience….

💕 laughing

💕 understanding

💕 calm communication

💕 affection

💕 soul-level intimacy

💕 fun

💕 respect

💕 unconditional love

💕 having a best friend and someone championing you in life

💕 feeling heard

💕 travel the world

💕 adventures

💕 honesty and faithfulness

The second thing you need in order to begin experiencing the relationship of your dreams is to have the skills to create your crystal-clear vision. 

You may say you want a cheerleader and best friend as a partner in life, but then you spend time protecting yourself and criticizing every man that comes along.

You may say you want to have fun and adventure, but then don’t want to spend time meeting new men on the app.

See the disconnect? Fear is standing in the way of you attracting what you want.

How do you recognize that there’s a fear that’s running you?  

That’s where we come in!  

A coach will tell you when and where you’re sabotaging yourself.
A coach will support you in seeing what you can’t see. 

We will show you the fears you have and the masks you may be wearing that are blocking you from having the love you want. 

AND, we’ll teach you how to get those Love Barriers out of the way so that you can begin experiencing the love, happiness, and intimacy you desire and deserve!

We will cause you to have a breakthrough!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough so you can actually start experiencing the kind of love  you desire, then join us tomorrow, Saturday, July 17th at 12pm ET for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!  

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you?

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

When you don’t have the conscious knowledge of what’s holding you back, all you can do is what you already know to do. And if you keep doing what you’ve always done – all you can hope to experience is what you’ve always had.

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do differently so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams… starting right NOW!!!

How to Move On So You Can Attract Extraordinary Love NOW!

How to Move On So You Can Attract Extraordinary Love NOW!

by | Jul 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Sex

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you having a hard time getting over a past relationship? 

When thinking about that past relationship, do you find yourself thinking…

…“But I still love him.” 

…“I really thought he was the one.”

…“How will I know I’m choosing the right man next time, when I was wrong this time?”

We hear these things from women all the time, and if you’re in this position right now, we’re here to tell you (with love)… It’s time to let it go!

If you’re still energetically connected to someone, whether you say you are or not, then it’s really difficult (if not impossible!) for someone new to come into your life. 

And, even if you do meet someone who you’re compatible with, the chemistry’s there, and you have a great time with him, it will still feel like something is off. 

It’s simply not possible to create something new and lasting if there’s something in the space that you haven’t let go of. 

If you’ve been “getting over someone” for 9 months, 2 years, 12 years, 40 years (gasp!), it’s time to get curious about why you feel as if you’re not able to move on. 

What’s really keeping you stuck?

Sometimes it’s the person and the past relationship you feel you can’t let go of.

Sometimes it’s the idea of the past relationship that you’ve glorified in your mind that’s keeping you stuck.

But, more often than not, it’s the fear that you won’t be able to feel the same way you felt about that someone again, and you’re afraid to let go and even try. 

Here’s the thing… 

You have to find the courage to let go of the past in order to move forward and create something new. 

The work there is to do is to accept what actually happened in the past relationship and complete it so that you can be present in current experiences, move forward and be happy NOW!

You don’t have to let go of the love you had/have for that person. You can choose to love him forever, if you want to.

What you do need to let go of is the attachment to being with him and having him be a part of your life… even if that part is only in your head. 

We believe there are people that come into our lives to teach us things or give us experiences that we need to have. 

When you can accept that a past relationship was simply that, and you are able to release it and move forward, that’s when magic starts to occur.  

Letting go and moving on from someone doesn’t have to take a year OR years!

When you make yourself the victim of someone else’s choices, it robs you of your power and you sacrifice: 

  • Having happiness now
  • Experiencing the relationship of your dreams now
  • Attracting the man that will love you fully and completely for the rest of your life
  • And everything else your heart desires

When you stop allowing someone else to determine whether or not you get to have the relationship of your dreams, you take back your power and you begin to attract men who are right for you now. 

If you’re ready to let go of your past and move forward into the love you dream about then let go of one hand and join us next Saturday for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!  

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you!

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

We know you aren’t staying stuck on purpose, but without knowing these steps, you are playing trial and error with your heart, causing yourself unnecessary heartache, and we want you to get unstuck now!

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!!!

How to Re-Enter the Dating Scene Today!

How to Re-Enter the Dating Scene Today!

by | Jul 7, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Has it been a while since you’ve been in the dating scene? 

Have you recently come out of a relationship and are wanting to get back out there? 

Or maybe you’ve been single for a while, and aren’t sure how you could possibly start dating again.

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re not alone! This topic has been requested so many times from the women in our community and we listened! 

So, what is it exactly that has you resist stepping back out there?

FEAR. 

Fear of….

… allowing yourself to be seen again.

… opening yourself up to rejection.

,,, wasting your time with the wrong man (or men)

… looking silly because you don’t know how to date anymore.

… not trusting this new thing called “online dating”

And those are just to name a few!

The starting over phase can feel like too much, which is why many women stay in toxic or abusive relationships or stay single when they really desire to be in a relationship. 

We get it. Doing anything for the first time, or for the first time in a long time, can be scary and feel really hard! 

But you can step back out there, and we’re here to show you how.

The first thing you need to remember is to grant yourself some space and grace. 

If you’re just coming out of a relationship, there is healing and HeartWork that must occur before you’ll be ready to jump back into the dating game. 

It’s necessary, and it’s okay! 

That being said, this healing time doesn’t need to take 5, 10, or 15 years! 

Give yourself enough time to get clear on why the past relationship didn’t work and to do any healing inside yourself that is necessary to have dating work the next time around.

There are two things you need to get clear on before you’ll be ready to date again. 

  • What had the relationship not work? 

Did you jump in too soon without knowing the person well enough? 

Was there poor communication? 

Were there character flaws you didn’t notice (or didn’t want to see) soon enough? 

Were there personal fears or limiting beliefs that had you sabotage the relationship?

  • What Heartwork do you need to do? 

Do you have limiting beliefs about men? About online dating, or dating in general? 

Do you have limiting beliefs about yourself? Men? Relationships?

Are you recognizing any patterns with the dating experiences you’re having? 

If you’re experiencing the same thing over and over again, what is having you be attracted to that? 

 Be open to the possibility that your limiting beliefs and fears aren’t “the truth,” and that there’s another possible truth.

Be crystal-clear about what you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams.. 

And then learn the best way to get back out there with power, grace, ease, and FUN! 

The longer you wait, the harder it’s going to be. 

Do the inner work, and then start taking steps that will lead you in the right direction.

Learn how to set up an online profile that attracts the kind of man you want to share your life with.

Let your family, friends and co-workers know you’re ready to start dating again and that you’re open to meeting good, 100% available men. Look on Eventbrite or MeetUp for opportunities to meet people, and go to singles activities in your community.

There are so many ways to meet good men! 

Be courageous. 

Be open. 

Allow yourself to be seen and known. 

Learn the BEST steps to take  to attract the RIGHT man so that you can be alert and aware vs. scared and suspicious. 

Oh! And remember to have FUN!! 

If you’d like support in getting clear on the best, most effective ways to get back out there, or if you’re struggling to find the courage to date again, we’d love to speak with you! 

Book a call to talk to one of our coaches now!  They will support you in identifying the Heartwork you need to do and validating that you’re ready so you can attract the man who will love you forever, starting right now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!