How to Embrace Your Feminine, Authentic Self

How to Embrace Your Feminine, Authentic Self

by | Sep 3, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, Love, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you a driven, ambitious, successful woman?

Do you spend your daytime hours of your career in your masculine (“doing”) energy? 

Do you find it difficult to relax into your feminine energy before a date, or when you’re with your partner? 

If you answered yes, it’s perfectly natural.  Being in our masculine/doing energy is called for when we’re at work and getting things done.

That said, when the work day is over, you get to take a moment and shift into your feminine energy. 

If you’re getting feedback that…

  • You seem like you don’t need anyone else
  • You act like you don’t want a man in your life or that you’re fine alone
  • You’re intimidating
  • Nothing is ever good enough for you
  • You’re aggressive of “too direct”

…then it’s time to look at how you can shift and relax into your feminine energy!

Now, to be clear, as we said above, masculine energy isn’t “bad.” 

The energy of doing, driving, managing, advising, etc. is what’s made you successful in your career and in other areas of your life! 

The problem is that it  simply doesn’t work when it comes to dating and romantic relationships.

Feminine Energy is NOT about being weak, not having a voice, acting like a doormat, or not having an opinion. 

Being in your innate, feminine and Irresistible Essence is powerful! It’s what has you show up as vulnerable, authentic, light and joyful. 

It IS the energy of BEing receptive. 

It’s allowing your partner to be there with  you and do things for you. 

It’s allowing others to see you and deeply connect with you. 

So what are the ways of BEing you can cultivate inside yourself so that your true feminine self shines through? 

These ways of BEing are what we call your Irresistible Essences — your innate power of femininity that creates the magical spark that naturally draws masculine men to you. 

We use the word MAGICAL to help you remember what they are:

M – Mesmerizing

A – Authentic

G – Gracious

I – Inspiring

C – Confident 

A – Alluring

L – Love-able

Let’s dive in a bit deeper, shall we? 

BEing Mesmerizing looks like captivating a man’s attention and drawing him into you through your Way of BEing. It’s like casting a spell that has men notice and be drawn to you. 

BEing Authentic means being YOURSELF. It’s knowing that you’re more than enough and showing up that way. Remember: He can’t fall (or stay) in love with you if YOU are not even there! 

BEing Gracious is allowing yourself to receive and giving him the gift of being able to give to you. Some women really struggle with this one, because they’re so used to doing for themselves. It’s important to point out that receiving is NOT about being entitled or not being able to take care of yourself.

For example, on a date, allowing the man to pay is not about “expecting” him to do something or feeling like you’re entitled to the dinner.  It’s about graciously accepting that he’s invited you out and receiving that with grace and gratitude. 

So, allow him to pay. Accept his compliments. And offer gratitude in return.  Let him know how much you appreciated the dinner, his  company, and the date.  It’s highly attractive, and knowing he was able to make you smile will inspire him to want to do even more!

BEing Inspiring means being a breath of happiness, love and fun. No one wants to swim in a pool of upset. So instead of making him feel obligated to be with you or required to do anything, inspire him to show up for you by the way you are when you’re around him.

BEing Confident looks like doing your own thing and creating your own happiness. It’s knowing that you’re enough without feeling as if you have to “prove” it. Remember this: Confidence is the #1 most attractive thing to a man. 

BEing Alluring is also a Way of BEing. It means being radiant, authentic, drawing people to you simply by being the amazing woman you are. 

BEing Love-Able means knowing deep down, for real, that you are both able to love and be loved by another. It looks like knowing you don’t have to withhold love or be afraid to receive it. 

So there you have it! 

These 7 ways of BEing, the Irresistible Essences, are what will support you in relaxing into your feminine energy and attracting a man that wants to get to know you, and wants to stay with you!

If you’d like support with showing up more fully as your true, authentic, feminine self, book a call with our coaches now. 

If it’s become second nature to be in your masculine energy, it’s okay! You can learn how to easily shift and feel more fully connected to you.  We can show you how!

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session here.

You Can Break Through Your Fears Now!

You Can Break Through Your Fears Now!

by | Aug 13, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz 

What are fears that come up in the realm of love and relationships? 

Are you afraid you won’t be enough? 

Are you terrified of rejection or abandonment? 

Are you scared you’ll keep repeating your heartbreaking past and are afraid to try again now? 

Maybe you’re afraid that…

  • dating will just be a waste of time
  • you’ll be controlled
  • you’ll lose yourself in a relationship 
  • you won’t find someone who really understands you
  • it’ll be hard to share your life with someone 
  • you’ll get your heartbroken (again)
  • he’ll lie or cheat like every other guy has

Obviously, those are only some of the fears that come up for women while dating.

What are your fears?

The thing about fear is that it’s a fact of life. 

It’s part of being human, and there’s no way out of that. 

The other thing about fear is that even though it’s a given in life, it doesn’t have to control your life.

Fear is your brain’s way of thinking about what you are afraid is or isn’t going to happen. 

And your brain doesn’t recognize the difference between an imagined fear and what’s actually happening. 

When fear is running the show, you’ll subconsciously sabotage your experiences in an attempt to either stop whatever you’re afraid of from happening, or force something to happen. 

By taking ownership of your fears and recognizing what is an imagined fear vs reality, you take your power back and can be the conscious owner of your life and your results.

None of us want to waste our time, get our hearts broken, be rejected, or experience the same painful things we’ve experienced in the past. 

When you take the time to do the necessary Heartwork, you increase your chances of attracting the man and relationships that will be good for you. 

And the first step to doing that is to powerfully master your fears. 

So, how do you do that?

1. Distinguish your fear by recognizing what it is and where it comes from.

2. Dismantle the fear by doing the work to release it and leave it in the past. Then, when fearful thoughts come up — because they will — you’ll be able to see them for what they are, instead of relating to them as “the truth.”

3. Replace the fear with a new empowering belief that has you open up to new ideas of what’s possible for you. 

You don’t have to be afraid of what’s happened in the past. 

You can experience love, happiness, peace and healing in your heart when you do the Heartwork necessary to break through your fears! 

If you’d like support with learning how to master your thoughts and emotions so you aren’t being driven by them, we want to support you! 

Our Ready to Love Again Program begins in just over a week, and this is the powerful work we begin with!   

If you are at all interested in learning more, or if you’d simply like to chat with someone about how you (yes, YOU!) can learn to dismantle your fears and take control of your life, click below to book a Love Breakthrough Call.  

Schedule a Love Breakthrough Session

Our coaches are here to support you in seeing what you can’t see right now, so that you can move forward and create the life and love your heart desires!

How to Stop Rushing and Start Believing It’s Coming

How to Stop Rushing and Start Believing It’s Coming

by | Jul 23, 2021 | Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, heartache, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Success

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you feeling impatient with dating? 

Are you wondering if it’s ever going to happen for you?

Does it feel like it’s taking sooooooo long, you’re beginning to wonder if you even care anymore?

I remember feeling that way. 

I remember feeling extremely disappointed in the experience I was having with dating. 

I remember after I’d gotten divorced I had this incredible feeling like, “Wow! I finally have a chance to have everything I want now!”

It wasn’t too long before I realized it may not be as fun or as easy as I’d thought it would be and I began to want to give up. 

I know the feelings. 

I know the stirring of impatience. 

…wondering if it’s ever going to happen for me.

…the frustration.

…the (what seemed like) endless crying.

… questioning my judgement because I kept picking the wrong men.

…wanting to give up and instead, focus on my kids and my career.

I know how all of that feels which is why it’s become our mission to share what we learned with you. 

Why is it so important to stay patient while dating?

So you can maintain the excitement for it, which will have you attract exactly what you desire.

And so that you don’t go into desperation and are able to stick with the process as you develop the skills.

There are three important things to remember while dating: 

  • Have Faith.

Believe that it’s going to happen for you. It wouldn’t be a desire in your heart, if it wasn’t meant to happen for you. 

Believe that you’ll find the right coach. 

Believe that what is meant for you is coming if you simply stay the course. 

  • Believe in Yourself.

Know that you can turn your patterns around. 

Know that you’ll be able to stay strong and committed through the process. 

Know that you can do it. 

You can create anything your heart desires. Believing that I deserved it is what changed everything for me.

  • Follow Through on the Promises you Make to Yourself.

If you don’t stand for yourself and for what you want, you will grasp for anything you can get. You will go into desperation mode and won’t let it happen naturally. 

Lean into the coaching and training you are in this community to have. If you don’t, you’ll talk yourself out of the miracle that’s waiting for you.

My life became miraculously magical when I did the HeartWork. Everything, not just my love life, began to shift. 

Everything changed when I learned to take my time and BE the kind of woman that could attract the man I wanted. 

There was no rush because I knew it was coming. 

Imagine what it would be like to BE in your life like that? 

To live without rush or desperation because you know it’s already on its way and that, not only do you deserve it, but that you have the skills to create it. 

You deserve to have the type of love you want. You deserve to have your heart’s desire!

The Extraordinary Love Intensive is just around the corner and if you’d like to shift your love life (not to mention your whole life!) when you need to join us! 

This three-day deep dive event is designed to have you break through the barriers holding you back so you can create the extraordinary relationship of your dreams. 

After the event there will be no more thinking it’s never going to happen or that being in the relationship your heart desires is not for you. 

After the event you will know it’s coming for you, believe in yourself and your ability to create it and have the skills to follow through and stay the course! 

Claim your ticket here. 

Remember, it wouldn’t be a desire in your heart if it wasn’t meant to happen for you. 

See you at the Extraordinary Love Intensive!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

by | Jul 16, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz 

What is standing in your way of creating the relationship of your dreams? 

Are there self-sabotaging tendencies and patterns that are causing your love life to not move forward like you’d like it to? 

If so, are you getting frustrated, angry or hopeless? 

The frustration you feel that things aren’t happening like you’d like can manifest differently for different people. 

Maybe you feel angry – thinking that all men are jerks, dating sucks, and online dating will never lead you to a good man.

Perhaps you feel sad and hopeless – thinking that it’s never really going to happen for you, so why even try? Which leads you to wanting to give up. 

If that’s what you’re currently experiencing, it’s important to look at how often those feelings show up, not just in your love life, but in every aspect of your life, because that’s going to give you the clues to what you need to shift.

So, how do you make the relationship of your dreams happen now? 

First, you have to get crystal-clear on what you want to experience in that relationship. 

Notice that we didn’t say, get crystal-clear on what you want the man to be like or what  you want to get out of the relationship.

It’s about the experience you want to have! 

When you focus on what the man is like – if he has kids, what his career is, what he looks like, etc – it causes you to focus outside of you and to give up your power to create what you want It feels like there is this “one specific person that must exist” in order for you to be happy, and that has you giving your power away. 

When you focus on the experience you want to create, it’s not about looking for “one person” so that you can have the relationship you want, it’s about creating something that another person wants to be part of creating with you!

What do you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?

Do you want to experience….

💕 laughing

💕 understanding

💕 calm communication

💕 affection

💕 soul-level intimacy

💕 fun

💕 respect

💕 unconditional love

💕 having a best friend and someone championing you in life

💕 feeling heard

💕 travel the world

💕 adventures

💕 honesty and faithfulness

The second thing you need in order to begin experiencing the relationship of your dreams is to have the skills to create your crystal-clear vision. 

You may say you want a cheerleader and best friend as a partner in life, but then you spend time protecting yourself and criticizing every man that comes along.

You may say you want to have fun and adventure, but then don’t want to spend time meeting new men on the app.

See the disconnect? Fear is standing in the way of you attracting what you want.

How do you recognize that there’s a fear that’s running you?  

That’s where we come in!  

A coach will tell you when and where you’re sabotaging yourself.
A coach will support you in seeing what you can’t see. 

We will show you the fears you have and the masks you may be wearing that are blocking you from having the love you want. 

AND, we’ll teach you how to get those Love Barriers out of the way so that you can begin experiencing the love, happiness, and intimacy you desire and deserve!

We will cause you to have a breakthrough!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough so you can actually start experiencing the kind of love  you desire, then join us tomorrow, Saturday, July 17th at 12pm ET for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!  

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you?

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

When you don’t have the conscious knowledge of what’s holding you back, all you can do is what you already know to do. And if you keep doing what you’ve always done – all you can hope to experience is what you’ve always had.

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do differently so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams… starting right NOW!!!

How to Move On So You Can Attract Extraordinary Love NOW!

How to Move On So You Can Attract Extraordinary Love NOW!

by | Jul 9, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Sex

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you having a hard time getting over a past relationship? 

When thinking about that past relationship, do you find yourself thinking…

…“But I still love him.” 

…“I really thought he was the one.”

…“How will I know I’m choosing the right man next time, when I was wrong this time?”

We hear these things from women all the time, and if you’re in this position right now, we’re here to tell you (with love)… It’s time to let it go!

If you’re still energetically connected to someone, whether you say you are or not, then it’s really difficult (if not impossible!) for someone new to come into your life. 

And, even if you do meet someone who you’re compatible with, the chemistry’s there, and you have a great time with him, it will still feel like something is off. 

It’s simply not possible to create something new and lasting if there’s something in the space that you haven’t let go of. 

If you’ve been “getting over someone” for 9 months, 2 years, 12 years, 40 years (gasp!), it’s time to get curious about why you feel as if you’re not able to move on. 

What’s really keeping you stuck?

Sometimes it’s the person and the past relationship you feel you can’t let go of.

Sometimes it’s the idea of the past relationship that you’ve glorified in your mind that’s keeping you stuck.

But, more often than not, it’s the fear that you won’t be able to feel the same way you felt about that someone again, and you’re afraid to let go and even try. 

Here’s the thing… 

You have to find the courage to let go of the past in order to move forward and create something new. 

The work there is to do is to accept what actually happened in the past relationship and complete it so that you can be present in current experiences, move forward and be happy NOW!

You don’t have to let go of the love you had/have for that person. You can choose to love him forever, if you want to.

What you do need to let go of is the attachment to being with him and having him be a part of your life… even if that part is only in your head. 

We believe there are people that come into our lives to teach us things or give us experiences that we need to have. 

When you can accept that a past relationship was simply that, and you are able to release it and move forward, that’s when magic starts to occur.  

Letting go and moving on from someone doesn’t have to take a year OR years!

When you make yourself the victim of someone else’s choices, it robs you of your power and you sacrifice: 

  • Having happiness now
  • Experiencing the relationship of your dreams now
  • Attracting the man that will love you fully and completely for the rest of your life
  • And everything else your heart desires

When you stop allowing someone else to determine whether or not you get to have the relationship of your dreams, you take back your power and you begin to attract men who are right for you now. 

If you’re ready to let go of your past and move forward into the love you dream about then let go of one hand and join us next Saturday for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!  

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you!

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

We know you aren’t staying stuck on purpose, but without knowing these steps, you are playing trial and error with your heart, causing yourself unnecessary heartache, and we want you to get unstuck now!

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams!!!

How to Re-Enter the Dating Scene Today!

How to Re-Enter the Dating Scene Today!

by | Jul 7, 2021 | Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Has it been a while since you’ve been in the dating scene? 

Have you recently come out of a relationship and are wanting to get back out there? 

Or maybe you’ve been single for a while, and aren’t sure how you could possibly start dating again.

If you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re not alone! This topic has been requested so many times from the women in our community and we listened! 

So, what is it exactly that has you resist stepping back out there?

FEAR. 

Fear of….

… allowing yourself to be seen again.

… opening yourself up to rejection.

,,, wasting your time with the wrong man (or men)

… looking silly because you don’t know how to date anymore.

… not trusting this new thing called “online dating”

And those are just to name a few!

The starting over phase can feel like too much, which is why many women stay in toxic or abusive relationships or stay single when they really desire to be in a relationship. 

We get it. Doing anything for the first time, or for the first time in a long time, can be scary and feel really hard! 

But you can step back out there, and we’re here to show you how.

The first thing you need to remember is to grant yourself some space and grace. 

If you’re just coming out of a relationship, there is healing and HeartWork that must occur before you’ll be ready to jump back into the dating game. 

It’s necessary, and it’s okay! 

That being said, this healing time doesn’t need to take 5, 10, or 15 years! 

Give yourself enough time to get clear on why the past relationship didn’t work and to do any healing inside yourself that is necessary to have dating work the next time around.

There are two things you need to get clear on before you’ll be ready to date again. 

  • What had the relationship not work? 

Did you jump in too soon without knowing the person well enough? 

Was there poor communication? 

Were there character flaws you didn’t notice (or didn’t want to see) soon enough? 

Were there personal fears or limiting beliefs that had you sabotage the relationship?

  • What Heartwork do you need to do? 

Do you have limiting beliefs about men? About online dating, or dating in general? 

Do you have limiting beliefs about yourself? Men? Relationships?

Are you recognizing any patterns with the dating experiences you’re having? 

If you’re experiencing the same thing over and over again, what is having you be attracted to that? 

 Be open to the possibility that your limiting beliefs and fears aren’t “the truth,” and that there’s another possible truth.

Be crystal-clear about what you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams.. 

And then learn the best way to get back out there with power, grace, ease, and FUN! 

The longer you wait, the harder it’s going to be. 

Do the inner work, and then start taking steps that will lead you in the right direction.

Learn how to set up an online profile that attracts the kind of man you want to share your life with.

Let your family, friends and co-workers know you’re ready to start dating again and that you’re open to meeting good, 100% available men. Look on Eventbrite or MeetUp for opportunities to meet people, and go to singles activities in your community.

There are so many ways to meet good men! 

Be courageous. 

Be open. 

Allow yourself to be seen and known. 

Learn the BEST steps to take  to attract the RIGHT man so that you can be alert and aware vs. scared and suspicious. 

Oh! And remember to have FUN!! 

If you’d like support in getting clear on the best, most effective ways to get back out there, or if you’re struggling to find the courage to date again, we’d love to speak with you! 

Book a call to talk to one of our coaches now!  They will support you in identifying the Heartwork you need to do and validating that you’re ready so you can attract the man who will love you forever, starting right now!

Book a Love Breakthrough Session Now!