The Secret To Stop Getting “Triggered”!

The Secret To Stop Getting “Triggered”!

by | Jul 15, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz

Would you like to be able to feel confident in any situation or conversation you encounter that you’ll be able to handle it with grace and ease? 

How would it feel to experience less reactivity or emotional meltdown and experience more happiness and joy? 

Imagine what it would mean for your life if you were able to maintain peace inside of you no matter what happens around you? 

Tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop we’re going to be showing you how to create just that!

See if this scenario sounds familiar: 

Something happens…

… your boyfriend says something in a “tone”

… a guy you’ve been texting stops responding

… your boss calls you in for an unscheduled meeting

… a co-worker doesn’t do something they promised they’d do

… someone cuts you off on the highway
 

And all of the sudden you feel disrespected, rejected, worried or angry. 

You’re “triggered.” 

A memory, fear or limiting belief was opened up and like a domino effect sets off a series of other thoughts and associated behaviors.

The switch has been flipped and you have an emotional reaction that has you say or do things you later regret. Your mind and mouth take on a mind of their own and it’s not until after the dust has settled that you regret your behavior and see the line of carnage in your wake. 

We’ve all been there, . 

There was a time when Ric and I couldn’t even talk about some things for longer then 5 minutes because one of us would explode.

Sometimes the fall-out you create from these emotional reactions is short-lived. 

But sometimes, the result is a complete loss of a relationship, future relationship, or opportunity. 

The result is always a loss of personal peace and confidence and the impact on you and those around you is loss of time, energy, intimacy, connection, happiness and joy.

What if you didn’t have to experience things that way? 

What if you could turn off the “trigger” in an instant before it spiraled out of control? 

What if you could have mastery over your emotions instead of being a reaction waiting to happen? 

That’s what we’re going to be teaching you how to do tomorrow in the Girl, It’s Not Personal! Workshop. 

You’re going to learn how to: 

  • Identify the emotional triggers that have you react, strike back, or shut down in conversations and relationships.
  • Break through the automatic and limiting thought patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and relationships, so that you can attract and keep the love your heart desires
  • Increase your level of self awareness and master managing your emotions , so that you are able to have empowering conversations and build a strong, happy, and loving relationship

The reason why marriages aren’t working right now is because most people don’t have the skills to not have a reaction to what others say and do. 

Ric and I almost lost our marriage because of this. 

But we didn’t because we up-leveled our emotional intelligence by learning the tools and skills that work in communicating and relationships. Now we can discuss anything for as long as we want to and maintain connection, love and peace in the space. 

And that’s what we want for you too. 

 

 

Marriage Isn’t the Real Goal – Here’s What Is.

Marriage Isn’t the Real Goal – Here’s What Is.

by | Mar 11, 2022 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, HDI Blog, Heart's Desire International, Marriage, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you know what is the biggest mistake women make when it comes to dating?

Do you want to know the answer to why 50% of marriages in the United States fail?

Do you want to have a real conversation about what you can do to make sure you don’t become part of that statistic? 

We’ve got you. 

The biggest mistake women make while dating is being solely focused on finding the right man and not thinking about the lifetime that will follow. 

Shortly after we started our coaching we noticed women getting amazing results – they were attracting really awesome men (which was no surprise to us!) 

The problem was that then they would self-sabotage. 

They would start doing the same things they did with the wrong men. The old patterns would resurface with the new, great guy, and there’d be a breakdown in the relationship. 

That’s why we’re passionate about teaching women how to break through old patterns that are continuing to follow them around! 

Because the real goal isn’t marriage. 

The REAL goal is creating a life-time love.

Research has found that the most common reasons people give for their marriage ending are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse.

We understand this first hand because Michelle’s 1st marriage ended in divorce and after my first husband passed away and I found Ric, my marriage almost ended also. 

When I was first married to Ric things were so incredible!

I would lay in bed at night with tears of gratitude streaming down my face because I was so in awe that I’d found Ric. I was in love again and with an incredibly good man! 

It was incredible because there’d been a time when I didn’t think that was possible. 

But then, 6 years later, we started to fall apart. 

I didn’t have the skills to create a life-long love. 

I didn’t have the communication skills that work. 

I thought I always had to be right. 

I thought I was being honest and encouraging when I would tell him what he should be doing and how good he’d be at it.  

I almost lost that beautiful marriage. 

But then I became super committed to learning about how to create a lasting relationship. 

I learned that being right wasn’t that important. 

I learned how to say things in a way that Ric could hear. 

I learned how to respect his thoughts, ideas and opinions – even if I didn’t agree with them! 

I learned that doing the Heartwork that we now teach along with learning the skills I didn’t have naturally was the key to not only maintaining the beautiful relationship I had found with Ric – but make it stronger and stronger year after year! 

And here we are 23 years later and happier than ever. 

So how do you break through your love barriers that are having you sabotage your relationships? 

  • Get Curious 

What are the patterns you’re seeing? 

What isn’t  working? 

What are the things that keep showing up in your relationships that have them break down?

  • Dive into where the sabotaging patterns came from.

Why does this pattern exist for you? 

What is the fear or belief behind the behavior? 

When did you first experience this? 

  • Learn what to do to replace the sabotaging pattern. 

This is the part that most people miss! The only way to really break through a barrier in your life is to learn what to replace the old pattern with. 

You have the ability to create a strong foundation for your relationship that you can keep growing and growing forever when you break through your love barriers and learn the skills that will have that relationship continue to grow in love, passion and respect for a life-time. 

If you’re single and you’d like to attract the right man or if you’re in a relationship that you want to last forever, book a call with one of our coaches so you can have a breakthrough! 

Schedule your Love Breakthrough Session

Come to the call knowing the pattern that you’re seeing and what you’re interested in creating so you can have a breakthrough! 

You don’t need to be part of the 50% whose marriage will end in divorce. You can attract the right man and create a relationship together that will last a life-time – all you have to do is learn how.

Get Over Your Fears and Attract the RIGHT Man Now!

Get Over Your Fears and Attract the RIGHT Man Now!

by | Oct 1, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Dating, Getting engaged, Heart's Desire International, heartache, Infidelity, Intimacy, Love, Relationship

by Gladys Diaz 

Do you have any of these thoughts (or do you maybe even say these things out loud to your girlfriends or family)?

“Dating is the worst!”

“I’m better off alone with my dog.”

“I’m tired of wasting my time!”

“Meeting lots of men just doesn’t fulfill me.” 

“I’m over it.”

Do you want to understand why you keep having the same experience over and over with dating, when you want so deeply to find the relationship of your dreams? 

Dating doesn’t have to be hard or complicated.

If there’s a gap between the type of men you’d like to be attracting and the men you actually are attracting – there’s something in the way. 

If there are fears in the background (or maybe not so much in the background) swirling around like a hurricane in your head – it’s impossible to attract a man that’s right for you. 

You either attract what you want or you attract what you fear.

When those fears are swirling around in your mind, you will attract what you fear. Each time you do, you gather more and more evidence that what you fear is your truth – and nothing changes. 

If you’re attracting what you don’t want – it’s not your fault! It’s not because something’s wrong with you – so if that’s what you’re hearing… stop and listen. 

It’s okay. 

Let us support you in finding out what fears and limiting beliefs are in your space. Let’s get to the bottom of what you see (or what you don’t see) that’s having you have that looping experience.  

When you clear up those fears and get clear on what you really want – you WILL attract the man that is absolutely, 100% right for YOU.

We want to support you in clearing up those fears so you can attract the relationship of your dreams!! 

Truly, when you do – everything changes.

How to Break Through and Create the Love Your Heart Desires!

How to Break Through and Create the Love Your Heart Desires!

by | Sep 17, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Heart's Desire International, heartache, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Self-Love, Success, Successful Women

by Gladys Diaz 

Are you being a “victim” in your dating life? 

Do you feel like you can’t trust yourself to make the best decisions? 

Are you afraid that you’ll make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past, which led you to being hurt or taken advantage of?

If you answered yes to any of the following – or if you have that tingly feeling in your gut that’s telling you this is something you should listen to – here’s what you need to know. 

If your goals aren’t coming to fruition there is something stopping you from creating the results you want. Something from the past is holding you back. 

The thing is – the past is not a predictor of your future, it’s simply an informer. 

The problem is – most women hold onto what happened in the past so tightly that they then create strategies to make sure whatever happened doesn’t happen again. 

This doesn’t work. 

The only thing that does work is to get to the root of WHY the thing happened in the first place and then heal ALL of it. 

Whatever it is from your past that is still standing in the way is a love barrier and if you don’t find a way to break it and have a breakthrough around it, do you know what’s going to happen? 

The next year will look just like the past year, or the past two years, or maybe even the last 10!

Not because that’s all that’s meant for you. But because that’s what you’ve been creating and will continue to create until you break through it. 

So how do you break through? 

First, you get to accept that the past doesn’t define you. The decisions you made or the circumstances that found you, aren’t who you are. 

You get to forgive yourself and others for the experience you had and then you get to let it go. 

Second, you get to recreate the story. 

Do you know who you’d be without that story or suffering? 

Most women stay stuck for this very reason. They don’t. And not knowing who they are is scarier than staying stuck.

Does this sound familiar? 

If you want to transform and break out of the love barriers standing in your way, you have to break through the story that’s keeping you from creating the results that you want, from creating the relationship of your dreams!

If this is something you want then join us next week for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge! 

If you want to have a break through in: 

⭐ dating high quality men

⭐ creating abundance in every area of your life

⭐ settling the past and moving forward

⭐ finding your feminine energy and flow

⭐ forgiving and trusting yourself again

⭐ believing that you can trust men and have fun again

⭐ finding freedom

⭐ not taking things personally

⭐ anything else that may be holding you back

… then this is the challenge for you! 

In this 5-Day Real Love Breakthrough Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same effective, clear and proven steps of our HeartWork™️ process, we’ve personally used and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!

It’s FREE to join and it starts on Monday, so don’t delay. 

Click here to register for the Real Love Breakthrough Challenge! 

If 2021 looks too similar to 2020 – or the year before that – there is a barrier in your way. 

You get to be the source of the breakthrough to create everything your heart desires! 

Join us on Monday! 

Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Life With These Solutions!

Stop Sabotaging Your Dating Life With These Solutions!

by | Sep 10, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Heart's Desire International, keeping the love alive, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Relationship Advice

by Gladys Diaz 

Does it feel like your results in dating keep getting sabotaged?

Have you noticed you keep having the same (or similar) experience over and over again (and they’re not the ones you want)? 

Are you ready to break through these sabotaging patterns once and for all so you can create the relationship of your dreams?!

The top three patterns we see from our clients that are sabotaging their dating (consciously or unconsciously) are: 

  1. Dating only one man at a time
  2. Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship
  3. Complaining about dating

Do you think you may be falling into any of these patterns? 

Let’s break each of  them down so you see what we’re talking about. 

#1 Sabotaging Pattern: Dating only one man at a time. 

We’ve said it once, and we’ll say it a thousand more times: Dating only one man at a time is setting yourself up for failure. Not only that, but this pattern will cause the dating process to take so much more time than necessary.

And we know you don’t want to waste your time!

Solution: Date more than one man at a time.

What does this look like? 

Dating means spending time with someone and getting to know them.
Dating more than one person at a time means going on dates with multiple men and getting to know them while noticing what you are and aren’t experiencing with them. 

This doesn’t mean you’re sleeping around, having sex with all of them, or even kissing multiple men! 

It simply means you’re talking, meeting, and getting to know them so that you can make an informed decision about whether you’d like to keep getting to know them or not. 

Why does this matter? When you’re only seeing one man at a time, you limit your availability, options and experience.

When you open yourself up to seeing multiple men, you increase your chances of creating a relationship with the man that’s right for you. 

You also take the pressure off of not only the men, but yourself!
You’re able to keep yourself from getting attached to anyone too soon, making a relationship out of something that’s not one, and getting your heart broken unnecessarily. 

#2 Sabotaging Pattern: Settling for less than what you really want in a man/relationship

Choosing to keep seeing someone who is having you experience less than the relationship of your dreams, is settling.
Doing so, wastes precious time you could be spending with someone else (i.e. the RIGHT man!).

Solution:  Do the HeartWork to break through this pattern. 

Settling comes from a belief that you don’t deserve what you truly want, that it doesn’t exist, or that you won’t be able to get it, so you do what you think you have to do to save yourself from disappointment. 

Why does this matter? Until you break through these limiting beliefs, you will never be able to create the relationship of your dreams and attract not only a man, but the man who is aligned with the experience and the kind of relationship you want to have.

#3 Sabotaging Pattern: Complaining about dating

Constantly talking about how hard dating is, how frustrated you are with the experience, how terrible the men you’re attracting are, or how long the process is taking is a sabotaging pattern. 

When you do this, you then create experiences to prove that you’re right.
Do you really want to be right about any of that?

Solution: Pay attention to your language and create effective ways to date. 

Why does this matter? Your mind believes what you tell it is true, and you then subconsciously create the experiences that will have you prove yourself right.

Energy flows where attention goes!

So, instead of complaining about what you don’t want or what isn’t working, get crystal-clear and stay laser-focused on the kind of relationship you want to experience for the rest of your life. 

Your life — including the relationship of your dreams is your creation!

What do you want to create? 

If you want to have a Love Breakthrough and turn these self-sabotaging patterns (plus the ones  that you might not even realize are there for you!) around once and for all,  then you need to join us for the Love Breakthrough Challenge! 

In this 5-Day Love Breakthrough Challenge, we’re going to guide you through the same EFFECTIVE, CLEAR, AND PROVEN steps of our HeartWork process, we’ve personally used in our own lives and have shared with thousands of women around the world, which is what has empowered them to shift from being frustrated, disappointed, and lonely to being happy and successful in love!

Click here to sign up for FREE now!

We start on Monday, September 20th, so sign up now. 

This WILL transform you and your love life!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

How to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams NOW!

by | Jul 16, 2021 | breakups, Coaching, Communication, Dating, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Heart's Desire International, Intimacy, keeping the love alive, Loss of a Spouse, Love, Ready to Love Again, Relationship, Self-Love

by Gladys Diaz 

What is standing in your way of creating the relationship of your dreams? 

Are there self-sabotaging tendencies and patterns that are causing your love life to not move forward like you’d like it to? 

If so, are you getting frustrated, angry or hopeless? 

The frustration you feel that things aren’t happening like you’d like can manifest differently for different people. 

Maybe you feel angry – thinking that all men are jerks, dating sucks, and online dating will never lead you to a good man.

Perhaps you feel sad and hopeless – thinking that it’s never really going to happen for you, so why even try? Which leads you to wanting to give up. 

If that’s what you’re currently experiencing, it’s important to look at how often those feelings show up, not just in your love life, but in every aspect of your life, because that’s going to give you the clues to what you need to shift.

So, how do you make the relationship of your dreams happen now? 

First, you have to get crystal-clear on what you want to experience in that relationship. 

Notice that we didn’t say, get crystal-clear on what you want the man to be like or what  you want to get out of the relationship.

It’s about the experience you want to have! 

When you focus on what the man is like – if he has kids, what his career is, what he looks like, etc – it causes you to focus outside of you and to give up your power to create what you want It feels like there is this “one specific person that must exist” in order for you to be happy, and that has you giving your power away. 

When you focus on the experience you want to create, it’s not about looking for “one person” so that you can have the relationship you want, it’s about creating something that another person wants to be part of creating with you!

What do you want to experience in the relationship of your dreams?

Do you want to experience….

💕 laughing

💕 understanding

💕 calm communication

💕 affection

💕 soul-level intimacy

💕 fun

💕 respect

💕 unconditional love

💕 having a best friend and someone championing you in life

💕 feeling heard

💕 travel the world

💕 adventures

💕 honesty and faithfulness

The second thing you need in order to begin experiencing the relationship of your dreams is to have the skills to create your crystal-clear vision. 

You may say you want a cheerleader and best friend as a partner in life, but then you spend time protecting yourself and criticizing every man that comes along.

You may say you want to have fun and adventure, but then don’t want to spend time meeting new men on the app.

See the disconnect? Fear is standing in the way of you attracting what you want.

How do you recognize that there’s a fear that’s running you?  

That’s where we come in!  

A coach will tell you when and where you’re sabotaging yourself.
A coach will support you in seeing what you can’t see. 

We will show you the fears you have and the masks you may be wearing that are blocking you from having the love you want. 

AND, we’ll teach you how to get those Love Barriers out of the way so that you can begin experiencing the love, happiness, and intimacy you desire and deserve!

We will cause you to have a breakthrough!

If you’re ready to have a breakthrough so you can actually start experiencing the kind of love  you desire, then join us tomorrow, Saturday, July 17th at 12pm ET for the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass! 

In three information-packed hours, you’ll learn exactly how to break through the patterns that have been sabotaging your love life and relationships, tap into your Irresistible Essence, and easily attract and keep the love you want NOW, so that you can create the happy, loving relationship with the man who is going to love you for the rest of your life!  

PLUS, this masterclass is being offered to you for FREE! What is there to stop you?

Join us at the Extraordinary Love NOW Masterclass!

When you don’t have the conscious knowledge of what’s holding you back, all you can do is what you already know to do. And if you keep doing what you’ve always done – all you can hope to experience is what you’ve always had.

This workshop style masterclass will support you getting crystal-clear clarity on what you need to do differently so that you can start moving forward in your love life and really start attracting the man and relationship of your dreams… starting right NOW!!!