What “Dying” and “Letting Go” Have to Do with Love

What “Dying” and “Letting Go” Have to Do with Love

by Gladys Diaz

Today, for those of us who are Christians, is Good Friday.

As a young girl, I always wondered why it was called “Good” Friday, when it marked such a sad day.  I honestly could not see how remembering a brutal death of someone we loved and followed was supposed to be something “good.”

It wasn’t until I got older that I realized that, without the death of Jesus, there would not and could not have been a resurrection.

Resurrection can only come after death.

Much like healing can only come after injury or illness…

… rebuilding can only come after destruction…

… renewed hope can only come after a period of doubt or hopelessness.

And, many times, true love comes after heartache.

I know that was the truth for me, for Michelle, and for so many of the women who we have helped around the world to find the love they desire and deserve.

It’s also what’s true if you want to create a true breakthrough and transformation in your love life.

See, there is a letting go — a “dying,” of sorts — that has to happen if you are going to truly open your heart to a new and extraordinary kind of love.

You have to be willing to let go of the past, of your fears and your heartache.  

You need to let go of your limiting beliefs and doubts, your judgments and expectations in order to create something completely new and different from what you have had and experienced in the past.

So, here’s my question to you:

What are you willing to let go of, once and for all, so that you can begin to welcome in the love that is waiting for you on the other side of your past?

What fear, doubt, belief or pattern are you ready to release so that new and extraordinary love can find its way to you?

What resentment, regret, or disempowering story are you finally willing to let go of so that you can create a new story — one that has you living the life and love your heart desires?

I know that letting go can feel scary, but it’s not quite so frightening when you don’t have to figure out how to do it on your own.  Remember, we’re here for you!

Remember: The past has no power over you, except for the power you grant it in the present.  Sometimes, letting go of just one fear or limiting belief can open the floodgates to letting new love in!
So let us know, what is one thing you are committed of letting go of so that you can have the love and happiness you desire and deserve?
How to Work Through “Deep-Tissue Issues” in Your Love Life

How to Work Through “Deep-Tissue Issues” in Your Love Life

by Gladys Diaz

Yesterday was the first day of school for my kids, and I took the opportunity to pamper myself and get a deep-tissue Swedish massage, courtesy of my wonderful hubby!

As I was lying on the table, enjoying the soft meditation music, the candles, and looking forward to a nice, relaxing massage, all of a sudden, all I could feel was PAIN! And lots of it!

I actually found myself holding my breath a few times because of the pain I could feel under the masseuse’s expert hands!

At one point, I thought I would tell her to stop, and then I noticed something…

I began to notice how my muscles were responding to her touch.

I became aware of how, while I wasn’t stressed out or feeling pain when I first laid down on the table, there were parts of my body that were obviously story pain and stress, based on the “knots” she was finding and deeply massaging.

And, I noticed how she would dig really deep into a muscle, work there for a while, go somewhere else, and then come back to it and work on it some more.

That’s when I thought of you! (Yes, even while getting a massage, you are on my mind! Can’t help it!)

Here’s why:

I started thinking about how, sometimes, we have some “deep-tissue” pain stored in our memories, our hearts, and our bodies that are related to the past.

Maybe it has to do with a relationship that ended painfully.

Maybe you’re in a relationship right now, where you’re feeling some pain.

Or perhaps you’re feeling stuck in your life and you keep wondering, “I’ve prayed, meditated, read all these books, watched videos, attended courses, and worked with different coaches! When am I finally going to break through this?”

I get it! I’ve been there myself! And, here’s the deal:

Sometimes, you just need to go back and dig a little deeper to truly release the pain so that you can move forward with joy, peace, and the love you desire and deserve!

It’s during those times of release that you are able to put the past back in the past where it belongs so that you can move toward the present and future that are waiting for you!

Well, I was so inspired by all of the thoughts and insights I had during that massage, that, when I finished, I went to Facebook and shot a live video (Well, two, actually, because I lost connection during the first one, but I just had to share this with you!)


I know it can be tempting to feel like the “deep-tissue” inner work you’ve done isn’t working, but… what if…?

What if you’re just inches away from your next breakthrough?

What if you can dig a little deeper and finally have the happiness and love you want?

What would that make possible for you?

Check out the video and let me know what opens up for you!

Don’t forget to comment below!  We love hearing from you!


What to Do When You Say the Wrong Thing to Your Partner

by Gladys Diaz

I’ll admit it.  Today’s video took a little bit of courage to make, because I’m sharing something I’m not very proud of that happened between my husband and me.

The moment I said it, I regretted it!

I felt it was important to share it, however, because any relationship, no matter how good it is, has it’s ups and downs.
The key is knowing what to do when you slip!

So, as uncomfortable as this was to share, if it helps you to create more love and intimacy in your relationship – even after an argument – it’s worth it!



Remember: While our relationships aren’t “perfect,” they can still be great!

And, by the way, I’d love to hear from YOU!

If you have a question about love and communication that you’d like answered, send me an email (gladys@heartsdesireintl.com) or leave me a comment below, and I’ll make sure I personally respond to you!

How to Overcome Fear and Hate with Love

How to Overcome Fear and Hate with Love

by Gladys Diaz

You’ve probably heard about the tragedy that took place in Orlando this past weekend.  

I have to share that the moment I heard the news, I broke down and cried.  Not because I knew anyone who was hurt or killed.  That didn’t matter. I cried because it was clear that a certain group of people were targeted and that fear and hate were at the center of the shootings. 

For those of us living in the United States, we’re painfully aware of the recent mass shootings that have been taking place around the country. Almost every single one of them is sparked by anger, hatred of one group or another, and an unwillingness to accept people for who they are.

I’m not going to preach or go into political matters.  

Right now, I’m speaking from one heart that is breaking to another.

More than anything, my mission in life — the whole reason why Michelle and I have made Heart’s Desire our life’s work and purpose — is to bring transformation to this world through LOVE.  

Where there is love, there is peace.  Where there is peace, people are free.  And where there is freedom, there is hope and anything becomes possible!

Yes, we focus primarily on transformation through empowering women to create the relationships of their dreams.  So what does that have to do with these tragic events?  

Because, when there are women who are happy and fulfilled in and of themselves, they are able to attract and nurture happy, loving, and fulfilling relationships.  

From these relationships, many times, happy families are created and unhappy ones are healed and restored.

Where there are happy families and relationships, that love and happiness spreads to their communities.

When communities come together, states and nations are bound by love, peace, and partnership.

And when nations come together in love, peace, and partnership, this world becomes one in which we are all living to our highest potential, where the desire to come together outweighs the need to be right, and where the highest priority becomes augmenting, magnifying, and spreading that love, peace, and hope so that no one is left out or left behind!

So, for us, this vision of what the world can be begins with one woman… one heart… and one relationship at a time.

During this difficult time, my prayer and heart-felt request is that each of us does all everything we can to bring love to this world.  

Let us do what we can to conquer the hate, anger, and fear that is out there with the power we were born with: The power to love!

I’d like to leave you with the message we posted yesterday on our Facebook page:

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 May peace be the air you breathe in, and may love be the air you exhale and share with the world.

Make This YOUR Leap Year of Love!

Make This YOUR Leap Year of Love!

by Gladys Diaz


Today is February 29th, marking this as a Leap Year.

I don’t know why it only happens every 4 years. I just know that this day, every four years, sets this year apart from the others.

Life is like that, too.

If you look back at your life, you’ll see that the most significant and monumental experiences of your life began with a single moment…

A day that seemed like any other, and, yet, it was different because, in a single moment…

You made it different.

Until you gather the courage to make a change, to stop allowing your fears and your doubts to stop you from letting go of all the crap that keeps standing in the way of you having the happiness and love you want, nothing will change.

But when you stop, and in that single moment you say “Yes!” to yourself, “Yes!” to your happiness, “Yes!” to having the love you desire and deserve… In that moment everything changes for ever. It can never, ever be the same again!

And then you finally get to receive and have the love that has been waiting there for you all along!

We’ve seen it happen in our own lives.

We’ve seen it happen for hundreds of women around the world.

And it can happen for you.

So…We wonder…

What are you doing to set this day and this year apart from others?

What choices will you make today that will significantly change the course of your love life for ever?

What will you do with this moment in time?

How will you take your leap into love?

What are you willing to let go of?

What are you willing to leave in the past?

What are you willing to do to welcome love into your life with arms and heart wide open?

We want to support you in making this your personal Leap Year of Love!

Let us know how we can help you make this year different from all the others so that you can finally have the life and love your heart truly desires!

Three Steps to Manifest the Love you Want in 2016

Three Steps to Manifest the Love you Want in 2016

by Gladys Diaz


Like many holidays and celebrations, New Year’s Eve can trigger bitter-sweet feelings.

On one hand, it can be disheartening if you’ve gotten to the end of the year without having attained all of the goals you’d set for yourself 12 months ago. This can be particularly true if you are not in the happy, loving relationship you dream of.

On the other hand, it can be exciting and uplifting to know that you have a whole new year ahead of you filled with unlimited possibilities – with one of those real possibilities being to finally have the loving relationship your heart desires.

So, how do we reconcile the disheartening thoughts with the uplifting ones?

You can do it in 3 easy steps!

  1. Breathe. If you’re like most women, you can be pretty hard on yourself. Many times, this is most evident in the things you tell yourself about yourself. If you’ve been putting yourself down, thinking that there must be something “wrong” with you because you haven’t manifested the love you want yet, take a deep breath and allow the love that surrounds you (and, yes, it’s always all around you and within you) to enter into your heart.

If you still don’t feel the love that surrounds you within you,

  • Breathe again…
  • Keep inhaling until you can fill your lungs anymore.
  • Hold it 3 seconds and envision the love filling every part of your being.
  • Allow love to fill you.
  • Do this as many times as you need to until you literally and physically feel love filling your being.

Once you are able to feel the love within you…

  1. Release. As you exhale, release all of those negative thoughts, beliefs and toxic emotions that do not serve you. Breathe out all of the pain, sadness, and feelings of dissatisfaction. Release yourself from the hold that those disempowering thoughts create in your life. Those are the thoughts that keep you holding onto dead-end relationships, stop you from moving on, and keep you repeating dysfunctional patterns in relationships.

If you are having trouble releasing yourself from the negative thoughts, beliefs and emotions,

  • Go back to Step #1, Breathe, and do 2 or 3 more loving breaths.
  • On each exhale, envision yourself releasing all of the pain, sadness, and disempowering thoughts and emotions from your body.
  • With each exhalation, you are releasing what doesn’t work and allowing more love to enter you on the inhalation.
  • It’s okay if you feel like crying. As you do the exercise, the sad tears will turn to tears of gratitude as you allow love to enter, surround, and fill you up!

Once you feel you have released the disempowering thoughts and emotions…

  1. Renew. In this new space, where love is what you are present to, renew your commitment to yourself to create the loving, happy, fulfilling relationship your heart desires. Commit to doing whatever it takes to transform the thoughts, words, and behaviors that have stopped you from experiencing the love you desire and deserve.

Commitment without action is nothing but wishful thinking. This is why so many people get to the end of a year without having reached the goals and dreams they declared at the beginning of the year. It’s only when you are taking consistent action in the direction of your goals and dreams that you are able to manifest them! So, to ensure that 2016 is actually different for you and you are experiencing the love your heart truly desires, follow these steps:

  • Identify the person/people who can teach and help you to create and experience the loving romantic relationship you want.  A happily married relationship coach who can teach you the skills that will have you attract, create, and nurture a healthy romantic relationship is the best option.  And, with us, you get two coaches for the price of one! 🙂
  • With your coach, identify 1-3 action steps you will take to create renewal in your love life.
  • Commit to fulfilling on those actions steps no matter what.

The reason most people do not reach their goals and manifest their dreams is because they quit. They quit on their dreams, in doing so, they give up on themselves.

This is why working with a coach is so important. You have built-in accountability.


Because, left to your own devices, you will do what you you’ve always done. You’ll do what’s comfortable, what you’re familiar with, and those are the same things that have given you the results you have now.

I’m not being negative here. This is what we all do. The results we have are consistent with the actions we’ve taken and those actions are consistent with what we’ve been committed to.

So, if you’re ready to make 2016 THE YEAR of love, intimacy, and romance for yourself, first BREATH, RELEASE, and RENEW.

Then make a real commitment to yourself to do whatever it takes to manifest the love you want.

Have your first action step be to schedule a call with one of us to help you identify your 1-3 action steps that will lead you in the direction of the relationship of your dreams!

Click here to schedule your 2016 Love Breakthrough Call!

We promise we’ll do whatever it takes to support and guide you in making your relationship dream come true.

We will stand for you, hold you accountable, and be there when you need someone to remind you just how worthy you are of having the love your heart desires!

Creating the love you want does not have to be “hard.” It can be easy when you have the right guidance and know exactly which steps to take to create the loving, happy, fulfilling relationship you desire and deserve.

Click here to schedule your 2016 Love Breakthrough Call and get ready to have all of your heart’s desires fulfilled!

Here’s to making 2016 THE YEAR OF LOVE, INTIMACY, ROMANCE, and all of your heart’s desires fulfilled!

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